Anxious to get the engagement ring

[Tybee]

Oh My,

We all know so much, don''t we? What a dangerous thing knowledge can be! Now there''s so much more to worry about (like him not knowing enough.) In a way I wish that I was clueless again...I mean completely clueless, this ring thing can be obsessive. I''m not sure I like how much I''ve been thinking about it. Help! Guess I will have to do some serious chocolate therapy...

 

[sciencegeek]

Chocolate for all the crazy girls, I say

Have to do some actual work, but I''ll be back later. Sounds like frustrations are mounting (that was me on Wednesday, when I found out the ring will NOT be done for our anniversary next week and I came thisclose to starting a thread called Spoiled Brat Rant

)

 

[JCJD]

Choo-Choo - Just remember to explain exactly that you''re breaking his cologne and not his bones this weekend, so he should be thankful.

OK, in all seriousness, have you talked to him about how the waiting is killing you? Boys just don''t seem to understand this. They pride themselves on making the proposal a complete surprise, even at the expense of our feelings sometimes. Have you told him that you just want to move on to the next stage of your relationship, and the surprise element is detracting from the meaning of his proposal at this point? Good luck keeping your cool, and I REALLY hope you leave the club soon!!

sciencegeek - I hope everything goes as planned for your ring! I can''t wait to see the finished product!

yanekie - I totally understand about the whole "I want to like it, but you have to like it, but I still have to like it" argument you''re feeling. It''s not completely unrational either. You''ve got to wear it for the rest of your life, which he needs to be aware and considerate of, but he''s the one presenting the gift to you, so he can''t hate it either! For example, if you were allergic to nickel-alloys of white gold or something, but he hated yg and platinum and loved nickel-white gold, getting you a white-gold ring with nickel alloys would be terrible of him to do! He''s got to like it, but he has to get you something you''ll enjoy wearing too. I agree that knitting is a great hobby! I also like cross-stitching.

njc - I really wish I could be involved in the diamond selection too! He knows that I want a RB, I love the 3/8 ct solitaire, and he should invest in the cut not the carat weight. But despite my attempts to get him to pay attention to this site and educate himself about diamond characteristics, I don''t think he''s actually doing it either. Unfortunately, his jewelry track record isn''t too hot. His first jewelry purchase for me was a yellow gold necklace, which is pretty, but I don''t like yellow gold. He was informed of that preference, but his next jewelry purchase was yellow gold earrings, to "match the necklace". Again, pretty pieces of jewelry, but not my personal taste. He has been informed that if he proposes with a yellow gold setting, I''ll say yes and then drive him to the jewelry store immediately to return the ring for a platinum setting. And if he gets me white gold, I''ll say no because he knows I''m allergic to nickel and it''s really difficult to get non nickel alloys in the States. I''ve got faith in him this time (promise ring was good), but I still worry sometimes that he''ll end up getting a rock that doesn''t sparkle and is too big....

 

[JCJD]

sciencegeek - I''m sorry about the delay in your ring! It will all be worth the wait though, I''m sure.

tybee - Yay!! Chocolate for all! (Do we really need the excuse though?)

 

[goldengirl]

I think I''ve got something interesting to report!! I was having a Mary Kay party at my house last night, so me and four other girls are in the living room chatting it up... and he comes out, gives me a kiss, and says "I''m leaving, I have to run an errand." Which is strange, because he doesn''t use those words.. he always says "I have to run in to work" or "I''m going to the grocery" or whatever, but he TELLS me where he''s going. So "I have to run an errand" tripped my curiosity, and I ask him where he''s going.

And he gets this SNEAKY LITTLE GRIN and he says, "Nowhere, I''ll be back in 45 minutes." I yell after him as he''s leaving that he''s not allowed to buy poker chips (something he''s requested for Christmas, but I doubt if he''ll wait that long before he buys them himself, sigh) and he yells back, "I''m not shopping for ME!"

When he comes home I''m super-sweet trying to get it out of him where he''s been, but he won''t say and he''s not carrying any bags. I tease him that he was out buying me a present, and he says no, he didn''t BUY anything, again with the sneaky little smile.

Hmm. Interesting. And very sneaky sneaky!!

If you''d asked me in January, I''d have bet anybody money that I''d be getting engaged between September and December of this year. Our dating anniversary''s in Sept, and we started dating exclusively in November. And then, of course, Christmas. Lately I''ve begun to doubt that and I think maybe the question''s further off than I anticipated. But then he does stuff like this to make me think maybe it''s not as far off as I thought!!!

