The Official TTC Thread!

[brightlight]

Welcome lilyfoot!

Dcgator, I’m so sorry for the roller coaster of emotions you’ve had to go through!Thanks for keeping the list updated.Sending you lots of dust!

Ryan Claire, thanks for understanding.I felt so horrible that DH kept asking me what was wrong.I hope your new OBGYN and RE can give you some answers.

Smurfy, I agree that you should try testing again.

Amandine, welcome!I hope this is your month and you have a Feb baby.

Hou, I hope you feel better soon.Beautiful BFPs!!!I hope to have a collection like yours soon!

Charbie, glad AF came!I look forward to cheering you on whenever you’re ready to start TTC again!

Bella mezzo, I think you’ll be fine if you BD every two to three days especially now that you have the Instead cup to keep all the swimmers from escaping.Btw, I tried elevating my legs after BDing and there were a lot fewer escapees!I think with that and the Instead cup, you should have plenty of suitors competing for your egg. I'm sticking with elevating my legs this month, but I may join you in using the Instead cups next month if I don't get a BFP this month. I understand fearing the unknown.Sometimes, I wonder if I waited a few years too long too.

Bliss, you’re so funny!I’m so happy you’re sticking around to cheer us on.You’re one of those rare people who has that special joy that just radiates from inside, and it shines through even over the internet.Your baby is so blessed to have you as a mama!

Today was a bit of a rough day for me emotionally.

I just randomly felt overwhelmed today by TTC. There are just some days where I become overwhelmed by this love I have for our baby that hasn't even been created yet. Once you make the decision to TTC, it just opens up this whole new world of love that didn't exist for you before. I'm due to ovulate, so I think it's hormones.

 

[brightlight]

Btw, can someone please explain to me PS 2.0? I thought everything would just switch over to an updated version, but I see people have been posting on PS 2.0? Is it a different website?

 

[Bella_mezzo]

Oh Brightlight!!!!! Big hugs to you!!! I''m sorry that you had a rough day. TTC can be really overwhelming emotionally on so many levels. It is going to happen for you, it just may take longer that you think ( but I think this is going to be the month for you

)

PS 2.0 didn''t work well, so we are back to PS 1.0 until the bugs are fixed.

 

[HOUMedGal]

Bella, you *want* the instead to be high, because if the backside of the ring isn''t back behind your cervix, it''s not in the right place and not doing its job!! When you''re ready to take it out (maybe tomorrow a.m.?), just use one finger, hook it around the edge of the ring, and pull. It''ll come out easy, I promise.

Gooood luck with the "golden hour" tomorrow!!!

Hello, BrightLight! It is definitely an emotional roller coaster, isn''t it?? I can definitely relate. Sometimes it hits me, after I''ve gotten lost in the details of temping, charting, OPK''s, TWW, etc. that what we are doing is AMAAAZING and sooo special. We''re creating LIFE. WOW. And what a huge, immeasurable blessing when that new life begins. I wish you nothing but the best, and I''ll be watching for some beautiful BFP''s from you!! Hopefully very soon!!

Yeah, like Bella said, PS 2.0 was only up briefly, but apparently there were bugs, so we''re back to the old version for now. Like a comfy old pair of jeans.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

I will wait one more day to test, it eventually came today but was only tinting the toilet paper pink. Like seriously, that is not normal for me. I dunno, it''s all strange. I''ll ask dh what he thinks when he gets home from church choir practice...

 

[Po10472]

Well the champagne is back out the fridge.

I started spotting and af arrived with a crash yesterday. Can''t believe it, since my faint lines on 10 and 11dpo, I decided to hold off poas until Saturday to be sure, I was so excited as was dh. Guess it was a chemical pg. Mother nature can be so cruel at times, particularly with the last 2 weeks I''ve had. DH very upset as this was something to look forward to.

Anyhoo, going to have a break for a month as I''m just wiped and we''ll start again in a few weeks. Hopefully by then we''ll have both recharged our batteries and be in a happier place to try again.

Soooooooo, cd2 and a new beginning - pma all round.

HGal, love seeing your lines doll!!

