Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

[rockpaperscissors67]

Mara, I don''t think you have to worry about your little boy doing too much position changing at this point. The only reason my guy can, according to the midwife, is because I''ve had so many kids so essentially my uterus is stretched out. NICE! That''s what every woman wants to hear.

JCrow, I give you props for wearing those boots -- they look awesome on you! I couldn''t wear them non-pregnant because I''m such a klutz. I have a sneaking suspicion that without the boots, you look skinny (but not in a bad way!).


So we got hit with the snowstorm and SO guesstimated that we have 6" so far, which is pretty much for this area. The snow is going to slow and stop for a bit and then pick up again later today before stopping tonight. It''s really beautiful, but such a pain. I don''t want to go out in it because I''m afraid of falling, so I''m using this time to continue my mad nesting.

Luckily, there''s a grocery store right across the street, so I don''t worry about us not having food.

SO''s mom called last night to tell us that she has the flu (not sure of the variety) and his dad is coming down with it, so SO had to go out to the farm this morning to feed the cows. The farm is about 45 minutes away out in the country and even though SO has a 4 wheel drive, I''m still worried. He called to tell me the plows went through and it''s mostly slush, which is good, but some people around here absolutely refuse to take it easy when the weather is bad.

It looks like the period of broken sleep has arrived. I''ve been up in the middle of the night the past few with my reflux acting up. Even though I take my Zantac before bed and sleep propped up on pillows, around 4 a.m., I have to get up and I''m wide awake. At least now work is over for the year, so it''s not a huge deal.

About things to avoid when you''re pregnant:

My comfort level has changed over the years so I do some of the no-nos. I eat lunch meat. I get my nails done (and I have gels). I get my hair highlighted and would color it if I wanted to.

I think the reason I''ve relaxed about these things is because I''ve come to the conclusion that babies are a lot hardier in utero than we give them credit for. Mother Nature *wants* these babies to survive.

Ok, enough of my rambling. I wonder if I have cabin fever already?

 

[KimberlyH]

Forbidden Pregnancy Things: The first time around I was pretty lax, but after miscarrying I became a bit more cautious. Logically I know that nothing I did caused the baby not to survive, but it makes me feel better, a bit more in control, and I''m not hurting myself by giving those things up (though my hair is certainly not looking its best!

) so I''m good with the choices I''ve made. I''m not sure what I''ll be like next time around. My husband doesn''t want me climbing on step stools along with a list of other strange things he feels the need to ban me from and lecturing me about doing. It cracks me up.

My nausea/heartburn is back, as I mentioned yesterday. I was not feels so well at all. Hopefully today is better I have to get busy. I couldn''t stomach much at all, ate two bowls of cereal (breakfast and dinner) and some cheese and crackers. The only thing that sounded really good was frozen yogurt, so we picked some up.

My girlfriend who found out she''s pregnant on Sunday miscarried yesterday. I''m sad I can''t be there for her as another of our friends is being induced today and I''m sure it will be tough for her to celebrate a new birth at the same time as she mourns here loss. She''s adament that it''s not so severe a loss as she only confirmed the pregnancy a few days ago; I don''t buy it, a loss is a loss, of hopes and dreams and all the things you feel when you find discover you are growing a new life.

 

[drk]

I still ride my bike occasionally at 29 weeks. I don''t feel like my centre of gravity has changed so much yet, and it''s just faster than walking. In another few weeks, I won''t want to any more cause the belly will be that much bigger. Good thing there''s no snow here - if there were any, I wouldn''t risk hopping on the bike.

I still feel like any loss is sad, but I know I wasn''t as upset about my second loss (somewhat a chemical pregnancy, about a week after I got the BFP) as I was about the first after we''d had a couple good ultrasounds and a nice looking heartbeat. That one was at 8.5 weeks. I know I''d feel much worse were I to lose a baby later in the pregnancy, particularly after you felt like you were out of the dangerous first trimester, or after I''d felt the baby moving. I''d be so much more devastated if anything were to go wrong now. And that''s after those previous two losses and 4 years of infertility. I think everyone reacts a little differently to these things though.

