misskitty
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Awww.. yay! That''s awesome! Congrats to your friend.Date: 2/24/2009 9:18:03 PM
Author: SailorsSweet<3
One of my ''bridesmaids'' just told me that she and her SO put down a deposit on a ring this past weekend!! I''m so excited for her! We went to high school together and neither of us thought we''d be getting married early on in life; but, here we are - hardcore LsIW! Im so excited I cant wait ''til he proposes! She said the ring is pear shaped with a delicate pave band. I think I''m more excited to see it because its not my personal taste, but none the less it sounds gorgeous! I''ll post pictures as soon as he proposes and she lets me take a photo shoot of the ring. Its her birthday this weekend - do you think its possible for him to pay off the rest as a surprise and propose then ??? I better bring my camera Saturday night(sorry for all the ''excited''s haha)
Woo hoo!! Hi Sammy!Date: 2/25/2009 10:07:12 AM
Author: sammyj
I''m here.
Not sure where everyone else is though...
I loved your pics in your who''s who thread! (i posted there too btw.)
Meh! It''s going ok...it''s not a Saturday or Sunday, you know?Date: 2/25/2009 10:08:28 AM
Author: elledizzy5
Woo hoo!! Hi Sammy!Date: 2/25/2009 10:07:12 AM
Author: sammyj
I''m here.
Not sure where everyone else is though...
I loved your pics in your who''s who thread! (i posted there too btw.)
Thanks! I forgot to go back over and check it out. I often times forget I even have a thread over there.
How''s your Wednesday going?
Yes, I hear you! I''m going to Chicago for the weekend, so I''m excited. I have Friday off!Date: 2/25/2009 10:13:06 AM
Author: sammyj
Meh! It''s going ok...it''s not a Saturday or Sunday, you know?Date: 2/25/2009 10:08:28 AM
Author: elledizzy5
Woo hoo!! Hi Sammy!Date: 2/25/2009 10:07:12 AM
Author: sammyj
I''m here.
Not sure where everyone else is though...
I loved your pics in your who''s who thread! (i posted there too btw.)
Thanks! I forgot to go back over and check it out. I often times forget I even have a thread over there.
How''s your Wednesday going?
How about you? I''m intrigued about your ex-BFF....I can''t help it. I''m a nosy gossip!
Wowza...I got worked up reading your post! This girl was your best friend for 20 years?? Has she always been like this? I''m sorry to hear that you have someone so toxic in your life, because really, that''s what she is. She makes you feel like crap, she makes you second guess who you are, and she abuses your trust in every way. Maybe she hasn''t done that throughout your entire friendship, but it definitely sounds like she''s doing it now! Honestly, she sounds incredibly insecure...or she''s just a mean person.Date: 2/25/2009 10:22:05 AM
Author: elledizzy5
Yes, I hear you! I''m going to Chicago for the weekend, so I''m excited. I have Friday off!
hahaha! Ex-BFF. I wouldn''t even know where to start.
The best way I can sum it up is that everything I do is wrong. She is paranoid that every time I change my status update on Facebook, it''s about her. They''re usually about life in general, or something I''ve observed about the world. They''re not directed at her! For some reason, she always thinks they are, and gets mad... but never tells me about it. And then personally attacks me on her Facebook. On her Facebook this time, she basically told everyone that I put my boyfriend first and refuse to go anywhere without him. This is not true, and other girlfriends of mine have never complained of this. I always go out without him!
She told a mutual friend she was mad because I friended an ex of hers, and said ''HI'' on his wall.
Since when am I not allowed to be friendly, and how about the the fact that when I was with my ex, and you were fighting with me, you''d HANG OUT with my ex behind my back and complain about me! Or the fact that you invited my ex boyfriend of 5 years who was mentally abusive to me to your birthday party last year. They aren''t even friends!!! Could you imagine having to go to a party with your ex, and your current boyfriend.. especially when the two arent friends? She doesnt even have his number, she sent him an invite over facebook. Also it''s not like it was a big party, there were about 8 people. One of which was him that was invited. WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT TO YOUR SUPPOSED BEST FRIEND???
I''m tempted to just delete her to eliminate the problem, but then she''ll take it as I''m being ''mean''. Maybe I should just message her and say ''To prevent you taking things out of context, I''m just going to remove you as a friend. I will not say bad things about you, and I hope you can do the same.''
Whew. I just got worked up. There is so much more drama. I should tell you about her recent ex. OMG. You wouldn''t believe the story, it''s so ridiculous.
