The LIW Small Talk Thread

[Jessie702]

Thanks Jessie!

My FI just called during his lunch break. We talked for a little bit. He wants to know if I'm alright. Too, you are right on. He is a little bit nervous. He admits that he might have a little cold feet. He said that he loves me very much and wants to marry me. He knows we'll get through it and we'll get married at the end of the day. I talked to him about the 7 weeks exercise. I think we'll give it a try. What is the book call? I might start on the first week, first day exercise with him today. Thank you TOO!

Thanks for your concern, Jessie. I consider you and Too my BEST friends here. I know what you mean by holding the engagement off. I know exactly what you mean. I wouldn't want to marry someone who has doubts AT ALL. Hopefully, he's just nervous and has a little cold feet since we're really going to get married, like what Too said.

Thank you!

Very Welcome Hon, thats what we are here for. Just keep us in the loop on whats going on, i think maybe trying the book and excerises might be good.

 

[beezygal]

I just sent the email with the first exercise to my FI. Thank you again Too. I might need you to tell me the other exercises... if you don't mind that is. Thank you again! You girls are the BEST!

 

[Jessie702]

Just got off the phone with the general Manager of the cemtery where my father is buried, and he apologized for the lady i met with. He said that everything is correct, but she must have been in a hurry and didnt cross refence like she should have. He said he will be having a talk with her, which he wont, when she comes in.

 

[beezygal]

I'm sorry about what happened. I heard a story from my mom before. My mom's friend's mom was buried in a cemetry. Then, many many years later, they realized that the friend's mom's grave is actually empty. Actually, I can't remember if it was empty or someone else was buried at the mom's grave. It was very upsetting for them. I don't know what happened after. It is very weird.

 

[TooPatient]

Thanks Jessie!

My FI just called during his lunch break. We talked for a little bit. He wants to know if I'm alright. Too, you are right on. He is a little bit nervous. He admits that he might have a little cold feet. He said that he loves me very much and wants to marry me. He knows we'll get through it and we'll get married at the end of the day. I talked to him about the 7 weeks exercise. I think we'll give it a try. What is the book call? I might start on the first week, first day exercise with him today. Thank you TOO!

Thanks for your concern, Jessie. I consider you and Too my BEST friends here. I know what you mean by holding the engagement off. I know exactly what you mean. I wouldn't want to marry someone who has doubts AT ALL. Hopefully, he's just nervous and has a little cold feet since we're really going to get married, like what Too said.

Thank you!

Glad he called and you got to talk about stuff. His fears are normal -- I don't think any man (or woman) can honestly say they don't have (or have never had) the slightest doubt.

I'll check on the exact books we've got this evening. They were really interesting and even though they're "marriage books" they are really great for all relationships. A couple of them have this same exercise.

Since FI and I started this again today too, I'll post the thought/task each day (today's was week 1, day 1).

 

[TooPatient]

I just sent the email with the first exercise to my FI. Thank you again Too. I might need you to tell me the other exercises... if you don't mind that is. Thank you again! You girls are the BEST!

I don't mind at all.

FI and I will be on the same day in the exercise as you!

 

[beezygal]

Thanks Jessie!

My FI just called during his lunch break. We talked for a little bit. He wants to know if I'm alright. Too, you are right on. He is a little bit nervous. He admits that he might have a little cold feet. He said that he loves me very much and wants to marry me. He knows we'll get through it and we'll get married at the end of the day. I talked to him about the 7 weeks exercise. I think we'll give it a try. What is the book call? I might start on the first week, first day exercise with him today. Thank you TOO!

Thanks for your concern, Jessie. I consider you and Too my BEST friends here. I know what you mean by holding the engagement off. I know exactly what you mean. I wouldn't want to marry someone who has doubts AT ALL. Hopefully, he's just nervous and has a little cold feet since we're really going to get married, like what Too said.

Thank you!

Glad he called and you got to talk about stuff. His fears are normal -- I don't think any man (or woman) can honestly say they don't have (or have never had) the slightest doubt.

I'll check on the exact books we've got this evening. They were really interesting and even though they're "marriage books" they are really great for all relationships. A couple of them have this same exercise.