Time for lunch!

 

[KimberlyH]

Date: 12/19/2009 12:39:54 PM
Author: drk

I still feel like any loss is sad, but I know I wasn''t as upset about my second loss (somewhat a chemical pregnancy, about a week after I got the BFP) as I was about the first after we''d had a couple good ultrasounds and a nice looking heartbeat. That one was at 8.5 weeks. I know I''d feel much worse were I to lose a baby later in the pregnancy, particularly after you felt like you were out of the dangerous first trimester, or after I''d felt the baby moving. I''d be so much more devastated if anything were to go wrong now. And that''s after those previous two losses and 4 years of infertility. I think everyone reacts a little differently to these things though.

Drk, I absolutely agree everyone reacts differently. I guess I should have explained a bit further, I was writing more stream of conscious and perhaps didn''t clarify what I meant to say. My friend kept reiterating that her loss wasn''t as difficult as mine because I was 12 weeks pregnant when we found out I had miscarried and had the D&C and it made me sad that she felt she needed to compare and justify that this wasn''t as hard for her as my experience had been for me. I''m the only friend she''s told and I want her to know she should feel whatever it is she''s feeling and talk to me about it without guilt; she needs to know her grief is warranted.

 

[rockpaperscissors67]

DRK, I think you''re exactly right that everyone reacts to a loss differently, and whatever way a person reacts is RIGHT for that person.

Kimberly, I''m so sorry for your and your friend''s losses.

I''ve had 2 m/cs (between kids 1 & 2 and then between 2 & 3) and for me, time has been a great healer. I can understand quite easily why someone else would be cautious about breaking the "rules" and obviously there''s nothing wrong with that! Listening to your instincts during pregnancy is great practice for motherhood.

Although, Kimberly, your hubby''s thing about staying off step stools cracks me up, too! Men can be so funny.

A few months ago, we had to take our bull to market and SO and his dad were putting a tarp over the trailer (''cause the bull JUMPED out 3 times the day before). I climbed up on the front of the trailer to unsnag the tarp and FIL gave me holy hell. This is the same man that was out cutting the grass the same week he had back surgery and not listening to MIL tell him not to.

 

[Mara]

re: comfort level, i agree with rps for the most part that the babies are hardier in utero than we give them credit for..and hardier in general. i know that a lot of people like to say today that the fact that we survived our parents' care is a miracle, but there is something to be said for a bit of simplicity and mother nature. my mom drank a liter of coke and had sundaes almost every day through her last 2nd and 3rd tri with me. greg's mom also said she ate and drank whatever she wanted, a little lighter on the liquor but i know a lot of kids parents who drank during pregnancy. it just seems like the list gets longer and longer. lunch meat, cheese, etc. in the US we are pretty 'safe' about stuff. i think it's funny that no one warns us about salmonella and things like that in eggs or meat VS the rare risk of cheese or lunch meat. i still get subway sandwiches, and i still eat my soft cheeses, .... 99% of what we have in the US is over pasteurized anyway. i also eat sushi (as in raw tuna and salmon) about once a month, but my local place freezes it first so that takes care of some of the risk.

i figure it's all about common sense and moderation. no don't go get drunk while you are gestating, but a 1/2 glass of wine once a week is not going to turn you or the kid into an alcoholic. plus your body filters a fair amt of things before it even makes it to the baby. i asked about this during BF class too... like how long after you eat or drink something before the kid even gets it in a shot of milk. it can be a few hours, chances are it's diluted. also our BF gal didn't advocate pumping and dumping, she just said try to time your drinking or similar to be right after you feed the baby, then you have a few hours anyway for your body.

i could see how if you have suffered a loss you'd be more careful next time around, not because as kimi posted, you think it REALLY makes a huge diff but the measure of mental 'control' over your situation is virtually non-existent, so why not control things you CAN like what you put into your body. i could see it making people feel better and if god forbid something happened again, at least you could not blame yourself for doing anything 'wrong'.

