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Hey all
Fiery, love the Sophia pic, she''s gorgeous, Simply a sweetheart! Glad it was just a fluke!
DRK: Love the pic!
Mara: Glad you had a great time!
Viz: Man, you just have the crapbag situation of all crapbags to have to deal with. (Not that I''m saying C is a crapbag). I wonder if a sleep doctor would help you guys? A friend of mine (Bee from Weddingbee) just hired one for her kid, if you want I can send you a link to her blog on it on the other site).
JCrow: Piper is still in her bassinet, but we moved her to her room at about 4 months. Best thing ever, despite my apprehension (because I''m a freak). We have yet to move her to her crib because she sleeps okay in her bassinet and I''m worried about her in the crib, because she''s also a bit of a roller and shaker, and I''m worried she''ll keep herself up all night! P is EBF and I just did the shoulder burp, it seemed to work okay. How bad is her tummy issues? Could gripe water or mylicon help?
Mandy: Yay for a good appointment!
MP: I bled for 6 weeks, almost just like Mandy, down to the period.
ASF: I realized last night, I''m a good mom, but a crappy crappy wife. It actually made me cry really hard to realize that. I don''t clean, cook or do laundry anymore. I haven''t had sex with DH since the night AFTER Piper was conceived. I am making Paul have to forage for himself like a damn orphan. I feel so bad. SO SO bad. He never brings it up, never says anything bad, but I feel horrible. I feel like I''m failing as a wife. He works all day, weekends, and I can''t even give him clean clothes to wear, or a decent meal. Aw, now I''m crying again. I''m a failure as a wife.
Fiery, love the Sophia pic, she''s gorgeous, Simply a sweetheart! Glad it was just a fluke!
DRK: Love the pic!
Mara: Glad you had a great time!
Viz: Man, you just have the crapbag situation of all crapbags to have to deal with. (Not that I''m saying C is a crapbag). I wonder if a sleep doctor would help you guys? A friend of mine (Bee from Weddingbee) just hired one for her kid, if you want I can send you a link to her blog on it on the other site).
JCrow: Piper is still in her bassinet, but we moved her to her room at about 4 months. Best thing ever, despite my apprehension (because I''m a freak). We have yet to move her to her crib because she sleeps okay in her bassinet and I''m worried about her in the crib, because she''s also a bit of a roller and shaker, and I''m worried she''ll keep herself up all night! P is EBF and I just did the shoulder burp, it seemed to work okay. How bad is her tummy issues? Could gripe water or mylicon help?
Mandy: Yay for a good appointment!
MP: I bled for 6 weeks, almost just like Mandy, down to the period.
ASF: I realized last night, I''m a good mom, but a crappy crappy wife. It actually made me cry really hard to realize that. I don''t clean, cook or do laundry anymore. I haven''t had sex with DH since the night AFTER Piper was conceived. I am making Paul have to forage for himself like a damn orphan. I feel so bad. SO SO bad. He never brings it up, never says anything bad, but I feel horrible. I feel like I''m failing as a wife. He works all day, weekends, and I can''t even give him clean clothes to wear, or a decent meal. Aw, now I''m crying again. I''m a failure as a wife.
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thanks ladies!
fiery - phew so so so glad it was nothing!! and i just <3 that pic of sophia! i LOVE LOVE LOVE her little headband! and the way her little mouth makes that heart shape.. she's SO CUTE!! gah!
we have our 6mth apt on friday. i think i can hold out until then. i want to get a clean bill of health from the doc before i attempt any type of 'advanced' nighttime parenting. and that's just it....it's ALWAYS something with this dude. i'm sure the fact that his tum tum hurt from the peas and the ear etc. were reasons why he was extra grouchy this weekend. and since he's always sick he's just gotten into this bad night routine.
ugh.. sorry i'm not responding to more posts.. i'm just.so.tired. and i have about a million meetings today.... i need to win the lottery......
but i am thinking of you all ((hugs))
ETA: amber!!!! no you are NOT! having a baby (and one that is with you alll day) is TOUGH! you need to give yourself a break.
pick up some carry out tonight. it's OK that you didn't make it
(hugs)
fiery - phew so so so glad it was nothing!! and i just <3 that pic of sophia! i LOVE LOVE LOVE her little headband! and the way her little mouth makes that heart shape.. she's SO CUTE!! gah!
we have our 6mth apt on friday. i think i can hold out until then. i want to get a clean bill of health from the doc before i attempt any type of 'advanced' nighttime parenting. and that's just it....it's ALWAYS something with this dude. i'm sure the fact that his tum tum hurt from the peas and the ear etc. were reasons why he was extra grouchy this weekend. and since he's always sick he's just gotten into this bad night routine.
ugh.. sorry i'm not responding to more posts.. i'm just.so.tired. and i have about a million meetings today.... i need to win the lottery......
but i am thinking of you all ((hugs))
ETA: amber!!!! no you are NOT! having a baby (and one that is with you alll day) is TOUGH! you need to give yourself a break.
pick up some carry out tonight. it's OK that you didn't make it
(hugs)fieryred33143
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Amber-you are NOT a failure as a wife. You''re still in that period of trying to figure everything out. Plus, let''s not forget that you also work every day and have Piper with you 24/7.
I leave the cleaning for the weekends because I don''t have energy to do it throughout the week. Sometimes we''re awesome at leaving the house nice and clean throughout the week, sometimes we''re ok, and sometimes
. But if I tried to do it all after work every day, I would drive myself crazy. Ditto Viz on carry-out or quick meals that don''t require any cooking (already made lasagna that you can plop into the oven before putting P to bed, frozen stuff, etc).
