The Official TTC Thread!

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 3/9/2009 12:47:57 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Last night, out of boredom really, and kind of because of the way I was feeling about the whole TTC thing, I decided to re-read through this thread... Anyway, it brought me a lot of comfort seeing so many of the ''graduates'' had the same feelings at the time of their TTC journey, even dear Dreamer!

I think every TTCer should do this for exactly the reason you mention! I found TTC really hard. That''s why I pop in here to offer support, I know it helped me when people offered it to me, and so I like to pass it forward. And yes, I had my share of angst and tears, let me tell you! The worst was the month I got KTFU. I went on a business trip during the 2ww and looked on PS one day to see that two of my friends got KTFU that week! I was so sad and jealous, because I thought I was out. Then I came home and got the BFP. It all goes to show that things are unpredictable.

Actually, I wanted to tell you that when you have your baby, it is amazing how the pregnancy and the TTC phase seem a million years in the past. So all the hardships you feel now will disappear when your baby enters your life. Don''t worry about the story you will tell about TTC to your child, because it will not be the same story then as it is now. Like labour, you will forget the pain and agony, because it will matter NOT AT ALL once you have your child in your arms. Even at 3am

Like the old saying goes, "This too shall pass." It is indeed true, and maybe knowing that will make the hard days a little easier.

Dreamer,

Your Hunter is absolutely adorable! I have been meaning to ask you how co-sleeping is going. I''m a big fan of the co-sleepers, since they allow you to be next to your baby without any of the potential harm. Is it working as well as you''d hoped? Can you breastfeed in the middle of the night with ease? Was it worth the cost of the co-sleeper, as in does it do what you thought it''d do as well as you thought it''d do it? Gosh, I just love the baby faces he makes. And those cheeks!!!

Thanks Fisher, we think he is pretty cute too! (Peony this is for you too, since you were asking) As for co-sleeping, it is great. I really like the co-sleeper, it is a nice size and works better than the pack n'' play because the side drops and it is good until 30lbs (others are only good until 15lbs). Hunter usually ends the third sleeping stretch (yes there are 3 each night!) in bed with us so I can get a little more sleep (bad mommy)--he is swaddled and I position him in such a way that he can''t move around and get into trouble... even newborns have a preference for closeness with their parents I guess. But he spends most of his night time sleeping in the co-sleeper, swaddled. BFing in bed is not as easy now as I hoped, even with the cosleeper. Actually, I am going to go buy a chair soon for BFing at night. Newborns are floppy and BFing is not simple with them, it takes lots of positioning and pillows, so bed is a challenge for me. I think when he is older it will be easier, but for now I need a straight-backed chair!

 

[Festy]

Date: 3/9/2009 12:58:03 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Festy,

Have a wonderful honeymoon.

I''m so happy that your tests came back great! Yay!!! I bet that relieves much stress, and hopefully, will make for a much more carefree time when you BD (or get on the floor, whatever).

Regarding the cycle three testing, is it just blood? I know I should know this by now, but I don''t.

And Yay for your hubby''s swimmer''s being good to go, too! That''s fabulous!!

Hoping you come back from your honeymoon with a baby baking!!

Yup, just blood. Thanks for all the support! I hope you''re feeling better.

 

[lovelylulu]

Swimmer

I''m hoping all my enthusiastic virtual applause makes up for your RE''s reaction.

. I am all for being realistic, but let a gal enjoy some fantastic news!!


what is the restriction of sugar supposed to help/prevent?

 

[sunkist]

Swimmer you got a BFP!!!!! That's wonderful news, CONGRATS!!!

Why did the doctor say you have a 75% chance of miscarriage?? Is that the other end of the statistic that you only have 20% chance of conceiving when all goes right?? That's weird and mean of them to say. Geez. I'm praying for a sticky for you!!! I'm sooo happy for you.

Festy I hope you have a wonderful, wonderful honeymoon. Is this a delayed honeymoon? I agree that's the BEST way to spend the TWW. I would love to spend my TWW on a honeymoon every month

Have fun!

eta:Swimmer, if you're ready do you wanna post your chart or pee stick or anything???

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Date: 3/9/2009 2:08:16 PM
Author: sunkist
Swimmer you got a BFP!!!!! That''s wonderful news, CONGRATS!!!

Why did the doctor say you have a 75% chance of miscarriage?? Is that the other end of the statistic that you only have 20% chance of conceiving when all goes right?? That''s weird and mean of them to say. Geez. I''m praying for a sticky for you!!! I''m sooo happy for you.

