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Second Marriage - what to do about engagement ring?

meely said:
I don’t think two different three stones look great together even if the proportions are different that’s all. It’s an opinion and no doubt different folks will think differently.
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Lol ok. I was just making sure it wasn’t a too because it seemed like it could have been.
 
I'd get a wedding ring with diamonds for continual wear then just wear the old engagement ring when I felt like it, on whatever finger I felt like.
 
My first ER is a princess cut with trillion side stones, white gold. It is absolutely beautiful and I love it. The band is really pretty too! This set comes from a first marriage that was very short and a disaster. We were walking on 47th street one day and I saw my ring in the window with a round. I went to try it on and fell in love but wanted a princess in it. I had no idea he went to buy that ring some time later.

The second time around I got a yellow gold emerald cut halo. It is also absolutely beautiful and I love this one too. While I did not pick it, I did have a lot of input since I was teaching my now husband about jewelry and how not to get ripped off.

I would never want to use the same stones from my first marriage as my current ER. Maybe because it was horrible; also my husband would never want anything from that relationship "tainting" what we have moving forward. I do love the wedding set and have worn it on my right hand once or twice, but I feel weird doing it sometimes. I've thought about resetting it but to me it is perfect the way it is so I don't.

I'm saving it for my daughter as an heirloom, since she is the only good that came from my first marriage. Honestly I feel weird about that sometimes too, like it is cursed somehow or just has too much negativity attached to it. I don't think I would want her to use that as her ER for that reason. I guess I'll find out how she feels about it when she is older.
 
Niel said:
Thanks!
I wanted to point out that when I wore this I wore it with a plain gold band. My absolute favorite was the Cartier trinity.
It was extremely low key lux. Even after all of my engagement ring iterations rarely have any of my rings sparked as much as that one.

But also do you have any interest in colored stones? A colored diamond would really be different. But so could a ruby.

Mixinf a colored stone with big ol diamonds in a moi et toi can still look very engagementy.

What’s nice is a theee stone is a very specific look. There are lots of ways to avoid a three stone.
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You rings are really beautiful. Very inspiring picture on that thread. What were the diamonds sizes in your 5 stone? I like how they shift in size. I'm also curious also what your ring size is. The ring goes across your finger really nicely. Love it with each of the gold bands you showed!
 
Dandi said:
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My engagement ring is a graduated 5 stone worn with a plain band, I love the look.
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Absolutely stunning. Love it with the plain band. Do you mind me asking what size ring you wear and what size diamonds you used? I'm really loving the 5 stones with graduated stones in them.
 

#TBT - My JA size 7.25 1.78tcw graduated 5 stone in WG

As as many of you know I redid my engagement ring. Today I got the final result. I'll go into how awesome and amazing JA was to work with on another thread but believe me when I say they were phenomenal! Size is loose to avoid fat fingers. Stones are all ks. Center is a. 84 vs1, first set of...
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Please give me some opinions on this cad

So I got some cards back for a 5 stone. Looks almost right but something is off, can't quite decide what. Maybe too high? Maybe too thin? I'd love some input. What can improve it, should or should I just go 3 stone. Keep in mind I really want full vertical coverage.
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a 5 stone setting under 2500?

I am making a 5 stone setting. ideally it has about a 4.5 and 3.5 mm sidestones for my 6mm stone. These proportions aren't quite right sense they dont go down my finger, but heres a photoshop (well a Gimp) of the proportions im going for, along with an image the lovely Yessie made for me...
www.pricescope.com


There is a lot about proportions and whathaveyou in these back when I was designing it
 
Niel said:

#TBT - My JA size 7.25 1.78tcw graduated 5 stone in WG

As as many of you know I redid my engagement ring. Today I got the final result. I'll go into how awesome and amazing JA was to work with on another thread but believe me when I say they were phenomenal! Size is loose to avoid fat fingers. Stones are all ks. Center is a. 84 vs1, first set of...
www.pricescope.com

Please give me some opinions on this cad

So I got some cards back for a 5 stone. Looks almost right but something is off, can't quite decide what. Maybe too high? Maybe too thin? I'd love some input. What can improve it, should or should I just go 3 stone. Keep in mind I really want full vertical coverage.
www.pricescope.com

a 5 stone setting under 2500?