Hugs
I leave the cleaning for the weekends because I don''t have energy to do it throughout the week. Sometimes we''re awesome at leaving the house nice and clean throughout the week, sometimes we''re ok, and sometimes
Hugs
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Amber- Gah girl, you are NOT a bad wife. You are an overwhelmed working mother. There is a difference. In fact, I have been thinking of all of the things that new moms should know and this is number 2 or 3. Your relationship with your DH will suffer. You will feel like a bad wife. Intimacy is the last thing on your mind. BUT it does get BETTER. DH complained a few weeks ago that he felt ignored, that once we got O to bed I either watched TV or read and went to bed early and we had no time together. Of course that annoyed me b/c it was during my work issues and I just felt spent energy-wise and I wanted to say "I DON''T have time for you right now." I know it sucks, but between working all day and trying to spend time with O and get him to bed, I have nothing left. AND I never cook and rarely clean. We have a cleaning lady, thankfully, but to be honest on the weekends DH does most of the house stuff. I went through a period where I was beating myself up because I WANTED to be this great mom/wife. I WANTED to be someone who cooked well and knew how to knit and bake and make the house smell fresh and have my own garden. I am none of those things. I was none of those things before I had O. But something about being a mom makes me want to be the person that I always thought I had time to grow into. And now I feel like I need to be all of that NOW. Which is insane as we all know. Here''s the thing. I think it sucks for the first year. But little by little, you start to get "you" back, you start to get your sleep back, your sanity back, a little bit of you time back. For example, O has suddenly changed his bedtime to 7 pm. Whereas I used to start bedtime around 7, have to rock him, etc., and I wouldn''t be done till 8 or so. Now he''s down and I am out of there at 7 pm. Now DH and I have happy hour on the back porch and then make dinner. It''s lovely! We finally have time together again. We are laughing again. I WANT to be intimate again (rather than doing it so he doesn''t run off with some young thing without children who does have time for him and says things like "Oh, I totally believe that you should still do it like 6 times a week even after you''re married!). Point being: I''ve been there and I so know where you are coming from. BUT it''s not true. You are doing the best you can. Those things will get easier.
Mandarine- Thanks for posting that stuff on the gear thread.
AFM: Let''s see. O LOVED avocado. Was a bit confused by the refried beans. Took to the sippy cup instantly. Had a bad diaper rash so let him crawl around naked all weekend which made me laugh. He kept sitting on his toys and looking surprised.
Had two park playdates which went well. After the second one he threw up all over me. He''s never done that before so we were both a bit surprised. My mom flew down for the day just to visit O, it was really cute. He was so excited to see her.
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Mandarine- Thanks for posting that stuff on the gear thread.
AFM: Let''s see. O LOVED avocado. Was a bit confused by the refried beans. Took to the sippy cup instantly. Had a bad diaper rash so let him crawl around naked all weekend which made me laugh. He kept sitting on his toys and looking surprised.
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Mara, sounds like you had a great trip. Glad you enjoyed yourselves.
Jcrow, Jane is 2 months old and I still sleep in the guest bedroom with her. It''s so much easier to get up at night and feed her if I''m right there with the pack''n''play butted up against the bed, so that''s what we do. I bet we''d sleep better in seperate rooms, but I like the convenience, so for now I''ll take it. She also sleeps with me sometimes (I''ve been working on this not happening, but sometimes it''s what works).
Vis, whenever I read a post from you I think of this song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bv4sfT0tnVA So sorry about C''s infection and all the other crap that''s going on. You have much sympathy from me.
Amber, you''re not a bad wife, you''re adjusting, life has changed drastically and you''ll work it all out eventually. I''m sure Paul appreciates all you''re doing for your family (work and taking care of Piper, that''s a lot of stuff!). Don''t be so hard on yourself.
Sabine, Jane and I had a great night. I watched crap on TV ate cheese and crackers for dinner, she ate a ton and we went to bed at 9. Thanks for the name compliment. My mom hates it, which makes me a bit sad, and I wish she''d kept her thoughts to herself of course! It suits her and I love it even more now than I did before she was born. Jacks is way too cute.
MP, at 9 weeks I''m still bleeding a bit, or I''ve started my period which doesn''t seem likely as I''m breastfeeding 8+ hours a day.
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I go back to work in a few weeks. I''m only going back PT and I get to choose how many clients I take on so I could work as little as a few hours a week, but I''m still dreading it. I''m worried about my husband getting her down for her already too few and short naps.
The lactation consultant is coming back today to talk about pumping (it seems like when I do Jane doesn''t get enough food) and get rid of the nipple shield, I hope.
It''s a gorgeous day, I''m hoping to go for a walk later this afternoon.
Jcrow, Jane is 2 months old and I still sleep in the guest bedroom with her. It''s so much easier to get up at night and feed her if I''m right there with the pack''n''play butted up against the bed, so that''s what we do. I bet we''d sleep better in seperate rooms, but I like the convenience, so for now I''ll take it. She also sleeps with me sometimes (I''ve been working on this not happening, but sometimes it''s what works).
Vis, whenever I read a post from you I think of this song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bv4sfT0tnVA So sorry about C''s infection and all the other crap that''s going on. You have much sympathy from me.
Amber, you''re not a bad wife, you''re adjusting, life has changed drastically and you''ll work it all out eventually. I''m sure Paul appreciates all you''re doing for your family (work and taking care of Piper, that''s a lot of stuff!). Don''t be so hard on yourself.
