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@Vera W, I think you already have enough material to write a book on this strange and brave new world of dating — likely a very successful book, I might add! 
Stopped wearing the rings- Online Dating?
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Howdy Y'all. Here for a little update. Might be a bit dramatic.
Bill and I had our 3rd dinner date over a week ago. It was rather blah as he didn't really plan a place to go. We just got in the car and were going to "find something along the way". I was disappointed with this, as I really thought he would have put more effort into it. Additionally I had asked him if we could share pictures of our siblings and family but he didn't have any on his phone. Just trips he had taken by himself. When I went through my pictures and several were of my late husband, even one wedding picture, Bill asked me "Who's Bobby"? This really hurt my feelings as he and I have had several in-depth conversations about our late spouses and used their names regularly. (He did apologize about it later.) There was no attempted at getting a smooch in either.
I DID get to ride in his BBW Approved Yukon as my car was in the shop. He is right, it is not a good seat for making out as it has a big ole center counsel there. I forgot to look at the backseat!! Darn it.
Anywho after feeling let down about the date, I got crazy in the brain and decided to tell him that we should just part ways as it seems he is just not that interested in me. (not asking questions, no flirting, seldom compliments). He was so taken aback when I told him this, he was speechless but graciously agreed. And agreed to have no contact as I didn't want either of us having pity on the other trying to make something happen.
Well low and behold, I COULDN'T bare what I did (what a Dunce move) and so after two days I wrote him apologizing and asking if we could talk about it. He took a day or so to ponder what I had written (it was a lot) and then came back to say that none of this was my fault, that he really, really likes me but that his timing was awful and that he missed all my flirting. We talked and I expressed my thoughts about being more intentional and that when we spoke on the phone I wanted his undivided attention. He listened well and said he could do better and has now proved that over the past couple of days. It is even better talking to him now, he is very attentive and has me ROFLOL, so much so, that my sisters busted into my room to ask if I was Ok. LOL He was kind enough to remind me last night that if there are any concerns or something that makes me unhappy that I am to tell him about it, about anything. He does not want me unhappy. Wow!!
So now we are talking about the 4th date, however my sisters, and my oldest son and his girlfriend are having a game night this coming Saturday night, so I am going to invite him over for that but it can't count as a date. We had talked previously about him joining us for a game night, so I hope he is still open to it. (I also really hope he beats my son at Mega Monopoly , as that would be just too much fun!!)
I really, really, like this man, am smitten for sure. So hopefully we can find mutual adoration going forward. When we were having our serious talk, he did say that he has plans to go to Alaska in the summer and was hoping to take me with him. SQUEALLL.
So now on the dating site I have hung up the No Vacancy sign so we can see where this journey will lead. Wish us well!!
Thank you all again for all of your advise, encouragement, and support.
Bill and I had our 3rd dinner date over a week ago. It was rather blah as he didn't really plan a place to go. We just got in the car and were going to "find something along the way". I was disappointed with this, as I really thought he would have put more effort into it. Additionally I had asked him if we could share pictures of our siblings and family but he didn't have any on his phone. Just trips he had taken by himself. When I went through my pictures and several were of my late husband, even one wedding picture, Bill asked me "Who's Bobby"? This really hurt my feelings as he and I have had several in-depth conversations about our late spouses and used their names regularly. (He did apologize about it later.) There was no attempted at getting a smooch in either.
I DID get to ride in his BBW Approved Yukon as my car was in the shop. He is right, it is not a good seat for making out as it has a big ole center counsel there. I forgot to look at the backseat!! Darn it.
Anywho after feeling let down about the date, I got crazy in the brain and decided to tell him that we should just part ways as it seems he is just not that interested in me. (not asking questions, no flirting, seldom compliments). He was so taken aback when I told him this, he was speechless but graciously agreed. And agreed to have no contact as I didn't want either of us having pity on the other trying to make something happen.
