Stopped wearing the rings- Online Dating?

[MamaBee]

How exciting Vera! I hope you have a wonderful time on Saturday!

 

[Patty]

Very exciting, Vera…I hope that you have a wonderful date!

 

[Mlh]

Ooh exciting Vera!! Hope you have a great 1st date!!

 

[monarch64]

Good luck, @Vera W ! This guy sounds like he has a lot to offer, and it’s great you scored so high with the compatibility questions. Speaking of physical intimacy, I always encourage women to do some research into the current state of social diseases and how to protect yourself. Men can be really clueless about these things and often don’t know they’re carriers of viruses or sometimes infections. There is actually no test for men for HPV, so please keep that in mind. Gardasil isn’t offered to those over age 45 at this time although I’m sure you could ask your health care provider if it’s something they recommend for you. There is also a product called PrEP you may want to check out.

None of that is very romantic but I think as people age they don’t think about STIs as much as when they were dating in their youth. It’s still really important. Ok, thanks for listening to my PSA.

 

[Calliecake]

Have a wonderful time and lots of fun Saturday night Vera.

 

[Vera W]

Hello All,
Thank you again for all of your encouragement and advice, it is well received and greatly appreciated.

So my date with Bill went great, we enjoyed dinner and talking for 3 hours. When it was time to leave he wanted to walk me to my car but I said it wasn't necessary. Bad Vera!! As I got closer to home, I pulled over to send him a text of Thanks and to apologize for not letting him walk me to my car but before I could finish the text he called me to make sure I made it home ok. I told him Thank you for dinner and the chat, and I apologized for not letting him walk me to my car, he right away said that he had intended to hug me at my car, to which I replied that I also wanted to hug him but chickened out. LOL So we agreed we definitely have to do it again so we can make up for the missed hugs.

One thing I find that is kind of strange is that these guys don't ask me many questions. Of course I ask a lot of questions.

oh and two other suitors have contacted me as well, another widower and he is really trying to woo me with his talk of how he will make my dreams come true. I am not opposed to going on dates with a couple of different guys, so we shall see.
The saga continues......

 

[MamaBee]

Hello All,
Thank you again for all of your encouragement and advice, it is well received and greatly appreciated.

So my date with Bill went great, we enjoyed dinner and talking for 3 hours. When it was time to leave he wanted to walk me to my car but I said it wasn't necessary. Bad Vera!! As I got closer to home, I pulled over to send him a text of Thanks and to apologize for not letting him walk me to my car but before I could finish the text he called me to make sure I made it home ok. I told him Thank you for dinner and the chat, and I apologized for not letting him walk me to my car, he right away said that he had intended to hug me at my car, to which I replied that I also wanted to hug him but chickened out. LOL So we agreed we definitely have to do it again so we can make up for the missed hugs.

One thing I find that is kind of strange is that these guys don't ask me many questions. Of course I ask a lot of questions.

oh and two other suitors have contacted me as well, another widower and he is really trying to woo me with his talk of how he will make my dreams come true. I am not opposed to going on dates with a couple of different guys, so we shall see.
The saga continues......

I’m so happy it went well Vera!!! I love that you talked for three hours too…That’s a very good sign that you have things in common!

 

[Mlh]

Oh, sounds like it went really well!! Excited for you!!

 

[Matata]

One thing I find that is kind of strange is that these guys don't ask me many questions.

This made me LOL because...on the first date with my DH he grilled me for 3 solid hours on my attitudes toward/positions on everything from the time I was conceived until the moment he picked me up for the date. His intent was to make sure I wasn't carrying any baggage that he couldn't handle and to see if we were compatible but for cripes sake. Yanno those people who rip into a Christmas present just to see what's inside? That's what I felt like. I would have preferred being the present that was savored and slowly opened. I was exhausted at the end of the evening and determined not to see him again. And here we are 26 yrs later.

 

[Vera W]

This made me LOL because...on the first date with my DH he grilled me for 3 solid hours on my attitudes toward/positions on everything from the time I was conceived until the moment he picked me up for the date. His intent was to make sure I wasn't carrying any baggage that he couldn't handle and to see if we were compatible but for cripes sake. Yanno those people who rip into a Christmas present just to see what's inside? That's what I felt like. I would have preferred being the present that was savored and slowly opened. I was exhausted at the end of the evening and determined not to see him again. And here we are 26 yrs later.

