The LIW Small Talk Thread

[Jessie702]

Thats Just insane. You should be firm and tell her the answer is no, and to please stop asking. Seriously, like you said, just because you give a discount, doesnt make your job any easier. I hate poeple like that, i really do.

 

[TooPatient]

BG -- not all families get along. You're lucky yours does. Don't stress over his family. It is just how they are and you can't do anything to change that (and if you try I'm sure you'd be miserable).

Never a good start when a parent blows off a lesson....
Did they make it today?


Jessie -- How is your packing going? The laser claw removal sounds like the best option (and well worth the $$$$ for kitty to be more comfortable)
Yeah... I understand very well what you are going through. The first move was pretty disorganized and the 2nd wasn't much better. The 2nd time after I got what was left of my stuff out, I was told I could go through Grandma's stuff that was heaped in the garage and take what I wanted. The problem was that I was told this late in the afternoon and the next morning anything left was going to the dump. There was SO much stuff. I started by trying to go through and pick individual pieces of stuff but as it got later in the evening I just started peaking in boxes/bags and loading them into the car to go through later. I called it a night at close to midnight (couldn't keep bothering the neighbors at the apartment and I was exhausted) and there was still bunches of stuff left in the garage. I managed to save crystal plates/bowls/vases, family pictures, little figurines that Grandma got when they married & 25 year anniversary, stuff that belonged to my great-grandmother...
To this day, I still don't know what was in the rest of those boxes/bags

One of the things I really wish I'd had time to do in either of those moves is to go through and get rid of stuff I didn't want (donate/garbage/etc) rather than moving a bunch of stuff and then not knowing what to do with it. I also hated that I had to throw everything into boxes/bags and then was overwhelmed with trying to find what was where and unpacking random stuff.
The weeks of boxes/bags blocking hallways and not being able to find anything really made an already emotional time MUCH harder.

 

[beezygal]

I kept on saying I'm sorry, I really can't do that... it's already the same as the community center. I had to say it to make her think she's getting a good deal. I have a new rate for all the new students. Old students will keep their own rates. (It makes sense.) I have to have a new rate because the community center also has a new rate. I don't want to teach less than the community center. When she left, she's still like "please think about it.. can you please think about it?" I didn't even say anything about it. I just smile and say I'll see them next week. I hate it when people do that. Keeps on pressing onto it when I always say no. I find it hard to say NO. I just want to make people happy. However, when it comes to my job. I'm very firm about it. I don't mind her asking once. However, I already said no many times. Maybe she should just stop asking because this is just getting embarrassing for her. I told her the price before she comes for the lesson. Obviously, you agree to pay that even if you have another kid coming to me. If you aren't ok with it, you shouldn't come. Fair enough huh?

 

[Jessie702]

BG -- not all families get along. You're lucky yours does. Don't stress over his family. It is just how they are and you can't do anything to change that (and if you try I'm sure you'd be miserable).

Never a good start when a parent blows off a lesson....
Did they make it today?


Jessie -- How is your packing going? The laser claw removal sounds like the best option (and well worth the $$$$ for kitty to be more comfortable)
Yeah... I understand very well what you are going through. The first move was pretty disorganized and the 2nd wasn't much better. The 2nd time after I got what was left of my stuff out, I was told I could go through Grandma's stuff that was heaped in the garage and take what I wanted. The problem was that I was told this late in the afternoon and the next morning anything left was going to the dump. There was SO much stuff. I started by trying to go through and pick individual pieces of stuff but as it got later in the evening I just started peaking in boxes/bags and loading them into the car to go through later. I called it a night at close to midnight (couldn't keep bothering the neighbors at the apartment and I was exhausted) and there was still bunches of stuff left in the garage. I managed to save crystal plates/bowls/vases, family pictures, little figurines that Grandma got when they married & 25 year anniversary, stuff that belonged to my great-grandmother...
To this day, I still don't know what was in the rest of those boxes/bags

One of the things I really wish I'd had time to do in either of those moves is to go through and get rid of stuff I didn't want (donate/garbage/etc) rather than moving a bunch of stuff and then not knowing what to do with it. I also hated that I had to throw everything into boxes/bags and then was overwhelmed with trying to find what was where and unpacking random stuff.
The weeks of boxes/bags blocking hallways and not being able to find anything really made an already emotional time MUCH harder.

