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The Official TTC Thread!

Date: 1/24/2010 12:01:23 PM
Author: inhisarms17
Well, sorry to say I am not lucky #5 this month. Tested this morning and got a BFN!
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Guess my body is just not liking me this month.
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IHA: I am sorry to ring the false alarm bell. You just had us all convinced that with those symptoms that you were KU. However, if you keep feeling not so good, I would go the Dr. anyway to see what''s up b/c its not good to be sick and feel icky...

On a happy note though, it looks like you will be in very good company in February. Lots of ladies going for the gold!

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Bliss, hurray for AF coming back from her extended vacation. Hopefully you can get through this one and get right back on track!
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To my ladies who use FAM:

Have any of you experienced contrary fertility indicators? My cycle is all kinds of screwy. Granted this is only my first cycle off BC, but it seems pretty wierd. Has anyone fresh off BC, or anyone on a normal basis, had EWCM the day of and multiple days AFTER ovulation. I had some watery CM and one day of EWCM before my temperature shift, but have had my best quality EWCM ever since ovulating (via my sustained temperature shift) for 4 days now.

Any help would be appreciate b/c I am seriously confused.
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I''ve had cycles where EWCM shows up at my expected O date and also continues later in the month randomly. I don''t think you''re O''ing more than once, I think you''re just experiencing changes in mucus based on external influences like taking cold medicine or being stressed. Old semen can also look like sticky mucus sometimes which can make you panic when it shows up at odd times in the cycle when you''ve just DTD.
 
dcgator, no need to be sorry, lady! It''s all good.
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I''m actually feeling much better. Maybe my body was just fighting something. Who knows!
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glad you are feeling better IHA!
 
Kit, thank you! Sooooo happy for you! Hope to join you soon. I will try to focus on the positive! Today I feel really great and am looking forward to getting some more answers from my new OBGYN. Woot woot. As for AF, she''s a mysterious one. She definitely met a man because her hair''s down, the glasses are gone and she''s gone bohemian! LOL

IHA, hugs to you. I''m sorry things didn''t work out this month...but you definitely seem fertile with all the symptoms and hormones! Hopefully it won''t be long at all! I know it must be very hard for you. It''s surprising how disappointed and sad one can feel when AF shows up. It is crushing! On the other hand, just saw your latest post - and I''m so glad you feel better now.

Bella! Are your new sparkles bringing you new luck? I think so!!! Thanks for sending AF over to me. I think she went shopping between leaving you and coming my way bc she was loaded down with bags...from La Perla! Yep, she *definitely* met a man while she was on vacay. Thanks so much for all the support and well wishes!!! HUGS

Feb is the month of love! A lucky month indeed.

Lynnie, welcome! So excited for you! I hope you''re a jerk store! (That''s what the old school PSers call the newbies who show up in the TTC thread and get pregnant right away!)

dcgator, THANKS!!! It''s crazy how I was sitting on the couch and every time (TMI alert) I felt a little gush, I''d cheer. I was so hoping for a normal period. Part of me was afraid this was spotting again, so that things are progressing is very reassuring! Whew. AF is hilarious. She sure kept me waiting a long time! This is my first month charting using temps so I''m excited to see what my chart will look like! Last time I just "charted" by observing CF. I''ll be interested to see if I get to ovulate next month. I''m just curious because I know periods are so wonky after a m/c!

To answer your question about wonky CF... I don''t know! Do you think it''s just because it''s your first cycle off BC? For me, it sometimes comes back randomly. I remember the month I got KTFU, it was really all over the place!

DUST DUST DUST!

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:-) Bliss you crack me up!!! Crazy bohemian AF, it''s like "How Stella got her Groove Back"
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The sparklies are making me smile which is fab
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I guess we''ll know around Valentines day if they are bringing me luck:-) The cool thing is, I just realized I am going to have two fertile windows in Feb--one that is just wrapping up at the beginning of the month and one that is starting at the end of the month, so hopefully between the two of those Feb will bring me something wonderful!