Well low and behold, I COULDN'T bare what I did (what a Dunce move) and so after two days I wrote him apologizing and asking if we could talk about it. He took a day or so to ponder what I had written (it was a lot) and then came back to say that none of this was my fault, that he really, really likes me but that his timing was awful and that he missed all my flirting. We talked and I expressed my thoughts about being more intentional and that when we spoke on the phone I wanted his undivided attention. He listened well and said he could do better and has now proved that over the past couple of days. It is even better talking to him now, he is very attentive and has me ROFLOL, so much so, that my sisters busted into my room to ask if I was Ok. LOL He was kind enough to remind me last night that if there are any concerns or something that makes me unhappy that I am to tell him about it, about anything. He does not want me unhappy. Wow!!
So now we are talking about the 4th date, however my sisters, and my oldest son and his girlfriend are having a game night this coming Saturday night, so I am going to invite him over for that but it can't count as a date. We had talked previously about him joining us for a game night, so I hope he is still open to it. (I also really hope he beats my son at Mega Monopoly , as that would be just too much fun!!)
I really, really, like this man, am smitten for sure. So hopefully we can find mutual adoration going forward. When we were having our serious talk, he did say that he has plans to go to Alaska in the summer and was hoping to take me with him. SQUEALLL.
So now on the dating site I have hung up the No Vacancy sign so we can see where this journey will lead. Wish us well!!
Thank you all again for all of your advise, encouragement, and support.
Ibrakeforpossums
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Vera, that's wonderful and very interesting as well. I think middle-aged men alone for a while are like wildlife in the backyard, easily spooked. And they're not always comfortable talking about the ex or the departed, either.
Just keep being the great woman you are and keep laughing at his jokes. It'll unfold naturally.
Just keep being the great woman you are and keep laughing at his jokes. It'll unfold naturally.
Ooh Vera, this soundsHowdy Y'all. Here for a little update. Might be a bit dramatic.
Bill and I had our 3rd dinner date over a week ago. It was rather blah as he didn't really plan a place to go. We just got in the car and were going to "find something along the way". I was disappointed with this, as I really thought he would have put more effort into it. Additionally I had asked him if we could share pictures of our siblings and family but he didn't have any on his phone. Just trips he had taken by himself. When I went through my pictures and several were of my late husband, even one wedding picture, Bill asked me "Who's Bobby"? This really hurt my feelings as he and I have had several in-depth conversations about our late spouses and used their names regularly. (He did apologize about it later.) There was no attempted at getting a smooch in either.
I DID get to ride in his BBW Approved Yukon as my car was in the shop. He is right, it is not a good seat for making out as it has a big ole center counsel there. I forgot to look at the backseat!! Darn it.
Anywho after feeling let down about the date, I got crazy in the brain and decided to tell him that we should just part ways as it seems he is just not that interested in me. (not asking questions, no flirting, seldom compliments). He was so taken aback when I told him this, he was speechless but graciously agreed. And agreed to have no contact as I didn't want either of us having pity on the other trying to make something happen.
Well low and behold, I COULDN'T bare what I did (what a Dunce move) and so after two days I wrote him apologizing and asking if we could talk about it. He took a day or so to ponder what I had written (it was a lot) and then came back to say that none of this was my fault, that he really, really likes me but that his timing was awful and that he missed all my flirting. We talked and I expressed my thoughts about being more intentional and that when we spoke on the phone I wanted his undivided attention. He listened well and said he could do better and has now proved that over the past couple of days. It is even better talking to him now, he is very attentive and has me ROFLOL, so much so, that my sisters busted into my room to ask if I was Ok. LOL He was kind enough to remind me last night that if there are any concerns or something that makes me unhappy that I am to tell him about it, about anything. He does not want me unhappy. Wow!!
So now we are talking about the 4th date, however my sisters, and my oldest son and his girlfriend are having a game night this coming Saturday night, so I am going to invite him over for that but it can't count as a date. We had talked previously about him joining us for a game night, so I hope he is still open to it. (I also really hope he beats my son at Mega Monopoly , as that would be just too much fun!!)
I really, really, like this man, am smitten for sure. So hopefully we can find mutual adoration going forward. When we were having our serious talk, he did say that he has plans to go to Alaska in the summer and was hoping to take me with him. SQUEALLL.
So now on the dating site I have hung up the No Vacancy sign so we can see where this journey will lead. Wish us well!!
Thank you all again for all of your advise, encouragement, and support.
terrific! So happy for you!!
