The LIW Small Talk Thread

[beezygal]

hey ladies!!!

how's your weekends?

Friday night: omg.. can't remember what I did

Saturday: went out to the mall to walk around with bf then dinner and fireworks. Spain won!

Sunday: went downtown shopping with my bf. Then, bf has to go to his cousin's wedding banquet at night. I got a bikini from Roxy! Finally!!! I thought I'll never be able to find out. It was on sale from from $100ish down to $60. Then.... *drum rolls*... another 50% off. I only paid for $30 for the set. Hurray! It's everything I wanted. I'll post a picture. I'm not modelling it of course... However, the top does make my boobs look smaller.

Today: it's BC day holiday! I still have a little bit of teaching to do. My bf is going out for a bike ride with his friend. Then he's coming over for dinner and hang out a little.

OMG... I still can't remember what I did on Friday... probably nothing just sit at home. BTW BB laid another egg!

 

[TooPatient]

Two rings. The 3 stone engagement and my "lockwasher" band

Will of course have to find a suitable wedding band to go with them when the time comes...

I thought that channel setting is the wedding band. I guess not? Pretty rings btw.

Thanks. I think it is technically the w-band and is meant to go as a set but Jewish tradition is that the w-band can't have any stones.

So I compared it to a lockwasher to explain to FI why I could have another band to wear on the outside of the ring. (he knows mechanical stuff)

 

[TooPatient]

hey ladies!!!

how's your weekends?

Friday night: omg.. can't remember what I did

Saturday: went out to the mall to walk around with bf then dinner and fireworks. Spain won!

Sunday: went downtown shopping with my bf. Then, bf has to go to his cousin's wedding banquet at night. I got a bikini from Roxy! Finally!!! I thought I'll never be able to find out. It was on sale from from $100ish down to $60. Then.... *drum rolls*... another 50% off. I only paid for $30 for the set. Hurray! It's everything I wanted. I'll post a picture. I'm not modelling it of course... However, the top does make my boobs look smaller.

Today: it's BC day holiday! I still have a little bit of teaching to do. My bf is going out for a bike ride with his friend. Then he's coming over for dinner and hang out a little.

OMG... I still can't remember what I did on Friday... probably nothing just sit at home. BTW BB laid another egg!

Cute bikini. Sales are GREAT!

BB eggs are fun. I adopted a cage full (okay, 2 cages full) of zebra finches and was impressed at the large number of eggs that showed up in their little nest. Of course I only got to keep the finches for a few days (my mom was REAL "happy" when my dad dropped me off at home with a couple of cages of birds...) before I had to adopt them out to another family.

 

[Jessie702]

BG-- That swimsuit is super cute. Gotta love a good sale. Sounds like you have a fun weekend

Too- Nothing wrong with quiet weekends. HaHa, i dont think my om would be happy either with two cages full of birds either.

My weekend was quiet, saturday sat at home adn read all weekend with the doggies. Sunday the BF and i went out to lunch by ourselves, and dinner with friends. Would have been a great weekend, if i woudlnt have started my period AGAIN. Today sucks, cramps are bad, feeling light headed, and pissed off at my mom. My Birthday is in 3 weeks, and she JUST told me, shes putting the house up for sale and wants me out by my birthday. She said that 23 is the limit, im grown and need to either find my own place or move in with the boyfreind. Im trying not to cry because i know whow my mom is, and i exected this soon, but still burts, adn im really emotional right now anways. LoL...God, i love that i have you ladies to vent to.

 

[TooPatient]

BG-- That swimsuit is super cute. Gotta love a good sale. Sounds like you have a fun weekend

Too- Nothing wrong with quiet weekends. HaHa, i dont think my om would be happy either with two cages full of birds either.

My weekend was quiet, saturday sat at home adn read all weekend with the doggies. Sunday the BF and i went out to lunch by ourselves, and dinner with friends. Would have been a great weekend, if i woudlnt have started my period AGAIN. Today sucks, cramps are bad, feeling light headed, and pissed off at my mom. My Birthday is in 3 weeks, and she JUST told me, shes putting the house up for sale and wants me out by my birthday. She said that 23 is the limit, im grown and need to either find my own place or move in with the boyfreind. Im trying not to cry because i know whow my mom is, and i exected this soon, but still burts, adn im really emotional right now anways. LoL...God, i love that i have you ladies to vent to.