How is the new OB working out for you?
 
Bella! Awesome!!! YES! I had that movie in mind when I was channeling AF to leave her boy toy and come back!!!! Hahahaha. I have my appointment at 3pm! I'll definitely let you know! I called the office this morning to ask whether I should reschedule since I just got my period. Not sure what the protocol is for that, but at the very least - at least we'll get to discuss going forward.

I love your earrings!!!! They are SO pretty!!!! They are lucky stars on your earlobes that will bring much luck and happiness to you and your DH! Wear them in good health! Yes, Feb will be an exciting month indeed! Hope there are lots of BFPs! I don't have any predictions for Feb for some reason. For January, I just felt like it would be a huge BFP month but for Feb, I don't get a huge sense one way or another! It's like my BFP vision is cloaked in mystery! Wonder what it'll hold?
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:-) AF is probably cloaking your vision right now. Noone can think clearly when she''s around, wait for next week I bet you''ll have some clarity
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Can''t wait to hear about your new OB!!!
 

Well I am back from my weekend with my girlfriends..

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It didn''t go too well! We went bowling and there was lots of beer involved in glass mugs... so I got a bottle of water instead and tried to say that I have had a horrible headache and didn''t want to drink.. Well as soon as I said that like 3 of my friends automatically asked if I was preggers?? I said no, can''t I just not want to drink! And they kept on all night!! Saying well if you aren''t then take one sip of my beer! I never confessed cause hubby and I said we wanted to wait until at least our first appt on Wednesday!! But I think they all know!!!


So, Friday after work I went and bought a onsie that said I love my dad on it and wrapped it in with the postive test. I got home and DH was in the garage working on his dirt bike and he asked what that was.. I said I got him a little gift. So I walked in the house and looked back and said come open it! I could tell he was irritated cause he was busy and he was thinking, I have to open it right this minute... but he came in and opened it and looked at the onsie and said oh thanks sweetheart.. with a weird look on his face.. then I said there was more.. and put the EPT test in front of him cause he didn''t see it.. and he looked at it and looked at me and said "really" And he started to cry and gave me such a big hug!! He is still in shock right now! It was so cute!

To all you ladies trying in February!! Good Luck!!
 
Jena-I''m sorry your friend''s hounded you so much
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but your telling DH story is so sweet! I''m so excited for you both!!!
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Date: 1/25/2010 1:06:34 PM
Author: Jena17

Well I am back from my weekend with my girlfriends..

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It didn''t go too well! We went bowling and there was lots of beer involved in glass mugs... so I got a bottle of water instead and tried to say that I have had a horrible headache and didn''t want to drink.. Well as soon as I said that like 3 of my friends automatically asked if I was preggers?? I said no, can''t I just not want to drink! And they kept on all night!! Saying well if you aren''t then take one sip of my beer! I never confessed cause hubby and I said we wanted to wait until at least our first appt on Wednesday!! But I think they all know!!!



So, Friday after work I went and bought a onsie that said I love my dad on it and wrapped it in with the postive test. I got home and DH was in the garage working on his dirt bike and he asked what that was.. I said I got him a little gift. So I walked in the house and looked back and said come open it! I could tell he was irritated cause he was busy and he was thinking, I have to open it right this minute... but he came in and opened it and looked at the onsie and said oh thanks sweetheart.. with a weird look on his face.. then I said there was more.. and put the EPT test in front of him cause he didn''t see it.. and he looked at it and looked at me and said ''really'' And he started to cry and gave me such a big hug!! He is still in shock right now! It was so cute!

To all you ladies trying in February!! Good Luck!!
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Jena,

I am sorry that your friends were being such dorks, but I guess they will find out soon enough, right?

And let me just say how cute your story about telling your DH was. I only hope my hubby reacts as cutely as yours...soon enough though
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Congrats again on your little bean and I hope its a very happy and healthy 9 months!
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Jena, lucky #4! How sweet that your DH cried! Awwwww, that onesie idea is soooo cute. I love it!!!!

