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yeah sabine i know after the first 5-6 hours that their sleep is much lighter. J does the same thing re: morning noises, it's a lot more easy for him to wake when G is moving around in the mornings and he wants to be out with us. the BCM that fiery recommended helps with the white noise masking the house noises but the crib thing is something we didn't really think about (aka the extra room allowing for J to be even more houdini'ish than usual). we thought also about putting him back in the bassinet and trying the crib again in another month or so when he might be able to swaddle-wean too, but i kind of feel like since crib is where we want him to be, lets just leave him there and work with what we have. and yeah getting up at 6 or whatever is not the end of the world at all, but the selfish-sleep-lover in me is going 'man he was going til 7 and 8 so regularly' so i don't want to encourage regression BUT it is what it is. J actually sometimes WILL self-soothe in the mornings, but it just depends on his mood and i think when he partially wakes and the swaddle is all weird and he's still tired, it irritates him so he fights it and makes it worse then he just keeps waking himself up further and further with his efforts and then all hell breaks loose. once his arms are free i can SEE he wants to be like 'ahh ok' but then his crazy flailing won't let him.

OH and we do have a mesh sleep positioner we use and have since he was born and he STILL manages to circumvent it and ditch the swaddle.

it was pretty funny to watch him in the monitor though, for the first time i got some inkling on what goes on at night. when he was in the bassinet we could only see his arms when he WAS free of the swaddle since we couldn't get it close enough to point in..all we knew is that he went to bed swaddled and woke up with arms out hehe.

awww sorry about Jacks virus...how random!! i hope he heals up quickly and continues eating ok.

i am cracking up sitting here with J outside in the bouncer and he is just chillin' leaning into it with his paci and he has both his hands on his thighs with his legs frog-legged out. he looks like a drunk old man hehee.

we're grilling for dinner, it's a beautiful 75 here today. hope everyone is out enjoying their Sunday.

and ummm another plug for loving our new stroller. i had to stop off real quick today on the way home from my moms house to get the stuff for dinner and pulling it out of the trunk, popping the car seat in and wheeling it through the market was a breeze. i'm so happy that i found something we love--after all the research and hemming and hawing it's good to not be disappointed in a product.

late confession: mommy brain didn't let me remember that our car seat came with a hooded enclosure thing so i have been running around with J going 'what the heck why didnt this thing come with a hood to block the sun and everyone elses's seems to'..and my poor kid is all wincing against the sun. it took me seeing another mom friend with the same carseat with her hood on to have a light bulb moment on maybe mine came with one too. she looked at me like i was crazy. oops. i guess now i have to figure out where i put the hood.
 
Hi Mara-just delurking to say maybe the woombie would be a good fit for J right now...
 
All of the babies are adorable!

Pandora-How''s Daisy doing on the biting issue?

Ginger-hope A is feeling better!

Sabine-sorry about poor Jacks. Hope you got some tips on helping with the mouth pain.

Mara-ditto Sabine on getting a sleep positioner or a wombie as bella suggested. We used a positioner from when Sophia was about 2 weeks until almost 4 months. She always needed that extra snug and it helped keep her in place.

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Sophia was a total mess today. She would not nap at all. She was up for nearly 7 hours before taking a nap. And all she wanted was for me to hold her. If I was near her, she was ok. As soon as I would leave the room she''d start screaming.

Looooong day.
 
thanks bella and fiery. i had never heard of the woombie before. has anyone here tried one? curious... i don't know if it would hold J tight enough to keep him from struggling to TRY to get free continuously... but it might be worth trying. my friend has a miracle blanket and if i can see her soon i can try that too but i like the idea of less material. unfort no local shop carries one, i'd have to order it or drive 45 min BACK to where we got the stroller and try it hehe.

oh and we DO have a sleep positioner for him, but he manages to slide down and away from it then struggle out. but at least the sleep positioner with something like the MB or woombie seems like it would help keep him in.

he's got a crazy mummy swaddle on right now, but i'm sure come 6am he'll be naked again, hehee.

fiery..sorry to hear S had a rough day. hope tomorrow is better and she sleeps soundly for you guys tonite!
 
