The Official TTC Thread!

[Sha]

Date: 11/2/2009 12:00:52 PM
Author: Bliss

Date: 11/2/2009 7:21:35 AM
Author: fisherofmengirly

Wowzers!!! It's been a while since we had a streak around here! What a wonderful weekend it was!!


Congratulations to Shiny (and keeping quiet for a week is some feat, girl!!

), Bliss, and HOU. Very exciting news!!! I hope your pregnancies flow smoothly, and that you keep positive attitudes through the first trimester. You have babies growing in there!!! Yipppeee!!!


So, tell us how each of you told your hubby. (I love hearing these stories!!)


July is going to be a busy month on the preggo thread!!

Thank you ladies!!!! Last night after I finished the TTC thread finally, I just got so emotional. It's amazing how so many of you have been here in some capacity and made this thread what it is today: the jerkbodegas (myself included), the women who have supported each other and wiped away tears while keeping the faith, the women who made me cry when they got the BFP and still come by to cheer us on and congratulate us. It's so overwhelming!

Fisher, some of the words you wrote along the way truly touched my heart. The love you have for your baby is incredible and infinite. Just amazing! Your faith, your amazing heart and generosity with information and support... I feel like I'm in the presence of greatness, I really do. So lots and lots of prayers to us all - buckets and buckets of baby dust!!!

I hope you don't mind if I stay for a little while? I've grown so attached to this thread and all of you. I want to continue cheering you on and sending massive prayers your way, if that's OK. Life is so tenuous and I realize every day that it's a huge blessing to carry this child - and any moment, we could be back to square one. It's still so early.

OK, now to the other stuff - Fisher, you wanted to know how I told DH? My story is no fun, unfortunately! DH has been with me every step of the way so he knows about my addiction to POAS. The past two weeks I've been feeling so weird with nausea and cramping along with crazy fatigue - he's been telling me I was pregnant! I was afraid to believe him. Last month, when I had AF - it was super heavy and instinctively, I just felt it might have been a chemical pregnancy. I was never able to confirm it, but I just felt strongly that it was not an ordinary AF. So that was really hard for me. I was really sad for a while. My heart just felt I was pregnant last month and my body ached for the baby I believed I was carrying... and when AF came with such a vengeance, it was heartbreaking.

So DH nursed me through those weeks of sudden weeping and feeling down. I know it was our first month of trying, but it just...felt so real to me. I really believed there was a baby in there! I still believe there was. So this month, I was extra cautious. I didn't know if my body was just out of whack and recovering from last month or if I was truly pregnant.

So after days of the early pregnancy symptoms, they got to a point where I couldn't say I was imagining it. Either I was pregnant or something was wrong with my health. I decided to test - DH and I went out Saturday morning and had brunch at a lovely restaurant. I had a tiny whiff of his coffee and I felt nausea, which was so weird. I LOVE COFFEE! But during TTC, I gave it up. *sob*

So we walked around Central Park (it was a gorgeous day) and we bought some HPTs on the way back home. I got a 3-pack of FRER, because FRER has been so lucky for the ladies here... I was superstitious!

At home, we watched DVD episodes of The Office together, just howling with laughter...while I eagerly gripped my 3 HPT sticks like a kid - relishing that crackly foil and willing myself to wait. I was also afraid I didn't have enough concentrated pee for the hormone to register on the test. So I was drinking a ton of water during lunch... then I had to drop by work... DH was like, 'I WANT TO BE THERE WHEN YOU TEST!' Heehee.

I should have waited, but I just had the craziest urge right then and there at work - and I remember being totally mesmerized by the two lines when they appeared. I almost didn't even pay attention because I was so used to seeing that pink blush drift to the one single line indicating a BFN. It was surreal. I just had the goofiest grin and crazy giddiness, ran out and called DH. (After washing my hands, of course!)

As soon as he picked up, he knew by my hello. He said, 'YOU TESTED WITHOUT ME!' and then, 'OH MY GOSH, WE'RE HAVING A BABY!!!!' So I run home and he's kissing my belly and jumping up and down... just wide eyed and grinning. He also said, 'I TOLD YOU THAT YOU WERE PREGNANT!' Then he asked which books he should read because he wants to be informed on everything along the way. Then he went out and bought me flowers and treats.

I called my mom and she was just crying and jumping up and down… She practically started packing her bags to come visit. She is so excited and so happy. It’s fun to call her because she’s more excited than I am, it seems!