i have been blessed so far (knock on wood) with a fairly easy-on-the-body pregnancy...i joke around with greg that my body is made for breeding, too bad i only plan to have one. hehee. but it doesn't make me any less paranoid about certain things like making sure i feel him moving a lot, last nite he was really inactive even though i peed like 3 times, usually that is a trigger for him to start doing acrobatic gymnastics...and so i was tired at 5am but made myself stay up and jostle around a lot until he started doing something. poor kid i think he was just sleeping! but i am so used to his routines that if he changes them i get freaked out. of course this morning he was back to normal. i wonder if his more permanent sleeping patterns are developing now...he seems to sleep when i sleep so far thankfully.

greg has also been out of town for the last 2 days playing with his symphony at a concert in a chicago..i have really hated being alone at night, but my advanced stage makes sleep pretty easy thankfully. normally i get up like 8 times when he is gone convinced i hear something in the house. i was a little worried re: being left alone at this stage, its not like i am my old self re: physicallity, but rationally i know it's ok. at least i have portia. but i am so happy he is coming home today. it has been nice to have a little alone time to run errands and get some more basics for the baby, write thank you cards etc. i spent some time with a girlfriend last nite too.

gosh today's post is really long and rambling!! anyway... glad everyone seems to be doing well! i showed my gf last nite all the small bpf's and she was marveling at how many tiny girls we have hiding pounds of baby here. hehee. and she says she thinks i am still small. it's amazing because the last thing you feel like is SMALL right...any of us!!! even if others think we look so.

happy weekend all! yest was my last day in the office til the 28th though i am working 21-23 from home... i am so excited to be at home nesting for a bit. then i just have 3 more weeks in the office and I'M OUT. wow. scary!

oh i have another random add from our bf class which i thought was interesting. she said re": cutting out things while you are bf'ing...that she doesn't recommend it. sure if the baby shows signs of allergies, act accordingly BUT she said that from her experience the more variety in things you eat and drink makes for a hardier and LESS allergy prone baby. funny because i had this convo with greg's mom about eating and drinking while in utero and she felt the same way, like be as diverse as you can because it is prob creating a hardier kid. i like that idea but who knows if its true.

though one of my friends husbands mom's DIETED and only ate like lettuce and smoked with him when she was preggo (40 years ago) and he was the most sickly and allergy prone kid apparently, he had horrible allergies til he was 15. and could only eat plain hamburgers, no dairy, no wheat. i guess you could blame the smoking too but i imagine a straight diet of lettuce was not the best thing for him to develop on. bah.

kimi so sorry for your friends' loss... it is tough when there are so many people having babies around. i have 2 friends going through that now. thankfully their spirits seem to be ok.

re: step stools...lol greg is the same way, i was outside doing some lights the other day (just fixing what he put up) on my little 2 level step stool and i was SUPER careful and when he came home he was like 'i see you were up on the stool' and fixed me with the stink eye.

i know my balance is not the same so i am def trying to be more careful even with walking--i mentioned about 4-5 weeks ago i almost took a spill when my knee twisted and wanted to give out in the cafeteria at work...it would have been so nasty in general nevermind while pregnant to be laid up with a knee injury, so i know my body is not the same as it used to be. be careful ladies.

random note: i miss sitting cross legged comfortably. but i still try.

 

[jcrow]

so we released the gender news to my sil + bil yesterday. they have a little girl that was born around the time ours will be born and is 2 years old. she''s having a second baby - a boy. and is going to be induced tuesday. anyway, she has boxes + boxes of little girls clothes and shoes that she''s giving to us. i''m sooooo excited. she had some of the cutest clothes!

in other news, i went to get another prenatal massage and it was absolutely heavenly. my sil was getting one so she asked if i wanted to go with her. it was a one hour whole body massage. it was SO much better than my last 30 minute message where they just did a bit of the back and then poof i was done. i feel so much better. my legs had been achy. now, much better. and i didn''t realize how bad my hips were until she started massaging them. omg. anyway, next time were visiting them, i think i''ll try to squeeze in another one.