Since FI and I started this again today too, I'll post the thought/task each day (today's was week 1, day 1).

Thanks again Too. So, we don't need to talk about it, we just have to think about that?

You are right, I do have doubts sometimes. I just don't think they're serious enough to tell my FI because the doubt will usually go away very very soon. One thing I love about my FI is that he's very honest with everything. He doesn't hide his feelings. We never have secrets between us. I don't know if it's a good thing or a bad thing.

 

[TooPatient]

Just got off the phone with the general Manager of the cemtery where my father is buried, and he apologized for the lady i met with. He said that everything is correct, but she must have been in a hurry and didnt cross refence like she should have. He said he will be having a talk with her, which he wont, when she comes in.

What happened? Why did they have to move him?

It is just so wrong to cause more upset for a family that is already grieving...

 

[TooPatient]

I'm sorry about what happened. I heard a story from my mom before. My mom's friend's mom was buried in a cemetry. Then, many many years later, they realized that the friend's mom's grave is actually empty. Actually, I can't remember if it was empty or someone else was buried at the mom's grave. It was very upsetting for them. I don't know what happened after. It is very weird.

Either way..... Eeeeeeek!

 

[Jessie702]

Just got off the phone with the general Manager of the cemtery where my father is buried, and he apologized for the lady i met with. He said that everything is correct, but she must have been in a hurry and didnt cross refence like she should have. He said he will be having a talk with her, which he wont, when she comes in.

What happened? Why did they have to move him?

It is just so wrong to cause more upset for a family that is already grieving...

I guess what happened was my father was buried, and than a few days later, another woman to the cemtery to visit her mom and saw the temp headstone for daddy next to her mother.Now, she bought the spot next to her mother for her father, and she went to the office, and said" ummmm, thats not my father, i just talked to him on the phone 20 minutes ago" I guess, whoever did the paperwork was being careless, again, and he ended up being buried there. So 5 days after my father was buried, they have to dig him up, move him to where he was SUPPOSED to be buried. I think what upsets me the most is, all this time, ive been thinking my father was at that spot, and he wasnt.

 

[Jessie702]

BG- that is bad. they put all these rules in place, and guess what, they still screw up. I would know! LoL...

Okay, im going to take a nap before class, been up for too long without a nap. Even though i dont have any money now, since being unemployed, but i tell you what, being able to take a nap before class is so nice and getting to sleep in is even nicer! Talk to you ladies later

 

[beezygal]

BG- that is bad. they put all these rules in place, and guess what, they still screw up. I would know! LoL...

Okay, im going to take a nap before class, been up for too long without a nap. Even though i dont have any money now, since being unemployed, but i tell you what, being able to take a nap before class is so nice and getting to sleep in is even nicer! Talk to you ladies later

People are so careless. Nap is good. I have to teach soon.

thanks again ladies, I feel a lot better, especially after my FI called for a chat. He wants to see me and hang out tonight.

 

[TooPatient]

See you ladies tomorrow

I'm headed to pick up medication for Millie to get rid of her parasites.



BG -- I'll post those books later tonight or tomorrow along with week 1, day 2 of the exercises (and if I forget, please remind me)

 

[beezygal]

See you ladies tomorrow

I'm headed to pick up medication for Millie to get rid of her parasites.



BG -- I'll post those books later tonight or tomorrow along with week 1, day 2 of the exercises (and if I forget, please remind me)

Thank you again! Pet Millie for me.

 

[captainmcgee]

Sorry all.

Here I am about to upload the photo here.

I am thinking I will source a diamond from around here. I want to be able to see it before it is set etc. I am fairly picky and as you said it is going to be a big purchase so I don't want to not be absolutely in LOVE with it.

What do you girls think- should I compromise on colour or clarity and up the carat size a bit? I don't think it will be happening for a while but I can't be sure.

Here is the 3.5 carat on my 6.5 finger. Sorry not the best photo I took it on my phone... :-O

Up the size?!!???