 

[Bella_mezzo]

PO-I m so sorry! You and DC Gator both this month TTC/AF/the whole process just sucks sometimes!!!

I hope that you have a rejuvenating few weeks and can start back when you feel ready.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Big hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

 

[HOUMedGal]

Po, I am so very sorry.

It just sucks to get your hopes up only to have them crash down. Big hugs to you. I hope you enjoy your champagne and your month off to get your head back into the right place. The good news is that even if this wasn''t your month, it looks like at least your eggie and his swimmers met and did their thing, right??

Maybe they just needed a practice run, and next time it''ll be smooth and perfect and you''ll have a BFP that sticks!! I sure hope so.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Po I''m sorry hon. And you too DC.

Bella Do not laugh, it clenches the old pelvic muscles and can expel the swimmers

Hou I''m great! Thanks! And congrats to you!

Bliss TTC guru... I''ve been called worse!

Congrats to you too!

 

[geri]

Hi ladies

DCG, Houie, Bliss – Thanks for thinking of me. Sorry I’ve been AWOL. We’ve been having a bit of a rough time. We had our third consecutive loss a couple of weeks ago

. I conceived on our honeymoon (another April BFP although I didn’t share at the time) and I thought maybe the stars were aligned and it was my time, but apparently not. So now we are in testing phase to see if they can find a cause. Nothing unusual has shown up yet but not all the results are back. My OB says it’s rare to find the “smoking gun” and just keep trying. Helpful, not. I’m a bit all over the shop because for the first time I’ve had to really contemplate that there is something wrong (or maybe just age) that means this may never happen. I have appointments with two specialists in the next few weeks so will see what they say. I didn’t want to post since all the news has been so positive and I didn’t want to be a downer. But despite all of this I love checking in on my fellow TTCers and I’m so excited for all the BFPs, but especially for Houie, Bliss, Noel and LV

.

Po – I’m so sorry. It is just heartwrenching to get your hopes up and then have them crushed. Hugs to you and DH.

A quick hello and lots of dust to everyone else.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 5/20/2010 9:10:57 PM
Author: Bliss


Ohhhh, your DH''s Phelps might be meeting your eggie right this moment!


Phelps: Hey, beautiful. What''s up?

Eggie: I''m having an Ovulation Celebration.

Phelps: Oh! Then I got here just in time!

Eggie: Where are you from?

Phelps: I''m from a faraway land in a town called Testes. But I arrived in a vessel called Instead Cup.

Eggie: That sounds like a very nice place!

Phelps: Well, you know... I like this place, too.

Eggie: Fallopia? It''s a magical world... In fact, I just got here, too.

Phelps: I think it''s fate. Wanna dance?


LOLOL

BAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That made me laugh so hard I peed! Thank god for pantie liners! Start stocking up now ladies...

Smurfy-definitely test!!!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Po-I''m so sorry hun...

Gerri-What devastating news. How are you holding up? Please don''t give up hope. My mother had a problem with recurrent m/cs (my older brother was conceived with medical intervention, I was natural but her #9 pregnancy and my little brother was natural but #11), the diagnosis was a generic "inhospitable uterus." They never knew what was wrong with her but with exception of my older brother, she was able to conceive 2 more healthy children with no medical intervention. Sometimes the odds are just not in your favor, but it will happen when it''s meant to. **hugs**

 

[lilyfoot]

Bliss - Thank you for the welcome! I have to say, I would''ve never thought I would want to be anything with the word "jerk" in it, haha

But thank you for your well wishes!

brightlight - Thank you!

po - I''m sorry

geri - Please, as HH said, don''t give up hope! I''m sorry you''re dealing with this issue!

 

[Puppmom]

Geri, I''m so sorry about what you''re going through. I know how disappointing it can be each month you try and you''re not pregnant. But to get a positive and have it ripped from you, that''s just...not fair to put it mildly. I hope you''re able to find the cause and that you soon get a sticky sticky BFP. Take care of yourself.

 

[plantationcatt]

Just wanted to let you ladies know I finally caught up on TWO weeks of posting and just wanted to say CONGRATS to the ladies with BFPs!