 

[swimmer]

On Friday the OB left a message saying that the radiologist wants me to come in, heart looks good, but baby''s kidneys are in "an interesting configuration." And that we need to make an appt with the high-risk peri and radiologist soon to get more info. Any thoughts on what that might mean? Yeah, it has been a long weekend wondering what to think about this.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 12/20/2009 6:02:44 PM
Author: swimmer
On Friday the OB left a message saying that the radiologist wants me to come in, heart looks good, but baby''s kidneys are in ''an interesting configuration.'' And that we need to make an appt with the high-risk peri and radiologist soon to get more info. Any thoughts on what that might mean? Yeah, it has been a long weekend wondering what to think about this.

Ugh, I''m sorry Swimmer. That''s a rough message to leave for someone on a Friday afternoon! First, it''s probably nothing serious. There are all kinds of "problems" with kidneys that can be treated fully either in utero with meds or after birth fairly easily.

The "interesting configuration" thing is an odd comment. There is something called a horseshoe kidney where the kidneys are basically fused-there are a few other names for it too. Usually they function normally and just need some extra monitoring to be sure. It''s actually not that uncommon so I wonder if that could be it.

But of course wondering doesn''t help much does it. I hope that it''s just a precaution and that it''s nothing. Lots of dust!

 

[ljmorgan]

Swimmer I honestly do not know what that might indicate, but I am hoping that it is just a false positive. So many things can look unusual until they take a second look. What a looooong weekend you have had, it is so hard worrying and waiting.

As for me, I have been doing a lot of worrying and waiting of my own. In fact, that''s how I could sum up this entire pregnancy so far. I am already resigned to not being able to enjoy the whole process, because the fear is too much. But I do still occasionally feel those fleeting moments of excitement and hope -- hearing that loud "whomp, whomp" on the doppler, or seeing the baby at the nuchal scan two weeks ago. That is one of my favorite ultrasounds because to me, it''s really the first time that the baby looks like an actual baby! I have a gender US on Tuesday so again, just trying to enjoy the little moments that I can. The darker spans of anxiety seem endless. My latest frustration is that my first session of IViG has been pushed back for the last two nights since we''ve been snowed in, and I feel helpless with worry. I am anxious because I should have ideally started treatment at 14 weeks, and the baby is measuring a week ahead at 15 weeks. The anxiety stems from women beginning to lose their baby at 14, 15 weeks due to the antibodies, so the wait for me to begin treatment is excruciating. You can imagine I am using the doppler quite frequently. Originally I was going to have a blood test at 12 weeks to try and determine the baby''s blood type, but now that my antibody levels are so high the doctor didn''t want to accidentally stop the IViG if the test was inaccurate. So now my doctor has decided will we just press on with the treatments, and I will have an amnio at 18 weeks (later than most at 16 weeks, but to make more room and ensure my anterior placenta is not nicked, etc. so that I don''t have a bleed and further increase my antibody level) to confirm the Rh status of the baby. If the baby is Rh-, I can go ahead and knock off treatment. So we will see.

 

[KimberlyH]

Swimmer, what an awful way to start your weekend. I''m so sorry that you were unable to obtain any further information. Hang in there.

Lindsey, I''m so sorry that your pregnancy is frought with nervousness and fear; your feelings are obviously understandable. My best to you during this difficult and scary time.

We went house browsing today. Didn''t see anything worth looking at (and not much open as it''s the week before Christmas). John is determined we''re moving before the kid comes, which means we''ll be pulling a loan together in January and putting an offer on a place. I''ve already found THE house, I just have to hope they''re willing to come down in price a bit (they''re too high next to comps) and that everything else falls into place.He also plans on finding a condo to purchase that will serve as his office, another change for him and us. Wow. I think the next few months are going to fly, I''m making a point of enjoying each and every day.