Festy I hope you have a wonderful, wonderful honeymoon. Is this a delayed honeymoon? I agree that''s the BEST way to spend the TWW. I would love to spend my TWW on a honeymoon every month

Have fun!

eta:Swimmer, if you''re ready do you wanna post your chart or pee stick or anything???

I was thinking the same thing, Sunkist!

Swimmer, what were your signs of early pregnancy, did you have any?

Hoping that your appt. goes well today and that it''s not full of gloom and doom. Is your hubby away now and will he be able to come home soon? I know that he''d be a great support right now to you...

 

[phoenixgirl]

fisher, hang in there. What your friends were implying just doesn''t make any sense. My sister, a minister, suffered a miscarriage early in the 2nd trimester, and people told her it was God''s will, and she found these comments very distasteful despite her obvious faith. Sure, if you have faith, then you believe that God is ultimately in control, but does that mean that God wills babies to die, either in utero or when left locked in cars or of disease? God wills all the terrible crimes and heartaches and tragedies that we see to happen? I''m sorry if this is stepping on anybody''s toes, but I don''t want to believe in a universe where the powers that be "will" (which to me means "want") bad things to happen. I''d rather believe that we''re all in God''s (or whatever you believe in) hands, but that if we died in the towers on 9/11 or we get cancer or we lose a loved one, this is because we live in an imperfect world, not because God wills some people to be blessed and others to be cursed. And that somehow by wanting to be pregnant too much, you make God take you from the "blessed" list and put you on the "cursed" list? No, no, silly I say!

I do think it''s one of those things people say when they don''t know what to say. You hear that kind of thing when you lose a loved one to cancer or suicide or an accident. I wouldn''t hold it against the people who say it; I''m sure they mean well. Just don''t let it make you second guess yourself.

Festy, have fun in Argentina! So jealous!

swimmmer, how early did you test? I guess that''s why your RE said the risk of miscarriage was so high, as in the chemical kind where most women don''t even know they''re pregnant? If you wait until AF is due and test again, then the risk will be only like 20%, right? Anyway, CONGRATULATIONS!!!

 

[missjaxon]

Date: 3/9/2009 3:00:39 AM
Author: mia1181
Missjaxon- Everytime I see your name I sing ''I''m sorry Miss Jackson, ooooh, I am for reeeaaaal, never meant to make your daughter cry...'' (Outkast). Hang on a minute, my math isn''t so great but.... if you are 24, and you''ve been with FI for 10 years.... that would mean you were 14 when you met!

Wow! How cool is that? I love that I''ve known DH since highschool because I''ve watched him turn into a man. That is really cool that you''ve been together so long! Happy upcoming anniversary btw! Ah so you know what 10 years is like... It''s like we''ve been doing the same thing for a while, and I am just ready for a change. Yes, you definitely want to wait until after the wedding though. And then there will be a fun newlyweds period which you will enjoy. But it''s really good that FI is just as onboard. My DH wants kids, but he also doesn''t mind waiting a few years to save money first. I have to be careful with him, because he is the type of guy who will do whatever I want. So I have to always make sure he''s not going to regret going along with my wishes. So I don''t push the baby thing too much. And yes these thread make it so much harder to wait. I just want to join in on all the fun!


Is it next year yet??????

mia - haha I can''t tell you how many times I have heard that or had that song sung to me! My Mom even does it sometimes haha. We were actually younger then 14 when we met, he lives only 4 houses away! I ended up falling in love with the neighbor boy

. Thanks for the Congratulations, I sure do know what 10 years is like. I too have loved watching my fiance and myself grow into the people that we are. I totally understand the logic behind wanting to wait and save up money too, raising a child isn''t cheap and with today''s economy is can be down right scarey!

That is wonderful that you have a husband that is willing to do anything to make you happy and also that you are just as concerned with his happiness and not wanting to cause him any regrets. Sounds like you have a very healthy marriage and are very lucky to have each other! I too want to join in all of the fun and I also agree.....


Is it next year yet????!!!!

 

[E B]

Congratulations to Swimmer!

What fabulous news!

 

[swimmer]

Thanks guys! Sorry, I haven't taken any pics. Well, I have PCOS and had Ovarian cancer over a decade ago -it just seems to run in the family- so have a ton of scar tissue on ovaries, uterus, and that general real estate. Plus with the treatment I went through, there is no guarantee that all eggs weren't toasted awhile ago. Yeah, fun stuff. So my Md is good to be so "chill out girl." It really hasn't sunk in that this is even possible. I tested at 14dpo and 15dpo. I'm also hypoglycemic so have major insulin issues, hence the GI diet. Pretty much I was told in college that I would never be able to reproduce, like I cared then, but with just a bit of medical supervision it seems to have happened. The RE was right to remind me that there is only a 20% chance of carrying a child till viable (outside the womb)...and almost no chance of carrying to full term. My hope is that this run of statistically improbably keeps going. whew, that was hard to actually write down.