Hey Mara, my experience with the Woombie wasn''t as good as I had hoped. Wes alwasy fought a swaddle and eventually broke out (sometimes sooner rather than later) so bought a woombie, actually 2 woombie sizes!, to try on Wes. He didn''t like them. He fought them and got even more upset because he couldn''t break free and that made him more upset. The swaddle I currently use on Wes keeps his arms tied down by his sides but not super restricted. The Woombie kept his arms piled up on top of him, maybe that was uncomfortable for him.

But every baby is different! I keep hoping that maybe my baby #2 will like them cause the Woombies are just tooo cute! :D
 
Mara: I might have missed it but what are you using now to swaddle?
 
quick fly by - i am home with c today, he has croup. last night was one for the record books, poor baby.
question: DH is such a worry wort - c has been doing this hand flapping thing as of late. i think its because he discovered he has wrists - while DH thinks its a sign of autism - he''s crazy right??
 
Mara-if what you think he needs is a really tight swaddle, then the woombie might not work. It''s meant to be an easier transition from swaddle to de-swaddle and for babies that need a little more space but to keep their arms from flying all over the place. If he needs that really snug feeling, then I wouldn''t give yourself the headache of deswaddling right now. I''ve heard great things about the miracle blanket!

Viz-Yes your DH is crazy
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Sophia went through a period of flapping her hands/arms a lot and banging on stuff hard. I googled and of course everything on the first page is about autism. I think it''s their way of communicating/playing. She has stopped doing that and only bangs on things when she wants to hear the sound (like her toy drums) and the hand flapping is replaced by constantly pointing.

But I totally get why he would question it.
 
MIL won''t take our money for taking care of Sophia. Every week we show up with money and every week she gives it back. We don''t do checks anymore because she never cashes them. We''ll leave it on her coffee table and then call her once we leave the house to let her know that it''s there so she doesn''t have the opportunity to give it back. Know what she does? Sticks it in Sophia''s pockets lol
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. We have done things like randomly show up with groceries but she gets really angry when we do. She feels that Sophia is her granddaughter and she shouldn''t be paid like it''s her job. I totally get and appreciate that but taking care of a baby all day is no easy task, no matter how cute Sophia may be
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. And staying home to take care of her is keeping her from finding a job (she was unemployed for about 5 months before Sophia was born).

So we have this money in a separate savings account and every time I see the balance I feel horrible because that''s all the money she could have used to pay for bills that she refuses to take.

We''re trying to figure out what to do with it, something for her. I hate the idea of getting her a gift when I know they could use help in paying bills.

What do you think we should do?

There are some things for Sophia that she has mentioned she wants like a crib (for some crazy reason) but if she wants/needs something for Sophia, we would not use the money we would give her for that because it''s our responsibility to provide for what Sophia needs.

My other thought was to buy her a ticket to Chile. Her sister and mom are going in the summer. The only problem is that I don''t think that it''s a gift she''ll be happy about. I mean, she''ll love to go to Chile but she has said that she doesn''t want to leave Sophia for that length of time. I told her that I can use some vacation days, so can FI, and my mom doesn''t work during the summer. She''ll love going to Chile but I think she won''t be too happy with the gift.
 
Oh and what do you guys think about this cake? FI wants a ladybug theme for her b-day which I think would be cute but the idea of a big ole ladybug cake is kind of
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Fiery, I think that cake is beautiful!

Mandarine, I thought of you yesterday as I purchased swaddled blankets for my LO.
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I hope you all had a good weekend! Lots of rain over here, but we took advantage of that to do a lot of packing. I also did a nursing marathon to try to boost my supply and find the bottom of the ravenous pit that is my son. He''s going through a major growth spurt, and I have to admit that now I understand why every woman I know in RL except for one stopped BFing after about 3 months... That is one tough growth spurt to get through. The one woman I know who BFed longer BFed both her sons (I think they are 5 and 2 now?) for 14 months, but she was one of those "superproducers". Jacob had a few meltdowns this weekend, but I refused to give him a bottle after all this hard work. Not surprisingly, MIL said we should start him on solids, but while I have no problem with starting earlier than 6 months, at 3½ months I think it''s way too early. At the very least he has to be able to sit comfortably in his highchair for a period of time, otherwise it''s not very good for digestion.