It is also funny because in New York, so many people smoke. And when we were walking on the sidewalk, every time someone blew smoke near us DH would freak out and WAVE IT AWAY MANIACALLY to the point where I was embarrassed. Later, I tried to wipe the coffee table off and I had a bottle of Windex and he practically leaped across the living room to grab it out of my hand. So how am I going to survive 9 months without touching any chemicals? Does this mean I never have to clean again?

BABY DUST TO YOU ALL! The week before the BFP, I was at (hahahaha) my jeweler’s picking up my studs from the reset. And my jeweler’s wife is gorgeous and pregnant! So every time I saw her, I would just clap my hands in delight. Well, I met her mother and she told me not to worry, that she would give me good luck so that I would get pregnant soon. I rubbed her shoulder with my shoulder and said, “I hope that rubs off on me!” So even as it’s early, I sent Yekutiel an e-mail to tell him that the studs were magic studs or his mother-in-law’s blessing really worked! MAZAL!

Thank you so much for all of your prayers and support…. I look forward to cheering you on and praying for you faithfully….then hearing your stories as well when you get your BFPs!!! Keep the love alive.


Here's a HPT about 15 DPO. I have to admit, I was scared I had imagined the BFP earlier...but the line is there again and I got teary with relief. The bean is still there!

HouMedGal, NewShiny sistas - so happy for you both. It's even more special because we are going through it all together!!!!! HouMedGal, what a great idea on the Just Barely Preggo thread - I'm in! While I'm so excited, this is also one of the scariest times in my life!

Awwww....what a sweet story!

Your DH's reaction made me smile!! He sounds so sweet and protective and proud! Awww....looks like you're in for a lot of spoiling, girl!

Enjoy and relish every moment! I know it's still early - but pregnancy goes by so quickly. Before you know it, you're ready to deliver! Your story brought me back to how I felt when I got my bfp - and now I'm almost 35 weeks! To all the new preggos - Make sure you cherish every minute and if you can, get a journal or a 'Belly Book' to record your thoughts/feelings and experiences during your pregnancy. It really is a precious time.

 

[Bliss]

Sha! Thank you so much for the advice and for sharing your story. Wow, 35 weeks! What a blessing!!!!!!!!! May you and your family be truly richly blessed! I am so happy for you.

BABY DUST, LADIES! LOTS AND LOTS OF BABY DUST IN NOVEMBER!

Let's make some Leos!

 

[Bliss]

Baby Dust! And prayers for us all, ladies!

 

[lili]

Bliss--
What a cute story.
Your DH is so protective and loving.
Hehe, the odds are in your favor for a girl.
There seem to be alot of baby boys coming at the beginning of next year...so there are bound to be more later to offset that ratio ^.^

 

[HOUMedGal]

Lanie -- Thanks for the sticky vibes!!

Geri -- fingers crossed for you!! Would be CRAZY if we had a 4th BFP!!

Fisher -- thank you for the kind words!! See below for cute hubby story...

Mela Lu -- thank you dear! LOLing at "jerkossity"!!

Loves Vintage -- thank you too!! I will take all the sticky vibes I can get!

Bliss -- love your story. Super cute!! Especially the parts about the smoke and the windex....LOL!!! I love it! Aaaadorable.

Sha -- thank you! I have already taken my "3 weeks" belly pic (actually it was 3 weeks 2 days but doesn't really matter for outward appearances at this point!). LOL. I will do my best to stay present in each moment along this journey!


Well, my story is actually kinda boring. LOL. Hubby already knew that I was going to be POASing, and basically, when I thought I saw the faint line on that first one, I took it to him and said "Do you see a second line?" At first he couldn't see it, but when I pointed directly to the spot he was like, "Hmmmmm......" We spent the first night being cautiously excited, but decided that it would be more "real" once I had a darker line and a positive digital test. Then, last night when I got the positive digi, his eyes got wide and he laughed out loud!! We then proceeded to go to Barnes and Noble and buy not one, but three books. LOL! One especially for expectant fathers, which he started reading immediately upon arrival back home.

Before bed, he came up to me and said, "Did you know that the first 19 weeks are crucial for our baby's brain development? I think there are several places we can work on your diet..." and then this morning, when I overslept and was rushing around trying to get out of the house, he got out of bed at 6am (even though he didn't have to) to fix me some oatmeal, reminding me how important my nutrition is right now.

Super cute. He's very excited!!

