Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

[TravelingGal]

Hiya gals!

First off, Ella and Tacori, I love the latest photos of you two...always great to see pics!

Jas, wow, 16 and you''re feeling the baby? I thought I felt something at 15, but I now think I was on drugs. I was way too strong. So I am just sitting here, being patient...

Ella, your shower looked great! Some gals just do a fab job, don''t they? Love the pic of your DH too. As for my trip, it was fabulous...I wrote a lengthy report at Hangout which most PSers probably won''t care to read, but I am so used to doing trip reports for a travel forum I frequent that I just posted it here too anyway. I was really energetic the whole time I was in Maui...I think I''ve mentioned before that I no longer feel pregnant at all, so we were able to a lot of active stuff.

I guess my "I don''t feel pregnant anymore" thing kind of scared TGuy. We went to our monthly prenatal last Friday and TGuy heard the heartbeat for the first time. I told him, "honey, that''s the baby''s heartbeat" and this momentary look of bewilderment was followed by the most wonderous smile. It was just fun watching him. I think men need empirical data or something, so TGuy probably finally believes we are having a kid and that I''m not just getting fat! He told me later he was just so relieved to hear the baby was still in there after my whole "I''m feeling too normal" comments.

Diver, Delaney is almost 4 weeks? Wow, time is flying. I''d love to see updated pics of her like everyone else does!

Tacori, there is still time. I''m getting more and more excited for you and can''t wait to see if it''s a boy or a girl.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

TGal, I wonder all the time if it is a girl or a boy. It is starting to drive me crazy!!! I am glad you had an awesome vacation! You and Tguy deserve it!!!! Are you still waiting to find out the sex?

Ella, I forgot about the full moon....hmmm.....hopefully. That would be perfect b/c my mom is coming on the 27th so if my water/labor starts late on the 26th....oh too bad we couldn''t flip a switch and have everything happen the way we plan. Plus she is going to see if she can come stand by b/c she doesn''t have to work that Thursday and Friday (some school holiday). So she might be here even a few days early. 29 weeks is too soon! Those babies gotta bake longer for sure. We know people who just delivered at 31 weeks. He was 4 lbs and has to stay in the hospital for at least 3 weeks. Scary for sure! My brother was only 2.5 lbs at 28 weeks and spent 3 MONTHS in the icu. Your boss will HAVE to understand.

My SIL is coming this weekend for a visit. She can''t come for thanksgiving so I think she needs a CLT fix! Of course she is hoping I will go while she is here but even if not she said we can tell the baby all the things we did right before (s)he comes. I thought that was a cute way to look at it. She also reassured me that her friend dropped and went into labor the NEXT day so it will be ok. I feel like such a complainer! I should be more positive since I have had a healthy pregnancy (minus the 200 lbs I have gained

).

 

[mrssalvo]

tacori, don''t lose heart just yet. remember, I actually went into labor the same day I had a visit with my dr with the same news you got today. I woke up to got to the bathroom and my water broke, so seriously it can happen any time. If it were me, I''d choose to induce the first day they let me, so if it''s 40 weeks in a day for you, go for it. I still think you''re going to go naturally though, you will just start having contractions or your water will break and you''ll be off. It really will not be long now!!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 10/16/2007 10:40:07 PM
Author: mrssalvo
tacori, don''t lose heart just yet. remember, I actually went into labor the same day I had a visit with my dr with the same news you got today. I woke up to got to the bathroom and my water broke, so seriously it can happen any time. If it were me, I''d choose to induce the first day they let me, so if it''s 40 weeks in a day for you, go for it. I still think you''re going to go naturally though, you will just start having contractions or your water will break and you''ll be off. It really will not be long now!!

Thanks MrsS. You always make me feel better!

I am tempted to say the 29th b/c of my mom (and who am I kidding, my comfort level!) I have to say I do like citrines better than opals

But I am not sure that is enough for me to stay preggo for. Haha! I am glad to have an end date though. I can say I will be preggo for no more than X number of days. Makes me feel more in control

Hey is it normal for my belly button (and around) to be numb?

 

[TravelingGal]

I agree with MrsS. Just don''t stress yourself my dear (I know it''s easier said than done, and stay tuned 5 months from now when I am sure I will be going ballistic on this thread). You''ve been very positive during your pregnancy (and an encouragement to so many of us) that you are certainly allowed to vent here!

As for the sex...nope, still not gonna find out. No desire to. I just love a good surprise...you don''t get many in life.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 10/16/2007 11:25:19 PM
Author: TravelingGal
I just love a good surprise...you don''t get many in life.