Sabine, Jane and I had a great night. I watched crap on TV ate cheese and crackers for dinner, she ate a ton and we went to bed at 9. Thanks for the name compliment. My mom hates it, which makes me a bit sad, and I wish she''d kept her thoughts to herself of course! It suits her and I love it even more now than I did before she was born. Jacks is way too cute.
MP, at 9 weeks I''m still bleeding a bit, or I''ve started my period which doesn''t seem likely as I''m breastfeeding 8+ hours a day.
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I go back to work in a few weeks. I''m only going back PT and I get to choose how many clients I take on so I could work as little as a few hours a week, but I''m still dreading it. I''m worried about my husband getting her down for her already too few and short naps.
The lactation consultant is coming back today to talk about pumping (it seems like when I do Jane doesn''t get enough food) and get rid of the nipple shield, I hope.
It''s a gorgeous day, I''m hoping to go for a walk later this afternoon.
Mara
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amber girl you are not a bad wife..!! as the others have said, sorry but shit falls to the wayside sometimes you know? and i am sure your husband understands. i know mine does. we have cleaning help that comes every 2 weeks because hey, i''m not a cleaning lady! and i never have been. i cook like ONCE a week maybe. the rest of the time it''s takeout from greg or we forage in the pantry...seriously. some days are harder than others if J is being HM and i just am like ..food whatever! and i don''t even work yet. i don''t even know what will happen in a few weeks when i return. i refuse to think about it.
kim hope you can ditch the shield. are you doing what i mentioned which is the a few minutes on and then off ? that really is how we weaned J off and it only took a few days. do not be discouraged if it doesn''t seem like she takes to it right away or she refuses it, just keep trying. eventually J just latched on and that was it. but it took about 3-5 days and sometimes it was hard, i won''t lie...i wanted to cry when he''d refuse.
viz how you are even posting and coherent today i don''t understand. i see that amber mentioned the sleep doctor, that is basically what i was recommending too. i totally would look into it. and i hope C is better soon.
CC did you ever mention what you worked out for a job/life compromise? i don''t know if you put it here or in the work thread but i am really curious given that i am still mentally wondering how i will be doing it.
steph yay for a trip alone in a few months... it really is so crucial, we felt so much more reconnected and it was great to have the alone time. i am so glad J did well with my mom and sis too because it just makes it mentally easier for us to think about traveling without him. BUT funny, so many people had their babies with them in hawaii, and i am talking BABIES. we saw like 2 three month olds and a few 9 month olds...and they were doing so well!! i dont think this was the right trip for us to take J but we are thinking of maybe doing something low-key with him to test it out soon..maybe napa.
i was soo out of it this morning since i slept only ''ok'' in hawaii, time differences i guess. so after J went back down to sleep i slept for 2 more hours. i feel so much better now! happy day all.
kim hope you can ditch the shield. are you doing what i mentioned which is the a few minutes on and then off ? that really is how we weaned J off and it only took a few days. do not be discouraged if it doesn''t seem like she takes to it right away or she refuses it, just keep trying. eventually J just latched on and that was it. but it took about 3-5 days and sometimes it was hard, i won''t lie...i wanted to cry when he''d refuse.
viz how you are even posting and coherent today i don''t understand. i see that amber mentioned the sleep doctor, that is basically what i was recommending too. i totally would look into it. and i hope C is better soon.
CC did you ever mention what you worked out for a job/life compromise? i don''t know if you put it here or in the work thread but i am really curious given that i am still mentally wondering how i will be doing it.
steph yay for a trip alone in a few months... it really is so crucial, we felt so much more reconnected and it was great to have the alone time. i am so glad J did well with my mom and sis too because it just makes it mentally easier for us to think about traveling without him. BUT funny, so many people had their babies with them in hawaii, and i am talking BABIES. we saw like 2 three month olds and a few 9 month olds...and they were doing so well!! i dont think this was the right trip for us to take J but we are thinking of maybe doing something low-key with him to test it out soon..maybe napa.
i was soo out of it this morning since i slept only ''ok'' in hawaii, time differences i guess. so after J went back down to sleep i slept for 2 more hours. i feel so much better now! happy day all.
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kimberly - tee hee that made me smile. may be my new theme song.
i hate that i''m not replying to everyone (hello!!!!)... but my starbucks via is wearing off and i want to bolt at 5:30 tonight
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will change out of my grumpy pants tonight and have some happy pants on tomorrow.
p.s. the dude went 5 flipping hours b/t feedings today at daycare!
ugh, i feel like i''m at a crossroads... either i need to develop some sort of ''routine'' and have them implement it or i need to suck it up and get a nanny. i love daycare but he''s not getting on the "routine" i thought he would re: sleeping and eating. bleh!
for those that DO have a nanny... how much more am i looking at? right now for daycare we pay around $900/month - for 4 days a week.
that made me smile. may be my new theme song. i hate that i''m not replying to everyone (hello!!!!)... but my starbucks via is wearing off and i want to bolt at 5:30 tonight
will change out of my grumpy pants tonight and have some happy pants on tomorrow.
p.s. the dude went 5 flipping hours b/t feedings today at daycare!
ugh, i feel like i''m at a crossroads... either i need to develop some sort of ''routine'' and have them implement it or i need to suck it up and get a nanny. i love daycare but he''s not getting on the "routine" i thought he would re: sleeping and eating. bleh!
for those that DO have a nanny... how much more am i looking at? right now for daycare we pay around $900/month - for 4 days a week.
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Viz, obviously it depends on the area...I pay $300/week (Mon- Thu / 8am-2pm)...so that''s like part-time...but my babysitter also cleans so it works out nicely!.