I love this story of your beginning together! @Matata One for the history books!

 

[Vera W]

Howdy Y'all.
I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving day. I sure did, it was my 2nd date with "Bill" and my 30 year old son was along so he played chaperone! At first my son was MAD as he said I didn't let him know that Bill was going to join us but from the jump they talked so much I couldn't get a word in. It was great and Cameron even apologized for getting mad. We all have so much to be Thankful for!!

Bill and I did got a quick hug in but not really the type I wanted to give him since my son was standing there. LOL Last night on our phone call Bill mentioned that he couldn't get things done that he wants to because he is distracted by me! I was hoping when he said this, that he would ask for the next date but he has not, so I am waiting.

In the meanwhile, the other Widower turned out to be a Catfisher, block and delete!! Then there was a younger man, 27 years old, I am 56!! He has been messaging me for a while and I told him we could be friends but I am not seeing someone that young. Well low and behold people, I got my very first ever "RICHARD" picture from him!! And it was while I was at a party and someone next to me saw it and I turned TWELVE shades of RED!! I was so embarrassed and shocked I nearly passed out. Needless to say, he got blocked, deleted and reported. He can do that with the young Bippies as they might like it but not this Mama!! My glimpse was so fast but I did notice that the bedroom he was in was messy with clothes and shoes all over the floor, so I chastised him for keeping such a messy room while I bid him farewell. I hope he felt like doing the "Walk of Shame" for that. Oh people are some strange and funny types , that is for sure.

No worries, I am still enjoying myself.

 

[seaurchin]

Oh dear! Well Bill sounds nice anyway!

Thanks for the update. Much enjoyed, and rooting for you!

 

[seaurchin]

Just an FYI here fwiw. I was wondering if Richard pictures would be considered the same as indecent exposure or what. Here's what I found:

Sending unsolicited dick pics is now illegal in Texas, and could result in a $500 fine

The law change was the result of a campaign led by feminist dating app Bumble, whose HQ is in Austin, Texas.

www.insider.com

 

[Patty]

Wow! It took me a minute to realize what a Richard picture was. Good Lord…so he’s 27 and you tell him he’s too young for you to date and he sends you that?! Like you will suddenly be so impressed with it that you’ll change your mind? “Never mind, I must have this is my life!” What is wrong with him?!

I‘m glad that Bill sounds promising and that your son enjoyed his company too.

 

[dk168]

Unsolicited "Richard" pics = delete and block right away in my book as I consider that as rude!

(I am not straight-lace by any mean and have a very naughty past!)


DK

 

[Inked]

I didn't meet my husband until i was 43 so I was also dating "older" and I am amazed at how many younger men (in their 20s) would ask me out... I dont know if it was a game or joke to them, but I never wasted my time. You did the right thing by blocking! I have enjoyed reading your story and I wish you luck with Bill (or whoever) you choose to date! Have fun! I love reading your adventures!

 

[Calliecake]

Oh Vera, Your update posts are priceless!!!! You are so much fun!

 

[marcy]

Thanks for the update @Vera W - oh the stories you can tell. I am thinking of all sorts of obnoxious comments for Richard. That would be my luck too that someone else saw it. Glad our phones have that block feature. I probably have more blocked numbers than contacts.

Marcy

 

[monarch64]

I’ve received some unsolicited Richard pics in the past. Here’s what I say back before blocking:

“Wow, why would you send me a pic of a child’s Richard? That’s illegal—I’m turning this over to the authorities to let them know you’re distributing child corn”

Gets ‘em on so many levels.

 

[whitewave]

Oh, Vera! You are on an adventure! Lol

 

[Vera W]

I’ve received some unsolicited Richard pics in the past. Here’s what I say back before blocking:

“Wow, why would you send me a pic of a child’s Richard? That’s illegal—I’m turning this over to the authorities to let them know you’re distributing child corn”

Gets ‘em on so many levels.

Thanks @monarch64 I am saving that statement for any future happenings.

 

[Vera W]

Dating Update.