Haven't told my parents yet...we kinda want to wait to tell them in person, and they will likely visit in 2-3 weeks....but I don't know if I'll be able to wait that long!!

Will have to tell his mom over the phone since she lives in England, but want to tell all the parents at the same time.

Just like Bliss said, I hope you guys don't mind if I continue to hang out here and follow what's going on with you ladies...I want to be part of the celebration as each one of you gets your BFP!! And, as Bliss mentioned, I am keenly aware that bad things do happen sometimes, and if a bad thing happens, I want to have the support of my TTC friends. It's amazing how much of a family this group becomes, isn't it? I certainly can't imagine just up and leaving this group!

LOADS OF BABY DUST ALL AROUND!!! Now that we've got a lot of July babies, let's make some August babies!!!

ETA: And I'm officially starting the "just barely preggo" thread.

 

[swimmer]

What wonderful news! This is just awesome jerkbodegas! You are too cute starting another thread, I totally felt that same not yet ready to jump in on the preggo thread thing... Yay! sticky dust all around!

 

[swimmer]

Massive hugs to the future moms on here who are not yet pregnant. It will happen and your joy will be that much sweeter for how hard it is to get there.

 

[Sha]

Date: 11/2/2009 6:18:34 PM
Author: HOUMedGal
Lanie -- Thanks for the sticky vibes!!

Geri -- fingers crossed for you!! Would be CRAZY if we had a 4th BFP!!

Fisher -- thank you for the kind words!! See below for cute hubby story...

Mela Lu -- thank you dear! LOLing at ''jerkossity''!!

Loves Vintage -- thank you too!! I will take all the sticky vibes I can get!

Bliss -- love your story. Super cute!! Especially the parts about the smoke and the windex....LOL!!! I love it! Aaaadorable.

Sha -- thank you! I have already taken my ''3 weeks'' belly pic (actually it was 3 weeks 2 days but doesn''t really matter for outward appearances at this point!). LOL. I will do my best to stay present in each moment along this journey!


Well, my story is actually kinda boring. LOL. Hubby already knew that I was going to be POASing, and basically, when I thought I saw the faint line on that first one, I took it to him and said ''Do you see a second line?'' At first he couldn''t see it, but when I pointed directly to the spot he was like, ''Hmmmmm......'' We spent the first night being cautiously excited, but decided that it would be more ''real'' once I had a darker line and a positive digital test. Then, last night when I got the positive digi, his eyes got wide and he laughed out loud!! We then proceeded to go to Barnes and Noble and buy not one, but three books. LOL! One especially for expectant fathers, which he started reading immediately upon arrival back home.

Before bed, he came up to me and said, ''Did you know that the first 19 weeks are crucial for our baby''s brain development? I think there are several places we can work on your diet...'' and then this morning, when I overslept and was rushing around trying to get out of the house, he got out of bed at 6am (even though he didn''t have to) to fix me some oatmeal, reminding me how important my nutrition is right now.

Super cute. He''s very excited!!

Haven''t told my parents yet...we kinda want to wait to tell them in person, and they will likely visit in 2-3 weeks....but I don''t know if I''ll be able to wait that long!!

Will have to tell his mom over the phone since she lives in England, but want to tell all the parents at the same time.

Just like Bliss said, I hope you guys don''t mind if I continue to hang out here and follow what''s going on with you ladies...I want to be part of the celebration as each one of you gets your BFP!! And, as Bliss mentioned, I am keenly aware that bad things do happen sometimes, and if a bad thing happens, I want to have the support of my TTC friends. It''s amazing how much of a family this group becomes, isn''t it? I certainly can''t imagine just up and leaving this group!

LOADS OF BABY DUST ALL AROUND!!! Now that we''ve got a lot of July babies, let''s make some August babies!!!

ETA: And I''m officially starting the ''just barely preggo'' thread.

Such a sweet story too, Hou! I swear, you guys have the sweetest DH''s.....

 

[drk]

Date: 11/2/2009 8:17:44 PM
Author: swimmer
Massive hugs to the future moms on here who are not yet pregnant. It will happen and your joy will be that much sweeter for how hard it is to get there.

Ditto to this - though I have to say, I do still get envious of others who have no problems getting pg, because I really wish it hadn''t taken us 4 years to get to this point. And I know it''ll be a challenge to have the #2 I''d love to have some day. Don''t think there will be any oopsies for me, ever. Not that I''m not happy for the new preggos, but damn, I wish that had been me too!