Oh, Jessie, that sucks. All of your mom's drama, the stress of having to move, AND cramps

Are you going to look for a place of your own or just move in with your bf?

 

[Jessie702]

i really dont know. Im gonna have to talk to him tonight. I really really dont like my mom somedays. I would love to live on my own, but i really cant afford rent right now between what i bring home and my current bills, plus Rent, but i kinda of want to wait to live with him until we are engaged. I really dont kno, i swear i must have done something horrid in my last life because its comming back to me now with my mom.

 

[TooPatient]

i really dont know. Im gonna have to talk to him tonight. I really really dont like my mom somedays. I would love to live on my own, but i really cant afford rent right now between what i bring home and my current bills, plus Rent, but i kinda of want to wait to live with him until we are engaged. I really dont kno, i swear i must have done something horrid in my last life because its comming back to me now with my mom.

There are certainly benefits to living on your own & to living together.

$$$$$ is a big thing though and I certainly understand that bills (electricity, food, etc.) can add up to an awful lot even without rent. Then the whole headache of packing and moving just to pack up and move again in a few months...
Then again, having your own place for a bit is nice. I enjoyed my time alone in my own apartment and it gave me a chance to find what I like rather than what my family wants/expects or what SO wants/expects. Hard to explain.


Keep us posted and feel free to vent all you want.

 

[beezygal]

Hey Jessie! I'm sorry about your mom! *HUG*

I know you don't want to live with your bf until you guys are engaged. However, it seems like you don't have a choice. You only have 3 weeks to decide what you want to do. At least, if you're moving in with your bf, you just have to pay half of the bills and stuff. Living by yourself is good. When I was away for school, I live in an apt all by myself. It was quite relaxing. Once I moved back from after I graduated, I feel weird living with my parents again. Like I said before, my parents (especially my dad) is very traditional. They wouldn't not let me move out or move in with a bf. Well, is normal for the Chinese culture I guess. Sometimes, I'm excited that I can to get married soon and move out.

 

[TooPatient]

I was so excited and ready to move out that by the time I finished high school I had kitchen supplies hidden in my bedroom closet. I stuck it out for another year to try to get through school (almost finished an AAS degree).

Guess I was strange. I didn't hide drugs, boys, or skimpy clothes in my closet -- I much prefered towels, ice cube trays, a toaster, plates....
Probably confused the people who broke into the house

 

[beezygal]

I was so excited and ready to move out that by the time I finished high school I had kitchen supplies hidden in my bedroom closet. I stuck it out for another year to try to get through school (almost finished an AAS degree).

Guess I was strange. I didn't hide drugs, boys, or skimpy clothes in my closet -- I much prefered towels, ice cube trays, a toaster, plates....
Probably confused the people who broke into the house

hahaha... that means you're a good wife material.

 

[TooPatient]

See you all tomorrow

 

[beezygal]

Morning ladies...

I woke up early for a new student. The mom just called and she forgot a swimsuit for her other kid and she has a doc's appointment later etc... She's coming tomorrow. I woke up early for nothing. I could just sleep in.

 

[TooPatient]

BG -- Sleeping in is better. Too bad she couldn't have remembered yesterday....
Do you have to get up early again tomorrow to wait for her?


Long day. Already.
2 hours of pre calculus (final is next week )
I think I left the bedroom door open which means the cats are probably in scratching the bed.
Forgot deodorant this morning.
Now I'm stuck at work for at least the next 5-6 hours.

Plus the guys I work for are having their 2nd meeting to negotiate their new office lease (this one ends in 2 weeks) and it looks like we may be moving offices. Well, one is determined to move offices if they don't drop the rent by $400-600/month -- even if the other guy doesn't go with...
If they do move, a fair chunk of the buildings here have shared administrative staff so I may not be needed any more (or hours cut significantly).... Or they could move to an office that is a bit closer to the other guy (since one has a 10 minute drive in the morning and the other has 1 1/2+ hour) which wouldn't really work with my school schedule and stuff....