I''m excited to see the pics too!!! A pear halo is right up my alley for a RHR!!Date: 2/24/2009 9:18:03 PM
Author: SailorsSweet<3
One of my ''bridesmaids'' just told me that she and her SO put down a deposit on a ring this past weekend!! I''m so excited for her! We went to high school together and neither of us thought we''d be getting married early on in life; but, here we are - hardcore LsIW! Im so excited I cant wait ''til he proposes! She said the ring is pear shaped with a delicate pave band. I think I''m more excited to see it because its not my personal taste, but none the less it sounds gorgeous! I''ll post pictures as soon as he proposes and she lets me take a photo shoot of the ring. Its her birthday this weekend - do you think its possible for him to pay off the rest as a surprise and propose then ??? I better bring my camera Saturday night(sorry for all the ''excited''s haha)
Yeah, I''m just kind of doing damage control right now. Trying to make sure that people that she talks to hear my side of the story before they draw their conclusions.Date: 2/25/2009 10:37:37 AM
Author: sammyj
Wowza...I got worked up reading your post! This girl was your best friend for 20 years?? Has she always been like this? I''m sorry to hear that you have someone so toxic in your life, because really, that''s what she is. She makes you feel like crap, she makes you second guess who you are, and she abuses your trust in every way. Maybe she hasn''t done that throughout your entire friendship, but it definitely sounds like she''s doing it now! Honestly, she sounds incredibly insecure...or she''s just a mean person.
I couldn''t agree with you more that facebook is the devil. I don''t have an account and neither does my BF. We prefer to stay away from the drama and anything anyone wants to know about us we will tell them. Anything we should know about other people, we would hope that they would break out of the facebook bubble and remember that there are other means of communication! My dislike for fb is a different story though!
If you''re ready to cut her out of your life, then this is the time to do it. Your prologue to the friend deletion sounds good. I know you don''t want others to be involved as well, but you could also let your other friends know in the case that the ex-friend starts spreading vicious rumours, and they''ll at least know your side of the story.
We're visiting J's brother and sister-in-law on Friday night. Then, on Saturday night, my parents will be there (They live in Las Vegas) visiting my step-brother, step-sister-in-law (Is that a term?) and their 5 kids. Since we're only 4 hours from Chicago, we visit when my parents are visiting.Date: 2/25/2009 10:38:30 AM
Author: sammyj
Oh, and a weekend in Chicago sounds amazing! I haven't been to Chicago since I was 12!! I've always wanted to go back....
What are you guys doing there?
You''re right. It would be the best thing for me. I just fear the backlash. LOLDate: 2/25/2009 10:50:18 AM
Author: misskitty
Yaaaay, Chicago! I miss that city, and I can''t wait to go back in a few weeks. What are you going for?
Also, re: the ex-BFF, I''ve been there before and it sucks. Don''t even give her the satisfaction of knowing that the drama she''s stirring up is getting to you. People like her crave that kind of attention, so sending her a message (even if you''re very much being the bigger person) is still fueling her. Just delete her from Facebook, and delete her from your life. If she tries to contact you, ignore ignore ignore (and politely resist attempts from mutual friends to get dirt on the situation!).
Wow elle...that''s crazy. She does have major issues to deal with and if she''s pushing away friends that only have her best interest at heart, then it''s her loss. As much as it sucks to lose a friend, I bet it will feel like a big weight off your shoulders once you delete her. (ditto to everything misskitty said!)Date: 2/25/2009 10:45:17 AM
Author: elledizzy5
Yeah, I''m just kind of doing damage control right now. Trying to make sure that people that she talks to hear my side of the story before they draw their conclusions.
We''ve always had a weird relationship. On/off. We may have only been friends for 10-15 of the last 20 years. That is how on/off it is. I am letting it go now. I know she has some stuff to work through, and as much as I''ve tried to help, I obviously am not what she needs right now, and I''m getting hurt in the process, so we''re done. I''m done.
I know what you mean about FB. Having 24/7 access to the minutiae of people''s lives has seriously damaging effects. People have left your life for a reason, and following up on all of them all the time probably isn''t the best idea. I know exBFF stalks her exes on there. She even made a fake profile to friend her CURRENT boyfriend''s girlfriend (Yes, I said that right. Her boyfriend had a girlfriend. For 3 years. They both knew about one another) just so she could have access to her FB profile and use it against her.
I feel mean deleting her, but I think I might have to, for my sanity.
Now I have a headache. LOL. I was thinkin too hard.
What else is new with you? Anything fun planned this weekend?
Date: 2/25/2009 11:02:02 AM
Author: sammyj
Wow elle...that''s crazy. She does have major issues to deal with and if she''s pushing away friends that only have her best interest at heart, then it''s her loss. As much as it sucks to lose a friend, I bet it will feel like a big weight off your shoulders once you delete her. (ditto to everything misskitty said!)