 

[Mara]

swimmer...i am so sorry you got such a vague message before a wkd! when i was doing testing, i got a prelim result back on the day before 4th of july, so over a wkd and a holiday and via email with no explanation. i spent 3 days worrying since my dr was out. turned out to be false, but it's hard to keep imagination from running away with you. i am keeping fingers crossed for you..keep us posted.

lindsey..i am so glad you checked in, i was thinking about you this morning. waiting and wondering is never fun, and especially something so close to your heart, it must be so tough. hang in there, know that you are doing what you can and that is all you can do for now. i am keeping my fingers crossed for you guys as well.

jcrow, so glad you enjoyed your massage. i have just had one so far, and it was a little odd, but maybe now that i am getting bigger, i might try it again at a diff place. and yay for super cute girl clothes, that is so fun.

 

[swimmer]

Lindsey, I'm so sorry that this is so hard. Good luck getting in soon.

Mara, thanks! It does stink. Glad yours was false. We had this happen too earlier with the Ashkenazi panel, I could tell I had tested positive for something by the message, but no idea what. And since they are all awful...good thing DH wasn't a carrier for anything.

Thanks Lindsey, Mara, Kimberly, and Neat (awesome to see two gorgeous 5 stone in a row!) Yes, it could be something easy like horseshoe kidney, but why the prompt appt with the high risk team? Who knows. I will find out in the am. Sometimes we seriously get too much information.

Oh, and i just heard that Buy Buy Baby accepts BB&B 25% off coupons as they are related companies. Can this be true?

 

[drk]

Swimmer - that really sucks that the OB only said "interesting configuration". They really ought to give as much info as possible, or if leaving a message, at least ok you to call the answering service so you don''t go nuts all weekend. I''m also thinking horseshoe kidney, if they''re talking interesting configuration here. Not at all sure what else they could mean? Shouldn''t be polycystic, doubt they''d call a dilated renal pelvis "interesting". I hope you get real answers soon. If the kidneys weren''t working at all, you shouldn''t have seen a bladder or all that much amniotic fluid, so I hope your OB is getting excited about nothing

Lindsey - I''m glad they''re giving you the IVIG anyhow, though sorry to hear your antibody levels are so high and they haven''t managed to get the first dose in yet. I really hope this kiddo is Rh -ve to make life a little easier for you! Let''s hope you''re back posting tomorrow that you''ve had a dose and are feeling relieved.

This baby has been wild today. It''s so weird how some days she''s fairly calm for most of the day, and has a couple periods of being fairly active. And then other days, she''s shaking things up like mad in there. Still fun at this point though, although I can''t slouch any more without getting uncomfy because my ribs are lying on the top of my uterus. I have a feeling my days of nice big meals will soon be coming to an end.

Off to bed - up at 6:10am for work again tomorrow. Oh joy, though I''m glad to be working and feeling good and earning money again!

 

[rockpaperscissors67]

Swimmer, I''m sorry you''ve had a weekend of worry and I hope your baby''s kidneys turn out to be just fine. With my 4th child, I got one of those calls about the "odd shape of her head" and was sent to some ultrasound specialist. As it turned out, her head was just fine -- the u/s tech had measured weird somehow. That phase of worrying is horrible.

Lindsey, I''m sorry you''re having to deal with so much anxiety. I will keep my fingers crossed that everything turns out ok.

JCrow, oh, I second the prenatal massage! It''s heavenly for an achy back and swollen feet. I had one last week, have a mini massage scheduled for next week and another 1 hour massage for the 13th. I figure at this point, I *need* the pampering.

I can''t believe Christmas is at the end of this week. I feel like I am soooo far behind the 8 ball. Tonight, we went out and got 4 digital picture frames for my parents, SO''s parents, SO''s sister and BIL and my ex and his wife. I''m working on loading them up with some pictures so they''re not just blank. I feel sort of bad about getting a "blanket" present, but I hope people will understand.