Some days I'd love to work in a large office and be oblivious to the financial state of the boss, lease negotiations, and possible retirement plans....
I guess the bright side is that at least I know what is going on and can have my resume ready if the time comes
(I may hate my job, but at least it pays some bills and is flexible enough to fit around school)

 

[beezygal]

yes.. I have to wake up early tomorrow again. At least I had the extra time to go buy organic food for BB. Oh well. Usually if the student doesn't show up the last minute, I'll have to charge them anyways. However, I usually let it slips for the first couple of times. If they make a habit of it, then of course they need to pay for the lesson.

Good luck on your final next week. Hope your job will work out fine. I wonder how Jessie is doing with her mom/moving stuff.

Btw... yesterday my bf asked me if i'm ok with not getting a gift for our 6-yr anniversary because of the expensive ring he got me. He just want to combine "gift" for once. He said if I'm ok with that, he'll even propose sooner than he planned. Also, he said the proposal will be a story I can tell everyone. what do you think of that deal?

 

[Jessie702]

Morning Ladiess.....not feeling much better. SO and i decided for both of our sakes for me to just move in with him, and be done with my mom as much as possible. Last night it was a nice fanatasy, till i woke up this morning and we talked about the animal situation. I have 2 cats at my moms house, and than we have two dogs, at his house. They dont get along, so we were trying to firgure that out, along with where to put the kitty litter, he hates litter,what to do about my cats nails, we have a water bed. Im trying to be strong like he has, but its hard because i feel like im a bother. We agreed theres no way i can be out in 3 weeks, but 6 is more realistic. Im going to have to save up and get a new cat box, plus we are going to have to firgure out were to put it, and how to get the dogs and cats to get along. Also, it breaks my heart, but ive decided to get my cats declawed. I cant have them straching our furniture, or worse poking a hole in the bed. Plus to top off matters, i came to my moms house to get ready for work, and she had some of my clothes in a garbage bag. * sigh* Also, the boyfriend says he has some planning he wants to do before i move in. No idea what, but he says he has to save or whatever....I just want to go to sleep, but cant....ill be back in a bit ladies, i got a Doc appointment.

Bg- I have no idea whats up with the bf and the proposal,but while im at the docs i can ponder it for you.

 

[beezygal]

Jessie: I'm glad you've made a decision. Maybe the thing he has to do before you move in is propose? You told him you don't want to move in with him until you guys are engaged. Maybe this is it! I hope so! I'm sorry about the cats.

 

[TooPatient]

BG -- OOOOOOhhh! Proposing sooner with a good story sounds like he's got the ring and a plan and it'll happen soon! Exciting!!!

Jessie -- animals are tricky. FI had a cat (she died in November) that HATED my two cats. It was awful. They finally got to where they could kind of stand to be in the same room together (as in his cat being held on the couch and the other cats staying off of the couch...) but we never did get them to share the apartment (or the house). Is there any way to keep the dogs in one section of the house and the cats in another until they can get used to each other? (If you let them smell each other under doors and wander through areas that smell like the others long enough they'll be a little less upset when they actually see each other (is the theory...))
Have you looked at alternatives to declawing? I remember a discussion awhile ago where people talked about some possible alternatives. I think one of them was little rubber claw tips -- so they still have their claws but can't do damage. Not sure how well they work since I've never used them, but it might be worth talking to your vet about.

Moving is so stressful. Make yourself a list and just take it one thing at a time.


Doctor??? Are you okay?

 

[Jessie702]

Hey Ladies. Thanks for the concern and the vent. I had to go to the doc, ive had my period 2 weeks in a row, not like me, so the doc gave me some meds for the cramps and pain, and did blood work. Well see what the blood work says when it comes back. Ive tried the rubber tips, they dont work well, they fall off to quickly, and i cant come home to no bed since she poked holes in it. We thought about puttingt he kitty box in a spare room and th baby fence up so the doggs cant get into it. There so mcuh, i just feel so overwhelmed and i feel like im being a bother to the boyfriend, which i hate. I dont know. Hey Bg, you live soon, i wish i could go. Too- im sorry about the office and possible job loss, it sucks. If you do though, you can focus on school

 

[TooPatient]

Hey Ladies. Thanks for the concern and the vent. I had to go to the doc, ive had my period 2 weeks in a row, not like me, so the doc gave me some meds for the cramps and pain, and did blood work. Well see what the blood work says when it comes back. Ive tried the rubber tips, they dont work well, they fall off to quickly, and i cant come home to no bed since she poked holes in it. We thought about puttingt he kitty box in a spare room and th baby fence up so the doggs cant get into it. There so mcuh, i just feel so overwhelmed and i feel like im being a bother to the boyfriend, which i hate. I dont know. Hey Bg, you live soon, i wish i could go. Too- im sorry about the office and possible job loss, it sucks. If you do though, you can focus on school

Hopefully the bloodwork comes back okay. I thought you had just had cramps recently. Ick.