Mara
- When Jacob started breaking free of the swaddle, we started sleeping him in a sleep sack. It was a smooth transition, and after reading Mandy''s struggle with swaddle weaning, I''m rather glad we did it sooner rather than later.

Sabine - Sorry Jacks is sick!
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Pandora - Daisy is adorable!!!

fiery - Sorry for the long day, let''s hope today will be better. Love the cake!
 
thanks for the advice ladies. last nite I got up at 2am to pee and J was out of his swaddle already and flailing wildly. UGH! no amt of soothing would help, i re-swaddled but it was sloppy so he got out of it again within 10 min. we fed him and he ate 7oz which is crazy! i guess he really was hungry but that is the first time in about 7 weeks he has woken that early to eat. plus he was sucking fine on the paci but it would fall out and that is when he''d get upset, it wasn''t like he was rejecting it to cry...he was mostly just babbling protesting. after that he went back down (reluctantly) for 5 hours. then i reswaddled him and stuck the paci in and he is dozing again so thankfully i can pump and eat!

i will try to get a MB and a woombie and see which works best, at this point, third night in a row he''s woken up early and last nite he was out at his earliest at 2am-i want to stop this in its tracks. i also don''t want him to want a night feeding, he hasn''t needed one for a while. i know just one doesnt mean a habit but i am paranoid. he has been a bit distracted while eating lately so i felt like he was eating less but wasn''t sure since he gets the boob as well as bottle, but after last nite maybe the few days of eating just a bit less caught up with him.

right now we are using the A&A blankets to swaddle. we actually love them for many reasons, but they stretch a lot which is the problem now, because J moves his arms to a little bent/curved position on his body from his sides then uses them both to push up over and over again til he stretches the material enough to start creeping them up his body. and he is REALLY strong right now, way stronger than even a few weeks ago so NONE of our swaddles can keep him trapped and our swaddles are pretty good hehe. isn''t it crazy how the kids go from ''blob'' to ''i can ditch your swaddle'' so quickly? haha. next you know he''ll be borrowing the car!

i keep thinking why can''t you just tie their hands to their sides then wrap them lol. but i guess thats the MB''s job? i also read online you can youtube for something ''swaddle baby can''t get out of it'' and it shows you how to do the MB thing with two regular blankets. sooo i might try that today and then experiment too. i don''t mind spending the $$ if the stuff works but i don''t want 500 swaddles that don''t work. the velcro ones someone gave us he was out of in 10 min when he was 2 weeks old.

sunkist, yeah some of the reviews said the kids hate the woombie at first, but to persist. i am thinking ''well if your kid isnt sleeping it''s hard to persist right'' hehee. so maybe i''ll try it for naps. but first i have to GET one. greg works about 15 min from the store that is 45-60 min away from us, so i am going to call them today and see if they have one he can pick up. their site doesnt have the lil houdini one but we''ll see. and i will try to get the MB from my friend to try out.

the othe thing i am paranoid about is that our house doesn''t have AC and gets hot really fast when it''s warm out. aka yesterday it was 75 out and the house was 77 til about 10pm. so swaddling the poor kid, he will have to be diaper only and even then who knows. i''ll try the woombie first to see if he is even remotely ready for more freedom.

fiery, i don''t have too many ideas on how to show your MIL you guys appreciate her, maybe something like a bbq or brunch in her honor? i know what you mean about how she might not be happy about you guys giving her a big gift if she feels like it''s her ''job'' to care for S. i know my mom won''t take $$ for watching J this summer but i plan to get her a bunch of spa gift certs to her fave place so she can indulge at least.

re: cake...also you can easily make ladybugs with red m&ms if you want more than one big one at the top, put them near the flowers around the cake...super cute. just turn the m&m over, push into the frosting, and pipe 3 black dots on each side of the m&m and a thin black line down the middle. and eyes i think, can''t recall for sure. they look surprisingly realistic.

