When is it to soon to buy a dress? please help

[Mrs.soontobealfonzo]

I found this dress online the other day, and its been my screensaver. lol I''m so inlove with it and i''ve made an appointment to try it on on the 18th of this month, and Im really excited. But Im scared also. How about if it is the dress, and I get it now. We are getting married 2 years from now. I told my mom about the dress and she told me she will buy it for me, and if I dont get it now and dont find it again im going to kick myself in the butt for not buying it now.

2 months ago I went to the try on some dresses from the same designer for fun and I loved the way his gown fit me. So Im pretty sure im going to love the fit. Has anyone bought a dress this early and how did it work out.

Please help
thanks girls

 

[ammayernyc]

Personally, I think it''s two soon. Think of all the great new styles that will come out within that time.

 

[musey]

For myself, I would know that 2 years ahead of time would be too soon to buy a dress... because my tastes change like any other person, possibly faster, and that particular dress is definitely rather "trendy." So for me, unless it was a very classic style that I "fell in love" with, I wouldn''t more than 9 monthsish ahead of time.

But it really doesn''t matter whether or not 2 years ahead of time would be too soon for any of us--If you are absolutely in love with the dress and the whole "fashion" element is a non-issue to you, then you should do whatever you feel is right!

 

[neatfreak]

Let''s put it this way. In the past MONTH of being engaged alone, I have changed my idea about what kind of dress I wanted THREE TIMES. I''m in the opposite situation, as I''m getting married this fall and needed to make a decision ASAP. I finally found THE DRESS this week, but if it weren''t a "one time" chance to buy it, I might still be looking because I keep changing my mind.

I would totally wait if I were you. It''s likely that a dress like that could be found again if need be, but I think you''ll fall in love with something else by the time of your wedding.

 

[decodelighted]

Too soon. Pick-ups, as seen on that dress, have IMO a 97.7% chance of looking very dated two years from now.

You''ll. Be. Sorry.

 

[chicagolawyer]

So what do you guys think is the ideal time to do serious dress shopping?

I''m getting married in Aug ''08. I''ve never tried on wedding dresses before, but I don''t want to start shopping too soon.

 

[mela lu]

WAY.Too.Soon.

You''re excited, and that is a good thing

but I think you''ll be happier if you wait!

GL!!!

 

[sumbride]

Don''t buy a dress until you know:

1) the date of the wedding
2) the venue (with a signed contract!)
3) the time of the ceremony
4) the overall feel/scale of the wedding
5) your budget

You fall in love with a big ballgown but end up with a sunset ceremony on the beach in July? You''ll need a new dress... etc.. etc...

And I agree with the others... that dress, while lovely, may very well be completely out of style in 2 years. If you love the designer, pay attention to him, and when you have 1-5 done, see what he has then.

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 5/8/2007 2:45:02 PM
Author: chicagolawyer
So what do you guys think is the ideal time to do serious dress shopping?

If you''ve never tried on wedding dresses before & are just curious about shapes & styles on your body ... that''s totally cool in my book. But IMO you need to be tough with yourself & say no matter what I see I am NOT going to buy.

Serious shopping? A year ahead seems about right ... and even then its tough depending on how style concious you are. Do you really want to be "of the moment" or "what looks best on me". If it''s "what''s best on me" then a year ahead is more than enough time.

I''ll warn you though -- even then you might change your mind a few more times. There are a LOT of two dress brides around here. Me included! And I don''t mean CHANGING during the wedding ... I mean buying one dress and then loving another MORE ... & buying that one too!

 

[Mrs.soontobealfonzo]

decodelighted

you really bought another one? omg this is alot to think about. I myself know its to soon but I love the dress so much. How about if I dont find it ever again? I love every modern styles, so would it be best to wait? Should I go anyways ?

 

[Mrs.soontobealfonzo]

also what do you girl think about the dress ?

 

[neatfreak]

I bought two also! There are many of us out there, that''s why we''re all trying to warn you to wait.

Truthfully, I don''t think I could find a dress that is less my style, but if that''s what you love, that''s the kind of dress you should have. All that is important is if YOU love it.

 

[sumbride]

Date: 5/8/2007 3:09:27 PM
Author: Mrs.soontobealfonzo
How about if I dont find it ever again?

Is this a couture gown? Is it a "great deal"? Or is just a dress, carried by a boutique, that will still be carrying it next year?