 

[yanekie25]

I wish you ladies were a witness to our most recent phone conversation. It''s was something like

Me: so did you like the stone Mark showed,
Him: yesh, Don''t get to attached to it.
Me: but it was really pretty, it might even be the "one", notice my language regarding this thing, crazy. Like there is only one perfect diamond out there for me
Him: maybe

How inconclusive was that????? I don''t know if I am going to make it. In the complete dark, I know it''s for the best

Njc, to your point he has done wonderfully with jewelry in the past. The only mishap was some studs, but it was only I would have gone bigger. It was exactly what I thought I wanted. In real life, I didn''t like them. I am too concerned that he will not get his money''s worth. What he is spending is a considerable sum, so I really want him to get the best he can. He is just not into shopping and I think for this kind of purchase you need to be. I will say I have put him in the trusted hands of some very good jewelers, so I think the stone is good, also he knows the setting, which I have posted pics of. I feel confident, but "the worst case scenario" in me gets to going. It''s odd since we both have the same fear, that I won''t like it, which we thought me shopping with him would qwell, but it didn''t, just caused undo stress.

sciencegeek, it''s a shame those jewelers don''t know, you are girl in waiting. Get a rush on it. sorry.

Tybee, I am all for chocolate

, and will be making a trip to the craft store to get that knitting on. Cross-stitch, sounds interesting.

Goldengirl, sounds like someone is going to be crossed off soon..

Okay, getting off pricescope now.

 

[goldengirl]

LOL, now I''m sure it''s really something like, he ordered me a pair of Rollerblades for Christmas. Or something TOTALLY different than what I am, admittedly, hoping.

Dang, I wish I could just be all nonchalant about it. Instead I''m going to end up a neurotic mess, absolutely convinced something''s going on that I don''t know about, trying to decode his every move and word. He''ll say "So what''s for dinner?" and I''ll read into it that he''s taking me to a five-star restaurant and TONIGHT''S THE NIGHT or something. LOL...

 

[sciencegeek]

Yanekie, sorry you''ve been removed from the selection process. It can be kind of a relief though. I''ve been completely utterly obsessed with my ring for at least the past month (when will the stone be here? how is the model? have you called whiteflash? have they called back? when will the ring be done??

)

I hope you get your ring soon!

 

[sciencegeek]

Date: 11/5/2004 11:43:53 AM
Author: yanekie25
Choo, I don''t think I could know its there. I would absolutely go crazy. I say through something small first.

He needs to like it, and not just because I like it, but I do need to like it.

I totally agree. I''m so glad we designed my ring together. Some elements were things I really wanted, and others were things I didn''t have strong opinion about but that he liked. In fact, I''m really happy with the way the whole process has turned out. Except for the waiting of course!!

 

[sciencegeek]

ChooChoo- got my fingers and toes crossed for you, girl!

And if it doesn''t work out, I say breaking dishes is quite a show

I would go absolutely batty if I knew the ring was in the house but I couldn''t have it. This is why BF and I have planned to have E-day: on the day the ring is supposed to arrive, we''re playing hooky from work together and are going to have a romantic daylong date then go out someplace fancy at night so I can show off my bling

Would have been nice if E-day was anniversary day, but $*@# happens I guess.

GoldenGirl- I''m hoping for you too!

I also have an unfortunate tendency to read too much into things, both good and bad things. This behavior does sound promising though

 

[goldengirl]

Okay, ladies, DEFINITELY have something interesting to report!!!! My dad called me last night to let me know he was booking a family vacation to Hawaii for November '05 and wanted to know if I'd be coming (of course!) and if I'd be bringing Kyle (of COURSE!) and if we'd be coming as married or single, because to my family that matters for sleeping arrangements and would effect which condos he made reservations for.

Well, we all know we love our guys and want to marry them soon, but most of us have

what "soon" translates into for them. So I had to call Kyle and ask. It went something like this:

Me: "Okay, bear with me cuz this is kinda a weird question, but, on a scale of 1 to 10, what are the odds we'll be married this time next year?"

He bursts out laughing and can't stop as I try to explain why I'm asking, but eventually squeaks out it would be about an 8.

Later we get to talking about it and he says of course it's likely we'll be married next year, since I told him when we first started dating that I'd only date a guy three years without a "real" commitment on the horizon and he's already used up one year. (His words.) I said I didn't mean we had to be MARRIED in three years, just that within three years I think you ought to KNOW if you DO plan to marry that person or not. And he just looks at me, all stunned, and says, "NOW you tell me!!!", but kidding-like.

!!!!!

ChooChoo--I'm sending ring vibes your way this weekend!!