Thanks E, Sunkist, DD, Fisher, Lulu, Phoenix, Festy (have fun!) and lovely co. Now I have to not think of anything but get to work on writing! (yeah, not possible)

ETA: Festy, where are you staying in BA? I hope you found a great place! Oh, eat a ton of steak, Iron is good for you, so is red wine, right?

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Swimmer,

To defy all those "statistics" is amazing. And anyone being pregnant is amazing. And you being pregnant is amazing. I''m sure it will take time to sink in. Is the GI diet the diabetes diet? I''ve heard that''s good to try to follow during pregnancy regardless of any other issues. Or at least to kind of follow. You''ve overcome so very, very much! I thank God and science for it, too!! Congratulations again, and know that support is here and prayers are flowing.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Sunkist,

This seems like that "magical" cycle for at least two people this time around. I''m praying for you, girlie!!!

(And won''t it be fun when InLuv comes back and sees this, since she was talking about it right before she left??)

 

[natalina]

OMG Swimmer! You hid your great news in that post almost like an afterthought! I have my fingers crossed for you that this little one sticks, sticks, sticks! Congratulations! So cute about your DH sending the email!

 

[sunkist]

Date: 3/9/2009 6:29:08 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Sunkist,


This seems like that ''magical'' cycle for at least two people this time around. I''m praying for you, girlie!!!

(And won''t it be fun when InLuv comes back and sees this, since she was talking about it right before she left??)

I know, Fisher, I was just thinking that too!!

InLuv''s got 2 of her 3 already. And we''ve got 2 for 2 in this week''s testing poll so far! That''s great odds, so I''m rooting for both of us.

So, I told myself about an hour ago that I would test tonight at 8. I''m not peeing or drinking for three hours. I figured testing couldn''t make me feel any worse than I already felt today

I didn''t have a good day today

It was probably just the worst PMS I''ve ever had, but I was fighting back tears as i was sitting at my desk. Twice I lost that fight and had to run to the bathroom so no one saw the tears!

I was also having that sick to your stomach stressed out feeling... I think I need a vacation! Anyways, I''m home now and I''m just finishing up my own pack of Thin Mint girl scout cookies

I figure, if I get a neg, which I''m expecting, then I''ll just start preparing myself for the start of a new cycle. And if I don''t get a neg, well then, I can celebrate. Today I''m only 9DPO, or can I say 9-1/2DPO since the day''s almost over? AF can show up anytime she want''s. Or she can be a no-show

But I''m ready for this cycle to be over and have a new beginning. I don''t know how good of a plan this is, maybe I''ll chicken out, haha!

 

[sunkist]

Date: 3/9/2009 6:04:53 PM
Author: swimmer
Thanks guys! Sorry, I haven''t taken any pics. Well, I have PCOS and had Ovarian cancer over a decade ago -it just seems to run in the family- so have a ton of scar tissue on ovaries, uterus, and that general real estate. Plus with the treatment I went through, there is no guarantee that all eggs weren''t toasted awhile ago. Yeah, fun stuff. So my Md is good to be so ''chill out girl.'' It really hasn''t sunk in that this is even possible. I tested at 14dpo and 15dpo. I''m also hypoglycemic so have major insulin issues, hence the GI diet. Pretty much I was told in college that I would never be able to reproduce, like I cared then, but with just a bit of medical supervision it seems to have happened. The RE was right to remind me that there is only a 20% chance of carrying a child till viable (outside the womb)...and almost no chance of carrying to full term. My hope is that this run of statistically improbably keeps going. whew, that was hard to actually write down.


Thanks E, Sunkist, DD, Fisher, Lulu, Phoenix, Festy (have fun!) and lovely co. Now I have to not think of anything but get to work on writing! (yeah, not possible)


ETA: Festy, where are you staying in BA? I hope you found a great place! Oh, eat a ton of steak, Iron is good for you, so is red wine, right?

Hey Swimmer, that''s good to know what the doctor meant. This makes it even more amazing that you''re preggers right now and I hope hope hope that this one stays!! Wow, with what you''ve gone through you''re a lot stronger than I''m being right now. (I feel like I''m whining today, I guess I should stop

)

 

[Sha]

Oh wow, congratulations swimmer!! I missed your annoucement too. I hope you continue to defy the odds and have successful pregnancy. I guess being on Metformin helped? I read that it can also help sustain a pregancy. I hope you have a healthy 9 months - don''t give up hope.

