The LIW Small Talk Thread

[Lauren8211]

Jcar hurry up and get it fixed so we can play!

Good morning HDG and BigT!


FYI - I will also be crashing WL''s wedding. nom...!

 

[hisdiamondgirl]

Date: 1/8/2010 11:36:11 AM
Author: winelover23

Date: 1/8/2010 11:33:17 AM
Author: hisdiamondgirl

Date: 1/8/2010 11:24:26 AM
Author: TheBigT
Oooh, speaking of ST GTG -- HH, you should let Bia, His, and me know when you''re in town! I will be out of town Feb 24-28, but otherwise would love to have coffee or drinks or something.

Ooooh yes, yes!!! Or margaritas and Mexican food (right B?)!

Morning ladies!

morning sunshine!

Morning schnukums! I so wanna go to your wedding! Mmmmmm appetizers are so my favorite too! I always have to make a conscious effort to stop myself from OD''ing on appetizers and to leave room for the actual dinner.

You''re wedding is going to be fantastical!

 

[sunnyd]

Morning my loves!

Date: 1/8/2010 11:39:41 AM
Author: hisdiamondgirl

Date: 1/8/2010 11:36:11 AM
Author: winelover23

Date: 1/8/2010 11:33:17 AM
Author: hisdiamondgirl

Date: 1/8/2010 11:24:26 AM
Author: TheBigT
Oooh, speaking of ST GTG -- HH, you should let Bia, His, and me know when you''re in town! I will be out of town Feb 24-28, but otherwise would love to have coffee or drinks or something.

Ooooh yes, yes!!! Or margaritas and Mexican food (right B?)!

Morning ladies!

morning sunshine!

Morning schnukums! I so wanna go to your wedding! Mmmmmm appetizers are so my favorite too! I always have to make a conscious effort to stop myself from OD''ing on appetizers and to leave room for the actual dinner.

You''re wedding is going to be fantastical!

I always try to do this and fail miserably. Appies are the best!

 

[vc10um]

Morning, sunny!!!

I''m so excited...one of my good friends at work is preggers and today they find out the sex of the baby!!! She''s hosting a "Slumber Party" and telling all her girlfriends at once. I can''t wait!!! They have a little girl turning 2 at the end of February, so I''m hoping this one is a boy!!!

 

[CNOS128]

Can I ask some personal advice of my fellow small-talkers?

 

[vc10um]

Date: 1/8/2010 11:48:31 AM
Author: TheBigT
Can I ask some personal advice of my fellow small-talkers?

If you can''t ask us, then who CAN you ask???

 

[hisdiamondgirl]

Date: 1/8/2010 11:37:19 AM
Author: vc10um
Morning, HDG!!!

Morning girly! So...confession, your SN gives me the urge to call you vacuum...

Sorry!

 

[hisdiamondgirl]

Date: 1/8/2010 11:48:31 AM
Author: TheBigT
Can I ask some personal advice of my fellow small-talkers?

Shoot!

 

[vc10um]

Date: 1/8/2010 11:51:11 AM
Author: hisdiamondgirl

Date: 1/8/2010 11:37:19 AM
Author: vc10um
Morning, HDG!!!

Morning girly! So...confession, your SN gives me the urge to call you vacuum...

Sorry!

Haha. When I joined, I didn''t really think I was going to be that active, so I just recycled one of my other login IDs...I kinda regret that, now.

 

[CNOS128]

Ok. I need a full-time therapist. That''s your role, SmallTalk!
So... if you were going to end a friendship, or rather, a frenemiship, how would you do it? Oh, and let''s say the frenemy is getting married soon, and has invited you to the wedding.

In the past I''ve ended a friendship by just not responding to the person when she contacted me, and she was pretty perseverant. I felt bad. I still feel bad.
And of course, I''ve drifted apart from people I just don''t have anything in common with anymore.

But this time around, I''m not sure if I should try to drift, just respond "no" to the wedding invite, and hope she gets the idea -- or if I should call her up and explain to her why I don''t want to be her friend. What''s the appropriate way to do this?

 

[sunnyd]

I''d drift, go to wedding, continue drifting until she gets the hint. But I have no b@lls.