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@Vera W, I honestly think that if this were me, I would find this relationship just too much work right from the get-go. I couldn't muster all the energy to groom/second guess any relationship this much so early on - I would have trust issues for sure. I'm sorry, but that is how I feel.
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All good relationships take work. I mean maybe you were overthinking things but that's normal. What I always liked to do was just have fun with dating. Not take it so seriously in the beginning and if it is meant to be it will be. Rule number one: enjoy yourself and rule number two: don't take yourself or anything too seriously right now.
Plus remember men, can at times, be clueless. No offense to any of the men who might be reading this. But in my experience sometimes we need to spell things out for them. They don't always read our clues so I like to say what is on my mind so they don't have to be detectives.
I am glad you worked it out and I wish you happy adventures moving forward. Always wishing you well!!!
And by the way, Alaska is fabulous in the summer. Just fab
Plus remember men, can at times, be clueless. No offense to any of the men who might be reading this. But in my experience sometimes we need to spell things out for them. They don't always read our clues so I like to say what is on my mind so they don't have to be detectives.
I am glad you worked it out and I wish you happy adventures moving forward. Always wishing you well!!!
And by the way, Alaska is fabulous in the summer. Just fab
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Hi Vera,
I woke up early this morning and started back on page one of this thread and followed along on your journey. I'm sorry for your loss.
Met my husband online in 2013. I had been single for a few years. As you have seemed to outline, you meet all types online. Unfortunately, people are sometimes less than honest and have dishonest intensions.
At some point I just quit. I decided to meet someone local without any high-stake romance. I met a guy 7 years my junior that just moved to town and was looking for a dinner companion, friend and nothing serious. We began to hang out and get to know each other. We fit naturally like peanut butter and jelly. I never would have called it. I guess I had figured out what a grand love looked like, but I am so glad this happened in spite of my mental fairytale. We built a friendship over time.
Hang in there!
I woke up early this morning and started back on page one of this thread and followed along on your journey. I'm sorry for your loss.
Met my husband online in 2013. I had been single for a few years. As you have seemed to outline, you meet all types online. Unfortunately, people are sometimes less than honest and have dishonest intensions.
At some point I just quit. I decided to meet someone local without any high-stake romance. I met a guy 7 years my junior that just moved to town and was looking for a dinner companion, friend and nothing serious. We began to hang out and get to know each other. We fit naturally like peanut butter and jelly. I never would have called it. I guess I had figured out what a grand love looked like, but I am so glad this happened in spite of my mental fairytale. We built a friendship over time.
Hang in there!
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Hello all my wonderful PS peeps!!!
I hope that you all are doing well, and that life is full of abundant joy and good health.
By now I am sure that most of you know I am no longer with Whiteflash. The MGMT team had to make some very hard (one even said most emotional) decisions and a layoff ensued. It was sad but I do understand that some things must just happen.
I have been diligently looking for a new job, I just had my 2nd interview this past week for an excellent position which I am praying hard comes through for me. I also took the opportunity to obtain my State of Texas Insurance License and will be looking into training with American Income Life Insurance. Probably as part-time and then if I should make the big bucks, may go full-time. It is mainly for Veterans. It is an interesting field and I had dabbled in it before WF, so maybe this time around I can make a go of it.
I am still seeing my suitor, "Bill", we have been on date 5 and 6. I sure enjoy his company and he is very consistent with communication. Oh, and he gave me two NICE TOP QUALITY boxes of chocolate, one for the job loss and the other for Valentine's Day. Still no smoochy, he moves like a SNAIL. I finally sent him a message a few days ago that if he asked me, I would oblige. He replied with a big smiley face and WOW!! Fingers crossed for this weekend's date.
Sister and I have been getting some "to do" things done around the house. I had another trip to the ER as my tongue swelled up again, I still have no clue why that keeps happening. But it went away quick with the IV meds.
I have had such wonderful support from my family, friends, Industry folks, and of course a few of you wonderful Pricescopers!! I am full expecting great things from God above and will keep you posted as things progress.
I hope that you all are doing well, and that life is full of abundant joy and good health.
By now I am sure that most of you know I am no longer with Whiteflash. The MGMT team had to make some very hard (one even said most emotional) decisions and a layoff ensued. It was sad but I do understand that some things must just happen.