I also know that SO got me a new Coach bag for Christmas. I had suspected when he went out on Friday and told me he wasn''t going to tell me where all he went. He came home with a HUGE Coach bag and inside was this small box with my daughter''s new wallet in it. Yeah, I know they don''t give you a huge bag for a small box. Then tonight, I peeked in the back of his truck because we were looking for groceries that he might have forgotten in there and I saw a big white box. LOL! The only thing that makes me sort of sad is that the bag I really wanted is red and I know they don''t have that one at our local store. I still have to give him kudos for going to the store in the first place and taking care of us girls.

I have a midwife appointment tomorrow but am considering canceling because our roads are still crappy. I won''t see her again until Jan. 4, but I feel ok about it. OTOH, if I go out to that appointment, I can stop by and pick up some Thai food for lunch. I was dying for Larb Gai tonight but SO wasn''t in the mood so I was denied. Choices...choices...

 

[cdt1101]

Date: 12/20/2009 9:25:15 PM
Author: swimmer
Lindsey, I''m so sorry that this is so hard. Good luck getting in soon.

Mara, thanks! It does stink. Glad yours was false. We had this happen too earlier with the Ashkenazi panel, I could tell I had tested positive for something by the message, but no idea what. And since they are all awful...good thing DH wasn''t a carrier for anything.

Thanks Lindsey, Mara, Kimberly, and Neat (awesome to see two gorgeous 5 stone in a row!) Yes, it could be something easy like horseshoe kidney, but why the prompt appt with the high risk team? Who knows. I will find out in the am. Sometimes we seriously get too much information.

Oh, and i just heard that Buy Buy Baby accepts BB&B 25% off coupons as they are related companies. Can this be true?

RE - Coupons at BBB...yes it''s true, however it can''t be an expired coupon and there are exclusions...such as Bugaboo and other higher end items. I don''t think it works on diapers or formula either, but I could be wrong on that.

I hope the message from your DR turns out to be nothing serious! I''ll be thinking of you.

Lindsey - You''re in my thoughts, I''ll be praying for a RH - baby. Hang in there.

Hello to all the other preggos...can''t wait to "meet" the new PS additions

 

[MonkeyPie]

swimmer, maybe they just need a second ultrasound to take a better look. Those ultrasound techs like to think they can see everything, but really, it''s so hard to tell sometimes, especially if the baby is in an awkward position. I''ll keep my fingers crossed that they get ahold of you asap this morning to clear things up!

 

[fieryred33143]

Lindsey-I''m so sorry you''re going through so much anxiety. I''m checking in on you and think of you often.

 

[meresal]

Everyone's pics look great!!

Jcrow- I'm so glad you shared this week! What type of jeans are you wearing with those boots. I've just been wearing regular heels, but I want to wear my boots on Christmas eve and I can't find any comfortable pants that will tuck into them comfortably! TIA. You look great!

And if you ever need to vent about the weight anxiety, I will be right here. I have at least 2 pangs of anxiety a day, when I look at myself in the mirror. I went into a bathroom stall at a wedding this weekend and the stall door scraped across my belly when I tried to shut it (forgetting the belly was there)... after I laughed for a second to myself thinking about telling my DH, I almost started crying. It is something I am going to have to talk to the doctor about at my next appt. I have been lucky not to gain alot of belly so far, but I worry that it could begin to effect me more as I really get bigger.

Swimmer- I hope you get some answers today. Like everyone else said, maybe it will be a false alarm, and just something that they need to get a better look. I hope it goes well, and be sure to keep us updated. All I can say, is at least the doctor's office explained what they wanted to take a "look at" on their voice mail. I got a call on a Friday from my office and they didn't even leave a message, my mind went to the WORST places, until they could call back.

Lindsey- I hope the tests come back and say Rh. I'm thinking about you as well!


Update for me: I am 21w5d and still no kicks. I am making sure to feel at all different times of the day and at night before bed, but nothing. I understand that it's ok, but it really started worrying me after passing the 21w mark. It hadn't even bothered me until then, and now it's all I think about.