Be careful using baby gates because the cats can get over and if the dogs try to chase them they might be able to knock the gate over or get in a position where the cats can't get to the safety of their room. For a long time we had to close our cats into their own room while we were gone (broken crystal plate...) and they were okay with that. (It wasn't tiny -- about 15x15 -- and they had food/water, litter box, scratching post, and toys)


Don't feel like a bother. At some point in the near future you would have been doing this anyway and you would still have the cats and dogs. Your timeline shifted a bit, but these are the same challenges you would have faced. (If anything it will be easier now than later because it is easier to move and introduce animals when they are younger)

 

[Jessie702]

Thanks Too. I just i dont know, im just sad. It doesnt make sense for a mother to act like she does. Im at work trying to not cry and the boyfreind sent me an email saying" Dont worry, our home is your home, your loved there" and i just completely broke down and cried. I guess i should start packing up some stuff tonight, i think my mom gave me a good hint, but putting some of my clothes in gabage bags already.

I did just have hads, the weekend of the 24th, and they came back this weekend too. Luckily the doctor gave me a presription for some pain pills since nothing worked this weekend.

Too- im sorry about your china, i might have to lock the cats in the empty guest room while we are gone during the day at first, it leads off to a seperate bathroom, were we can put there food. Im thinking about saving some money and buying one of the cat litter boxes that scope themeves every couple of hours. I wonder if they work

 

[TooPatient]

If you get a big enough box (and it doesn't have to be huge), they'll be fine to share the one box and you can scoop it when you get home. I haven't tried the self scooping kind but I've heard from people that have that some cats won't go in them (hate the cover) and that some cats' urine doesn't scoop well with them (apparently there is a difference? I think some cats make better clumps than others)
My 2 cats had no problem with this arrangement and it didn't stink if I scooped it when I got home (I'd also try to do it in the morning for them too)

I know about bad mother behavior. My mom and I are finally having an okay relationship but it wasn't always. (remember how I was in a hurry to move and how I almost finished a degree? -- yeah... I understand). You love her so it hurts that she is doing this. She still loves you.


Yeah...
You might start packing some stuff up. It might actually make it easier if you shift stuff a bit at a time to your new home so that you can put it away as it gets moved and not end up with a heap of boxes/bags filling the house. It would also be a good way to introduce the smell of your cats into the house gradually.



ETA: When I moved from my mother's house, it took me all of 3 days to get my stuff packed and out from the time I decided to move & told her. (moved in with my grandfather after my grandmother died)

Shortly after that, moved to my apartment -- not on good terms (grandfather ) -- and litteraly had a weekend to be out (grandfather's girlfriend was throwing my stuff in the trash -- and family heirloom stuff too...... Who in the HE** is dating a woman within a week of burying his wife of 50 years?!?!?

Sorry to ramble. I know it sucks to move and it is only made worse with the emotions tossed in and the short notice.

 

[TooPatient]

See you ladies tomorrow

Keep breathing Jessie, you'll make it okay.

Hope your student shows up tomorrow BG.

 

[Jessie702]

If you get a big enough box (and it doesn't have to be huge), they'll be fine to share the one box and you can scoop it when you get home. I haven't tried the self scooping kind but I've heard from people that have that some cats won't go in them (hate the cover) and that some cats' urine doesn't scoop well with them (apparently there is a difference? I think some cats make better clumps than others)
My 2 cats had no problem with this arrangement and it didn't stink if I scooped it when I got home (I'd also try to do it in the morning for them too)

I know about bad mother behavior. My mom and I are finally having an okay relationship but it wasn't always. (remember how I was in a hurry to move and how I almost finished a degree? -- yeah... I understand). You love her so it hurts that she is doing this. She still loves you.