I have been diligently looking for a new job, I just had my 2nd interview this past week for an excellent position which I am praying hard comes through for me. I also took the opportunity to obtain my State of Texas Insurance License and will be looking into training with American Income Life Insurance. Probably as part-time and then if I should make the big bucks, may go full-time. It is mainly for Veterans. It is an interesting field and I had dabbled in it before WF, so maybe this time around I can make a go of it.
I am still seeing my suitor, "Bill", we have been on date 5 and 6. I sure enjoy his company and he is very consistent with communication. Oh, and he gave me two NICE TOP QUALITY boxes of chocolate, one for the job loss and the other for Valentine's Day. Still no smoochy, he moves like a SNAIL. I finally sent him a message a few days ago that if he asked me, I would oblige. He replied with a big smiley face and WOW!! Fingers crossed for this weekend's date.
Sister and I have been getting some "to do" things done around the house. I had another trip to the ER as my tongue swelled up again, I still have no clue why that keeps happening. But it went away quick with the IV meds.
I have had such wonderful support from my family, friends, Industry folks, and of course a few of you wonderful Pricescopers!! I am full expecting great things from God above and will keep you posted as things progress.
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Hi @Vera W! I had no idea you were no longer with WF! I will miss you horribly! I was hoping to get down to Houston this summer and drop in and *definitely* see you! I'll be so disappointed!
I hope things are still going well with Bill, and when that smooch finally happens, you HAVE to tell us! I hope he proves to be 'top shelf smoochiness'!!
I'm sending you love and hugs from Boston, and prayers that a wonderful job appears for you; anyone who gets you is one lucky company indeed! <3
I hope things are still going well with Bill, and when that smooch finally happens, you HAVE to tell us! I hope he proves to be 'top shelf smoochiness'!!
I'm sending you love and hugs from Boston, and prayers that a wonderful job appears for you; anyone who gets you is one lucky company indeed! <3
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So sorry to hear of your job loss @Vera W, keeping everything crossed this new opportunity works out for you. Good luck for the weekend date, I take it as a good sign he’s got that much respect for you and the future of your relationship, that he’s taking things slowly.
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Oh, Vera, I had no idea that you were no longer with Whiteflash! What a loss for you and an even bigger one for them. I am so sorry to hear this and wish you well with future endeavors. Having met you, I know your bubbly personality will take you far!
Glad to hear that things are still going well with Bill. Sometimes slow and steady wins the race!
Take care and stay in touch with us here Vera. Big hugs to you!!
Glad to hear that things are still going well with Bill. Sometimes slow and steady wins the race!
Take care and stay in touch with us here Vera. Big hugs to you!!
Oh wow Vera. I had no idea about the layoffs at WF. So sorry to hear that you are not working there anymore. Even though we never met you in person, you made us feel special and cared for just by being your warm, friendly, kind self.
Sounds like things with Bill are about to heat up. So glad to hear things are going well with him. Love your updates!!
Sounds like things with Bill are about to heat up. So glad to hear things are going well with him. Love your updates!!
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I’m so sorry to hear about the layoff Vera. Sending lots of good luck dust and hoping you get the job you are excited about. I’m also hoping things go well for you and Bill.
Please keep us posted. I enjoy reading your posts and it’s obvious many of us here love hearing from you. You are a gem Vera!
Please keep us posted. I enjoy reading your posts and it’s obvious many of us here love hearing from you. You are a gem Vera!
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Hi Vera, sounds like you were loved by customers while with white flash. It’s sad to see a chapter close.
Sometimes these things in life make us fight harder. A bit of a story for you. I didn’t get laid off but I was lower level management and my company did away with my position and created a new position in its place with more pay and more responsibility but fewer number of positions available. Due to seniority and a not so great performance review the prior year
( deserved or not is another story in itself) I did not make the cut and had to step down. I worked hard, it took me 8 months and waiting for an opening but I ended up getting back up to the position they created and I’m now considered higher performing among my peers. I really wish you all the best with your new career venture. You never know, it could turn out great.
Now for the online dating. I spent many years on and off dating apps, I’ve tried them all I think. For a while I believe I was not really ready for a serious relationship but somehow thought I was. I know I came across some great men who were ready to settle down but due to my maturity, I wasn’t interested enough.