And, DUST DUST DUST to my ladies still busy baby-dancing.

Thinking of all of you...



ps. geri, thank you for asking (two weeks ago) about my Mom...she''s doing well and is thrilled to be looking forward to grandmotherhood. You''re in my thoughts...lots of BFP permanence dust.

 

[HOUMedGal]

Ohhh Geri, I am so sorry. ((((HUGS)))) to you. I am glad you are getting the appropriate medical attention, and I do hope you get some answers, or if no answers at least a beautiful sticky bean. The answers wouldn''t matter as much then. I don''t know if it''s any consolation, but I think it''s a positive that it seems you and DH have no problem getting pregnant! Now we just have to figure out how to *keep* you pregnant. I still have a really good feeling for you....I feel like your sticky bean is soon to come. I will continue to pray for you and keep you and your DH in my thoughts.

Man, this TTC journey is NOT easy, is it? Sometimes I am just so impressed with how well we all manage to deal with the difficulties along the way....whether it be difficulty getting pregnant in the first place, or difficulty with losses....much respect for all my girls!!

Plantation - hey lady! How you doin??

 

[Bella_mezzo]

(((((((((((((((((((((Geri))))))))))))))))))) I am so sorry! I hope that the Dr.s are able to find some helpful information and that a sticky bean is just around the corner for you!!!

 

[noelwr]

hi geri. I often think about you. I in no way can imagine what you must be going through. I keep telling myself that if it doesn't "stick" this time, I'll probably give up. you have such amazing courage. I am in awe of you.

 

[dcgator]

Hello my friends,

Happy FRIDAY! Yeah for Fridays. I am sooo happy to have another weekend within reach

. I hope everyone has some great plans for the weekend, including of course any BD''ing marathons, or just plain old fashion non-TTC fun, like happy hour

Fiery: Thanks for thinking of me sweetie. Btw, I saw the pics of your little Sophia, she is SO tall and too cute in her monkey pj''s

Bliss: Hello there little mama. Thanks for the happy thoughts. It is pretty devasting to get the positive then negative, but that''s just the way it went this month. But, when doesn''t kill us makes us stronger, right? I have just bought some Instead Cups and Preseed and am going to get ready for the next BD''ing marathon in a couple weeks. And I really hope that daddy book doesn''t get too dusty hiding in my closet before I can use it

Btw, I

all your stories and jokes. You just make this whole process so much more cheery and of course you have me rolling around on the floor laughing

Bella: Do we really have anything TMI in here, lol

. I think that is great that you had such a wonderful time with your DH. And they do say that if you can get some *ehem "satisfaction" from the whole process, that it makes it easier for the little guys to go towards the big prize, so who knows, maybe this is just what you needed

. I hope that you have as much fun the rest of the weekend

Houie: Don''t let my non-results overshadow your awesome BFP. I am so very happy for you.

And for the time being, I am more than happy to live vicariously through your happiness. And yes, hopefully the OB can give me some new advice, etc. Oh, btw, I totally bought some Wondfo''s for the next month, per your recommendation. And, I really love that thought of creating life versus getting pregnant. Sometimes we just need to think of things in the proper light. Here''s hoping for some colorful results next month!

Brightlight: I am happy to be keeper of the list, no problem. I understand the whole overwhelming nature of the TTC roller coaster, it just plain old sucks sometimes. But, soon it will be your time dear. Just keep thinking happy thoughts, and one day they will come true

Thanks for the dust and here is some right back at you

Btw, the 2.0 was the new website and for a time, both were essentially running b/c some people''s computers were confused where to go to. But, everything is on one site now.

Smurfy: I am not sure what''s going on with AF for you, but I hope that she figures her mind out one way or another. If she doesn''t appear for real, I would take a test though. Good luck!

