dani13
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Good grief!Date: 6/26/2009 4:15:19 PM
Author: fiery
So I need to vent about my MIL...again
At my shower this past weekend in the middle of one of my mom's games, she starts pounding her fists on the table and yelling out 'we want cake.' FI was mortified and told her to knock it off. And she, like a child, gets up to tell all the other children to yell it out as well. Before we knew it we had her in front of about 10 children yelling out 'we want cake.' FI got up and very firmly told her to sit down. She started crying. My mom stopped the game and served cake. My mom later came to me and was really sad and asked if she hadn't been a good hostess or planned things the right way. I don't know why MIL did that. She thought it was hilarious and had the nerve to say that FI was out of line in telling her to stop.
The other vent I have is once again about the day of plans. I took MIL to lunch with me on Monday just so I can discuss the plans with her. Up until then, I had been letting FI handle all of the conversations about her being in the delivery room. But I decided she needed to hear it directly from me. So I said that on the day, we will call her and her husband to meet us in the hospital but that was it. We'll have my mom, brothers (if they're in town), and them waiting with us. When we deliver, we'll be alone. The conversation went well...or so I thought. She said that she understood it was a private moment and she is really happy that FI will get to be there to witness his daughter's birth. But then she calls FI yesterday to complain that it isn't fair she can't call her mother, sisters, and neighbors () to be in the hospital to wait. I'm listening to this convo as its taking place and FI handled it well. But when they ended the conversation she said 'well, I don't care I'm calling all of them anyway.' FI says 'well then we just won't call you right away' and she started crying again
The whole thing makes me angry because if she wasn't so intrusive, things would be so different between us. If she had never just assumed that she had the right to be in the room or assumed that she can tell us how to handle the day of plans then my attitude about it would be much different.
We seriously need to move lol