Fast forward to now, I met my fiancé on plenty of fish. I think POF is considered one of the worst apps second to tinder maybe. You just have to be able to navigate through the trash quickly and you’ll be ok. There are great men out there. Don’t loose hope even if things don't work out with Bill. When it’s the right person you won’t have to guess, he will make you feel so secure.
Sometimes these things in life make us fight harder. A bit of a story for you. I didn’t get laid off but I was lower level management and my company did away with my position and created a new position in its place with more pay and more responsibility but fewer number of positions available. Due to seniority and a not so great performance review the prior year
( deserved or not is another story in itself) I did not make the cut and had to step down. I worked hard, it took me 8 months and waiting for an opening but I ended up getting back up to the position they created and I’m now considered higher performing among my peers. I really wish you all the best with your new career venture. You never know, it could turn out great.
Now for the online dating. I spent many years on and off dating apps, I’ve tried them all I think. For a while I believe I was not really ready for a serious relationship but somehow thought I was. I know I came across some great men who were ready to settle down but due to my maturity, I wasn’t interested enough.
Fast forward to now, I met my fiancé on plenty of fish. I think POF is considered one of the worst apps second to tinder maybe. You just have to be able to navigate through the trash quickly and you’ll be ok. There are great men out there. Don’t loose hope even if things don't work out with Bill. When it’s the right person you won’t have to guess, he will make you feel so secure.
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@Vera W I am so sorry to read of this...I had no clue you were no longer with WF...truth be told your name was synonymous with WF for me. I know everyone must be missing you so much. Sending you many well wishes and future successful business endeavors with whatever path you next choose.
I have no doubt you will be successful and happy no matter what your next career choice.
And of course continued good wishes for your romance with Bill.
True love doesn't happen right away; it's an ever-growing process. ...
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage." — Lao Tzu
I have no doubt you will be successful and happy no matter what your next career choice.
And of course continued good wishes for your romance with Bill.
True love doesn't happen right away; it's an ever-growing process. ...
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage." — Lao Tzu
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You just let me know if you have time for lunch or coffee @mrs-b and we can meet up. Thank you for all of your encouragement and care!!
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Thank you ALL for your very kind words and encouragement. I do sure miss my Whiteflash-ers and our amazing Customers something fierce. I have no doubt all are doing well.
One point of interest is that back in Dec. I had a bad sinus infection that damaged my vocal cords, I sounded like Kathleen Turner from Dec. to March. I guess not using my voice so much allowed for my vocal cords to heal, as now I can sing again. It is funny how things turn out, or you know who has things turn out. Thank you Lord!!
Swoon!! So, my Suitor aka "Bill" has offically become my Boyfriend. Besides our daily phone calls and text messages, we were still messaging through the Dating App, well I was actually. He is a Teacher at an All-Girls school and from time to time his students use his phone, so he cannot get any flirty /risqué messages on his phone, so I SEND them through the App. Nothing close to what a true Hussie would send.
Well last night his profile disappeared, so I asked him today if he deleted it and he said "F*ck Yes, I am tired of those Scammers Winking at me, besides I got you and that is all I wanted." SWWOOONNN. Although I must forgive the swears. When he is passionate about something, he likes that word. LOL. Proof he is not a Sissy Man I suppose.
Anywho I explained my dilemma about sending him flirty messages and asked if I could have his email address, to which he replied, "Only if you don't send me any chain email messages". Ok Handsome, I promise not to spam you.
As of the previous weekend, we still have not had our first kiss. While he declared me to be his, I asked him why and he replied. "Neither of us are Alpha's so it is taking a while". My reply: "Well, we ain't Beta's either, so we had best figure this out".
We didn't get to see each other this past weekend as we each had our day of not feeling well, so I am moving my hopefulness of sealing the deal with a kiss to this coming weekend. Think good thoughts as I am sure I am going to have to make the first move.
(So NOT a Vera move, but I guess a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do.)
I really NEVER IMAGINED feeling like this or even taking on this adventure. One never knows what each phase of life holds.
In other news this week, I received 5 emails of being passed over for 5 of the 10 jobs I recently applied for last week.