Speaking of schedules. I''m a complete type A sort of person and I need schedules. I go crazy otherwise. The boys were on the same schedule from like 2m to 6m. Then we started solids and the schedule needed to change. I wanted to post it here to see what you guys thought and if you had any advice or saw anything I should change...
6ish - up for the day, but stay in cribs "chatting" until 7ish.
7am - 6-7oz bottle.
8:30am - nap (best one of the day, ~35-45 mins)
10am - Oatmeal + fruit (3 tablespoons of the dried cereal, each)
11:30am - 6oz bottle
Noon - Nap (this one is a fight...sometimes they take it earlier or later...it''s about 20 mins)
1:30pm - Lunch (veggies, sometimes a fruit)
2:30pm - nap, like 30 minutes
4pm - 6-7oz bottle
If they didn''t have a fruit at lunch or if they seem hungry, I give them a fruit like at 5ish.
6:30pm - 8oz bottle
7pm - bedtime
I do feel like I''m feeding them all day long!...but if I do solids right after a bottle, then they don''t want the bottle...or vice versa.
Speaking of schedules. I''m a complete type A sort of person and I need schedules. I go crazy otherwise. The boys were on the same schedule from like 2m to 6m. Then we started solids and the schedule needed to change. I wanted to post it here to see what you guys thought and if you had any advice or saw anything I should change...
6ish - up for the day, but stay in cribs "chatting" until 7ish.
7am - 6-7oz bottle.
8:30am - nap (best one of the day, ~35-45 mins)
10am - Oatmeal + fruit (3 tablespoons of the dried cereal, each)
11:30am - 6oz bottle
Noon - Nap (this one is a fight...sometimes they take it earlier or later...it''s about 20 mins)
1:30pm - Lunch (veggies, sometimes a fruit)
2:30pm - nap, like 30 minutes
4pm - 6-7oz bottle
If they didn''t have a fruit at lunch or if they seem hungry, I give them a fruit like at 5ish.
6:30pm - 8oz bottle
7pm - bedtime
I do feel like I''m feeding them all day long!...but if I do solids right after a bottle, then they don''t want the bottle...or vice versa.
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Viz-When you say he went 5 hours, was that 5 hours of sleeping?
Mandy-That's pretty much the same exact schedule Sophia is on except she now gets an additional "meal" at 7pm and her last bottle between 7:30 and 8:30. She gets a bottle every 4 hours with her meals in between the bottle feedings. I can never give her a whole bottle and then solids, she'll refuse it. If I give her solids first, she'll have her whole bottle. I think she's just addicted to her bottle
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This is her schedule during the week for reference/comparison:
7am: force her lazy self to wake up so that we can go to MILs
7:30: 7oz bottle
9: cereal/fruit
9:30 nap (if MIL is lucky..sleeps about an hour)
11: 7oz bottle
1: afternoon meal of meat (usually chicken) and veggies with a fruit dessert
3: passes out because HELLO she's been awake for 6 hours
4: 7oz bottle
6:30ish: veggie/fruit
7:30ish: 8oz bottle
On the weekend:
8am: wake/7oz bottle
9am: cereal/fruit
10:30: nap for 2 hours
12:30: 7oz bottle
1:30pm: lunch...usually attempt table food, fail, resort to puree
3pm: nap for 2 hours
5pm: 7oz bottle
7pm: dinner
8:00: 8oz bottle/bed
Mandy-That's pretty much the same exact schedule Sophia is on except she now gets an additional "meal" at 7pm and her last bottle between 7:30 and 8:30. She gets a bottle every 4 hours with her meals in between the bottle feedings. I can never give her a whole bottle and then solids, she'll refuse it. If I give her solids first, she'll have her whole bottle. I think she's just addicted to her bottle
This is her schedule during the week for reference/comparison:
7am: force her lazy self to wake up so that we can go to MILs
7:30: 7oz bottle
9: cereal/fruit
9:30 nap (if MIL is lucky..sleeps about an hour)
11: 7oz bottle
1: afternoon meal of meat (usually chicken) and veggies with a fruit dessert
3: passes out because HELLO she's been awake for 6 hours
4: 7oz bottle
6:30ish: veggie/fruit
7:30ish: 8oz bottle
On the weekend:
8am: wake/7oz bottle
9am: cereal/fruit
10:30: nap for 2 hours
12:30: 7oz bottle
1:30pm: lunch...usually attempt table food, fail, resort to puree
3pm: nap for 2 hours
5pm: 7oz bottle
7pm: dinner
8:00: 8oz bottle/bed
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Mara- I haven't posted about it yet, but I will go post on the working moms thread. Basically still trying to figure out what I'm going to do. But I will post an update, maybe that will help me decide.
Mandarine- O is almost 9 months (GULP) but here is what we've been doing since we introduced solids.
6:30-7:00 am- Wake UP
7:30 am- 8 oz bottle
8:30/8:45 am- cereal & fruit
9:00- 10 or 10:30- Nap (This SHOULD be for 1 to 1.5 hours)
10:30 or 11 am- 8 oz bottle
11:30 or 12- veggies/lunch of some sort
1:30 or 2:00- 8 oz bottle
2:00-3:00- Nap (This SHOULD be 1 to 1.5 hours)
4:30- 8 oz bottle
5:00 or 6:00 pm- veggies
6:45- Bedtime routine (sometimes I give him a 4 oz bottle here, depending on when he last ate)
7 pm- Asleep.