Bg- I think thats more than fair if you ask me. I wouldnt move on the subject, and tell her if you think my rates are unreasonable you are more than okay to look for someone else.
Too- thank you so much for your concern and sharing your story. I am very sorry you had to go through that, it doesnt make me feel better, but i dont feel so alone now. I have not started packing. I was going to start tonight, and tackle one part at a time. Like ill start with drawers and maybe closet tonight/week. Im gonna go through it all and start donating what i dont need. Im getting nervous thinking about were to put all my stuff, luckily, i wont have to take everything. Also, i only have a room to pack instead of a whole house, so i know ill take my TV and Laptop. I wont have to take/need my bed so it will stay. I actually dont have a dresser draw in my room, not enough space, so i put my clothes in the guest room, so i wont have to take that. I have a mini ice box in my room, so i think ill try to sell that since, i wont need it either. Thanks about getting that method of declaw. I feel bad for having to get her declawed, but i just cant risk it. I think ill also purchase a new doggie door for the bf's house, well i guess my house soon. I think i want to get the one were you have to have a special collar to get in out, so my cats cant get out, but my dogs can. So much to do and so little time.

 

[TooPatient]

Morning Ladies..

Seriously, i know some places that give discounts for multiple kids, but its cuz their rates are so high, the discount just brings it down to a normal reasonable price. Dont move this and give her a discount, if your fees are reasonable and within the norm, than no, she just has to pay the price. If you are more affordable than others, than Heck No, and she better not ask again. LoL....

I don't know any places here that give discounts for multiple kids. I mean the community center is around the same price as me. Usually private lessons are more expensive than the community center. I will not give in. I don't think I'm being unreasonable or anything. Just before I'm teaching two of your kids, that doesn't make my work easier. I still teach as hard. She just keeps on asking like she's begging. OMG. I was thinking, fees add up, then don't have that many kids. She's also pregnant.

It isn't like babysitting or something. Either you have separate lesson times -- your time still costs the same per hour so why discount -- or they "share" a lesson time and you're stuck working twice as hard...

Not okay


(I helped with the 5th grade band when I was in high school and was often given a group of 5 students or so to work with so it meant less one-on-one time to help people --- at least that was clarinet and each student had his/her own instrument and didn't have to get up and trade places each time. I assume it would be even harder with piano. (I never had lessons but taught myself and play okay enough if I practice))

You should tell her your price is final. (In any other job, you do 2 hours of work and get PAID FOR 2 hours of work. -- They don't say "well, we'll pay you $100 for the first 20 hours this week and, since we're offering you more work, we'll pay $50 for the next 20 hours"
(and if they did you'd quit on the spot...)

 

[Jessie702]

Morning Ladies..

Seriously, i know some places that give discounts for multiple kids, but its cuz their rates are so high, the discount just brings it down to a normal reasonable price. Dont move this and give her a discount, if your fees are reasonable and within the norm, than no, she just has to pay the price. If you are more affordable than others, than Heck No, and she better not ask again. LoL....

I don't know any places here that give discounts for multiple kids. I mean the community center is around the same price as me. Usually private lessons are more expensive than the community center. I will not give in. I don't think I'm being unreasonable or anything. Just before I'm teaching two of your kids, that doesn't make my work easier. I still teach as hard. She just keeps on asking like she's begging. OMG. I was thinking, fees add up, then don't have that many kids. She's also pregnant.

It isn't like babysitting or something. Either you have separate lesson times -- your time still costs the same per hour so why discount -- or they "share" a lesson time and you're stuck working twice as hard...

Not okay


(I helped with the 5th grade band when I was in high school and was often given a group of 5 students or so to work with so it meant less one-on-one time to help people --- at least that was clarinet and each student had his/her own instrument and didn't have to get up and trade places each time. I assume it would be even harder with piano. (I never had lessons but taught myself and play okay enough if I practice))

You should tell her your price is final. (In any other job, you do 2 hours of work and get PAID FOR 2 hours of work. -- They don't say "well, we'll pay you $100 for the first 20 hours this week and, since we're offering you more work, we'll pay $50 for the next 20 hours"
(and if they did you'd quit on the spot...)

AGREED

 

[beezygal]

thanks ladies! Don't worry I'll be firm about it. I did many times today. She just thinks I'll change my mind. I can't give in! My bf said I'll need to be very firm about it.

I'm just not looking forward to next week's lesson because I know she'll probably be begging again. Oh well!

Too: you played the clarinet in high school? I play the flute and the french horn in high school. Then, in university, I major in piano and minor in French horn.