Bella, my OB was FANTASTIC! I am so happy. I like all the doctors in his practice so I''m happy with going to him when I''m his OB patient. He took his time, was very compassionate and thorough. I''ll message the admin if you want his info so maybe they can e-mail it to you!!!
 
Jena- How sweet about your hubby! So so cute. Annoying about your friends, though. People need to learn to back off about this stuff. Obviously even if you ARE there is a reason you''re not telling people, yet!
 
Date: 1/25/2010 5:16:45 PM
Author: Bliss
Jena, lucky #4! How sweet that your DH cried! Awwwww, that onesie idea is soooo cute. I love it!!!!

Bella, my OB was FANTASTIC! I am so happy. I like all the doctors in his practice so I''m happy with going to him when I''m his OB patient. He took his time, was very compassionate and thorough. I''ll message the admin if you want his info so maybe they can e-mail it to you!!!
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thansk Bliss, That would be awesome! I am so glad that you had a great appt!!!!
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Hey Bella! I just messaged the admin with the OBGYN info! His office isn't as ritzy as the other offices I've been to but it's in a nice building - the same building where I had all those ultrasounds, which I didn't realize until I went today. Columbus Circle area. All the doctors in his practice are great and he treats midwives who adore him as well. I also wanted to see him bc the head doula at the best prenatal yoga center in the city swears by him! Hope things go well for you!!!! Maybe we'll both be OB patients there soon! How exciting would that be???
 
THANK YOU!!! I hope we are pre-natal patients together very soon:-) again, I am so, so glad to hear that your appt went well today!

Columbus Circle is really convenient for me, so this could be even better than I thought.
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Jena,

Whooop Whoop!!! Congrats lady (yes, I'm late to the party) I'm excited for you, lady! And the story with how you tell the hubs.... so sweet! I'm so ready for that day in this house!! :) Heee. Congratulations, and all the best wishes to you and your growing family.

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DC,

I don't think it's uncommon to have a couple days after ovulation where you have fertile CM fading in and out.... it happens often with me. And my Dr. said it's no cause for concern. (I used to call about *everything;* I'm quite sure they're happy I've relaxed my grip on this baby making business!!

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Bliss,

Yay! So happy that your cycle's starting up again. Yippeee! I will be praying that your cycles regulate quickly, so that when you're ready to start "going at it" again, you can without any complications or confusion (thinking the same for you, HOU, too!!)

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No news in my world. Still playing the game, just *way* more low key. I like it this way. It's not a matter of letting go of the dream as much as it's about focusing on the fact that all we can do is love one another and walk in faith. And so we do.

I'm excited for February's positives. I'm sure there will be lots of good news around here. I'm hoping some of the oldies get bumped outta here, too.

My best friend had a miscarriage last year, baby would have been due at the end of November. Spoke with her last night; she's having a really hard time coming around to where she was on the calendar month last year as when she got pregnant. I ache for her, and pray that she's pregnant again (with a healthy baby!!) soon.

One thing I'm learning through this journey is that people's words sure can sting! I thought that was something I out grew when childhood passed, but I was *so* wrong. Careless comments, not even meant with malice, sure can burn. I've been doing a lot of thinking about that, working through why other people's comments can have such a profound impact on me. Random people, not just family. It's really weird. I suppose that any area that holds your heart, your deepest longings, is just a gateway to raw emotion.... And that certainly describes trying for a baby.... intense longing, expectation, and simply waiting for that miracle to evolve.

Happy thoughts to all of my girls here. Have a good week!
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***ETA:***

Inhisarms....

Lady, so sorry about your let down. Any of us who've been around these parts long enough know what it's like to get that hope, that wonderful thought of it finally happening, only to crash to the ground when the stick says it's not happening. Yet. IT will. And it will be wonderful and I'm looking forward to that happy post from you.
 