Now, if either of this naps are less than an hour, then he ends up taking 3 naps, usually just 30 mins twice, with one long one. If this is the case, then the schedule gets adjusted and he may eat earlier or later. But what I am TRYING to do is give him solids at what I would consider "breakfast, lunch and dinner" and have the bottles be in between those times. It does feel like he is fed all day long, but it really takes him 5-10 mins at the most to drink his bottles. I imagine it must feel like that's ALL you're doing with two though! But it sounds like you are on the right track. O also has to have some space b/w the bottle and food or he won't eat/drink.
ETA: Fiery! I love that. I felt a little "off" last week when they showed that stupid rerun.
I "know" it's just a tv show, but man, I am going to feel like something is missing when it finally goes away.
And that is really interesting the tiny differences b/w weekday Sophia and weekend Sophia. Weekend Sophia has a PERFECT schedule!!!!
Vizla- Depends on where you are. We pay our nanny $10/hour and she works from 8 am-6 pm. I will say that she was instrumental in getting O on a schedule and will willingly do anything I ask to help me change things if need be. Honestly, O is the opposite of weekend Sophia. O is totally on schedule during the week but kinda goes a bit off the reservation with me on weekends. Part of it is because we are out and about doing things, while the nanny is really really consistent. But I don't feel bad about changing up his schedule a bit on weekends because 1) I think it's good for him to be a bit flexible but 2) I know he will go right back on schedule with her on Monday morning.
Mandarine- O is almost 9 months (GULP) but here is what we've been doing since we introduced solids.
6:30-7:00 am- Wake UP
7:30 am- 8 oz bottle
8:30/8:45 am- cereal & fruit
9:00- 10 or 10:30- Nap (This SHOULD be for 1 to 1.5 hours)
10:30 or 11 am- 8 oz bottle
11:30 or 12- veggies/lunch of some sort
1:30 or 2:00- 8 oz bottle
2:00-3:00- Nap (This SHOULD be 1 to 1.5 hours)
4:30- 8 oz bottle
5:00 or 6:00 pm- veggies
6:45- Bedtime routine (sometimes I give him a 4 oz bottle here, depending on when he last ate)
7 pm- Asleep.
Now, if either of this naps are less than an hour, then he ends up taking 3 naps, usually just 30 mins twice, with one long one. If this is the case, then the schedule gets adjusted and he may eat earlier or later. But what I am TRYING to do is give him solids at what I would consider "breakfast, lunch and dinner" and have the bottles be in between those times. It does feel like he is fed all day long, but it really takes him 5-10 mins at the most to drink his bottles. I imagine it must feel like that's ALL you're doing with two though! But it sounds like you are on the right track. O also has to have some space b/w the bottle and food or he won't eat/drink.
ETA: Fiery! I love that. I felt a little "off" last week when they showed that stupid rerun.
And that is really interesting the tiny differences b/w weekday Sophia and weekend Sophia. Weekend Sophia has a PERFECT schedule!!!!
Vizla- Depends on where you are. We pay our nanny $10/hour and she works from 8 am-6 pm. I will say that she was instrumental in getting O on a schedule and will willingly do anything I ask to help me change things if need be. Honestly, O is the opposite of weekend Sophia. O is totally on schedule during the week but kinda goes a bit off the reservation with me on weekends. Part of it is because we are out and about doing things, while the nanny is really really consistent. But I don't feel bad about changing up his schedule a bit on weekends because 1) I think it's good for him to be a bit flexible but 2) I know he will go right back on schedule with her on Monday morning.
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jcrow - we moved our litte one into her own room at 7 weeks, with a baby monitor. When she was in our room, DH would wake up with his snoring, and it was difficult to have to tiptoe around her after she was asleep, too.
vizla - sorry to hear about the persistent ear infections....
It must be rough having to deal with that and sleep-deprivation, on top of all the other tasks of motherhood. I hope C gets a clean bill of health soon. Re: sleep - I know you don''t want to try CIO, but I think some version of it might help in C''s case. Sounds like he''s used to having you around (comfort, pat on the bum) or something else (e.g pacifier, nursing) in order to get to sleep or get back to sleep when he wakes. If this pattern is constantly reinforced, he may not be getting an opportunity to learn how to self-soothe and fall back to sleep on his own. If you do try it - I second Mandy''s suggestion of trying it at his bedtime, if he''s really difficult to put down, and then taking it from there.
Amber - I''m sorry to hear you''re feeling bad... You are not a failure as a wife. Motherhood is tough - it''s a constant juggling act to balance all the things we have and are expected to do. We''re expected to be great mothers, creative cooks, keep up our appearances, be ravishing in bed, committed employees, dutiful children to our parents - something''s got to give somewhere!!! And while I don''t think it should necessarily be the husband, it''s understandable that some areas of your life will take a hit - especially with a young baby. It sounds as if your husband is being understanding? This phase won''t last forever.
That said - nothing is wrong with exploring whether things can be restructured a bit more, either, to allow you guys to have more free time together and by yourselves, to do other things you want to do. Putting Dalila to bed earlier (8:00 pm) has really helped me and the hubby get more free time, and so has getting friends/family to babysit, so that we can go out once in a while (PS suggestions). I remember you said you had never been away from Piper - is it because it''s so difficult to leave her? That might be something to explore, too.
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vizla - sorry to hear about the persistent ear infections....
Amber - I''m sorry to hear you''re feeling bad... You are not a failure as a wife. Motherhood is tough - it''s a constant juggling act to balance all the things we have and are expected to do. We''re expected to be great mothers, creative cooks, keep up our appearances, be ravishing in bed, committed employees, dutiful children to our parents - something''s got to give somewhere!!! And while I don''t think it should necessarily be the husband, it''s understandable that some areas of your life will take a hit - especially with a young baby. It sounds as if your husband is being understanding? This phase won''t last forever.