In this journey I have experienced a few scammer job postings, but my Spidey senses have kicked in and they won't be getting my info.
I had one job that was similar to what I did at WF but maybe was overqualified for, as they passed me over, however they asked if they could contact me in future, so I of course said Yes!!
I am still knee deep into studying Insurance, so that is still in the works.
Lord Jesus, work your will for me!!
Thank you ALL for your very kind words and encouragement. I do sure miss my Whiteflash-ers and our amazing Customers something fierce. I have no doubt all are doing well.
One point of interest is that back in Dec. I had a bad sinus infection that damaged my vocal cords, I sounded like Kathleen Turner from Dec. to March. I guess not using my voice so much allowed for my vocal cords to heal, as now I can sing again. It is funny how things turn out, or you know who has things turn out. Thank you Lord!!
Swoon!! So, my Suitor aka "Bill" has offically become my Boyfriend. Besides our daily phone calls and text messages, we were still messaging through the Dating App, well I was actually. He is a Teacher at an All-Girls school and from time to time his students use his phone, so he cannot get any flirty /risqué messages on his phone, so I SEND them through the App. Nothing close to what a true Hussie would send.
Well last night his profile disappeared, so I asked him today if he deleted it and he said "F*ck Yes, I am tired of those Scammers Winking at me, besides I got you and that is all I wanted." SWWOOONNN. Although I must forgive the swears. When he is passionate about something, he likes that word. LOL. Proof he is not a Sissy Man I suppose.
Anywho I explained my dilemma about sending him flirty messages and asked if I could have his email address, to which he replied, "Only if you don't send me any chain email messages". Ok Handsome, I promise not to spam you.
As of the previous weekend, we still have not had our first kiss. While he declared me to be his, I asked him why and he replied. "Neither of us are Alpha's so it is taking a while". My reply: "Well, we ain't Beta's either, so we had best figure this out".
We didn't get to see each other this past weekend as we each had our day of not feeling well, so I am moving my hopefulness of sealing the deal with a kiss to this coming weekend. Think good thoughts as I am sure I am going to have to make the first move.
(So NOT a Vera move, but I guess a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do.) I really NEVER IMAGINED feeling like this or even taking on this adventure. One never knows what each phase of life holds.
In other news this week, I received 5 emails of being passed over for 5 of the 10 jobs I recently applied for last week.
In this journey I have experienced a few scammer job postings, but my Spidey senses have kicked in and they won't be getting my info.
I had one job that was similar to what I did at WF but maybe was overqualified for, as they passed me over, however they asked if they could contact me in future, so I of course said Yes!!
I am still knee deep into studying Insurance, so that is still in the works.
Lord Jesus, work your will for me!!
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@Vera W, just checking in on you! We haven’t heard from you in awhile so just saying hi and how’s it going?
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Well Howdy @MissGotRocks Thank you for checking in. Geez I hadn't realized I had not checked in for such a long time. A lot of highs and lows in the meanwhile but I am still the same ole Vera regardless.
"Bill" just wouldn't step up and kiss me and wasn't making time with me a priority, so we parted ways.
Since then I have kinda laid low on the dating since I was so busy looking for work, studying Insurance, and am learning how to build a Proformance Blogging System. It doesn't leave much time for social stuff, however I have kept a steady stream of possible suitors here and there. Of course a lot of Cat Fishery attempts and scammers but I escaped their schemes. In the past month I was getting to know a Bus Maintenance guy, A Private Pilot, and a long haul Trucker. My most favorite was the Bus guy, we had been chatting, video chatting, and texting, we made plans to meet for breakfast around 4am as he works the overnight shift but a thunderstorm came in and we canceled it. We talked twice after that about rescheduling and then he ghosted me and refused to answer any of my inquires. Being ghosted with no explanation STINKS. I REALLY liked him. The Pilot ended up being a scammer, thankfully I didn't invest much with him. As for the Truck Driver, we are still talking, texting, and video chatting. He drives all over the nation and just had a few days stuck in Canada. He lives in Colorado but has his name in for any Texas trips so we can meet and see if we have any sparks IRL. He retired after 24 years in the Marines and a few years in the Air Force reserves but plans to fully retire in two years, and is very open to moving where love finds him. He is quite the Gentleman but also very much a Masculine man, which is my favorite sort of guy.
