What have you obsessed about?

[AMESD]

I''m stressed about the white flowers looking "yellow" next to my white dress. Is this crazy? Thoughts?

 

[Octavia]

Right now, I'm obsessing over setting a date. I can't go into all the details, but we're trying to have an October '09 wedding and may not know until this time next year whether we can do it or not (job-related reasons). And I want to set our date sooner than that, not only because I just want to know what day we're going to be married, but also because it's going to make finding a venue hellish...

And my second obsession is finding a reasonably priced venue. It's appalling how much anyplace that can hold 125 people charges in this area. I just want a nice wedding, not extravagant, just tasty food and fun with our family and friends. But I can't imagine spending $15K+ on that, and I can't figure out how we're going to do it for less around here unless I can find a "hidden gem" somewhere. AAGGHH.

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

Really, I am just obbsessed with getting this wedding over with. Of the three things I actually cared about, none are working, so I REALLY just want to be done with it. If I talk about it, this will beocme a vent, but it''s looking like I may have no ring, no honeymoon and I will be standing there naked on my wedding day.

 

[Sassee]

I''ve got about 4 months left until my wedding (June 7 - a long weekend in Australia).

I am obsessing (or is it stressing?) about:

a) looking good in my dress - I don''t need to lose weight but I want to be fit and toned. My gym efforts are constantly thwarted by long hours at work and social activities so I am getting nervous that I am running out of time and I''ll forever look at my photos and hate my arms (I know objectively that they aren''t that bad, but I want to look the best I can as every bride does)

b) fitting in a hair and make up trial. Hair is ok because its my usual HD, but MUA is busy with television work and I''m just wondering when I''m going to go and see her, and whether I should have an occasion to go to (to justify the expense of a trial) or just pay for it and get it done, without worrying that I''ll just go straight home and clean it off instead of going somewhere glam!!

c) my FH - getting suits organised, getting his groomsman organised (both interstate), choosing a ring. Basically EVERYTHING involving him, because so far, he has done nothing and keeps saying "yep, we''ll do it next week". I am locking in 1 March and will drag him kicking and screaming if I have to!

d) my invites - I have a style in mind. Its the wording that is causing me grief. (we want a degree of formality but not too archaic). Also, can''t finalise them until we definitely know the dress code, and that to a large extent, is going to be dictated to by (c) above - i.e. what my hubby ends up wearing. He is saying "strictly black tie". I want him in a formal suit but with an ivory self-stripe waistcoat and an ivory fat boy tie (I think it will suit him better than a standard tux with a black bow tie). So, is that "strictly black tie, even if the groom isn''t in black tie?"... ARRGGGHH?? So confused! Will wait and ask the formal hire places I think!

e) my FMIL - she said to my father very early on in the engagement that she would like to contribute a monetary sum. Dad has not heard a thing from her again. Its kind of getting embarrassing. Its not that he is relying on the money (and in fact, was fine about paying for the lot - it was me that didn''t want that, so we''ve compromised and my fiance and I are paying about 1/3) but its the fact that she has come out and said it but then... nothing. She is cr*pping on and on at the moment about a big trip to Spain and Portugal that she is going to do in May (a month before the wedding) and now I''m wondering whether cash flow is an issue? She is hardly struggling, so i''d be surprised. Its just getting awkward because Dad won''t go and approach her about it (he''d be mortified and would consider it incredibly gauche) and she''s not saying anything - so its become a bit of a silent stand-off. I''m the one that wants it resolved, just so that we know what we are dealing with $$$ wise with less than 4 months to go before the wedding. I suspect, based on past behaviour, that she''ll just write a cheque for an amount she sees fit (which is absolutely fine - whether it be $1,000 or $10,000 we will just be grateful for the contribution) and quietly hand it over to my dad at some stage. I''m trying to get the family together over Easter to encourage some sort of discourse. LOL

As for my dress (being designed and made from scratch) - I''m not worried at all, because I know its going to be divine! Shoes are being made (silk satin ivory peep toes with swarovski tear drop crystal embellishments). Bridesmaids (x2) are having divine silk satin wrap dresses made (with a big sash) in a gorgeous steel blue. Flowers and centrepieces are going to be gorgeous and I have a wedding planner for 10 hours on the day. The reception is being held at a restaurant with great food and the wine will be lovely as we are going to pay on consumption and just have a limited selection (i.e. a great champagne, a sauvignon blanc and a chardonnay, a burgandy (pinot - my husband''s own from his vineyard) and a cabernet or syrrah etc). So the big ticket issues (for me anyway!) are sorted, its just (a) - (e) that is stressing me out and turning me obsessive!!!

Apologies for the ridiculously long post!