Yeah...
You might start packing some stuff up. It might actually make it easier if you shift stuff a bit at a time to your new home so that you can put it away as it gets moved and not end up with a heap of boxes/bags filling the house. It would also be a good way to introduce the smell of your cats into the house gradually.



ETA: When I moved from my mother's house, it took me all of 3 days to get my stuff packed and out from the time I decided to move & told her. (moved in with my grandfather after my grandmother died)

Shortly after that, moved to my apartment -- not on good terms (grandfather ) -- and litteraly had a weekend to be out (grandfather's girlfriend was throwing my stuff in the trash -- and family heirloom stuff too...... Who in the HE** is dating a woman within a week of burying his wife of 50 years?!?!?

Sorry to ramble. I know it sucks to move and it is only made worse with the emotions tossed in and the short notice.

o wow TOO, so you do understand. Thank you so much for the suggestions, and im sorry you had to go through this. I cant believe your grandfathers girlfriend....thats just wrong. I agree, i think i will start packing and moving things over slowly, that way like you siad, the kitty scent wont be new to the dogs and i wont have a bunch of boxes there either. I guess ill tackle my closet, i should be able to donate some clothes. Im just so sad and nervous, but it has to be done. It wont be done in 3 weeks, more like a month. After talking to my SO and calling my vet, we might go ahead and get kitty declawed. Its horrid, but i dont want her straching furniture and the water bed. I dont even want to imagine what will happen when i get out the shower and she does her, give me attention/strach the bed move she already does now. Luckily, my vet does a Laser Declaw method, he was explaining that using the laser means less pain and down time. Also, she wont need special litter, and there will be no blood when she comes home. Its about 200 bucks more than the traditional method, but if it means less or no pain, im more than willing to spend it. Its 450 for front and back claws. So basically one pay check, or i can save over two, which means i can get this done mid spetember.

 

[beezygal]

Sorry girls. I didn't reply. My dad came back from HK today. We went out for dinner after teaching.

Too: I hope the student will show up tomorrow too. It's our first lesson. What a great impression.

Jessie: I'm sorry about your mom throwing your stuff in the garbage bag. It's very sweet that your SO says your home is our home. I'm glad you have your SO. He sounds like a very sweet guy. I love him already. Maybe when you don't live with your mom, the relationship between you guys will be better. Who knows.

Speaking of family matter. I need to tell you guys about my bf's mom. Remember I told you guys my bf went to a cousin's wedding last weekend. He went with his dad. By the time he was home, his mom was mad at him... for going to his cousin's wedding. I'm like WTH? Background information, my bf's mom doesn't get along with her own fmaily or his dad's family. Bf told me recently that he didn't meet his mom's parents until he was like 7-8. When he met them, his mom didn't even tell him who they were. My bf just found out himself at that time. I'm like.. OMG. I was really shocked!!! Another shocker, his mom was mad at my bf when he went to his grandma's (dad's side) funeral last year. I was like just because you don't like them, you can't stop your kids from hanging out with them. My bf doesn't hang out with his cousins AT ALL because of his mom. I, on the other hand, have a very tight and loving family. Even though most of them are in HK, everytime I go visit, I'll want to hang out with them as much as possible. So... for the wedding, probably no one will be invited from my bf's family. IT IS SO WEIRD! We might not even have a banquet here at all. We'll have the ceremony and a very small dinner within our friends. Might as well save the money and have it in HK. We'll just fly his parents there.

 

[Jessie702]

Sorry girls. I didn't reply. My dad came back from HK today. We went out for dinner after teaching.

Too: I hope the student will show up tomorrow too. It's our first lesson. What a great impression.

Jessie: I'm sorry about your mom throwing your stuff in the garbage bag. It's very sweet that your SO says your home is our home. I'm glad you have your SO. He sounds like a very sweet guy. I love him already. Maybe when you don't live with your mom, the relationship between you guys will be better. Who knows.