Fisher - I don''t know how you manage to continue to pop in here and handle successes with such positivity and grace. I sure hope yours is the next BFP to come along - you sure deserve it!! I''m sure you and your DH will make the best parents ever, from everything you''ve written. Hang in there!

 

[noelwr]

sorry if this is a personal question... (but how much more personal can it get after sharing ovulation charts?)

is anyone using vaginal lubricants when "trying to make baby" (don''t know what the term used is in here). basically, I was just wondering if using lubrication during sex is not recommended if you''re trying to get pregnant or if it really doesn''t matter. doesn''t seem to be proven that stuff like ky jelly can kill sperm but still people buy this stuff called pre-seed. anyway, was just wondering your thoughts?

 

[Kit]

Date: 11/3/2009 10:55:22 AM
Author: noelwr
sorry if this is a personal question... (but how much more personal can it get after sharing ovulation charts?)

is anyone using vaginal lubricants when ''trying to make baby'' (don''t know what the term used is in here). basically, I was just wondering if using lubrication during sex is not recommended if you''re trying to get pregnant or if it really doesn''t matter. doesn''t seem to be proven that stuff like ky jelly can kill sperm but still people buy this stuff called pre-seed. anyway, was just wondering your thoughts?

Hi Noelwr,

I am new to this thread, but an old PSer. I''m planning to share my story here soon, but in the meantime I wanted to share with you that unfortunatley most lubricants do kill sperm, and saliva does as well. I would recommend you NOT using anything if you can get away with it, or try using something like Pre Seed or Pre which is semen-friendly. You can google about it.

Hope this helps, and good luck to you!

 

[lizzard]

noelwr - we conceived the month we used pre-seed in conjunction with the Clear Blue Easy Fertility Monitor. Pre-seed is supposed to be one of the only lubricants out there that is sperm "friendly". Good luck!

 

[Bliss]

Date: 11/3/2009 10:11:10 AM
Author: drk

Date: 11/2/2009 8:17:44 PM

Author: swimmer

Massive hugs to the future moms on here who are not yet pregnant. It will happen and your joy will be that much sweeter for how hard it is to get there.

Ditto to this - though I have to say, I do still get envious of others who have no problems getting pg, because I really wish it hadn't taken us 4 years to get to this point. And I know it'll be a challenge to have the #2 I'd love to have some day. Don't think there will be any oopsies for me, ever. Not that I'm not happy for the new preggos, but damn, I wish that had been me too!


Fisher - I don't know how you manage to continue to pop in here and handle successes with such positivity and grace. I sure hope yours is the next BFP to come along - you sure deserve it!! I'm sure you and your DH will make the best parents ever, from everything you've written. Hang in there!

drk, I appreciate your honesty. I know it sounds ludicrous to say that after one month I felt bitterness and the jealousy of "WHY NOT ME? Will I be the only one left standing with no baby?" But in my most honest moments with myself, I did. (Not on PS, but in the real world.) In that moment, I didn't know if it would take one month or 10 years. Or never. It's hard to accept that some things are out of our control. It just is. I feel like on PS, there are so many accomplished and intelligent women who truly get it and understand. Women who know how to bend the arc of fate, even. Powerful women who shape their own destinies and lend a hand in the futures of others...as we all do in this web of life. We can do anything. And we can make anything happen. So when life throws a wrench your way, it's like you suddenly feel as helpless as a child. I had to accept that after a certain point, it's just up to nature. And that was very hard for me to accept. And I wanted a baby so badly that everything in me was just crying out for a sign.

It's not fair. I agree. It's not fair that amazing, beautiful women get cancer... It's not fair to lose a child mid-pregnancy...or to lose a child at all. It's just not fair. I don't have any explanations. I see hero dads in the military service who never get to come home and see their kids. I see senseless violence in my city on a daily basis and extreme lack... There is just so much injustice in life. And sometimes it's just too much to bear. Suffering is everywhere. It's the human condition. Many times, I don't feel worthy enough to have the life that I do.

But then, look at the many gifts we have. We all have tragedy in our lives in one way or another if you have lived to be a certain age, even to be an adult means that you have experienced sadness and loss. And we will again. People, like our parents, don't live forever. Maybe it's a sign to seize gratitude in small ways... to celebrate little joys in our life, to be thankful for the things we have.