Po: I am so very sorry about the whole thing. I totally understand that mother nature can REALLY play some cruel tricks with us. I know it doesn''t compare to everything else that has happened that last few weeks, but it is still heart wrenching. I hope that your month off brings you and your DH some much needed relaxation and peace and that you can start this process again in a few weeks with a lighter heart.
BIG (((((HUG)))))

Geri: I am really so very sorry to hear about your early losses. I sincerely hope that the specialist will be able to be more helpful than your OB (not cool btw) and that they can shine some light on the subject. And don''t ever feel like you can''t post here. TTC is a roller coaster, and it involes all emotions, from the highs to lows. We are here to share your feelings though all of it. Please let us know how it goes and hang in there missy. This road really sucks sometime, but it''s the final destination that makes it all worth while. Some roads are shorter, and some roads are longer, but we all get there, one way or another. For those of us on the long/bumpy road, walking with friends will make the path seem shorter. SUPER BIG (((((HUG)))))

*****
Well, here I am, at 14DPO and waiting for AF. AF usually shows up between 12-14DPO, so it her proper fashion, she seems to be making some dramatic and annoying entrance

. Oh, btw, as embarassed as I am to say this, I took another HPT this morning since AF insists on being on the later end sans symptoms and I just want to be sure before I go into an adult beverage-included weekend. It was BFN. So, the waiting continues. Btw, if this really was a chemical pregnancy, geez, how long till AF comes. And if I am one of those wierd woman who don''t get BFP''s till like 18DPO, "you''re killing me Smalls". Ah, the joys of TTC, lol.

I hope everyone has a fabulous weekend and hopefully I will have some more clarity in the next day or two.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

No need to test, AF is raging pissed at me. Not sure what I did to her but she is making my Friday morning as uncomfortable and crampy as possible....what a jerk

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Smurfy, bummer, but it happens. Maybe next month you should try to take it easy and not read into every little thing your body is doing (or not doing). Trying to ''read the signs'' will drive you insane very very quickly, and seeing as how there is a school of thought that connects the mind with the body, theoretically you could be jinxing yourself by trying too hard.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

Date: 5/21/2010 12:00:04 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
Smurfy, bummer, but it happens. Maybe next month you should try to take it easy and not read into every little thing your body is doing (or not doing). Trying to ''read the signs'' will drive you insane very very quickly, and seeing as how there is a school of thought that connects the mind with the body, theoretically you could be jinxing yourself by trying too hard.

That''s a great point hh, hopefully it won''t be too hard. We''ve got so many fun family gatherings, a wedding, a family golf tourny, etc. and things going on at work that I might not even have time to think about it!

 

[ChinaCat]

Hugs to Po and Geri.

 

[Bliss]

Oh Po, I am so sorry about the chemical pregnancy. Oh, that is so hard... I would be so sad, too. (((HUGS))) I talked to many women after my mc and so many told me that their first pregnancies were mc. I have no idea why, but it almost seemed like the body didn't quite figure it out and everything clicked the next time. I don't know... I remember a wise PSer wrote that when it happened to me and I felt comforted in knowing that 1. I could get pregnant (which is a huge hurdle) and 2.) There is hope. It is a good thing that you and your DH are able to conceive quickly, and I know you will have a sticky bean soon. Sending you prayers.

Geri, I am really sorry about your loss. This is so devastating. I am praying for you and sending you positive thoughts for your specialist's appointment. I don't know why this happens to such incredible women. You will be a mother to a beautiful baby. I'm so sorry the road is so hard to get there, but when you are holding your baby in your arms... it will all have been worth it. Nothing takes away a loss, they are in our hearts forever. But new joys can ease the hurt and give us hope. HUGS

 

[Smurfysmiles]

Odd question- does anyone else here have a permanent brace behind their teeth from when they had braces? Does this make your mouth taste metallic-y. And if so, do you know of a way to get rid of it? It's really annoying...Seriously, my body is really messing with my head right now. But it would be good to know that there is an explanation for this and this is the first thing I thought of...Omigosh is today over yet? I need more ice cream...lol I really don't but I do want some haha

 

[Bella_mezzo]

Squee!!!!!! Since I''ve ventured so far into TMI territory there is nowhere to go but more TMI


I took out the Instead cup last night after about 3 or 4 hours b/c I laughed and coughed and it shifted some and became uncomfortable. I had a couple moments of panic b/c I couldn''t get it out at first, but if you bear down and squat it helps (so gross, but really that was the only way this was coming out...)