Also, funny story, I know two sisters that both got pregnant about the same time, and were due a week apart. Well, sister #1 went into Labor on Friday night and delivered Saturday, and sister #2 went into labor on Sunday morning and delivered yesterday afternoon! One in Houston and the other in NYC! LOL! What an incredible Christmas it is going to be for their families!

 

[Puppmom]

Meresal, my SIL is 38 weeks pregnant and she felt NO movement until about 23 or 24 weeks. All of her friends had her really worried but it turned out the be nothing to worry about. Baby was sitting WAY back so she wasn''t feeling anything. Even when she did, at first it just felt like butterflies. Full on kicks didn''t start until even later. We''re expecting a healthy bundle before the year ends! BTW, he kicks like CRAZY now!

 

[meresal]

Date: 12/21/2009 10:04:31 AM
Author: puppmom
Meresal, my SIL is 38 weeks pregnant and she felt NO movement until about 23 or 24 weeks. All of her friends had her really worried but it turned out the be nothing to worry about. Baby was sitting WAY back so she wasn't feeling anything. Even when she did, at first it just felt like butterflies. Full on kicks didn't start until even later. We're expecting a healthy bundle before the year ends! BTW, he kicks like CRAZY now!

So, when she did start feeling, it was just like other women stating at 18-20 weeks? Little flutters, and then after a few weeks, she started to feel the "actual" kicks?

This is actually also something I was wondering about... I was laughing that if he keeps waiting, the first kick I feel might literally take my breath away.

 

[meresal]

Double

 

[rockpaperscissors67]

Meresal, has your doc mentioned whether you have an anterior placenta? That''s where the placenta lies on the front of your uterus, so it cushions the kicks. Women that have one typically feel movement later than women that don''t.

It felt like it took forever for me to feel kicks this time, but when I did, OMG, yeah, it was full on kicking.

 

[Puppmom]

Yep, flutters at first, then full on kicks a few weeks later. This kiddo made her wait a while

 

[meresal]

Date: 12/21/2009 10:41:05 AM
Author: rockpaperscissors67
Meresal, has your doc mentioned whether you have an anterior placenta? That''s where the placenta lies on the front of your uterus, so it cushions the kicks. Women that have one typically feel movement later than women that don''t.

It felt like it took forever for me to feel kicks this time, but when I did, OMG, yeah, it was full on kicking.

The tech that did our NT scan mentioned it, but no one has said anything since, and we have had at least 3 scans since then. I am hoping that when I talk with her on Wednesday, she will bring it up, but if she doesn''t, I will be sure to.

The baby has been very active during all of the U/S scans, up until the last one. Last week, he was laying face down, with his knees tucked under stomach and his hands under his face, and breach. I assume if he is still in that position, I guess that could explain why I''m not feeling anything.

 

[KimberlyH]

Meresal, I have an anterior placenta and it's only been mentioned once, because it's common and doesn't mean anything; the placenta grows wherever the egg implanted, yours just happened to implant at the front of your uterus. I'm a belly sleeper, a hard habit to break until recently when it stopped being possible, and I noticed that I felt kicks when I would wake up on my stomach, so perhaps you could lay down on your stomach and see if you feel anything.

 

[taovandel]

I had an anterior placenta and I didn''t feel kicks until around 22-23 weeks...And it wasn''t flutters..it felt like someone flicking thir finger on my belly...then the kicks got harder and harderover the weeks

 

[swimmer]

Thanks! DrK, yeah exactly, I can''t figure out what they meant and I am certain that there is no need to fret, but that prob it is an imaging issue if not horseshoe? Anyway, thank you all for good vibes, I now have an appt with the high risk team for wed am. Hopefully will get some info at that point. Also, DrK, at what point would they be able to tell about cleft palate? And I''m afraid to bring up that polydactylism runs in my fam, not an issue of course, but interesting to know, right?