 

[Lauren8211]

I tend to drift, too. I mean, if you confront someone you''re going to have to "have it out" and with drifting at least no one''s feelings get hurt - you just move apart.

There''s no good way to discuss "I think you''re a bad friend"

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 1/8/2010 11:42:49 AM
Author: sunnyd
Morning my loves!

Date: 1/8/2010 11:39:41 AM

Author: hisdiamondgirl

Date: 1/8/2010 11:36:11 AM

Author: winelover23

Date: 1/8/2010 11:33:17 AM

Author: hisdiamondgirl

Date: 1/8/2010 11:24:26 AM

Author: TheBigT

Oooh, speaking of ST GTG -- HH, you should let Bia, His, and me know when you''re in town! I will be out of town Feb 24-28, but otherwise would love to have coffee or drinks or something.

Ooooh yes, yes!!! Or margaritas and Mexican food (right B?)!

Morning ladies!

morning sunshine!

Morning schnukums! I so wanna go to your wedding! Mmmmmm appetizers are so my favorite too! I always have to make a conscious effort to stop myself from OD''ing on appetizers and to leave room for the actual dinner.

You''re wedding is going to be fantastical!

I always try to do this and fail miserably. Appies are the best!

Most wedding meals suck anyway. IMO it''s better to fill up on the apps just in case your fillet tastes like ace.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 1/8/2010 11:53:45 AM
Author: TheBigT
Ok. I need a full-time therapist. That''s your role, SmallTalk!

So... if you were going to end a friendship, or rather, a frenemiship, how would you do it? Oh, and let''s say the frenemy is getting married soon, and has invited you to the wedding.


In the past I''ve ended a friendship by just not responding to the person when she contacted me, and she was pretty perseverant. I felt bad. I still feel bad.

And of course, I''ve drifted apart from people I just don''t have anything in common with anymore.


But this time around, I''m not sure if I should try to drift, just respond ''no'' to the wedding invite, and hope she gets the idea -- or if I should call her up and explain to her why I don''t want to be her friend. What''s the appropriate way to do this?

I would rsvp no and send a card with a token gift. Then no further contact. If you''re invited to the shower, rsvp no, batch party-rsvp no.

 

[vc10um]

I''d probably drift, but not go to the wedding. To me, that would look like still making an effort to be friends, and if you''re really dedicated to cutting ties, I''d suggest not going. You can make up an excuse for not going, that''s perfectly fine, but I would still not go.

PS: sunny, by using b*at*lls, it came up like an email addy on my computer.

 

[winelover23]

Date: 1/8/2010 11:53:45 AM
Author: TheBigT
Ok. I need a full-time therapist. That''s your role, SmallTalk!
So... if you were going to end a friendship, or rather, a frenemiship, how would you do it? Oh, and let''s say the frenemy is getting married soon, and has invited you to the wedding.

In the past I''ve ended a friendship by just not responding to the person when she contacted me, and she was pretty perseverant. I felt bad. I still feel bad.
And of course, I''ve drifted apart from people I just don''t have anything in common with anymore.

But this time around, I''m not sure if I should try to drift, just respond ''no'' to the wedding invite, and hope she gets the idea -- or if I should call her up and explain to her why I don''t want to be her friend. What''s the appropriate way to do this?

I say just let it fizzle out. Actions speak louder than words especially for females so she''ll get the hint.

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 1/8/2010 11:57:48 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I tend to drift, too. I mean, if you confront someone you''re going to have to ''have it out'' and with drifting at least no one''s feelings get hurt - you just move apart.


There''s no good way to discuss ''I think you''re a bad friend''

Yeah, that''s very true. What if she asks why I am not attending her wedding? Just tell her we''ve drifted apart?

Thanks, SunnyD. I have no huevos, either. Drifting is easier. But I''m not going to the wedding, because it''s a destination thing and I don''t want to pay for hotel and airfare, etc, for someone I don''t particularly care about.

 

[CNOS128]

Thanks, HH, VC and WL. So, it seems my instinct to drift is probably okay!