Jessie: Have you been packing yet? Are you staying at your SO's house yet?

 

[Jessie702]

Good BG...dont give in.

No, im not at his house yet, and im gonna start packing this week. Yesturday i just needed to crash, so tired emotionally. Im going to start tonight. Blah, i hate packing.

 

[beezygal]

don't worry Jessie. I won't give in. I might be "scared" of her asking and begging next week. I'll just worry about that then. I don't want it to ruin my week/weekend. I don't want it to screw up my happy mood as a LIW.

packing sucks!!! Think about the positive side of this. You get to be with your SO every night. How cool is that? How's your cramp? I really hope I'll get my period before I go to Hawaii. It would be so annoying if I get my period then.

btw... I have a few friends in LV this week.

 

[Jessie702]

O, i know the period and vacation thing well. It seems like i always have my period either the first 2 days of a vacation or the last 2. I hope you get it too before your trip or after. LoL....That true, i will get my honey every night and his warm belly and long legs. Thats what im looking foreward to. Talking about our day while we watch tv in bed together, or talking about our day while we give our dogs a before bed walk. O cool abotu your friends, how long are they staying and where? The bf and i are still thinking of doing a trip to FL in october. Would be nice, i could finally meet his uncle, he only has one uncle and one aunt left for family. So i guess meeting him is like the ultimate, shes staying move ya know?

 

[beezygal]

my friends are staying for 3-4 days I think. I don't know where they're staying. I really want to go to LV in the fall. My other friend who went to LV in July bought $1000 worth of things. She said everything is VERY CHEAP. I guess they went to the outlet mall.

I can't wait 'til I get to live with my bf too. I know he wants to live together when we're engaged. I really don't think I can even though I really want to! When my mom was away for a month, he stayed over during the weekends. We enjoy each other's company A LOT! I can't believe that in 3 weeks, I'll be in HAWAII!!! ALOHA!!!!

 

[Jessie702]

HaHa, she must have went to a outlet mall, cuz to me everything is expensive. LoL....

Yeah, i know the feeling of loving his company. Maybe you two can lie together more towards the end of the engagement. Espiclaly since youll be married soon anyways. That way you can move things and not be so stressed. When are you goingt o Hawaii again? I saw the swim suit, super cute b y the way

 

[beezygal]

I am worried about my parents. I'm scared to ask. They think we're going to get married soon anyways, why can't we wait a little longer. We'll get a place before out wedding of course. He'll probably live by himself for awhile until we're married. I'm going to Hawaii on Aug 23. SOON!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[TooPatient]

I started clarinet in 5th grade and played through 12th. Did bass clarinet also for awhile. (stuck to clarinet for marching band though )

My brother tried alto sax for a year and didn't do so well...
I picked it up, said "huh... very much like the clarinet", and just started playing. Never did it in a band or anything, just around the house that year.

I was in choirs from 1st grade (by choice, sooner because I had to) until after high school. Soprano mostly, but able to do alto as well.

Since I loved singing & clarinet and my grandparents (mom's side) had a piano and my other grandparents (dad's side) had an organ I picked up a basic book and taught myself to play piano too. Played in the jazz band one year of middle school (didn't do anything interesting since the "jazz band" was just 15 minutes out of the regular band class time) and later (9th - 12th grade) played for choir practice a few times a week. I'm not great but do okay enough even with two hands going. I did well enough when I practiced daily that I was supposed to accompany the school choir for a concert.... well.... my nerves took over and I couldn't do it so we had to go with the recorded tape. (who'd have thought that even after being in bands/choirs and performing in front of people for 12+ years (including solos) I'd still have massive fears of being in front of people??.... Oh well.)
I had an old organ in my bedroom for a few years (big accomplishment since the room wasn't very big after fitting a twin size bed in )


That's been a few years now. I quit playing my clarinet (and no longer even have it) about 4 years ago and haven't turned on my full-size keyboard in almost a year...

 

[Jessie702]

o cool, your going 2 days after my birthday. Maybe my birthday dust will work for you.

Too- that is cool. I only tried to pick up piano and than of course singing. I think my father would have been upset with me if i didnt try to purse music, being he was a musician. I would love to learn a new insturment...i guess maybe i sould finish up guitar first before i pick anything else...lol....O, and i know about not having room for a keyboard. I have my daddy's and its much too big for my room, but moving in with SO it will go by his drum set, and my guitar and amp. LoL....now all we need is a bass and we coudl start a band. lol

 

[TooPatient]

I don't miss vacation periods...
Ick.