I know that even as I have this little bean inside me, at any moment - it could be gone. And who knows when I'll ever be so lucky again? I don't. Or when I kiss DH goodbye in the morning, will I see him again? Some women never do. Life is just so tenuous and at times, extremely unfair. And yet we are so richly blessed in other ways. I don't have an answer, but I just wanted to tell you that I understand how you feel. And I am happy that you are pregnant now... and I wish with all of my heart that everyone TTC and pregnant gets to hold their baby soon. I am praying SO much for you mommies to be... just pulling for each and every one of you. It will happen!!! Seize the joy!

 

[robbie3982]

Date: 11/3/2009 10:55:22 AM
Author: noelwr
sorry if this is a personal question... (but how much more personal can it get after sharing ovulation charts?)


is anyone using vaginal lubricants when ''trying to make baby'' (don''t know what the term used is in here). basically, I was just wondering if using lubrication during sex is not recommended if you''re trying to get pregnant or if it really doesn''t matter. doesn''t seem to be proven that stuff like ky jelly can kill sperm but still people buy this stuff called pre-seed. anyway, was just wondering your thoughts?

We used the CVS brand "Pre-Conceive" or something like that the month we conceived DS.

 

[Loves Vintage]

lizzard,

Is this the Fertility Monitor that you used: CBE Monitor?

I''ve been using cheapie internet strips, and now I''m wondering if perhaps I should upgrade. It''s a little pricey, though! Did a dr recommended that you get this one? Maybe I will wait until after my first visit with a RE.

 

[Laila619]

Date: 11/3/2009 10:11:10 AM
Author: drk

Date: 11/2/2009 8:17:44 PM
Author: swimmer
Massive hugs to the future moms on here who are not yet pregnant. It will happen and your joy will be that much sweeter for how hard it is to get there.

Ditto to this - though I have to say, I do still get envious of others who have no problems getting pg, because I really wish it hadn't taken us 4 years to get to this point. And I know it'll be a challenge to have the #2 I'd love to have some day. Don't think there will be any oopsies for me, ever. Not that I'm not happy for the new preggos, but damn, I wish that had been me too!

Fisher - I don't know how you manage to continue to pop in here and handle successes with such positivity and grace. I sure hope yours is the next BFP to come along - you sure deserve it!! I'm sure you and your DH will make the best parents ever, from everything you've written. Hang in there!

Aww Drk. Hugs!

When you think about it though, it's all relative. There are unique gifts you were given that others aren't lucky enough to have. Like maybe you can eat whatever you want and not gain an ounce! Or maybe you are tall, or athletic, or extremely healthy. There are also people who got knocked up right away with baby # 1 and then struggle for years trying to conceive # 2. So who knows?

Plus you can't control what your DH's sperm is like. I don't really believe that women are infertile so much as the couple together just doesn't work.

 

[drk]

Bliss - what you say is all too true! Thanks for understanding.

Ditto the PreSeed being safest. I have heard of people using fresh egg whites too, but that wasn''t something I could deal with personally. Felt too risky. Regular lubes are most definitely bad. And PreSeed made for some of the best sex I''ve ever had...

 

[E B]

We also had success with Pre-Seed!

And the Clear Blue Easy Fertility monitor.

 

[lizzard]

Loves Vintage- yes, that is the monitor. It''s pricey, but WELL worth it (in my opinion). It takes all of the guess work out of the ovulation period and has a very high success rate. Being the impatient one, I couldn''t bear the thought of having to read charts, take temps, etc, etc. The monitor familiarizes itself with your body and hormone levels and gives you a digital reading- no more reading lines on strips. We conceived the 2nd month using the monitor and will use it again when we try for #2 - along with a new package of pre-seed!

Good luck!

 

[Kit]

Hi Everyone,

I am glad to be back on PS after some time, and wanted to share my TTC story on this thread with you all. I supposed it all began back in March of 2008 when I went off the pill after DH and I were married. I wasn''t necessarily TTC then, but was sick of being on hormones after almost 10 years and wanted to give my body some time off. I started using Fertility Friend and temping and charting, and after a few months started to observe my CF and then stopped temping altogether. My cycles became pretty regular and it seemed like I was ovulating from all the classic signs, but wanted to confirm with the OPK. I began using OPK in the spring of 2009 just to give me another data point in my fertility, and sure enough I got +LH surges each cycle. I was relieved and felt ready to actually TTC ahead of our schedule, in June. It was a bit of scary but exciting feeling to actually try and conceive a human life, and really something beyond my comprehension to be honest.