I hadn''t seen much if any CF this cycle, so I was a little worried and was doubting the OPKs, anyway, when I took out the Instead there was a bunch of CF and some man juice leftovers and goodness knows what else on it, but since it was all mixed up I didn''t really register it.

Today I am like a fountain of long, stretchy, clear, EWCF--definitely not man juice or preseed. So, 1. I think today is still a good day for BDing, which is good b/c we have an after work rendezvous planned 2. If his swimmers do their thing, there should be some good "ladders" to help them along.

Even if we don''t get pregnant this cycle I feel optimistic b/c it''s like things are finally starting to work right and I think we''re figuring out the BDing thing so that it works with our schedules and DH''s apnea.

So, YAY

End of TMIness (at least for today

 

[Ryan Claire]

Geri - so sorry to hear about the difficulties you have been having. It must be so hard to get your hopes up only for disappointment. I hope you are hanging in there. I hope your test do reveal a "fixable" issue.

Po - so sorry about your chemical pregnancy too. It is a cruel experience, especially after all your family has been through. Hugs.

Dcgator - sorry the wait continues. Seems like some sort of cosmic joke... a bad one. Hoping for either a BFP or definitive AF so you can get back to it.

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CD82 - BLAH

So I had my OB appointment... and I am interested in any and all input. The OB prescribed me more provera+ clomid (100mg). It will be my second round (first round at 50mg was unsuccessful). If I start the provera today - I will probably be around CD18 when my RE appointment comes around in June. Soooooooo what would you do?

a) Take the provera and clomid and then just let the RE know where I am at with things
b) Abstain from the provera and clomid in order to wait for the RE appointment


The anal part of me says to take it and see what happens... I will be on vacation during the presumptive fertile window so that is kinda cool.... and if I ovulate - super and then the RE will have that info. Even if I don''t - that is more information for the RE to work with.

But the more rationale part of me says to wait until the RE appointment so that she can run her tests and get a better snapshot of what is going on with me (no ovulation since I went off BC in September). My fear would be that the Clomid would somehow effect the test results or mask a problem that would be detected otherwise.

For those of you have been to REs - do they do an u/s or take blood that first appointment? Do you think it''s wise to hold off?

Thanks ladies - definitely stressing about this one...

(I am going to re-post this question in general Family and Home for good measure)

 

[brightlight]

Bella: Thanks so much for the support! I don''t know why, but I have a really good feeling about you this month - even more so than for myself! Everything seem to be coming together for you at the right time this cycle! Enjoy the BDing tonight! Btw, there''s no such thing as TMI!!! I do it all the time.

Hou: Thank you also for the support! It really is amazing, isn''t it? When you think about evolution and how everything started with one cell, it doesn''t really hit home until you think about it in terms of the sperm and the egg and how they quickly turn into this beautiful baby. I hope this very special time is everything you hoped for and more!

Po and Geri: I''m so sorry. How heartbreaking. You two are so strong and brave. Hugs to both of you.

Dcgator: I''m thinking extra happy thoughts for you!

Smurfy: Bummer! If it makes you feel better, my cycles were consistently 28-29 days until we started TTC. As soon as we started, everything about my cycles started getting inconsistent. I''m hoping since we''ve been TTC for several months now that my nerves have settled and things will get back to being more consistent. I think when you start TTC, you pay so much more attention to your body that you start noticing things you didn''t before but were probably there all along.

Ryan Claire: I don''t really know anything about fertility drugs, but I guess it depends on how patient you want to be. You''ve been such a patient woman already! I''m wondering if you can call your RE before your appointment and ask your RE''s opinion as to whether the drugs would mask any problems.

 

[brightlight]

Thanks to everyone for explaining PS 2.0 for me. I was confused b/c I didn''t notice anything different but I kept reading about people who were using the new website. My browser must have just kept sending me to PS 1.0.

 

[Ryan Claire]

Thanks Brightlight - I did call. And to be expected they said they could not give me advice before seeing me or make any predictions about how the medication would effect my test results. It makes sense that they would not give out advice without having all the background info - but a hint would have been nice.