I certainly agree! People are always shocked/admire/excited when I tell them that we don''t know the sex. So stay strong during your 20 week scan. You will be tempted! I ordered a few nursing pjs from gap.com (on sale!) and they sent a coupon with the package for 15% off my next order. I was so excited b/c I want to use it after the baby is born on really girly or really boyish clothes.

It is so so funny to open the baby''s closet and only see yellow/green/white.

I just keep reminding myself that all in all I have had a good pregnancy (not to be confused with me enjoying it however

) No health scares at all. I also know in the long run a few days either way won''t mean much. I DO need to relax and stop thinking about it so much but that is *very* hard to do! I just can''t wait to see my mom, meet my baby, get L&D over with, and get my body back! My SIL''s visit will distract me. We are going to carve pumpkins.

Oh, I had a dream last night I had twin girls

So strange!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/17/2007 11:46:20 AM
Author: Tacori E-ring

Date: 10/16/2007 11:25:19 PM
Author: TravelingGal
I just love a good surprise...you don''t get many in life.

I certainly agree! People are always shocked/admire/excited when I tell them that we don''t know the sex. So stay strong during your 20 week scan. You will be tempted! I ordered a few nursing pjs from gap.com (on sale!) and they sent a coupon with the package for 15% off my next order. I was so excited b/c I want to use it after the baby is born on really girly or really boyish clothes.

It is so so funny to open the baby''s closet and only see yellow/green/white.

I just keep reminding myself that all in all I have had a good pregnancy (not to be confused with me enjoying it however

) No health scares at all. I also know in the long run a few days either way won''t mean much. I DO need to relax and stop thinking about it so much but that is *very* hard to do! I just can''t wait to see my mom, meet my baby, get L&D over with, and get my body back! My SIL''s visit will distract me. We are going to carve pumpkins.

Oh, I had a dream last night I had twin girls

So strange!

I get the "big scan" next week...at 18 weeks (actually, I''ll be just shy of 1 because I am going in for the amnio. I''m scared that they''ll spill the beans! I really don''t want to know....it''s been so fun guessing. I''ve always wanted to do that whole, give birth and crane my neck to see what I gave birth to, thing!

But yes, people are always really surprised that I won''t find out. Since I''m not "doing" a nursery, there''s no practical need for me to find out the sex. And I love yellow and green, so I''d rather dress the kid in those colors anyway. I truly am not a fan of pink, so if it''s a girl, she''s gonna get blue regardless, hehehe.

Speaking of big scans and amnio''s, I think I am going to go through with it, but I do have doubts. I just got a call from the genetic office 2 minutes ago. They gave me the results of my second round screening, which has even a higher percentage of certainty than the first round. My results were:

1 in 10000 for downs (unchanged from the first result)
1 in 10000 for trisomy 18
1 in 6000 for spina bifida

So with results like this, would you guys bother to get the amnio? I know it''s not a diagnostic test (is that the right term?) and that there are instances of women who get odds like 1 in 8000 and still have a downs child. I just think...why have a possible risk of miscarriage when my odds are so good? I''d sure hate to lose TTot at this stage...I''ve gotten attached to the idea. Finally.

 

[chrono]

I skipped the amnio and NT. I just did the usual blood test to get my odds and found that I could live with it. I too had gotten attached to the fetus and didn''t want to risk the odds of miscarrying due to the testing. I also wondered if I could truly go through with abortion should the doctors find something wrong with the fetus.

 

[ellaila]

T and T, I''m impressed by both of you and your will power to not find out the sex! I had said before that if we were having one baby I wouldn''t want to know, but I doubt I truly could''ve held out for so long without finding out. With two, we felt like we HAD to know. In our classes, almost every single couple knew what they were having with the exception of one -- the father wanted to know, but the mother didn''t, so they found out the sex of one of the twins but not the other. Hahah!

Tacori, it''s good to stay rational and know that yes, a few days won''t really matter one way or the other AFTER the baby is born -- but pregnancy is no time for rationality!

This is a huge thing in your life, so if you weren''t getting anxious, I''d worry about you! And even with a healthy pregnancy, it''s OK to complain (to us at least) -- we all know how fun and NOT fun it can be to deal with all the changes so you''ll definitely get some sympahty here. And yep, I think it''s normal for the skin around the belly button to be sensitive or even numb. My belly button did pop, and it''s so funny because the skin there is so soft -- like a baby''s tush!! And at times, it''s very sensitive to the touch -- never numb for me but definitely different.