Nothing too new this weekend. My friend, who is going to school in PA, is coming home so we''re having a girls'' night out on Saturday. Sunday I am babysitting in the morning for a friend who is running a half marathon. Her little girl, Olivia, is hilarious. She''s 7 and can practically babysit herself.
Canada is great. If you think Ontario is wonderful, you should have made a trip to Quebec to drink and party at the age of 18!!! I live about 30 minutes from Toronto and 3 hours from Windsor. I love being Canadian and I feel privileged to have been raised here. The only thing I will complain about weather (because really, we always complain about weather!). I would love to move to California to enjoy the beach year-round but my BF will have nothing of it.
I''m glad to hear you love Canada! Where have you visited? I apologize on behalf of all of us for our lack of Target and other fabulous stores....
I don''t get to see my group of girlfriends from high school that often, so when we can arrange something, I''m all over it! Heck, I''m usually the one that organizes the get-togethers!Date: 2/25/2009 11:08:20 AM
Author: elledizzy5
Fun! Girls night out!! That should be a really good time. I haven''t gone out and had a lot of drinks with the girls in a while! Jealous!
I have cousins in Toronto, so I''ve visited there a few times. Spent a lot of time in Windsor, of course, since it''s so close to me. And, Niagra Falls of course (We always stay Canadian side). I wish I could travel more in Canada, but we''ve been saving money. We''re about due for a mini-vacation, maybe FF and I can check out Quebec! I think Quebec is like 12 hours from me, though.
I would love to go to Quebec! I think Canada is great, and I''ve heard such good things about a lot of the cities out there. Plus, I''d get to use more of the French that I spent 5 years studying! Ha!
Date: 2/25/2009 11:15:13 AM
Author: sammyj
I don''t get to see my group of girlfriends from high school that often, so when we can arrange something, I''m all over it! Heck, I''m usually the one that organizes the get-togethers!Date: 2/25/2009 11:08:20 AM
Author: elledizzy5
Fun! Girls night out!! That should be a really good time. I haven''t gone out and had a lot of drinks with the girls in a while! Jealous!
I have cousins in Toronto, so I''ve visited there a few times. Spent a lot of time in Windsor, of course, since it''s so close to me. And, Niagra Falls of course (We always stay Canadian side). I wish I could travel more in Canada, but we''ve been saving money. We''re about due for a mini-vacation, maybe FF and I can check out Quebec! I think Quebec is like 12 hours from me, though.
I would love to go to Quebec! I think Canada is great, and I''ve heard such good things about a lot of the cities out there. Plus, I''d get to use more of the French that I spent 5 years studying! Ha!
Well, with the crappy exchange these days, now is as good a time as any to visit Canada! Not great for me...but VERY good for you!
I studied French for 13 years, and I''m still terrible! I get really nervous speaking it and my vocabulary goes out the window. I got us through our week in France but I felt like an idiot everytime I had to utter anything in French! My BF stopped taking French in the 9th grade (and attended Christian elementary school so I don''t think he ever learned much before that), so he has french lessons on his ipod that he painfully forces me to help him through. His French is absolutely atrocious. You have to visit Quebec City. It''s quaint, historical, cultural and fun. It would definitely be quite the drive for you!
Any road trip recommendations fo US cities?!?!
Date: 2/25/2009 11:24:37 AM
Author: misskitty
Not gonna lie, I''m totally jealous of you for living in Canada. I applied to McGill when I was about to start undergrad, but chickened out of moving at the last minute.
US road trip cities...Boston is a great time, Chicago will always have my heart, and I had a really awesome time in Philly when I was there. I''d recco St. Louis, but that''s a pretty long road trip considering there''s not as much to do here as in the bigger cities. Although, we do have the Budweiser clydesdales!
wow...that sounds so romantic! Another one to add to the list.Date: 2/25/2009 11:29:57 AM
Author: misskitty
Maine is AWESOME. If you ever get the chance, take 2 weeks off, and hit up some B&Bs along the coast and just check out the impossibly sweet little towns. It''s unreal.
Date: 2/25/2009 11:35:39 AM
Author: sammyj
misskitty, that''s too bad that you chickened out of going to McGill! Montreal is an amazing city. Great food, culture, nightlife and shopping! My BF wants to move there but I''m worried about finding a job since I''m not bilingual. I had to look up Budweiser Clydesdales...sad, I know!
Date: 2/25/2009 1:27:25 PM
Author: elledizzy5
She''s deleted!
It''s done. She''s no longer my friend on FB. The drama can now cease.
...and the peasants rejoice.
Date: 2/25/2009 1:27:25 PM
Author: elledizzy5
She''s deleted!
It''s done. She''s no longer my friend on FB. The drama can now cease.
...and the peasants rejoice.