I just want to stop thinking about this, and once I make a decision I feel like I won''t be investing the time and energy anymore. Unfortunately, with this friend, actions don''t really speak -- at all. That''s part of the problem! But there''s no real way to break up with a friend without hurting their feelings, I suppose. I don''t want to hurt feelings.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:02:07 PM
Author: TheBigT

Date: 1/8/2010 11:57:48 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I tend to drift, too. I mean, if you confront someone you''re going to have to ''have it out'' and with drifting at least no one''s feelings get hurt - you just move apart.


There''s no good way to discuss ''I think you''re a bad friend''

Yeah, that''s very true. What if she asks why I am not attending her wedding? Just tell her we''ve drifted apart?

Thanks, SunnyD. I have no huevos, either. Drifting is easier. But I''m not going to the wedding, because it''s a destination thing and I don''t want to pay for hotel and airfare, etc, for someone I don''t particularly care about.

You said it was a destination wedding, just say it''s not in your budget right now? Although i dont know your situation - that may be a ridiculous thing to claim....

I guess yeah drifting apart works. its honest, if nothing else!

 

[hisdiamondgirl]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:02:07 PM
Author: TheBigT

Date: 1/8/2010 11:57:48 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I tend to drift, too. I mean, if you confront someone you're going to have to 'have it out' and with drifting at least no one's feelings get hurt - you just move apart.


There's no good way to discuss 'I think you're a bad friend'

Yeah, that's very true. What if she asks why I am not attending her wedding? Just tell her we've drifted apart?

Thanks, SunnyD. I have no huevos, either. Drifting is easier. But I'm not going to the wedding, because it's a destination thing and I don't want to pay for hotel and airfare, etc, for someone I don't particularly care about.

I'm such a punk that I'd probably just say I have a previous engagement...

ETA: But I agree that just drifting is probably the way to go.

 

[vc10um]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:04:29 PM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 1/8/2010 12:02:07 PM
Author: TheBigT

Date: 1/8/2010 11:57:48 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I tend to drift, too. I mean, if you confront someone you''re going to have to ''have it out'' and with drifting at least no one''s feelings get hurt - you just move apart.


There''s no good way to discuss ''I think you''re a bad friend''

Yeah, that''s very true. What if she asks why I am not attending her wedding? Just tell her we''ve drifted apart?

Thanks, SunnyD. I have no huevos, either. Drifting is easier. But I''m not going to the wedding, because it''s a destination thing and I don''t want to pay for hotel and airfare, etc, for someone I don''t particularly care about.

You said it was a destination wedding, just say it''s not in your budget right now? Although i dont know your situation - that may be a ridiculous thing to claim....

I guess yeah drifting apart works. its honest, if nothing else!

With a DW, you definitely have an out for not attending. Also, someone''s feelings will get hurt, but if it''s causing you stress/anxiety or just anger to continue being "friends" with this girl, a little bit of hurt feelings now is going to save you a lot of time, energy, tears, effort, rage, etc, etc, etc, in the future.

 

[winelover23]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:02:07 PM
Author: TheBigT

Date: 1/8/2010 11:57:48 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I tend to drift, too. I mean, if you confront someone you''re going to have to ''have it out'' and with drifting at least no one''s feelings get hurt - you just move apart.


There''s no good way to discuss ''I think you''re a bad friend''

Yeah, that''s very true. What if she asks why I am not attending her wedding? Just tell her we''ve drifted apart?

Thanks, SunnyD. I have no huevos, either. Drifting is easier. But I''m not going to the wedding, because it''s a destination thing and I don''t want to pay for hotel and airfare, etc, for someone I don''t particularly care about.

I personally don''t think you owe her any explanation. If she does ask you outright just tell you can''t make it. I''m SUPER honest and don''t pull any punches though so I tend to be very blunt. I actually have balls and a vagina.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:09:12 PM
Author: winelover23

Date: 1/8/2010 12:02:07 PM
Author: TheBigT

Date: 1/8/2010 11:57:48 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I tend to drift, too. I mean, if you confront someone you''re going to have to ''have it out'' and with drifting at least no one''s feelings get hurt - you just move apart.


There''s no good way to discuss ''I think you''re a bad friend''

Yeah, that''s very true. What if she asks why I am not attending her wedding? Just tell her we''ve drifted apart?