That 3.5 gives you GREAT coverage. I don't think you want to give up any color or clarity. Imagine the sparkle and amazingness of a good quality 4 ct (or even 3 ct!!!). I've seen (in person) a gorgeous 2.5 ct with amazing stats and it was just ... WOW.... I've also seen 2+ ct (some closer to 3+) with lower color and clarity and they just fall flat -- especially when the woman is also wearing other jewelry with visibly better quality diamonds (makes her e-ring look cheap, bland, unimpressive).
I know there are lower colors that still look amazing. Just make sure you see it in person and look at what it'll look like with your other diamonds.


Do you plan to wear your e-ring all the time or just on special occassions?
Something you may want to think about is how comfortable a stone that size will be to wear. (If you want to wear your e-ring all the time, you want something that will be comfortable and allow you to wear it without it getting in the way all the time.)
(I don't think there is anything wrong with either way, I just know that this is something I didn't think much about until I actually tried things on and (mostly) after I started wearing mine and noticing the little stuff I do that I hadn't really considered when choosing)

Yes, I agree I think 4 is where I want to be at.

I want to wear my e-ring all the time, everyday. The picture I posted is of my mums and she wears it every day and the many times i've tried it on it felt right and comfortable to be able to wear all the time. I know that hers is either F or G colour and the colour is amazing.

In all your experience, is SI1 a safe bet? Are the most generally eye-clean? What is the lowest cut grade that is still amazing? Very Good by GIA standards?

Thanks

BG- I hope you are doing ok. I am so sorry that your FI said that.

TOO- I am also sorry for your situation.

To you both: Men are nervous and doubtful about the smallest of things so such a big decision is surely going to cause a little cold feet I imagine. I think you will be able to get through it as you both seem invested and willing which is half the battle.

 

[beezygal]

Up the size?!!???

That 3.5 gives you GREAT coverage. I don't think you want to give up any color or clarity. Imagine the sparkle and amazingness of a good quality 4 ct (or even 3 ct!!!). I've seen (in person) a gorgeous 2.5 ct with amazing stats and it was just ... WOW.... I've also seen 2+ ct (some closer to 3+) with lower color and clarity and they just fall flat -- especially when the woman is also wearing other jewelry with visibly better quality diamonds (makes her e-ring look cheap, bland, unimpressive).
I know there are lower colors that still look amazing. Just make sure you see it in person and look at what it'll look like with your other diamonds.


Do you plan to wear your e-ring all the time or just on special occassions?
Something you may want to think about is how comfortable a stone that size will be to wear. (If you want to wear your e-ring all the time, you want something that will be comfortable and allow you to wear it without it getting in the way all the time.)
(I don't think there is anything wrong with either way, I just know that this is something I didn't think much about until I actually tried things on and (mostly) after I started wearing mine and noticing the little stuff I do that I hadn't really considered when choosing)

Yes, I agree I think 4 is where I want to be at.

I want to wear my e-ring all the time, everyday. The picture I posted is of my mums and she wears it every day and the many times i've tried it on it felt right and comfortable to be able to wear all the time. I know that hers is either F or G colour and the colour is amazing.

In all your experience, is SI1 a safe bet? Are the most generally eye-clean? What is the lowest cut grade that is still amazing? Very Good by GIA standards?

Thanks

BG- I hope you are doing ok. I am so sorry that your FI said that.

TOO- I am also sorry for your situation.

To you both: Men are nervous and doubtful about the smallest of things so such a big decision is surely going to cause a little cold feet I imagine. I think you will be able to get through it as you both seem invested and willing which is half the battle.[/quote]

Thanks mif! My e-ring is 1 carat. My FI and I have never seen an eye-clean SI1/2 even in a 1 carat range. That's why we went for a VS range. Maybe we just have good eyes. Maybe we're just very picky. I've heard people on PS found some amazing eye-clean SI range before. However, since the diamond you want it so big, I think it would be EXTREMELY hard to find an eye-clean diamond in the SI range. You might want to be in the VS range. I don't know if bigger the diamond, you'll see more colour in the diamond. You should really shop around and see what you like. One person might see clarity/colour in a diamond, another person might not. WOW... 4 carats. I'm jealous. heehee

 

[captainmcgee]

Yes I definitely think I will need to search and search and search around to get the best diamond for the best price.