I am making a 5 stone setting. ideally it has about a 4.5 and 3.5 mm sidestones for my 6mm stone. These proportions aren't quite right sense they dont go down my finger, but heres a photoshop (well a Gimp) of the proportions im going for, along with an image the lovely Yessie made for me...
www.pricescope.com


There is a lot about proportions and whathaveyou in these back when I was designing it
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Thank you! Will check these out. Also love both the bands you have with it. So pretty!
 
RingRingRingRingRing said:
Absolutely stunning. Love it with the plain band. Do you mind me asking what size ring you wear and what size diamonds you used? I'm really loving the 5 stones with graduated stones in them.
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Thank you! I wear a 5.75. The diamonds are .35, .56, .70, .54 and .35.
 
RingRingRingRingRing said:
I had a relatively short first marriage over a decade ago. I am now engaged again and very excited about marrying my new partner. Both times I have gotten engaged the other person has done it without a ring and suggested I pick what I like after.

I really loved my engagement ring from my first marriage but haven't worn it since my divorce. Before getting engaged my new partner knew I liked my old ring, and after I suggested maybe reusing it, he said he was fine if I wanted to reuse it or if I wanted to get something new. (He is very practical and would only be weirded out if I wanted to reuse my old 7 stone wedding ring.)

Well, maybe no one else well be surprised, but after trying out the re-use it option I discovered I feel *really* weird about doing that in a way I didn't expect to. And now I don't know what to do.

The ring is a 1.25 radiant with .20-25 pear side stones (don't quite remember exactly there). When I try to look for new 3 stone rings, I feel like I'm mostly trying to replicate the ring I have (which I now figure will become a right hand ring--it's not that I feel weird wearing it period, it's that I feel weird using it as an "engagement ring" again). I'm concerned I won't find a new engagement ring that I like as much?

I have about zilch as far as really nice jewelry so I'm thinking I should avoid getting another 3 stone ring maybe? If I was going to get another 3 stone ring I think BGD's Diana setting is very pretty. I find solitaires to generally not be my thing but maybe I should try more on and give them a chance? I'm going around in circles a bit but have been most seriously considering a 5 stone ring. Maybe something like BGD's Sally or Nightingale? Or a 5 stone Trellis with slightly graduated stones?

So, advice needed...
1- If you have been married before, and got to pick your next engagement ring, what was your thought process? Did you try to go in a completely new direction or get something less traditional? Do you have any general advice?
2- Is it odd to get a 5 stone ring as an engagement ring and then something else as a wedding band? What would you wear as a wedding band with a 5 stone ring? Or is it better to just wear a 5 stone solo?

I've looked through a lot of the 5 stone ring threads on here for ideas. I know you all really know your stuff! So any thoughts are appreciated. And if it helps in some way, I have a size 5 finger and don't like the feeling of eternity bands/diamonds between my fingers (though they are beautiful on other people).
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If 10 years has passed and a you have a new fiance', I feel this should be celebrated with a new ring.
I had 10 years in between first and 2nd marriage. The first ring was MRB in a halo setting. This time I went with a 5 stone wedding band. I sourced the 5 matching stones (.40) through Blue Nile then had a custom bezel setting made by David Klass. I have 4 different eternity bands I wear with the 5 stone wedding ring for different looks. I love solitaires, halos and all things sparkly. However, this was a more practical direction for my lifestyle and work.
I made a floating pendant out of my first engagement ring stone. I replaced the diamond with a chrome tourmaline in the setting for a RHR.
 
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I was also going to suggest the 5 stone graduated diamond ring. It looks more like an engagement ring than a wedding band.
 
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