anchor, i would love to wean him but i think it''s a little early for him yet. i am trying to nap him with arms out and sometimes it works, sometimes not. yesterday he slept with arms out and blanket tucked in at hips for 45 min which was great. oh and my friend who is a crazy superproducer''s 4.5 month old is eating 45oz a DAY of milk. i seriously could not keep up with J if that was the case!

viz...boo on croup!! what is that anyway? i hope it passes quickly. and re: autism... umm i also confess to thinking that about J when he was only like 2 weeks old. he was not interested in cuddling or affection and he has always had that crazy arm and leg flailing thing. now whenever he smiles at us, giggles and grabs onto us, G goes SEE he''s fine, but i am still paranoid. plus it can take up until i think age 4 or 5 to be diagnosed, so kids who act totally normal or fine can get it later? i still don''t understand the nuances, but it''s just sad to think about...i try not to.
 
Lovely pics, Pandora! Daisy looks like a very determined girl.

Sabine and viz - sorry your babies are sick.
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Hope they get better soon. viz - I have no clue about the hand-flapping thing... What does Dr. Google say? I'm sure babies do things like that all the time as the discover their bodies. Dalila spent most of this weekend holding her feet up in the air - she just discovered them, apparently.
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anchor - sorry to hear about the nursing stress right now. Sounds like you really have to struggle to keep up with J's needs. I agree he's too early for solids, though. Our mothers and MIL's alway sseem in a rush to start them.

fiery - love the cake! Very cool!

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Dalila's sleep patterns have been slowly improving. For the past couple nights she's been sleeping for 4 -hour stretches ( on breastmilk only - the rice cereal actually seemed to shorten her sleep), with the odd 3-hour in between, instead of 2 hours stretches, with the odd 3 hour one. I'm soooo happy! Last night I only had to get up once....yayyy! I feel so refreshed and revived...like a NEW woman!!! Sleep is a wonderful thing. I'll never take it for granted again.
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And oh yes, seems like she's now able to put herself to sleep too. I put her down the other night (wide awake - it was 11pm and she wouldn't go to sleep), and she rolled around in her crib and chatted to herself for a while untili she finally fell asleep.
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Hopefully she'll STTN soon!
 
Fiery, I would buy her the tickets anyway, she might end up having a good time. Could you ask her sister to say she bought her the ticket, then spring the fact that you bought it on her when she gets home (maybe also smuggle some spending money with her sister)? Then tell her you were missing Sophia and wanted to take a little "staycation" while you could- so she won't feel bad about leaving? I bought my mom a charm bracelet, and add different charms for her. Love the cake! We're doing a ladybug party for P, too, since people have been buying her ladybug thins since birth!

Mara, I'm no help on swaddling, Piper hated hers from day 1 in the hospital! I hope you find something that works, I know Lysser liked the Wombie (at least I think it was Lysser?).

piper is being a nightmare lately. She is OBVIOUSLY tired, like, rubbing eyes, putting her head on my shoulder and all, but she will NOT nap. At night she wakes up twice before 6am, which SUCKS and kills MY sleep. I'm having anxiety when it comes to bedtime now, which is a bummer.

Viz: Sorry about the croup. That's sad.

Sabine: love the pics of you and the family, and Des and Jacks!! Sorry about Jacks getting that sickness. My BIL is a paramedic, and brought it home- wife and two kids got it!

I'm going insane here with no napping Piper!
 
Fiery, I love that your MIL can take care of Sophia but see why you want to compensate her in some way. Over here once you have a utility account number you can pay in cash to pay somebody else''s bill.

You could be sneaky about it, but that doesn''t seem to be working so hows about putting a nominal amount in her light & heat & cable accounts; even $15 a month into each a/c and sending a card to your MIL each month thanking her for taking such great care of her and that you have put a little something in her a/c as a token of your appreciation. You could get Sophia to paint handprint the card or scribble something cute too.

She will prob still hate it; but it is an idea.
 
Fiery Can you have MIL's name added to the account, and then tell her that the account exists and that every week (month? whatever) you are adding to it, and it's hers whether she likes it or not. Then when/if she wants or needs something, the money is there. That cake looks absolutely delicious and so cute. Are you making it or getting it from a bakery? Super cute.