Just this week a previous fella that disappeared on me has reappeared, so we are conversing again to see how it goes. I am enjoying getting to know these gentlemen but I just wish I would find the right one to just enjoy some time with and have a good relationship together.
No worries my sweets, I am still running background checks before we move over to exchanging phone numbers.
On the job front, I had an interview last week and the 2nd one was scheduled for yesterday. I KNEW from the 1st interview that I was going to have a job by the end of yesterday, I just knew it. But alas, one of the two Managers that interviewed me during the 1st interview called to let me know that the Owners of the company wouldn't up the pay, so he didn't want me to waste my time coming down for the 2nd interview. He confessed to me that he and the other Manager told the Owners that they were stupid to pass me by, I was THEIR PICK. But they could not convince the Owners. What they offered for pay was an embarrassment, less than unemployment even. I've had a lot of close call interviews and opportunities, but so far no job yet. I do have a lot of irons in the fire and am expecting more opportunities. Two weeks ago I lost my mind and fell for a Scammer Insurance company which I had applied with and lost $150.00 for their administrative fee. No more paying any fees for me!!
This has been a crazy journey but that is what life is all about. I had a scammer contact me claiming to be Debi and saying they needed my help. I reported it to Debi right away.
My sister and I haven't killed each other yet. We make sure to go out and have at least one fun weekend event to keep the doldrums away.
I have been having some strange health issues, since Dec. I have been to the ER 5 times. The first 3 times were because my tongue swelled up and the last two it was my throat and tongue. I need to see a Dr. and have allergy tests done but also I have been having outbreaks of ulcers under my tongue and on the inside of my cheeks, not to mention random lip or eyelid swelling and boils on my chest and inner thighs. I have EPI pens and I take Benadryl as soon as I feel something starting to happen. I am very mindful if any of these seem to be a reaction from any recent meals but so far nothing like that matches up and I have not changed any medications recently. I am currently looking for self pay Health Insurance to see if I can hasten the process of getting all this checked out by Doctors. Other than all that crazy stuff, I feel fine.
Thankfully Summer Pool season has started so sister and I are enjoying our swimming and sun bathing time on the weekends and may get in a few times during the week if our schedules allow.
I hope that you are all doing well and that the bling magic is still happening. When I get my Blog all ready I will see about sharing it with you all.
All the best to each and everyone of you beautiful people.
PS. don't get too excited but I did manage to lose 18lbs and took this cute picture of myself.
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Hi Vera,
Glad you are hanging in there. Online dating is both so fun and frustrating. I went through a few ghostings back in the day. Ugh. Eventually I did find a good man (and now husband) but it took a long time and the stories! Online dating is a mine field.
You're looking so pretty! Congrats on the weight loss. Losing it is so tough!
Sorry to read about your health scares. Hope you feel better soon.
Glad you are hanging in there. Online dating is both so fun and frustrating. I went through a few ghostings back in the day. Ugh. Eventually I did find a good man (and now husband) but it took a long time and the stories! Online dating is a mine field.
You're looking so pretty! Congrats on the weight loss. Losing it is so tough!
Sorry to read about your health scares. Hope you feel better soon.
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So good to hear from you Vera! Sounds like you are keeping busy and that is a good thing. I am sure the right job is just around the corner for you and maybe a decent fellow to share some time with too! I am sorry to hear about your health issues and hope you can soon get them resolved. It really is good to hear from you - you look wonderful!!
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Oh Vera! I had no idea until I read this that you were not at Whiteflash anymore! You were always just one of my favorite people to correspond with there!
I am so grateful I found this thread so I can keep up with you and your adventures. I hope the health issues resolve quickly so you can enjoy your summer, and I hope for not just a job and man for you - but the RIGHT ones! You are SUCH a treasure! Do NOT settle!
Many blessings to you! Please keep us updated!
I am so grateful I found this thread so I can keep up with you and your adventures. I hope the health issues resolve quickly so you can enjoy your summer, and I hope for not just a job and man for you - but the RIGHT ones! You are SUCH a treasure! Do NOT settle!
Many blessings to you! Please keep us updated!
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