Well, very very fortunatley we got pregnant the first time. We actually only BD''d once, if you can believe it--I still can''t. We were pretty casual about it and I was settling in for a 6-8 month road ahead of us in order to get that BFP. Instead, I was looking at that faint little pink line on July 1st in shock and disbelief that it actually worked! After I got over the initial shock of it all, reality settled in that we were going to have a baby, our child. I was pretty excited for the first couple of weeks and we told two close friends, our siblings and parents, but that was it. Of course, pregnancy symptoms also began and although you hear about what it''s like to be pregnant, when you actually experience these symptoms for yourself...well, I am sure many of you know! It''s a doozie

But very exciting to know that something is growing inside of you, and it''s your baby.

Of course, I also began to get scared about miscarriage. It''s so common, and it seems like all you can do is take the best care of yourself that you can and avoid all the risk factors. But still, it''s out of your control and you just have to have faith. Compounding my fears was that my OB didn''t offer an ultrasound until 14 weeks. You can imagine that during weeks 6, 7, 8, 9, I was pretty anxious to know what was going on in there and just that everything was progressing as normal. For my 10 week appointment she tried to get the heartbeat but couldn''t, yet assured me that there was no reason for concern and the pregnancy was still very small, and not hearing a heartbeat was still normal at this stage. I scheduled my 1st trimester screening for 11 weeks and figured, DH and I wanted to know the information from the test AND it would get me an US earlier than 14 weeks.

And, to our dismay, when we went in there, the baby only measured 9w5d. The Dr. then told us that we had lost the pregnancy. I completely broke down sobbing and crying and I am so glad DH was there to console me. He was sad too, but gave everything he had emotionally to support me. I called my mom from the Dr. office and told her, and she and my dad were just crying and devastated. I never thought that losing a pregnancy would be as emotionally and physically difficult as it was. I had a D&C on August 24th and recovery from that took a couple of weeks. I cannot imagine the trauma of having a "natural" m/c as the surgery and recovery period was awful enough and I just don''t know how women get through those. It''s very hard going from being pregnant and thinking about welcoming your first baby into your family, totally focused on taking care of yourself and putting all your energy into this little fetus, to just being...Not Pregnant.

Anyhow, it''s been a good physical recovery and my body seems to be ready to try again. We are actively TTC and I am hoping for ovulation any moment now, and trying not to overthink it. But as time goes on, I still think about my pregnancy and m/c and what would have been, and why, and what if that was it for us?? The m/c really has left a mark on me, emotionally, that I just did not, nor could not, anticipate. It also makes me so much more respectful of how delicate life is, and that life can be created and lost in one moment.

Thanks for letting me share, and I hope that my story in some way helps someone else out there get through a m/c and know that all the complicated and crazy emotions she is feeling are normal and natural, and there is nothing wrong with her! Best wishes to everyone on this bumpy road of reproduction.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

HOU and Bliss, thanks to both of you for sharing the story of how you told your husband that there’s about to be a baby in the family! Cute, cute! I love that you both have the awesome blessing of a husband who’s thrilled, and excited to learn more about the process going on within your body as the baby develops. And totally work the not using any cleaners thing, ladies!! I’ve not changed cat litter since the day I stopped taking the Pill.

Kit, thank you for sharing your story. I’m at a loss when it comes to helping friends and family through miscarriage. My best friend lost a baby in February and my heart ached for her, and yet, I had no idea what she was feeling, and had a hard time showing sympathy for her simply because I didn’t know what she needed. It’s a shame that it happens at all, but it just adds to the pain (I would imagine) to have something that devastating happen and yet, have it be this taboo topic that no one really freely speaks of. I can only imagine the emotions, the physical withdraw a body goes through, wondering where the baby went it was working so hard to nourish and grow… I’m sorry you’ve gone through it, but I’m so happy to see you in a healthy place now, ready to jump back on the very bumpy, emotional road toward parenthood. I truly wish you much success!! Welcome to this crazy thread!

I still feel so strongly that it’s just a matter of time for us. I really do. Life without hope is pretty dim, and I just refuse to think that simply because it’s not been a quick trip through TTC for us, that automatically means we’re doomed. Faith is about having trust when it’s not always easy to do so, and faith is tried and faith grows through struggles. So, I choose to see this journey as another opportunity to grow my faith, and to be excited for each friend of mine who’s on the journey with me. And that includes every person here on this thread.