That said - nothing is wrong with exploring whether things can be restructured a bit more, either, to allow you guys to have more free time together and by yourselves, to do other things you want to do. Putting Dalila to bed earlier (8:00 pm) has really helped me and the hubby get more free time, and so has getting friends/family to babysit, so that we can go out once in a while (PS suggestions). I remember you said you had never been away from Piper - is it because it''s so difficult to leave her? That might be something to explore, too.
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Hi Everyone!!
Amber: You are a working mother! Don''t ever feel bad for not being able to cook dinner or wash a load of laundry. I am on the same routine as Fiery--clean on weekends. I limit myself to doing everything on a Sunday...and if the house is messy the rest of the week oh well.
Fiery: Glad to hear it was a fluke! She''s so cute!
Mandy: We go to the Dr. on Thursday...I''m sure Evan will still have small head also. Our shrunken baby heads should hang out..lol.
Mara: Welcome back!
Viz: It''s amazing the difference in babies. I always pay close attention to your baby because they were born the same day so I like to see how C is doing. I''m sorry you are having such a rough time with sleep. Did the peditrician say why he keeps getting ear infections? I would assume that is where the crazy sleep schedule comes in to play. Also I think it''s also weird that C is eating 12 oz at night! That''s a lot. If E wakes up in the middle of the night, normally a pat on the butt and a pacifier will put him down. If that doesn''t work then we give him 4-6 oz of formula.
I''m going to post Evan''s schedule:
Weekdays:
7:00 a.m. wake up (sometimes we have to wake him up)
9:00 a.m. 8 oz bottle.
9:30 a.m. Nap (1- 1 1/2 hours)
1:30 p.m. 8 oz bottle
2:00 p.m. Nap (1-1 1/2)
5:30 p.m. 6-8 oz bottle
6:00 p.m. Short nap--maybe 30 minutes.
7:30 p.m. Bedtime routine.....1/3 jar of vegetable or fruit (If pears...he gets the whole jar..because he becomes a complete bear and won''t stop screaming until he eats the whole thing), 4 tbsp of oatmeal, shower, Number 3 diaper and sleep sack, 4 oz bottle of formula
Down for the night at around 8:30-9:00 p.m.
Will maybe wake up once a night becauce he wants his pacifier back....It''s normally 2 a.m. or 4 a.m. when he loses his pacifier. We have on occasion let him fuss about and he normally falls back asleep within 5-10 minutes.
Weekends are pretty much the same except weekends he always wakes up waaaay later...like between 9 and 10. But everything else is about the same.
When C was younger did you do EASY? Is he still sleeping in the same room as you? Does the daycare give you a sheet with information on what he did during the day? Are they messing him up? Is it medical? Is he hot? Is he cold? Are you using a sleepsack? Swaddle?
Ugh, so many questions---I hope things get easier for you!
Amber: You are a working mother! Don''t ever feel bad for not being able to cook dinner or wash a load of laundry. I am on the same routine as Fiery--clean on weekends. I limit myself to doing everything on a Sunday...and if the house is messy the rest of the week oh well.
Fiery: Glad to hear it was a fluke! She''s so cute!
Mandy: We go to the Dr. on Thursday...I''m sure Evan will still have small head also. Our shrunken baby heads should hang out..lol.
Mara: Welcome back!
Viz: It''s amazing the difference in babies. I always pay close attention to your baby because they were born the same day so I like to see how C is doing. I''m sorry you are having such a rough time with sleep. Did the peditrician say why he keeps getting ear infections? I would assume that is where the crazy sleep schedule comes in to play. Also I think it''s also weird that C is eating 12 oz at night! That''s a lot. If E wakes up in the middle of the night, normally a pat on the butt and a pacifier will put him down. If that doesn''t work then we give him 4-6 oz of formula.
I''m going to post Evan''s schedule:
Weekdays:
7:00 a.m. wake up (sometimes we have to wake him up)
9:00 a.m. 8 oz bottle.
9:30 a.m. Nap (1- 1 1/2 hours)
1:30 p.m. 8 oz bottle
2:00 p.m. Nap (1-1 1/2)
5:30 p.m. 6-8 oz bottle
6:00 p.m. Short nap--maybe 30 minutes.
7:30 p.m. Bedtime routine.....1/3 jar of vegetable or fruit (If pears...he gets the whole jar..because he becomes a complete bear and won''t stop screaming until he eats the whole thing), 4 tbsp of oatmeal, shower, Number 3 diaper and sleep sack, 4 oz bottle of formula
Down for the night at around 8:30-9:00 p.m.
Will maybe wake up once a night becauce he wants his pacifier back....It''s normally 2 a.m. or 4 a.m. when he loses his pacifier. We have on occasion let him fuss about and he normally falls back asleep within 5-10 minutes.
Weekends are pretty much the same except weekends he always wakes up waaaay later...like between 9 and 10. But everything else is about the same.
When C was younger did you do EASY? Is he still sleeping in the same room as you? Does the daycare give you a sheet with information on what he did during the day? Are they messing him up? Is it medical? Is he hot? Is he cold? Are you using a sleepsack? Swaddle?
Ugh, so many questions---I hope things get easier for you!
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I wish we could post videos on here. I have a hilarious one of Sophia "singing" a nursery rhyme with me. I think she's going to get a lot of weird quirks from me because at the end of the song, I get loud and practically scream and she does the same exact thing. Oops lol!!