Y'all, I would love your thoughts on this. I was talking to my Suitor, AKA Bill the other night. We have enjoyed daily text / talking now for weeks on end. Sadly we have yet to have had our 3rd date, due to each of us taking our turn with colds, sinus infections, and the like. One of those dates was going to be me treating him to brunch on his Birthday which fell on a Sunday. He staunchly objected to me "treating" him until I told him, "don't worry, you will pay for all the other dates going forward", so he relented. Well don't you know I had a bad reaction to a change in one of my medicines and ended up in the ER that Saturday before his Birthday. My tongue swelled up so they had to load me up with Benadryl and stuff to make it go down and that required an 8 hour stay for observation. When I had texted him after they checked me in that day, he called right away to see how I was and if he could do anything for me. He kept in continual contact the whole day. That was so sweet.

Anywho, while we were chatting the other night, I asked him about his "BBW" approved Yukon SUV and if it had Captain's Chairs or a Bench Seat. I have not seen his car as we drove separately to our dates.

This man is extremely mild mannered, does not flirt, and never even approaches any kind of sex talk.

He sat quiet for a moment and then totally threw me for a loop when he replied, "Well it is not very good for making out in".

People, I nearly PASSED OUT, I saw stars, I LOL'd so hard and long. The 12 shades of BLUSH was in full force in my face. Thank goodness we were not on Video chat. No way was I expecting that answer. Admittedly, my curiosity about it was because I have been daydreaming about him kissing me and I guess most of the time it may happen in the front seat of a car.

I feel SO FOUND out by him, do you think he saw right through me or maybe he has thought about the same thing? I feel SO CAUGHT, RED HANDED. I am in SHAMBLES, I tell you. LOL I am going to die laughing for days over this.

What do you think, has he called my bluff?

After the call, when I texted him my usual "Thank you for the chat" message, I told him how that made my day and how I will be dying laughing for the rest of the week but that now my curiosity has peaked about the backseat!!! (Vera, being a Scandalous Hussie). He graciously replied with an LOL and a winky emoji.

Needless to say, I have been giggling like a girl ever since then.
This dating stuff is downright hysterical, I hope it stays this way.

 

[missy]

@Vera W he is now flirting with you! And since you like him too may I wish you more enjoyable dates with your sweet suitor…and more… if that is what you desire moving forward

 

[Ibrakeforpossums]

Vera,
I was widowed in my mid-50s. I met a very decent man who made me laugh until I had to cross my legs. Ten years now, there's nothing better. I wish you the same!

 

[Calliecake]

I’m glad you are having fun Vera!

 

[Lookinagain]

He sat quiet for a moment and then totally threw me for a loop when he replied, "Well it is not very good for making out in".

I don't think he'd say this if he wasn't thinking about it too. Unless the tone told you something different, I think that if someone was trying to dissuade you from this idea, their response would have just been to tell you what kind of seats they are, and move on in the conversation. So I think he's on the same page as you are, so if you've been "found out", so has he, IMO.

 

[MissGotRocks]

Don’t worry about it Vera! You are probably worrying about it a whole lot more than he is - lol! He sounds like a nice person and I am glad you are enjoying yourself! Keep us posted and have fun!!

 

[ame]

No real advice, just sending the best of luck. I went out on three dates right after my divorce was final, and I haven't done it since. I am sure there are decent single men out there, but I have yet to encounter one.

 

[dk168]

IMHO, he has thought about having some nookies in his car, and could visualise whether it would work or not, which is easily done.

However, whether he thought about having some nookies with you in mind or someone else in the past, then it is for him to know and for you to find out.

He could have tried having some nookies with another lady in the past to qualify his comment. Again, that is for him to know and for you to find out.

As I can't flirt for all the teas in China, I would have asked him directly how he came to that conclusion myself.

DK

 

[GeliL]

I am on the edge of my seat everytime you post Vera! I am so glad you are having fun dating. I am single in my late 28s and everyone single in my age group are complaining about the dating scene and it's been getting depressing, but reading your post it reminds me to stay positive and just enjoy the ride and not to take it too seriously! I should enjoy my life and have fun either way, single or not

And I think it's good that the man is getting more comfortable with you and flirting with you - it seems like he has been wanting to flirt for a while and just found the right opportunity. Please do keep us updated on your endeavor!