There are very few occasions where you can''t find a dress again. Maybe you won''t find it for the same price, but since they are usually ordered from the designer, not bought off the rack, it''s really not that hard to find it again.

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 5/8/2007 3:09:27 PM
Author: Mrs.soontobealfonzo

you really bought another one? omg

How about if I dont find it ever again?

1. Yes. I really bought two dresses. Luckily the bridal salon split the cost of the 1st dress with me when the one I ordered didn''t come in quite right. Thus: dress #2.

2. Keep the picture. If you really still want that dress a year from now ... and the designer is no longer making it ... and you can''t find a gently used one on the MULTITUDE of resale sites .. you could ALWAYS have someone copy the style. It''s not life or death/ now or never. It just ISN''T!!!!!

 

[dtnyc]

I 2nd everyone above-
if it''s in an advertisement or online somewhere it won''t be tough to find in a year...

also I bought 2 dresses- both at a sample sale and I was able to sell the dress that I didn''t wear, but still it was a pain. I say wait a bit- start looking in the fall when the new lines have come out.

 

[E B]

I agree with everyone else who says 2 years before your wedding is way too soon. 9 months to a year seems to be about right.

Like neatfreak, I 'chose' four or five different dresses in the course of my dress shopping, but I waited until I was absolutely sure before buying the one. In my search, I went to ~10 different salons and tried on probably 50-75 gowns. By the time we bought (at 6 months out, which is cutting it close), I was absolutely sure.

Get out there, try on as many gowns as possible, and wait. Sleep on every single 'favorite' gown for a while. As soon as you know (which, for me, was loving everything about the gown including how it looked on me, and not wanting to change a thing about it), you'll know.

 

[InlovewithJHK]

I bought my dress a year before my wedding.... my tastes don''t change much though and I thought my dress was pretty classic (though it did have some pickups which people think are trendy- it was justina mccaffrey''s alexia II)... I had a hard time finding a dress that I liked (simple, strapless, but still with some umph) so when I found the one, I snatched it up. I think 2 years is a bit far off in so far as body changes (lose, gain weight) and if your tastes tend to change. However, you know you best

 

[So_happy]

Yes, 2 years is too soon. So much can happen between now and then. Your body could change, your tastes may evolve, and most of all........you really should AT LEAST have the budget set and the reception/ceremony sites booked so you know the general tone of the day. Wow....so much has changed for me and we only have a 10-month engagement! (I'm a 2-dress bride, too)

If you're itching for some weddign stuff to keep ya busy I wanted to assure you that having the "budget talk" and then finding the perfect venues will certainly do that for you!! This process alone could shave off 2-3 months what with the discussions, phone calls, site visits, dealing with minimums, gathering deposits, signing contracts, emails back and forth...........

However, my wedding planning evolution is unique as will yours be so of course do what you feel is right for you and your tastes. The dress you've picked out is very pretty but very formal IMO (and yes, trendy, but I too loved the pick up style at first so I don't blame you

) and wouldn't work quite as well in all settings. You would end up planning the wedding around your gown I think.


ETA: It does show a bit of cleavage tho, no?

 

[biblobaggins23]

i would wait. the "cupcake" dress style is about 2-3 years old. it''s a rather trendy dress, unless you don''t care about that. i

 

[staceybelle]

Another possible dilemma that can arise from buying your wedding dress that far ahead is sizing. It is definitely possible to gain/lose enough weight that the dress will no longer fit in two years, especially if you''re in school -- the first year of law school has done quite a number on my classmates & me weight wise, for example.

If you lose a significant amount of weight (as many brides do) you would have to have the dress taken in at a considerable cost. If you gain a significant amount of weight, you may end up being a two-dress bride because there''s not much you can do to make a dress bigger & still have it look presentable. It is much less of a headache to buy your dress when you''re closest to the size you will be on your wedding day.

I''m also in agreement with the previous posters who pointed out that the pick-up skirt has the potential to look dated two years from now. However, if you like it & want that as an element of your dress regardless, then don''t worry about whether it''s in style. Do what makes you happy.

 

[Gwyn]

I am so dissapointed to hear alll this talk of pick ups going out of style. I have been dreaming about one ever since I realized I was just too petite to wear toule.

Then again, i guess i had no idea they were "in style" so it probably wont affect me too much either way.