 

[ChooChoo]

Something''s afoot!

My boyfriend called me from work yesterday, told me to take his suit and dress shirts, and a few nice dresses of mine, to the dry cleaners to be ready today. Said not to worry about the cost. He''s picking them up now. He also got a phone call this morning, didn''t answer, but then went into the other room to listen to the message.


Weird...

 

[sciencegeek]

Wow, things are really looking up! GoldenGirl, sounds like your time is drawing near

And ChooChoo, I''ve got money on tonight for you

It''s gonna be good if he has to be wearing a suit

 

[goldengirl]

AAAAAAAAAAA, ChooChoo!!!!!! There''s definitely some sneakiness afoot!!!

This *IS* your weekend, girl!!!!

 

[Tybee]

Oooooh,

fun fun fun! I''m sitting here writing a paper for school on a Saturday night and dropped by PS for some good news...hope it''s going to be you tonight!

(I cannot believe how giddy I get for you people when I don''t even know you! It''s really sweet to me how sweet everyone on this forum is!)

Okay, good thoughts going your way. Give us some exciting news.

 

[jenwill]

like there will be some GREAT news for you to tell us!

GoldenGirl- Also osunds liek things are moving at a quick clip for you!

For the rest of us, all I can offer is to send you some of my 'bed-time turn down service chocolates' (I have 5 more days until I get to go home...)

I know this is definitely not my weekend, as I am in New Orleans for work, and STBFH (soon to be FH) is in SF bay area.

The wife of one of his best friends was taling to me the other day, and said that her husband had starting ribbing my STBFH about why he was taking so long to propose.

Mine said to him...'well, it takes awhile to save up for a ring, we don't all get them from family (like his friend did).

Friend said to mine...'YOu have had your whole life to save....slacker)

So mine said to friend...'well, who knows maybe we'll just get married in Vegas' (we have a trip planned in December)


While I know we won't get married in vegas (although I wouldn't mind- the idea of planning and paying for a wedding kind of freaks me out) because he is much more traditional, now I am starting to wonder if 'it' will happen there. He was very pushy about getting it planned- and he never really cares that much what we do.


So who knows.


But I have enough chocolate for all- the turndown lady just handed me about 20 chocolates, and I just returned from Europe where I purchased much duty free Belgian chocolate.

 

[KBerly]

Choo, now you got me excited!! please hurry home with details

well, after you call everyone if that is the case!! can't wait to hear the scoop

 

[ChooChoo]

Nothing so far... but I AM ready to KILL him!!! AAAARRRGGH

 

[MelissaSue]

Choo Choo! You must have news for us.. You absolutely must!!!!!!!!!!! Oooh I really hope that this was your weekend.

 

[ChooChoo]

Well... I woke up... I went for a walk.. and... I GOT ENGAGED!!!

WOOOHOO!!!

Be back later tonight or tomorrow with details and pics!

 

[KBerly]

choo!! congratulations girlie! can''t wait to see pics and hear details... YIPPEE

 

[tlmd]

Congratulations! I''m so excited for you! Can''t wait to see pics and details!

 

[yanekie25]

Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!! CHOO!!!!!!!!!!!!! So, happy for you. Must come back with the juicy details.

 

[goldengirl]

YEAAAAAAAH, CHOOCHOO!!!!!

I''ve been refreshing this thread all weekend waiting for some news!! CONGRATS!! And I can''t wait for the proposal & pics thread!!!

 

[sciencegeek]

Congratulations ChooChoo!!! I knew it would be this weekend!

Can''t wait to hear the story and see the pics

 

[MelissaSue]

CONGRATULATIONS CHOO CHOO!!!!!!!!!! I hope it was worth all the waiting. Must hear the proposal story, and of course see pics of the ring on your finger!

 

[Tybee]

I just pulled a favorite shoe out of my puppy''s mouth, and boy was I cranky. I logged on to PS looking for something fun..and Hurrah! Good news!! Choo Choo..come on...I''m still mourning the loss of my shoe and I need some cheering up. POST pics NOW!!!!

 

[palmbaybabe]

CONGRATS CHOOCHOO!!!!!!

I am so happy for you, can''t wait to see pics and hear about the proposal

 

[fancyrock]

Oh.... CHOO, that is great news!! I''m thrilled for you. I haven''t signed on for a few days... and i was just wondering whose weekend it is to get engaged.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

OK, now... how long is this walk? COME BACK ALREADY.... so you can tell us the DETAILS!!!

 

[jenwill]

WOOHOO is RIGHT!

Congratulations ChooChoo- I am so happy that THE weekend was THIS weekend!