Fisher, I''m on my mac so I can''t highlight, but I hear what you are saying and thank you for putting it so well! "All we can do is walk in faith and love one another." I am so excited for all the January BFPs and can''t wait to see what Feb will bring!

Bliss-I got your message from the admin. Thank you!!!!!!!!! He takes my insurance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and he''s in the same building as my ENT, and he''s affiliated with the hospital where I am pretty sure I would like to deliver (since DH has resoundingly refused my interest in possibly having a midwife assisted home birth.
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But that hospital is supposed to have a really nice birthing center and be pretty mid-wife/doula friendly so it might be a great compromise...

So.... the only time I''ve dealt with male OBs were in emergency/proceedural situations and they were awful--really insensitive and they didn''t listen to me. It sounds like this guy isn''t like that, am I right? Also, was it strange having a male OB all in your lady parts? I''ve tried to only see females thus far, but I am open to seeing a male OB if he''s really good, so I''m interested to hear anything about your experiences that you are willing to share--I really wish there was a way to PM so I could just ask you privately...don''t answer anything you aren''t comfortable talking about, I totally understand
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Fisher, thank you. You really do have a way with words. I, too, hope that one day we''ll have that happy post from you. I know your day is coming soon.
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Date: 1/25/2010 7:00:04 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly


One thing I''m learning through this journey is that people''s words sure can sting! I thought that was something I out grew when childhood passed, but I was *so* wrong. Careless comments, not even meant with malice, sure can burn. I''ve been doing a lot of thinking about that, working through why other people''s comments can have such a profound impact on me. Random people, not just family. It''s really weird. I suppose that any area that holds your heart, your deepest longings, is just a gateway to raw emotion.... And that certainly describes trying for a baby.... intense longing, expectation, and simply waiting for that miracle to evolve.
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Hi Fisher
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your thoughts above really resonated with me as I''ve known the sting as well. I think that there are just many, many, many fortunate people who are spared the pain of knowing what it feels like to want a child and (for the time being) not be able to have one. they have never felt the frustration and/or the loss. it''s that blissful ignorance that accounts for their careless comments. I know that doesn''t make their words feel any kinder, but for me having a few people that understood made it easier to dismiss all those who didn''t.
 
THANK YOU KIND PS ADMIN for sending Bella the OBGYN info!
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Bella, I am so glad you got it! Yay! Yes, I have read amazing things about that hospital and the birthing center there. Very friendly to doulas and midwives! I figured if the best doulas in the city liked this guy, I would go!

I am like you in that I have never ever had a male OB! Ever! He is my first and let me tell you, he is excellent! Some female OBs I felt have been dismissive of my pain because they're like, "Oh, I've been through that and it wasn't that bad!" But I found him to be very respectful and extra sensitive to how I felt and all of my questions. It's really hard to find good docs in NY and that blows my mind because you'd think there would be loads and loads of them with all the resources here. It's mind boggling. Hello! We're willing to pay top dollar and yet have to deal with substandard rushed care? I think not! LOL

Also, since I want you to be totally comfortable... he had a very nice nerdy vibe which I appreciated. I didn't want some slicked back highlighted hair male OBGYN with a spray tan and plucked eyebrows looking at my nether regions. Hahahaha! That would have made me feel weird. He was very nerdy and kind. Kind & nerdy in a very pleasant and funny way. Hahahaha. Now you're going to bust out laughing when you see him! I can deal with that! (OK, please never tell him about this site or that I called him nerdy! I do so only to put your mind at ease!) Any other questions, Bella - fire away!

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***ETA***

Fisher, hugs to you. I know how thoughtless words can really sting. After my m/c, my FIL told me maybe I needed to exercise more - implying that's why we had the m/c! I'm thin and fit, btw! But he's kind of foggy mentally so maybe his train of thought was exercise = good health = keep baby? He totally meant to be helpful but I was like
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for a few seconds and then I felt OK because I remembered he was mentally foggy sometimes. Gave him a big hug and told him yes, I would exercise more. But you can see how people say random things at the most awful time. I'm really really sorry and I know how you feel. But when you are preggo, everything will roll off your back! I just can't wait for that day, Fisher!