Call me crazy but, I would be worried about how much my body might change in 2 years to buy that soon. Not that my body has changed much in the last few so I guess its a pretty unfounded concern. but what if i broke my leg and then gained like 10 lbs...

As you can see im a worrier LOL

 

[poptart]

Date: 5/8/2007 6:48:07 PM
Author: Gwyn
I am so dissapointed to hear alll this talk of pick ups going out of style. I have been dreaming about one ever since I realized I was just too petite to wear toule.


Then again, i guess i had no idea they were 'in style' so it probably wont affect me too much either way.


Call me crazy but, I would be worried about how much my body might change in 2 years to buy that soon. Not that my body has changed much in the last few so I guess its a pretty unfounded concern. but what if i broke my leg and then gained like 10 lbs...


As you can see im a worrier LOL

Um... are you sure you just didn't find the right tulle dress? I am 4'11" and wear a 0/1, and I wore a tulle dress that looked great. Don't give up hope! Also, I tried pickups on, too, and I looked awful! Eep!

*M*

 

[poptart]

Mrs. Soon to be... I agree that you should wait. It''s a big purchase to make this far out without knowing other specific details of your wedding.

*M*

 

[Pandora II]

Way too soon. My wedding is July 2008 and so far I''ve only looked at wedding **** and seen which way my eye is taking me.

You asked what we think of that particular dress, so I''m going to be very, very honest here.

In my opinion the pick-ups will date very easily. I also don''t like the fabric in the skirt, it looks a bit like a meringue straight out of the oven, I think dresses look way better with a bit of movement in them. I felt some with that look at a bridal show I went to and they were rock solid - could be very heavy to carry around all day.

 

[robbie3982]

Way too soon! I started looking about a year before my wedding and still ended up being a 2-dress bride! I eventually sold the first dress, but definitely lost money on it. Styles change so much over 2 years. You should definitely wait.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I bought my wedding dress 14 months ahead of time with no regrets. When you know, you know. It is very pretty!

 

[RoseAngel04]

I agree 2 years is a little too early to make your dress purchase.

As a "pick-up" bride it is possible that this style will look somewhat dated in a few years...but in all realty I think ALL of our dresses will look dated 20 years from now....I absolutely LOVE the pick-up style and cannot wait to wear my dress on our wedding day.

 

[anchor31]

I will have had a 24 months engagement, but I will most probably order my dress 12 months in advance, just before school starts again. It''s hard to believe I''ve waited this long already! Like you, I''ve been dying to buy my dress for a very long time.

In the past 10 months I''ve changed my mind two times for the dress I want. For the second dress I was absolutely certain... until we changed the date, location, time of ceremony, colour scheme and formality of our wedding (ie. almost everything) 6 months into the engagement. Now I''ve found a perfect dress for our new wedding, it''s very simple and classic with a touch of colour, so I don''t think it will look out of style in a year.

I know it''s hard, but waiting for it is not so bad. I found that going dress shopping a couple of time helped "scratch the itch", and I''m not so impatient now.

 

[DMBsGirl]

Well, I''m not even engaged and have my dress, so not sure if i should be the one giving advice! lol (my engagement will likely be this summer, and wedding hopefully around 8 months after that.) In my situation, I found the dress on ebay, brand new, for about 1/4 the original cost. I couldn''t pass it up. It was a good decision for me, I love it and can''t wait to wear it. (I hope this doesnt change. In all honesty, I can''t see myself buying another dress when I have one that is so lovely and such a deal)
I like this dress you posted, especially the top part, very young and sexy. I''d say try it on, and if you love it, get it. But keep in mind that your tastes might change and you may end up with a wedding dress you can''t get rid of. If this does not worry you, then get it, you only live once!

 

[robbie3982]

Date: 5/8/2007 11:49:14 PM
Author: RoseAngel04
I agree 2 years is a little too early to make your dress purchase.

As a ''pick-up'' bride it is possible that this style will look somewhat dated in a few years...but in all realty I think ALL of our dresses will look dated 20 years from now....I absolutely LOVE the pick-up style and cannot wait to wear my dress on our wedding day.

This is so true! I look at the wedding pics of my FSILS whenever I''m at FI''s parents'' house (they''re hung on the walls) and even though it''s only been 10-15 years since they got married, they all still look very dated and they all had very different styles.