Mara We used the SwaddleMe blankets (with velcro!) until A was like 4 or 5 months old. We did them super tight and he stayed swaddled. I didn't have any trouble weaning him off the swaddle but I was also in no hurry to do so. Around the time he was rolling over, I think, he was just ready to be done with the tight swaddle so then I switched to sleep sacks.
 
Hi everyone!!!
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I''ve been so MIA lately! Just so busy!

We were in NY this weekend for a friend''s wedding...and I left the boys with the grandparents!!! First time away from them and everyone did so well
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Granted I only spent one fulle day without seeing them (Saturday), but that''s still a big step!!! I missed my little dudes so much!!


Swaddles My boys broke out of everything but the miracle blankets. The stuff with velcro stayed on like 10 seconds before they broke free!. They started breaking out of the MBs at around 4 months and that''s why I started swaddle rehab then.

As you know, we struggled with weaning off the swaddle...so IF I had to do it all over again I would probably do things differently. For once, I wouldn''t swaddle for naps. I know that means shorter naps, but after what I went through to wean them off, I think that would have made the process easier for everyone!!!

Viz yep, your DH is crazy
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Amber I hope you get you good sleeper back soon!!!

Baby pics loved all the pics!!!! Such cute babies!!!
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sha..yay for D putting herself to sleep!!
amber... awww i feel your pain on the no nap thing. sometimes i just spend half the day trying to get J to nap, it can be so tiring.
TDM... thanks for the info. yeah most people tell me they weaned swaddle at like 5-7 months. i don''t mind if he wants to be swaddled a long time, our friends did it til he was 10 months cuz the kid loved it. but it''s when they work themselves out and they still need it that it sucks hehee.

so my friend came over and brought us an extra miracle blanket and showed me how to use it. i put J down in his crib to nap after she left and he fell right to sleep with it on! i am going to leave him for a bit when he wakes up and starts fighting it to see if/how he can get out and perfect my technique.
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hopefully if this works for a while we can graduate to the looser woombie as he gets a little older.
 
Mara - We don''t swaddle because Olivia hated it, but there are some valid reasons not to swaddle past 4-5 months - one is that they start to roll over and generally move around a lot at that age and if they get themselves into a position where it''s hard for them to breathe (belly or up against a bumper if you use them), you want them to be able to roll back over or move themselves away, which is really hard if they don''t have the use of their arms. (I am totally paranoid about SIDS, so this would make me nervous).

There is also a concern about the effect on motor development if an older baby has its arms pinned down for so many hours out of the day. Once they are older they really use their hands for a lot and I can''t imagine an older baby would stay in a swaddle unless it was uncomfortably tight and restrictive. You might go through some sleep regression when unswaddling, but it is inevitable. You are likely to see sleep regression at some point anyway - a lot of us had babies with sleep regressions around 4 months. That might be a good time to deswaddle - kind of like ripping of the bandaid all at once!
 
For those of you that don''t swaddle anymore, what do you do so the baby doesn''t get cold? We''re in FL and entering the really hot time, so do you think just a footed sleeper is okay or would you still do a sleep sack type of thing? Thanks!
 
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Author: FL Steph
For those of you that don''t swaddle anymore, what do you do so the baby doesn''t get cold? We''re in FL and entering the really hot time, so do you think just a footed sleeper is okay or would you still do a sleep sack type of thing? Thanks!
I never swaddled (tried and gave up as madam wailed like a banshee and fought her way out in seconds) and live in London which never gets exactly hot. Daisy wears a cotton footed sleeper most of the time and a velour one if it''s really cold.

She likes to sleep on top of our duvet even when DH and I are chilly and snuggled underneath, if it''s really cold I try and put a small bamboo blanket over her but it nearly always gets thrown off.

Overheating is far more dangerous than being on the cold side, so as long as you have a thermometer in the room I would just go with a sleeper.
 
omg scrumptious baby pictures ladies! PS babies are just the cutest :)

tao - your little one looks like a little cherub
pandora - daisy looks so determined pushing that cart!
 
I keep replying, tell myself to make sure I copy it, hit submit before I do, and then PS eats it lol!

Thanks for the idea Steal on paying off with small amounts. I think it''ll be easier to hide that way!