TGal, as for the amnio ... it''s so tough. I think that if I were you and got back those fantastic results, then I probably wouldn''t go through with the amnio. Like MrsS said, would you terminate the pregnancy if you got back less-than-perfect results from the amnio? Again, for us with twins, it was more of a preparation thing -- we felt like we had to be prepared mentally in case God forbid there was something wrong with one of the babies (we got back a higher risk for Trisomy 18 from the first screening, so I was a nervous wreck about that). But even then, I definitely felt guilt going through with it and had those "Oh God, why did I do this?" moments while waiting for the results. I don''t think that being "mature" (that is, over 35) is reason enough to do it -- does your doctor? All that said, I don''t think the risks of miscarriage with amnio are nearly as high as you read, so it may be worth it to check with your doctor on that as well.

 

[divergrrl]

Tgal: Ahh skip the amnio. How old are you? Remember, I had my amnio with Delaney & the doc botched it and I freaked. Then I found out that even at my ripe old age of 37, my odds of having a disabled child was still only 3%. The only reason I went ahead with the test was because I wanted the option to make a decision on whether to continue the pregnancy or not. DH was dead set on terminating if we got a poor diagnosis. (I know, we are terrible people, but at least I''m honest) But if you are like Mrs. S & would not terminate, then its not worth the risk. And, they can tell A TON about your baby''s health at the 20 week ultrasound to put your mind at ease. I worried through my whole pg with Jake that something was wrong with him, so for me the amnio gave me peace of mind (but i''m an obsessive compulsive worrier, you sound way more laid back than me) and I relaxed more. (but in true diver form, I found other horrors to worry about).

Surprise sex for Tacori & Tgal: Well, the beauty of this is yes, you get that BIG surprise, and also, half the clothes I bought Delaney are not fitting because they were too small out of the chute or they are too summery for our cold weather. Dang. Fortunately, its most of the stuff I bought at the outlet, so it was the $1.99 baby gap outfits, etc. So you''ll get the fun of hearing "It''s a boy" or "It''s a girl" and also the chance to meet your baby before having to decide what size clothing to get them.

brb

 

[mrssalvo]

Tgal, what does your dr. suggest? i agree that 35 isn''t really *old* to just have one for the sake of it. The deciding factor for me was whether or not I''d terminate based on the result. If you would, then you should do it, if not, I''d skip it. they will be able to tell tons in just the ultrasound so I figure if something is wrong, I''ll find out then and still have time to prepare. I freak about about stuff and the waiting just kills me so I know I was better off not doing it. But, if my dr. said to, I would have. Your screens have been very successful, based on those results alone I''d probably skip it for that reason too. But ultimately do what is best for you and go with what your dr. suggests. the chance of miscarriage is low, but there is still a chance, are you sure you want to take it with no other red flags making the amnio a necessity? the flip side, if you do it and when every thing comes back normal, you can then really relax and stop worrying about anything being wrong, which would be a nice feeling too. there isn''t a right or wrong answer, do what you feel comfortable doing

 

[TravelingGal]

Hey thanks ladies for your input...much appreciated.

You probably answered my question for me. Yes, I would terminate if the result was that something was wrong. TGuy and I have discussed this in detail, and we think in all honesty that our marriage would have a difficult time surviving if we had a special needs child. This is not because our marriage isn't good right now, mind you...perhaps we are thinking worse case scenario. But we have only been married for a year and while things are great, I guess I am just a realist in that things do change and our marriage is fragile. I know commitment is commitment, but I still think it can be strained beyond repair. I also don't want to bring a Downs child into this world. Just my honest opinion.

I'd take any challenges as they come and I know I could handle it (autism, etc), but if given a choice, I dunno...

I guess I sound like a selfish person.

Mrs S, the doctor is suggesting I do it. We know on my family not many problems exist, but TGuy's family has a bit of a question mark since his mother was in foster care and does not know her father or much of her family history.

Oh, and my doc also told me that DHA supplements and what not aren't FDA approved so I really shouldn't bother worrying about it. Just take the prenatal and be fine. This kind of goes contrary to what I've been reading that we preggo women really need those omega 3s! What did you gals do?

ETA, Diver, I will be 35 in Nov, so will be "mature" when I give birth. (Wonder if that will make me a more ready mother? hahaha.)

 

[mrssalvo]

tgal, then you should do it. I honestly feel the same way as you, but my hubby would not let me abort if something were wrong and I would not go against him and do it anyway. You are a smart lady and have thought it through so do it. again, you''ll get the peace of mind that everything is ok and that is wonderful news to hear too.

 

[TravelingGal]

*sniff* thanks Mrs. S. Do you ladies sometimes feel like you can research everything to the ground and just still feel helpless and confused? I have a feeling this just prepares you for parenthood in general.

Damn that stupid 4th of July party..................

 

[ellaila]

Date: 10/17/2007 1:23:10 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Hey thanks ladies for your input...much appreciated.