This is a really fun age
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Oh, also does anyone remember if there were any threads with book recommendations? I feel like I've seen it somewhere but the search engine is down. I'm trying to buy more books. So far she has five or six books but I want more.
This is a really fun age
Oh, also does anyone remember if there were any threads with book recommendations? I feel like I've seen it somewhere but the search engine is down. I'm trying to buy more books. So far she has five or six books but I want more.
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Amber, you are NOT a bad wife or mom or woman or anything! Cooking and cleaning? Bah! It''s almost too hard to brush your teeth and take a shower some days. You''ve got to triage your priorities, and well, cleaning just isn''t one. Cooking only is because you have to eat, but there are always take-outs/having the hubs grill/big meals you prepare 2x a week and then eat left-overs, etc.
Bleeding after c/s -- gosh, everything is such a blur, but I''m pretty sure my bleeding was minimal, like after the second or third day it was just spotting, and that went away in two or three weeks. But everyone is different, of course.
Moving baby into nursery - we did it at 4 weeks. It helped me sleep a bit better.
Going off mini-pill advice, anyone, anyone, Buehler? . . .
Buying baby food, it was fun. I also had to transition to a new grocery store because the one I went to before was bought out and become some new place that doesn''t carry the brands I want anyway. So I went across the street to the bigger, more chain-ish store, and was pleasantly surprised. I bought all organic stuff which I know isn''t always superior but this is my baby we''re talking about, I don''t want to take any chances! The only things I couldn''t get were nitrate-free kielbasa and goat cheese (which I''m sure I just missed because there was lots of other fancy cheese), but that just meant DH and I got to go for a walk tonight. We got andouille and goat cheese and fancy beer at the butcher shop (which of course cost 15% of our gigantic grocery bill just for those three items, but it''s good stuff, sigh . . .). Plus I tried out my new Mei Tai carrier. Claire was a little fussy but overall it was comfortable.
Daycare -- ok, so I totally like our daycare, but I had a funny interaction with the newer of the two women who care for Claire''s group. The other woman has been there foreever and is an institution, but she leaves before I get there (and DH drops her off), so I only see this other woman, who can be kind of obliviously abrasive, like today she said, "Claire might be cold because that''s all dad dressed her in today." But knowing her, that''s just because she didn''t want me to see Claire and think, egad, they let my baby hang out in here in a sleeve-less onesie? Anyway, it turns out that she works with one of my students at her weekend/night job at a fast food place; she said she was his manager but it sounded more like she was just a shift manager. Her daycare hours are 9 to 6 Mon-Fri, and I confess to being kind of worried about the fact that she has this other night job, like how can she have enough energy to take good care of the babies?
Bleeding after c/s -- gosh, everything is such a blur, but I''m pretty sure my bleeding was minimal, like after the second or third day it was just spotting, and that went away in two or three weeks. But everyone is different, of course.
Moving baby into nursery - we did it at 4 weeks. It helped me sleep a bit better.
Going off mini-pill advice, anyone, anyone, Buehler? . . .
Buying baby food, it was fun. I also had to transition to a new grocery store because the one I went to before was bought out and become some new place that doesn''t carry the brands I want anyway. So I went across the street to the bigger, more chain-ish store, and was pleasantly surprised. I bought all organic stuff which I know isn''t always superior but this is my baby we''re talking about, I don''t want to take any chances! The only things I couldn''t get were nitrate-free kielbasa and goat cheese (which I''m sure I just missed because there was lots of other fancy cheese), but that just meant DH and I got to go for a walk tonight. We got andouille and goat cheese and fancy beer at the butcher shop (which of course cost 15% of our gigantic grocery bill just for those three items, but it''s good stuff, sigh . . .). Plus I tried out my new Mei Tai carrier. Claire was a little fussy but overall it was comfortable.
Daycare -- ok, so I totally like our daycare, but I had a funny interaction with the newer of the two women who care for Claire''s group. The other woman has been there foreever and is an institution, but she leaves before I get there (and DH drops her off), so I only see this other woman, who can be kind of obliviously abrasive, like today she said, "Claire might be cold because that''s all dad dressed her in today." But knowing her, that''s just because she didn''t want me to see Claire and think, egad, they let my baby hang out in here in a sleeve-less onesie? Anyway, it turns out that she works with one of my students at her weekend/night job at a fast food place; she said she was his manager but it sounded more like she was just a shift manager. Her daycare hours are 9 to 6 Mon-Fri, and I confess to being kind of worried about the fact that she has this other night job, like how can she have enough energy to take good care of the babies?
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the whole process of introducing food makes my head spin. i''m in such denial that it''s here! c now has eczema on his chest and face (must be residual from the peas).
how long before i try something new?? last time he had "food/peas" was friday.
quick update:
put c to sleep in his crib tonight ... he rolled around for about 10 mins babbling while i went downstairs. he started to cry - i went back in and literally leaned over into the crib and put my face next to his for about 5 mins before he got comfortable enough to close his eyes - he woke up for a second and i quickly patted his bum and he put his head back down and went to sleep - he''s been in there for a whole 15 mins....
more fun to come
oh, fiery.. it was 5 hours b/t feedings... i think he only took a 30min nap...
how long before i try something new?? last time he had "food/peas" was friday.
quick update:
put c to sleep in his crib tonight ... he rolled around for about 10 mins babbling while i went downstairs. he started to cry - i went back in and literally leaned over into the crib and put my face next to his for about 5 mins before he got comfortable enough to close his eyes - he woke up for a second and i quickly patted his bum and he put his head back down and went to sleep - he''s been in there for a whole 15 mins....
more fun to come
oh, fiery.. it was 5 hours b/t feedings... i think he only took a 30min nap...