Thanks, SunnyD. I have no huevos, either. Drifting is easier. But I''m not going to the wedding, because it''s a destination thing and I don''t want to pay for hotel and airfare, etc, for someone I don''t particularly care about.

I personally don''t think you owe her any explanation. If she does ask you outright just tell you can''t make it. I''m SUPER honest and don''t pull any punches though so I tend to be very blunt. I actually have balls and a vagina.

Pics or it didnt happen...

 

[CNOS128]

Thanks, everyone! I still feel bad about ending a relationship, but that''s my own issue. I was talking to some of her BMs and they don''t even like her very much, or feel that close to her. That just makes me sad.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:11:32 PM
Author: TheBigT
Thanks, everyone! I still feel bad about ending a relationship, but that''s my own issue. I was talking to some of her BMs and they don''t even like her very much, or feel that close to her. That just makes me sad.

Its really sad that a bride has people in her bridal party that don''t even like her that much....

Those friendships will fade out and she''ll have those wedding pictures of people she barely knows anymore! Bummer!

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:11:01 PM
Author: elledizzy5

I personally don't think you owe her any explanation. If she does ask you outright just tell you can't make it. I'm SUPER honest and don't pull any punches though so I tend to be very blunt. I actually have balls and a vagina.

Pics or it didnt happen...[/quote]
Yes, pics! pics! pics!

ETA: would have been more effective if i hadn't screwed up the quoting. Sigh. Macs!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:02:07 PM
Author: TheBigT

Date: 1/8/2010 11:57:48 AM

Author: elledizzy5

I tend to drift, too. I mean, if you confront someone you''re going to have to ''have it out'' and with drifting at least no one''s feelings get hurt - you just move apart.



There''s no good way to discuss ''I think you''re a bad friend''

Yeah, that''s very true. What if she asks why I am not attending her wedding? Just tell her we''ve drifted apart?


Thanks, SunnyD. I have no huevos, either. Drifting is easier. But I''m not going to the wedding, because it''s a destination thing and I don''t want to pay for hotel and airfare, etc, for someone I don''t particularly care about.

If she asks why just say you have a prior commitment that you can''t break.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:11:32 PM
Author: TheBigT
Thanks, everyone! I still feel bad about ending a relationship, but that''s my own issue. I was talking to some of her BMs and they don''t even like her very much, or feel that close to her. That just makes me sad.

When one door/friendship closes another one opens. I''ll be your friend, wanna come to my imaginary DW?

 

[winelover23]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:11:01 PM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 1/8/2010 12:09:12 PM
Author: winelover23

Date: 1/8/2010 12:02:07 PM
Author: TheBigT

Date: 1/8/2010 11:57:48 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I tend to drift, too. I mean, if you confront someone you''re going to have to ''have it out'' and with drifting at least no one''s feelings get hurt - you just move apart.


There''s no good way to discuss ''I think you''re a bad friend''

Yeah, that''s very true. What if she asks why I am not attending her wedding? Just tell her we''ve drifted apart?

Thanks, SunnyD. I have no huevos, either. Drifting is easier. But I''m not going to the wedding, because it''s a destination thing and I don''t want to pay for hotel and airfare, etc, for someone I don''t particularly care about.

I personally don''t think you owe her any explanation. If she does ask you outright just tell you can''t make it. I''m SUPER honest and don''t pull any punches though so I tend to be very blunt. I actually have balls and a vagina.

Pics or it didnt happen...

You might regret asking for pictures.

BT - Friends come and go and that''s just life. My perogotive is if you have a friend that is taking more than they are giving then CUT THEM OUT. Friends should be sunshine in our lives not clouds and rain. I''ve cut many friends from the team over the years because of this. I can count my good awesome go to friends on one hand and I''m perfectly happy w/ that.

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 1/8/2010 12:16:36 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk

Date: 1/8/2010 12:11:32 PM

Author: TheBigT

Thanks, everyone! I still feel bad about ending a relationship, but that''s my own issue. I was talking to some of her BMs and they don''t even like her very much, or feel that close to her. That just makes me sad.

When one door/friendship closes another one opens. I''ll be your friend, wanna come to my imaginary DW?

Um, sorry, I have a prior commitment!
j/k YEAH! Can we go to Turkey??