Of course, I do wish that I was already holding a baby in my arms (as do all of us, no?), but at the same time, I’m learning a lot and my husband and I are growing deeper, closer, and that’s a blessing I’ll always treasure. Life isn’t about us all the time and us getting our needs/desires fulfilled at the exact moment we desire them, and this is nothing if not a testimony to what parenthood will be…. We lose the opportunity to be selfish and carefree and in tune to only ourselves the day we become parents--or aware of a pregnancy (or at least it *should* be that way for all parents), and with TTC, it seems to be just another reminder of where we’re headed… Life doesn’t unfold just as we want it to, ever. And especially not with children; they get sick, they have a hard time learning to walk, speak, read, play ball, skip rope, they have a hard time making friends or learning to drive, and the role of a parent is to be there for them, bending from our own desires in order to strengthen and support them through struggles *and* joys. So yeah, maybe TTC is simply preparing us for the role of parenthood a little early. Just maybe!

Confession as to what really gets me down…. When the time comes for me to buy yet another bottle of prenatal vitamins, I just melt with tears. Isn’t that silly? I know it is, but I’m just *so* tired of buying something intended for women with swelling bellies while mine remains the same. The last time I bought some, I got one of those turbo size bottles, something like 250 in a bottle. Haha, I felt like I’d defeated something when I spotted them at the store. Random. But true. I still cry when a new cycle starts (I usually know before hand, but it’s still a bummer when I can’t deny it any longer), but I feel like I bounce back quicker than I did in the beginning. While the journey has been long for us, it seems like with time, my faith is growing, rather than fading, and I can’t shake the feeling that one day, I’ll be able to tell my husband that we’re growing a baby, at long last. I also look forward to sharing that news with all of you, because you’ve been so sweet to share with me your good news (and your letdowns…).

A friend of mine once said not any one particular thing in life matters if it doesn’t profoundly impact your walk with God. TTC must be a part of our life, our marriage, that matters, then. If nothing else, TTC has done just that; its’ profoundly impacted my walk and my faith, and the bond that Paul and I share. So, I choose to count TTC as a joy…. (granted, not a joy I want for the rest of forever, but a joy none the less).

Much joy to all of you who are going down the road to parenthood; feel free to stay with us as long as you want. I know I’ll have a hard time moving on when my time comes. I love this thread… I love the women of this thread, past and present.

I wonder if the streak continues??? Anyone have any confessions to make?

PS: Pre-Seed. Funny this came up on here today; we've been trying to decide if we should try it. I mean, some say use nothing unless you need something, and then only use Pre-Seed, and others say use it regardless. I'll be interested to see what gets said here... although, my oh my, lots of positive (read: baby makin) responses already. I do wonder if Pre-Seed helped right away, or after an extended number of cycles of use, making it seem more hit-or-miss?

 

[geri]

Kit and Fisher - thankyou both for sharing and wishing you all the luck in the world.

I was hoping I might be able to add to the streak but unfortunately it looks like I am out for this month. AF has decided to come early (and I don''t think it is implantation bleeding or anything).

Although I''m not really surprised, I''m a little disappointed because in my mind I just thought this month would be it because the timing would have been perfect for various reasons. We will now have to wait another 3 months before we can TTC again because I have to change my health insurance. So February next year it is!

On the bright side, I can now practice my temping so I''ll be ready to go next year and I can enjoy the holiday season without stressing about whether I can have a celebratory champagne

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Good luck to all the newly preggers ladies and to all those TTCing. Here''s hoping for some November BFPs!!

 

[ljmorgan]

With all of the talk concerning Pre-Seed, I wanted to mention that we used it last cycle when we conceived. I also bought the disposable Instead cups at CVS and inserted them immediately after sex to trap the swimmers right next to my cervix. I was never a "relax and see what happens" type of gal!

 

[Loves Vintage]

Lindsey,

That''s so funny that you should mention Instead. I just came across the product today, when I was looking for pre-seed (which we have used before.) Lots of rave reviews: http://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/softcup.html.

Thanks for mentioning it too!

 

[NewShiny]

Hi Ladies, and thank you again for your well wishes. Every day is making me a little more confident that I am really truly carrying around a sticky bean.

Fisher, your faith never stops amazing me. I don''t think I''ll ever have as deep of faith as you, but I find it good and comforting that there are those in the world who really do trust in their faith. I know you will be a mommy one day, and I look forward to celebrating that day with you. I know it is cliched and you likely don''t want to hear it, but I truly believe that really relaxing is key to this TTC thing. Both times I conceived in was the month after I went to the beach - my favorite place to be. The first time, it was girls trip to the Florida gulf coast, and this time it was after our trip to Kauai. I believe that the calming and relaxing pull of the beach really did relax my body in preparation for allowing a pregnancy to take place.