Hawaii is so soon! You'll have so much fun. My mom just got back from Maui and said the weather was PERFECT. Will there be pictures for us when you get back???

Oh --- should mention that I'm not pregnant... Just super regular thanks to my Nuva Ring (bc) so we can plan trips when I won't have a period... or I can just skip one when it isn't convenient. (I don't do this often since I get an infection sometimes from doing this, but it is a useful option)



See you tomorrow.

 

[Jessie702]

BG...maybe you can get some bc and do like TOO...might be an idea

 

[beezygal]

I'll post pictures, but not me in a bikini though.

I don't do well with stuff sticking inside me. I don't use tampons too. I tried before. They actually made my cramp go away. I don't feel comfortable though. I'm scared it will be lost inside. I know it's not possible. The thing is, I don't get period for a long period of time anyways. I'm not trying to gross you guys out. I'll have one "heavy" day. Then just a few drops for a couple of days. I don't think it's normal but doc said maybe I'm just like that. I get serious cramp every month too.

 

[Jessie702]

Yeah, i was that wya too with tampons, but now, its so much more comfy. No grossing me out, im the girl who is on her second week of periods. Before i got the shot, i would get it for maybe 1 light day, 1 heavy day and than maybe another light day or two, and thats it. Now, i dont know, im hopinh i didnt screw myself up with that dman shot. If ever you doc offers, say no way!!

 

[beezygal]

If I get my period during my trip, I will have to use tampon. I've tried OB and Playtex. Playtex is so easy to use. OB is messy but it's more comfy. It's weird, I use tampon on my heavy day before, there's no cramp AT ALL. I didn't need to take any prescription drugs at all. AMAZING!

 

[Jessie702]

o wow, yeah im not tat lucky...lol

 

[TooPatient]

Nothing too gross for small talk. (okay, maybe that one conversation a few months back about butt-sniffles that led to talking about explosive diarrhea in public settings...)


Anyway, when I started with the Nuva Ring I had spotting (not a huge amount, but enough to have to use regular pads) for over 30 days...
I called the doctor a bit concerned and was told that it is pretty normal to have spotting for up to 60 days (or more?) when starting a hormonal type of bc. --- gee... thanks for letting me know BEFORE I started...

Hopefully yours is just something like that.

BG -- I can't use tampons except on heavy days or I get cramping too. Part of my problem is that the Nuva Ring dries things out down there and the tampon doesn't go in/out too smoothly (read this as uncomfortable going in and painful coming out).
I've never had the NR get stuck. The worst I've had to deal with is when it didn't uncoil (you fold it over so that it is smaller going in and it usually uncoils once inside -- doesn't really matter if it does or not though). No big trauma. Just a little harder to grasp to pull out but it was still easily within reach and couldn't have gone any further anyway. I have had it FALL OUT a couple of times... (Not supposed to do this, but 2 or 3 times in the last 5+ years I've had it happen --- each time after especially active ---- last time I discovered this when we went to get up and I found it stuck to FI's back )

 

[Jessie702]

LoL.......i couldnt have that happen to my SO...he would freak out

 

[beezygal]

lol... that is pretty gross and funny.

 

[Jessie702]

So...im sitting here at work, WITH my dogs. LoL...my boyfreind dropped them off on his way to work since i have to take one of them tot he vet. He has a weird nose condition, and its time for him to go and we could either get him in today or wait about another 3 weeks. It just happens the date we would be able to get him in falls on when i go to school,so they are sitting here with me now. We will be leaving for the vet in about 15 minutes. LoL....my coworkers were shocked to see them, but happy anywyas. My babies are curious, but well mannered, they dont pee on carpet, they sit in chairs.

 

[TooPatient]

Awww.

Puppies at work

 

[beezygal]

awww.. that's so cute. They can keep you company!!!

 

[TooPatient]

Heading out for the weekend

See you Monday. Have a great Friday and enjoy your weekends!

 

[Jessie702]

HeHe, they do keep my company. Bad news from the vet though, ill post Tuesday what i find out though from another vet. Have a good weekned Too.....

 

[TooPatient]

HeHe, they do keep my company. Bad news from the vet though, ill post Tuesday what i find out though from another vet. Have a good weekned Too.....

Hopefully not too bad...

Maybe your 2nd opinion will have a better understanding or better options than the first could offer.