IHA, thinking of you! HUGS
 
Date: 1/26/2010 11:29:58 AM
Author: Bliss
THANK YOU KIND PS ADMIN for sending Bella the OBGYN info!
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Bella, I am so glad you got it! Yay! Yes, I have read amazing things about that hospital and the birthing center there. Very friendly to doulas and midwives! I figured if the best doulas in the city liked this guy, I would go!

I am like you in that I have never ever had a male OB! Ever! He is my first and let me tell you, he is excellent! Some female OBs I felt have been dismissive of my pain because they''re like, ''Oh, I''ve been through that and it wasn''t that bad!'' But I found him to be very respectful and extra sensitive to how I felt and all of my questions. It''s really hard to find good docs in NY and that blows my mind because you''d think there would be loads and loads of them with all the resources here. It''s mind boggling. Hello! We''re willing to pay top dollar and yet have to deal with substandard rushed care? I think not! LOL

Also, since I want you to be totally comfortable... he had a very nice nerdy vibe which I appreciated. I didn''t want some slicked back highlighted hair male OBGYN with a spray tan and plucked eyebrows looking at my nether regions. Hahahaha! That would have made me feel weird. He was very nerdy and kind. Kind nerdy. I can deal with that! (OK, please never tell him about this site or that I called him Kind Nerdy! I do so only to put your mind at ease!) Any other questions, Bella - fire away!

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Ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!!!!! YES! That is exactly what I meant. I don''t want any spray tan near my nether regions!

My experiences with male gyns to date include:

1. The guy that did my ultrasound, NOT TELLING ME IT WAS A PELVIC
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(ok so he was an ultrasound tech, but still...)
2. The guy who did a proceedure on me when I had the 6 weeks of horrible uncontrollable uterine bleeding which I mentioned on the MC thread (he spent 10 minutes trying to ram a normal sized speculum into me when I kept repeated telling him that it wouldn''t work, I wasn''t/hadn''t yet been sexually active and really did need the kid sized one!
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3. The other two Drs in my current gyno''s office, one who told me to deal with the uterine bleeding that was so sever it was bleeding through the giantest pads imaginable in the time it would take me to walk across the room. he told me, "well just go to the ER if your lips turn blue and you have breathing problems"
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and the other guy in the practice who, when I got a false positive in october, acted like I was an idiot when the office test came back negative...
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How hard is it to find great Drs in NYC!!!!????

I like my current Dr well enough, but I can''t stand the other Drs in her practice, so Mr. Kind and Nerdy here I come
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Bella, I am
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on your behalf hearing these horrible stories! And yet I believe them!

OMG, this reminds me of my last dentist in NY. I have had the worst time finding an awesome dentist and finally found one! Let me know if you need one because I take dental care very seriously (having had the most marvelous dentists ever) but when I moved here, I was traumatized!!! Took me years to find an awesome one - who LOVES teeth and is a kind wizard as well. Now all of my friends go - I consider an awesome dentist to be the holy grail. I am considering never moving because of this dentist! Haha! Very clean, very nice UES office and a staff that has been there 20+ years. Can't say enough good things about them! Whew...

SUPER BIG HUGS after your awful experiences with those mean awful people! GAH!!!
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Wow-I''ve never seen so many angry icons:-)

Yes, I would LOVE a dentist rec, esp. if they take Delta Dental Premier...my last and only dentist visit in NYC (OMG I think it''s been 2 years
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) I felt like the dentist was hitting on me. Maybe he''s just that much of a dolt, but I was really uncomfortable and haven''t been back
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You''re like my personal medical screener now:-) I love it!

Also, I saw your edit above and am so sorry that your FIL said something so hurtful. I know it can be difficult dealing with relatives with foggy memory and more severe forms of alzheimers and dementia, but it still hurts. You are so kind and gracious to respond the way you did!