It's difficult because here at home the best deals are online or in the US so maybe we might need to buy it O/S I'm not sure.

 

[beezygal]

Yes I definitely think I will need to search and search and search around to get the best diamond for the best price.

It's difficult because here at home the best deals are online or in the US so maybe we might need to buy it O/S I'm not sure.

I understand what you mean. All the good deals are online and/or in the states. My FI doesn't wanna buy something so expensive online without looking at the diamond in person. I'm so happy I came across an online site that has an office here where I live.

 

[calibali]

BG - I'm so sorry for what you are going through. It sounds like your bf knows why he said what he did, and while it was hurtful, it's great that he realizes the emotions behind it and is willing to think and work at it. When I first read about your situation, it really did sound like a classic case of cold feet since his reason was not something that he didn't know about before proposing. I think as long as you have open communication, you guys come out stronger in the end. I hope you don't let this get you too down, at least he is talking to you about his issues so that you have an opportunity to address them. Keep us updated on your progress!

 

[calibali]

Too - wow, it sounds like a very stressful time for you as well and for that I am sorry. I know being engaged isn't all sunshine and roses, but I really hope you and your FI can make it through your rough patch. It seems like your problem is also situational and that this is just a minor bump in the road, but you have my support as I can totally see how arguments can easily get out of hand when you're engaged. Have you and your FI talked about the things you said to each other?

 

[calibali]

Ok ladies, I was just stopping by to catch up. I hope you guys will check out the threads I start tomorrow. It's been a very special day for me.

 

[beezygal]

Omg! Cali... Are you engaged?
My FI and I talked a few times today. We both know we'll make it through. I am excited about my bday tomorrow. I don't need to teach that much yet (some students are still away), so I will go out with my friend for lunch. Then I'll teach 3 students and have dinner with my parents and my FI. I got to wear the Tiffany pendant he got me from hawaii.

 

[calibali]

Omg! Cali... Are you engaged?
My FI and I talked a few times today. We both know we'll make it through. I am excited about my bday tomorrow. I don't need to teach that much yet (some students are still away), so I will go out with my friend for lunch. Then I'll teach 3 students and have dinner with my parents and my FI. I got to wear the Tiffany pendant he got me from hawaii.

In response to your question, all I can say is . Have to check back tomorrow, I'm heading to bed.

Happy Birthday BG! Hope you have a great and relaxing day!!!

 

[beezygal]

Omg! Cali... Are you engaged?
My FI and I talked a few times today. We both know we'll make it through. I am excited about my bday tomorrow. I don't need to teach that much yet (some students are still away), so I will go out with my friend for lunch. Then I'll teach 3 students and have dinner with my parents and my FI. I got to wear the Tiffany pendant he got me from hawaii.

In response to your question, all I can say is . Have to check back tomorrow, I'm heading to bed.

Happy Birthday BG! Hope you have a great and relaxing day!!!

Thank you!
I'm pretty sure you are engaged! Congrats

I will check tomorrow.

 

[captainmcgee]

oh yay another engagement! happy days haha!

yes it's very difficult BG to get a good deal here but lucky we have a diamond wholesaler who is a friend and has said that if we want he will do my ring but I am not sure whether i can get a better deal elsewhere. ahhhh

 

[TooPatient]

Ok ladies, I was just stopping by to catch up. I hope you guys will check out the threads I start tomorrow. It's been a very special day for me.

EEEEEeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Where ARE you?!??!!! It's almost 9:00 and I can't wait much longer!!!

 

[TooPatient]

Week 1, day 2:

Thought: I can easily speak of the good times in our marriage.
Task: Pick one good time and write a sentence about it.



ETA: substitute "relationship" for "marriage"

 

[calibali]

Ok ok, I'm going to try and figure out how to upload pics now and then post away. Not much longer

 

[Jessie702]

Happy Birthday BG.......Happy birthday to you!

Eeekkkkk Cali.....Really? Really? You better be posting pics as im typing this!

Hey Too- Hows your day going?

 

[TooPatient]

What a great way to end my work week!!!


Happy b-day BG!

Congratulations Cali!!