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Mara, I''ve been doing that with the shield here and there. I''m almost not sure I want to get rid of it at this point, but it would make life a bit easier.
Vis, that song makes me laugh too. Glad you got a kick out of it. Hope C stays alseep in his crib for a while. Jane didn''t get her long nap today, I just put in her p''n''p and haven''t heard the normal rebel yell that comes when she''s left. Shit, I spoke to soon....
Vis, that song makes me laugh too. Glad you got a kick out of it. Hope C stays alseep in his crib for a while. Jane didn''t get her long nap today, I just put in her p''n''p and haven''t heard the normal rebel yell that comes when she''s left. Shit, I spoke to soon....
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PG-that would concern me too considering that working fast food is really tiring. Does she work that job only on the weekends?
Viz-really hoping that the transition to the crib goes smoothly, even if takes a day or two (or 7). Sending you big hugs. I don''t think I''ve said this recently but I think you are a rockstar. To remain so positive and helpful to other mommas when you are going through sleep troubles is amazing. Hopefully he''ll get on the right track to sleeping longer for your sake!
Viz-really hoping that the transition to the crib goes smoothly, even if takes a day or two (or 7). Sending you big hugs. I don''t think I''ve said this recently but I think you are a rockstar. To remain so positive and helpful to other mommas when you are going through sleep troubles is amazing. Hopefully he''ll get on the right track to sleeping longer for your sake!
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viz keeping fingers crossed for you!!! i agree with sha re: C self-soothing.
so far J's schedule is as follows...but i dont know if it will change when i go back to work and he goes to my moms but i figure it will slightly.
7am: wake, 5oz bottle
7-10am: sleep
11am: 4-5oz bottle
12pm: nap (1 hour)
2:30 pm: bb feed
4pm: nap (1 hour)
6pm: 4-5oz bottle
8pm: 5oz bottle+bedtime routine
8:30pm: down for the night
sometimes the afternoon nap does not happen at 4...sometimes it's 5pm or not in the crib but on a walk etc. i tried to remove the 7-10am sleep to see if he'd nap more but he doesn't like to nap at all, so i just left it in because he seems to like to sleep then and he still needs the total amt. sometimes he skips the 7am wakeup and goes straight to 8:30 or 9am.
weekends are pretty much the same.
gosh you guys are making me not want to start solids, it sounds so confusing heehe. do you have to do it at 6 months?
PG i thought you guys were taking C out of the daycare when 'all summer PG' returns? or i missed something hehe.
so far J's schedule is as follows...but i dont know if it will change when i go back to work and he goes to my moms but i figure it will slightly.
7am: wake, 5oz bottle
7-10am: sleep
11am: 4-5oz bottle
12pm: nap (1 hour)
2:30 pm: bb feed
4pm: nap (1 hour)
6pm: 4-5oz bottle
8pm: 5oz bottle+bedtime routine
8:30pm: down for the night
sometimes the afternoon nap does not happen at 4...sometimes it's 5pm or not in the crib but on a walk etc. i tried to remove the 7-10am sleep to see if he'd nap more but he doesn't like to nap at all, so i just left it in because he seems to like to sleep then and he still needs the total amt. sometimes he skips the 7am wakeup and goes straight to 8:30 or 9am.
weekends are pretty much the same.
gosh you guys are making me not want to start solids, it sounds so confusing heehe. do you have to do it at 6 months?
PG i thought you guys were taking C out of the daycare when 'all summer PG' returns? or i missed something hehe.
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Firey - glad all''s well!
Sabine and anyone else who was checking on me and K: we''ve graduated! No fam doc visit till June for 2mo shots and checkup. And final LC appointent was today. She''s finally up to 8lbs, gain is within normal limits despite me backing off a little on the feeding frequency and a bit on the amount of EBM I''m supplemnting. She took in 42cc (nearly 1.5oz) on her own during the test feed, up from 32cc last week, so I was pleased. I can cut back/stop supplementing to try to challenge her to take more from the breast herself for he next week till we leave on vacation. Sh said to only pump if I''m supplementing, but I''m going to keep it up (shorter sessions, maybe not as often) to start to build a freezer stash for going back to work in June.
Mara - sounds like a great time!
Sabine and anyone else who was checking on me and K: we''ve graduated! No fam doc visit till June for 2mo shots and checkup. And final LC appointent was today. She''s finally up to 8lbs, gain is within normal limits despite me backing off a little on the feeding frequency and a bit on the amount of EBM I''m supplemnting. She took in 42cc (nearly 1.5oz) on her own during the test feed, up from 32cc last week, so I was pleased. I can cut back/stop supplementing to try to challenge her to take more from the breast herself for he next week till we leave on vacation. Sh said to only pump if I''m supplementing, but I''m going to keep it up (shorter sessions, maybe not as often) to start to build a freezer stash for going back to work in June.
Mara - sounds like a great time!
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super crazy busy at work these days......Date: 5/3/2010 6:55:13 PM
Author: fiery
I wish we could post videos on here. I have a hilarious one of Sophia ''singing'' a nursery rhyme with me. I think she''s going to get a lot of weird quirks from me because at the end of the song, I get loud and practically scream and she does the same exact thing. Oops lol!!
This is a really fun age.
Oh, also does anyone remember if there were any threads with book recommendations? I feel like I''ve seen it somewhere but the search engine is down. I''m trying to buy more books. So far she has five or six books but I want more.
here you go....I saved it to my favorites awhile back....
https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/whats-in-your-childs-library.132343/
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