I told FI that we should take her to this restaurant she has been mentioning for years now. She even has brochures. It''s a polynesian restaurant with live shows. It''s not something she would ever go to herself because it''s a little pricey so I think she would really appreciate it. Still not helping with the bills and I know that if she had the money, she wouldn''t use it at a restaurant but at least it''s something for her.

Mara-just as a side comment, I think that once J figures out how to roll you are going to be in trouble!!!!! LOL I also imagine him crawling really early. Such a rebel!

Steph-Sophia either sleeps with footed pjs, sometimes I''ll put a onesie under, or in a two piece. We are starting just to buy two pieces because she outgrows the pjs by length really quickly.
 
Hey ladies. I clearly stink. I'm a big lurker - but I'm thinking about everyone and hoping all is well!

We are doing well here. Calvin is crawling (army crawling, but it gets him around), he has two teefs, and is doing really well on solids. I've been making his food myself...which I'm really enjoying doing. I totally don't cook, so this is something different for me. And so far, he seems to like it.

Are any other mama's out there in PS land making baby food? If so, what books are you using, etc? Any recipes your babes really enjoyed?

Mara - We LOVED the woombie. Calvin was the king of getting his swaddle up and around his face which freaked me the heck out. On a regular basis. So we switched him to the woombie...it allowed him to have some freedom of movement, but he couldn't get his arms over his head and try to smother himself. And we transitioned from woombie to nothing with absolutely NO problem. He just went to sleep without it. Worked great.

Fiery - Is there something you do for MIL under the guise that it is for Sophia? I don't know what that would be though...a new TV for Sophia to watch baby einstein on or something? I don't know. That is a tough situation though. Oh, and love the cake!

Sabine - Hope Jacks is feeling better! I'm so jealous of your time with Robbie and her son. My BFF had a baby 10 weeks after I had Calvin, but we live so far away...we haven't gotten to meet each the babies yet...and it is KILLING me!

Sha - Yay for sleep! and self soothing is HUGE!!

China - Hope you had a great weekend...you deserve it!

Steph - We use a grobag for calvin. They are fantastic and come in different togs or weights. I believe they are made by a company in the UK, but they have a distributor in the states...We absolutely love them...really good quality blankets.

Amber - Ugh for no napping. I feel you. What does she do when she wakes up at night? Do you need to tend to her or does she put herself back down?

Viszla - I totally feel you on the autism worry thing...or rather your DH. It is scary stuff...but it is my understanding that flapping and smacking stuff is all just a part of development...Although I am very proud of the fact that I have a google M.D...sometimes Dr. Google can be a bit scary. And poor dude with croup! That stinks!!!

Pandora - Love the pic of Daisy pushing the cart. So cute!

And I so love all the baby pics! PSers really and truly make wicked wicked cute babies. I wonder why that is??

Hello everyone else! Hope all is well!!!

And just for fun, here is a pic of Calvin taken by my cousin, who is an AMAZING photog:

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ok, one more...I think my little doodle is so darn cute.

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Lysser: SOOO CUTE!!!!
When P wakes up she starts out moderately grumpy, then escalates to loud! I feed her and she just gulps down, both times she wakes. The first she usually falls right back to sleep, the second time she falls asleep in my arms then wakes when I put her in her bassinet. At that point she puts herself to sleep after a bit of chatter.
 
LL: I've already posted on the other site....but those pictures are to die for!
 
LL such a handsome little guy!! awesome pics

fiery super cute cake!!

steph i stopped swaddling N around 3 weeks old...he HATED the darn thing. ever since then, he''s been in fleece footed sleepers except when it''s too hot, just a 2 piece pj set.

mara hoping the miracle blanket works for J. i used to swaddle B in this really odd way where i had to use 2 blankets, albeit thin ones. but after he was breaking free from that, i stopped all together. and N absolutely hated to be swaddled, cried bloody murder every time. hopefully J goes back to his usual long stretch tonight.

viz poor C!! i hope he gets better real soon. croup sucks big time!

i can''t believe N is going to be 4 months this week!!! he is not a baby anymore and probably weighs more than the average 10 month old. haha.
 
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