We''re starting to get a lot of people saying things like "when are you going to have a kid" ''why don''t you have a kid yet" "don''t you want kids" and we''ve only been married 4 months...I''m like, we''re working on it
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but it''s starting to smart a little, and I think in a few months it will feel more painful. I never realized before how those little seemingly innocuous comments can really start to hurt!
 
Have we hit a lull with regard to testing, ladies? I'm used to all the excitement we've had around here lately. Looking forward to its return!

I guess I should explain that I do realize most people's comments are not meant with any ill-intent at all. It's easily understood, as most people don't deal with a long wait in growing their family. While it's understood, that doesn't always translate to lacking emotions based on those comments. Aye, life's a constant opportunity to grow, and this is one of the benefits of TTC, I suppose. We get to grow in many ways. :)

Here's something new I'd never heard along the lines of TTC: as we all know, everyone has a theory as to how to conceive, what methods to try, etc. Well, a friend of mine at work is from an agricultural background and she said you have to follow the almanac. I kind of looked at her weird (isn't that to tell you about the weather??) and she whipped out this calendar that has all kinds of notations on each day.... it's related to the moon's phase, signs, cycles, and she pointed out a section on each day that says, based on signs, what part of the body is "anchored" for that day. I just kind of looked at her again, not getting it. She said that if you're going to have surgery, you want it to be the furthest from the part of the body that the operation is to be had (ex: if you're having teeth work, you need to schedule it for when the signs are in the feet, the furthest from the feet). She said it works the same way for when to breed, only you want to be the closest to the "loins" or the "thighs" on those days. Haha. So many theories out there!! Anyway, for what it's worth, the signs are in the loins on Friday and Saturday, she told me. And then the thighs Sunday and Monday, I believe she said. I smiled and said, "Okay." Kinda odd, but I guess it works for cattle?

Which leads to another question... is it just me or does it seem like dogs more often end up preggo when they go into heat than we do when we're ovulating? Is this because dogs/animals drop more than one egg more often that humans do, thus making the chances of procreation higher? The things that run through this mind of mine....
 
Date: 1/25/2010 7:00:04 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly


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Bliss,

Yay! So happy that your cycle''s starting up again. Yippeee! I will be praying that your cycles regulate quickly, so that when you''re ready to start ''going at it'' again, you can without any complications or confusion (thinking the same for you, HOU, too!!)

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Fisher, thank you! :) This 1st post-MC cycle has been relatively normal for me, except a little heavier right at the beginning than usual, and today, on CD4, it abruptly stopped and I had zero bleeding, which was a little strange. I''m wondering if it''ll come back tomorrow.
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It sounds like you''re doing well and in a good place mentally with regard to all this TTC craziness...and I''m glad to hear it!! :)

DUST all around ladies! I can''t talk long tonight but I''ll be sending preggo vibes to everyone for a Fabulous February!!
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Just popping in to say hello to Fishie.

It''s so good to see you around, girl! Know that I think of you often...
 
Yes this is definitely the lull before the TWW for most of us. I am only on CD6
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but the BD marathon will be here before I know it. I am still taking my temps and using some cheap opt I ordered from the internet with the hopes of catching my surge. I can''t wait for the excitement of "phantom" pregnancy symptoms to start. I know I will be the first one to shout. "I am soooo tired, I am sure I am KU" :) I hope so. Lots of baby dust to everyone waiting for their BFP this month!!!!
 
Hey ladies! Feb will be awesome!!! Lots of Valentine''s babies, I hope!

HOU, this is craaaaazy but I stopped abruptly on CD4, too! So eerie! Nothing last night, nothing this morning! I guess it''s true what they say about AF being weird after a m/c! But the uncanny thing is - we both had the same thing happen! Ohhh, I hope we get KTFU at the same time and go on to both have really healthy pregnancies.
 
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