MiraclesRule, it is weird that you wrote your congrats to me in green. When I was pregnant earlier this year, I felt strongly I was carrying a boy. This time, I have no feelings about the gender whatsoever. I''m sure that will change with time though.

Kit, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I went through a loss at 8.5 weeks in late July. It is not fair. I lost trust in my body and the "fun" part of this TTC business was suddenly not so fun. In fact, I am pregnant again and it took me almost two weeks to gain the courage to call my doctor. I just don''t want to go through the heartache again. But, our desire to be parents is strong, and we will do what it takes to get there. My doctor told me it is easier to get pregnant after a m/c, and I chose to believe him. For us, we became pregnant on the third cycle after our loss. Please know that there are many (too many) other women that have also experienced a loss, and we are here for you.

Fisher, I think you asked how I told DH. I tested after work a couple of Fridays ago. I got home a few minutes before DH and took the test. It immediately came up positive. I was still in the bathroom washing my hands when he came home. I showed him the test with a big smile but didn''t say anything. He gave me a hug and kiss and said "congratulations! this is good!" I told him I was choosing to be cautiously optimistic and he agreed. We still haven''t talked about it much, but every time I burp or yawn really big he asks me how I am feeling. He also mentioned on his own that he was glad he has the truck that he has because he''s sure he''ll be able to get a car seat in really easily. Too cute! I did call the Dr. today to make my first appointment and am getting bloodwork tomorrow. I told him I was terrified the beta numbers would be too low and he offered to have the blood work done for me. I wish!

Thinking of m''ladies here in TTC land!

 

[AmberWaves]

Popping in to say congrats to all the new pregs!

I also used pre-seed on our 12th cycle, and yeah, totally propped my butt up on a pillow and kept my legs in the air for a half an hour. Haha, sad, but true. And well, I''m due in less than three weeks, so who knows?

 

[Kit]

Good Morning Ladies,

Well, I had a positive OPK last night and this morning, so I''m hoping for lost of baby dust this week!

Fisher, thank you for your kinds words. I appreciate them. I am sorry your journey has been difficult and I admire your positive attitude.

NewShiny, congratulations on your pregnancy! I am sorry for your earlier loss, and thanks for your understanding.

I had not heard that it''s easier to get pg after a m/c, I wonder what that is all about...interesting! I keep having this fear that somehow now we are not going to be able to conceive. And speaking of fear, I can only imagine how anxious you must be feeling right now, I know if/when I am pg again I will be a nervous wreck! I am already planning to do some meditation or relaxation techniques to combat the anxiety so it doesn''t hurt the little bean. Good luck to you, I am pulling for you and your bean!

Have a great day everyone

 

[meresal]

Date: 11/4/2009 8:24:38 AM
Author: Kit
Good Morning Ladies,

Well, I had a positive OPK last night and this morning, so I'm hoping for lost of baby dust this week!

Have a great day everyone

***LOTS of baby dust!!! ***

NewShiny: I hope your appt goes well today and your betas are growing well! Congratulations on the BFP.

Sticky, Sticky, Sticky!!

 

[littlelysser]

Congrats to all the newly prego ladies! Much sticky dust going your way!

Hope all is well with LuLu, Festy and BB - Haven''t seen them for a bit.

Kit - I just wanted to tell you that I totally understand where you are coming from. I had an early mc in September of 2008. It was very difficult...going from the excitement/fear/wonderment of having a baby, to well, not. I understand your fears too - that maybe it was your one shot, why didn''t the baby stick, could it have been prevented...I think they are pretty common thoughts. They are tough to deal with - even though logically, you know there is nothing that you could have done.

All that having been said, there are a TON of women on the prego board and the baby boards here that have had at least one mc and went on to have a healthy baby soon after. I got pregnant four months after my mc and I''m not going to lie, it was a little difficult. I had a lot of anxiety. I felt like a part of that OMG I''M HAVING A BABY feeling was gone...sort of like an innocence was lost, for lack of a better description. I worried a lot.

But my son was born on September 4, 2009 (two months ago today, which is nuts) and he is amazing. Anyway, just wanted to reply because I was touched by what you wrote...

 

[janinegirly]

I also check in from time to time to see how BB is doing. Hope she''s doing well!