 

[sunkist]

Ummmmmm guys???? My heart is pounding right now and I''m having trouble using my camera from trembling fingers. Am I preggo????? I swear that''s a second line. Should I take a second test??

 

[sunkist]

Man, I told you I''m having trouble here. Here''s the pic.

 

[Blenheim]

I see it Sunkist!!!! OMG! And that''s dark for 9 dpo. Do you have any digis around?

Swimmer- congrats!

 

[sunkist]

No I don''t, maybe I should go get a digi!! How long does pee in a cup last so I can reuse it?? haha!

 

[sunkist]

Here''s another pic. It''s there, I see it

 

[Blenheim]

Well, I definitely see a line too! Did you get it within the time limits and everything? Cause if so, you know what that means! I just like digis because it's really awesome to see the word "Pregnant", but it's totally not necessary. But if you want one, your cup of pee should last long enough for you to run to the store and back.

I'm so excited for you.

ETA - Hubby could see it from across the room, if you want another opinion.

 

[sunkist]

Thanks, Blen!!!

Ok, well I just ran out and got a digi, but it''s not getting a positive. But the FRER was totally in the time limit. I''m doing a second FRER right now. I guess I''ll have to wait a day or so to see what''s really going on.

 

[sunkist]

Ok, sorry to bombard with all these pics, but this is the 2nd FRER and it''s in the time limit. This is unbelievable!!

I''m not crazy am I???

 

[sunkist]

Date: 3/9/2009 11:47:47 PM
Author: Blenheim
Well, I definitely see a line too! Did you get it within the time limits and everything? Cause if so, you know what that means! I just like digis because it''s really awesome to see the word ''Pregnant'', but it''s totally not necessary. But if you want one, your cup of pee should last long enough for you to run to the store and back.

I''m so excited for you.


ETA - Hubby could see it from across the room, if you want another opinion.

haha! Blen I just saw the comment from you hubby

thanks!

 

[missjae]

Date: 3/10/2009 12:13:01 AM
Author: sunkist
Ok, sorry to bombard with all these pics, but this is the 2nd FRER and it''s in the time limit. This is unbelievable!!

I''m not crazy am I???

I say that''s three tests with a total of 6 lines!!! I don''t think you''re crazy...I think you''re *whispers* pregnant?! I have my fingers crossed for you!!! I love the pictures!

 

[Sabine]

OMG, SWIMMER AND SUNKIST!!!! You are soooo both knocked up!!! Congrats!!!!

 

[robbie3982]

Congrats Swimmer and Sunkist!!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Sunkist!!

YAY!!!!!

Okay, how'd you tell Cliff?

I'm so happy for you, girlie!! It was so great to be back on a same thread as you again! Maybe I'll catch up with you again in the pregnancy thread one of these days!

You're gonna be a mommy! I can't even imagine how you're feeling right now, but I bet (along with some of the "what, really? I mean really???) you're feeling overwhelmingly blessed. Ahh... talk about logging in to see good news!

And can I just say THREE in a row on this thread? That's unheard of!! Man, when InLuv makes a request, you all deliver! How wonderful.

I'm so excited over the bombardment of pregnancies around here. Congratulations to all!!

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 3/10/2009 12:06:30 AM
Author: sunkist
Thanks, Blen!!!

Ok, well I just ran out and got a digi, but it''s not getting a positive. But the FRER was totally in the time limit. I''m doing a second FRER right now. I guess I''ll have to wait a day or so to see what''s really going on.

It didn''t click last night that you were using FRERs. I was able to get a pos on a digi with a line lighter than that on a non-FRER test, as was at least someone else I''ve seen here, but FRERs are so sensitive that you''re probably just too early for a pos digi. And that makes sense, cause you''re just 9 dpo! (Well, 10 now.) But you have two positive FRERs now, so you''re knocked up girl!!!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I''m thinking I''ll be breaking the pregnancy streak around here, ladies. I hate to do it, because man, once it gets going, it gets GOING around here. My temp did bounce back up a little bit this morning, and I was elated (98.4. So, I took a test. Nothing. I know it was a day earlier than I was planning to test, but well, I caved. 15 DPO, though, so if I was pregnant, it would have read it by now.

Not to rain on the parade, I just wanted to avoid the "You''re next" comments. Because I''m likely not.

But I still get to join in on the Yippees for my girls who have gotten knocked this go round!! Peony, Swimmer, and Sunkist, I''m so happy for you! When do you think you''ll venture to the preggo thread? I know you already have Peony.