Speaking of family matter. I need to tell you guys about my bf's mom. Remember I told you guys my bf went to a cousin's wedding last weekend. He went with his dad. By the time he was home, his mom was mad at him... for going to his cousin's wedding. I'm like WTH? Background information, my bf's mom doesn't get along with her own fmaily or his dad's family. Bf told me recently that he didn't meet his mom's parents until he was like 7-8. When he met them, his mom didn't even tell him who they were. My bf just found out himself at that time. I'm like.. OMG. I was really shocked!!! Another shocker, his mom was mad at my bf when he went to his grandma's (dad's side) funeral last year. I was like just because you don't like them, you can't stop your kids from hanging out with them. My bf doesn't hang out with his cousins AT ALL because of his mom. I, on the other hand, have a very tight and loving family. Even though most of them are in HK, everytime I go visit, I'll want to hang out with them as much as possible. So... for the wedding, probably no one will be invited from my bf's family. IT IS SO WEIRD! We might not even have a banquet here at all. We'll have the ceremony and a very small dinner within our friends. Might as well save the money and have it in HK. We'll just fly his parents there.

Bg- Yay for your dad comming back. Maybe now you can get your ring. Thanks, my SO is very sweet. I love him more already. i really do
m so sorry about your SO's Mom. Sounds like you have your own family issues, like my SO has with mine. Maybe you two can just do a private ceremony, just to keep the peace. I hate that you might have to keep the peace, but its always a choice. Like i might want to keep the peace by eloping. LoL........im so sorry though. I dont know whats up with crazy moms right now

 

[beezygal]

My bf is a very sweet and caring guy. However, he is not tight with his parents or his sister AT ALL! I'm totally the opposite. However, he's very comfortable with my parents. He'll talk to them. He doesn't really talk to his parents that much. His parents are very nice and treat me very well. So funny, last Sunday, we went shopping in dt. I saw his sister. She was just walking toward us. She is so close that I could touch her. I was like "that's your sister." My bf is like "I know." LOL. That's it. He didn't think he needs to say hi or anything. Well, his sister didn't see us. I think his mom has a lot to do with this kinda attitude toward family members. My bf and I talked about looking for an apt. He wants to move out before we are married. He was hoping I can live with him when we're engaged. However, I told him I probably can't because of my strict parents. He wants to move out to get away from his mom. *sigh* I don't get his mom. I'm scared she'll hate me when I'm part of the family. Then my bf said, it's ok... we won't see her that much. Isn't that sad?

 

[Jessie702]

Yeah, its sad, and i am in the same situation. Sometimes its just easier to not see them, than it is to see them. LoL...

 

[beezygal]

Hey ladies!!! Morning! Hope you guys will have a GOOD day today!

I just met my new student this morning. The student (3) and her mom are very nice. At the end of the lesson, the mom told me she wants her son to take lessons from me too. She was "begging" me to give her a discount since she'll have 2 kids taking lessons from me. I've heard from my other teachers before that people do negotiate. They told me to just ignore them. This is my first experience. You can't even negotiate at a grocery store. Why would people negotiate about piano lessons. Her reason... "fees add up." DUH! Oh well, the mom is really nice and polite. However, I keep on telling her nicely that I can't do a discount, it's already the community center fee. (somewhat true) However, she is making me very uncomfortable when she keeps on asking me over and over again and told me to think about it and that she won't tell anyone.

 

[Jessie702]

Morning Ladies..

Seriously, i know some places that give discounts for multiple kids, but its cuz their rates are so high, the discount just brings it down to a normal reasonable price. Dont move this and give her a discount, if your fees are reasonable and within the norm, than no, she just has to pay the price. If you are more affordable than others, than Heck No, and she better not ask again. LoL....

 

[beezygal]

Morning Ladies..

Seriously, i know some places that give discounts for multiple kids, but its cuz their rates are so high, the discount just brings it down to a normal reasonable price. Dont move this and give her a discount, if your fees are reasonable and within the norm, than no, she just has to pay the price. If you are more affordable than others, than Heck No, and she better not ask again. LoL....

I don't know any places here that give discounts for multiple kids. I mean the community center is around the same price as me. Usually private lessons are more expensive than the community center. I will not give in. I don't think I'm being unreasonable or anything. Just before I'm teaching two of your kids, that doesn't make my work easier. I still teach as hard. She just keeps on asking like she's begging. OMG. I was thinking, fees add up, then don't have that many kids. She's also pregnant.