Mer, every time I think I feel something, it is prob just bowels. Pssst: I bet that many women who report early "flutters" are actually feeling gas+wishful thinking? I''m a week behind you and while I''ve never felt some of the stuff that is going on in there before, I''ve also never been so constipated. So how to tell which is which? Oh, well, I figure if my bbs keep hurting it all must be going according to plan.

 

[Mara]

re cleft palate i think that our dr looked for that at our amnio ultrasound at 15 weeks. but maybe i am thinking of something else.

re: weight gain and anxiety... i am there with you gals. i am not one of those easygoing women who just take it all in stride. i am ecstatic to be growing this life in my belly.... BUT to me that doesn''t automatically mean that you are just fine and dandy with all the changes to your body and you don''t care what is happening. i worked hard to get my shape just right and i totally admit to having control issues when it comes to weight gain and fitness. i have gained 31 lbs and i am at week 34. i guess that is ok/good/whatever...my dr says its fine and everyone says i am all belly. but i still feel like a gigantic hippo waddling around. my sense of balance is all askew, my clothes fit in the most retarded ways, i hate mat clothes, i get tired so easily, etc etc. i felt that way at week 15. week 20. week 25. week 30...it''s been this way the whole time. i know my body will do what it wants to nurture the baby, and that is great. but it doesn''t make it easier necessarily on you mentally.

people will tell you how small you are...and you gals ARE small, smaller than me for sure, but it doesn''t make you feel any smaller. instead you just wonder how blind they are! yesterday at a party 2 people were saying how small and great i look. i just felt like they were either insane or liars. hahah. anyway...just want to let you gals know you are not alone...sometimes people say things that i think are designed to make me feel guilty for feeling this way...like ''oh you are just so lucky to be able to grow life, who cares if you have to make a sacrifice''..and yeah i know i am but it doesn''t totally negate my own feelings about my own body.

the one thing i try to be ''realistic'' about is that i am 35 and my body is not as elastic as it was at 25. so while i know i can get back ''into shape'' after baby... it might not be my same body in the same ways...in fact it probably won''t be.

re: feeling the baby move...i was also a late feeler...i think around week 19-21 is when i felt more consistent flutters that seemed different from gas. i think i felt something earlier but i''m not SURE. and then he kind of just straight graduated to large movements. i feel like he was kind of small and had so much room and was kind of low and deep rather than high. my friend at 15 weeks said she''d see her whole belly move. i didnt have that til almost week 30!! so a lot of it can depend on placement of the baby and where they like to hang out. mine loved being LOW LOW LOW until he got too big for that. it does make it a little more stressful waiting for them to do things that let you know they are ok, but i wouldn''t worry needlessly. before you know it they will be trying to squirm under your rib ...OW!

swimmer...yep those messages are crappy, and you really have to think ''REALLY...BEFORE A WKD or a HOLIDAY??''... but i hope it''s nothing.

not much to report here for me...just getting larger and a bit more uncomfy. yesterday i made cookies for 1.5 hours and my back was so sore afterwards. we are hosting xmas eve here for our small family gtg and i am hoping to not do too much or else i won''t be able to enjoy the gathering. so i am just making a small turkey, and 2 sides. i am making tamales the day before so that will be a chore with all the standing--but it''s a family tradition and i love it.

according to babycenter, kid is 4.75 lbs and the weight of a canteloupe. wow!

 

[steph72276]

Hey, girls...taking a quick break from baking. I've been at it all day. I made peanut butter fudge, chocolate fudge, sugar cookies, chocolate chip M&M cookies, and rice krispy treats. I am getting ready to package them all up and drop them off to Adam's work so all his associates can enjoy a treat! Then I need a nap!

Mara, really...4.75 lbs? Our little guy was only 3.13 last week, so I doubt he's that big yet. I think I may have a small baby, but we'll see. Oh a 31 lbs is great. I'm between 25-27 depending on the time of day, but I'm trying not to stress about it. I figured I'm doing way better than last time (55 lbs!), so I'm just going with the flow!

Hope everyone has a great day!