You probably answered my question for me. Yes, I would terminate if the result was that something was wrong. TGuy and I have discussed this in detail, and we think in all honesty that our marriage would have a difficult time surviving if we had a special needs child. This is not because our marriage isn''t good right now, mind you...perhaps we are thinking worse case scenario. But we have only been married for a year and while things are great, I guess I am just a realist in that things do change and our marriage is fragile. I know commitment is commitment, but I still think it can be strained beyond repair. I also don''t want to bring a Downs child into this world. Just my honest opinion.

I''d take any challenges as they come and I know I could handle it (autism, etc), but if given a choice, I dunno...

I guess I sound like a selfish person.

Mrs S, the doctor is suggesting I do it. We know on my family not many problems exist, but TGuy''s family has a bit of a question mark since his mother was in foster care and does not know her father or much of her family history.

Oh, and my doc also told me that DHA supplements and what not aren''t FDA approved so I really shouldn''t bother worrying about it. Just take the prenatal and be fine. This kind of goes contrary to what I''ve been reading that we preggo women really need those omega 3s! What did you gals do?

ETA, Diver, I will be 35 in Nov, so will be ''mature'' when I give birth. (Wonder if that will make me a more ready mother? hahaha.)

Funny timing b/c I was reading my What to Expect @29 weeks this morning, and there''s a whole article on DHA and Omega 3s and how good it is for you, esp. when preggo (and even more esp. in last trimester): The Fat That''s Phat From there:

"The most fabulous of fats? The omega-3 polyunsaturated fatty acids, most notably DHA (known in scientific circles as docosahexaenoic acid). While omega-3s are healthy additions to any diet (they lower cholesterol and blood pressure, reducing the risk of heart disease), they''re particularly smart selections when you''re building a baby. DHA, for instance, is a vital ingredient in brain and retinal tissue, so it''s essential for proper brain growth and eye development in fetuses and young babies. During the third trimester, brain growth is at its peak — and it continues to grow during the first year of life, tripling in size by the time your baby is a year old. This means that your baby''s need for this must-have nutrient will skyrocket (the brain''s DHA content must multiply by three to five times during these busy three months)."

I personally take prentals with DHA and I buy the omega-3 enriched eggs and am trying to make myself eat eggs more often!

 

[TravelingGal]

Thanks Ella...I''m trying to get it from food supply, but may still take the supplements. I thought maybe I could just take plain ole fish oil pills but haven''t looked into that yet.

And I JUST polished off two omega 3 enriched hard boiled eggs! TGuy knows how hard it''s been for me to stomach fish, so he bought me the eggs.

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 10/17/2007 1:23:10 PM
Author: TravelingGal



Oh, and my doc also told me that DHA supplements and what not aren''t FDA approved so I really shouldn''t bother worrying about it. Just take the prenatal and be fine. This kind of goes contrary to what I''ve been reading that we preggo women really need those omega 3s! What did you gals do?

i just took the regular prenatal with both of my pregnancy''s. Both turned out fine, both are very, very smart, no developmental delay''s whatsoever, both had great birthweights, 7 lbs 5 oz and 8lbs 9oz, respectively. I''m not even sure they really pushed it 6 years ago the way they do today. unless my dr. tells me to I will probably just stick with my reg. prenatal this time too.

ella, i stopped reading What to expect after week 5 because with my paranoid nature(see above posts..lol) I thought I had every symptom she suggested was cause for concern so i never got to week 29 with her recommendations

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[ellaila]

TGal, I just ate a few enriched hard boiled eggs too

I actually just had a yummy & tres healthy salad of hb eggs, cheese, avocado, cucumber, tomatoes, celery, and cottage cheese. I sure do miss being able to add turkey and/or tuna to a salad like this though!

MrsS, I don''t read the book WTE b/c it scared the crap out of me too! I returned it the day after I bought it. I do check the weekly things on the web site though just to see if my body and my babies are on track with what they say we should be -- and we almost always are!

I don''t think that if you don''t take DHA that anything bad will happen to your babies. I think it''s like anything else when you''re pregnant -- do what you feel is right. Some people avoid alochol, some will have a glass of wine. Some won''t paint the nursery, some do. My doctor was pretty nonchalant about prenatals with DHA (sort of like, "There''s no solid proof that it does anything, but no harm in taking it"), but I figured that if I was taking the pills anyway, I may as well take the ones with DHA supplements. From what I''ve read (and I think it''s even in that link I posted), fish oil itself is not recommended though, TGal.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/17/2007 2:22:40 PM
Author: mrssalvo


i just took the regular prenatal with both of my pregnancy''s. Both turned out fine, both are very, very smart, no developmental delay''s whatsoever, both had great birthweights, 7 lbs 5 oz and 8lbs 9oz, respectively. I''m not even sure they really pushed it 6 years ago the way they do today. unless my dr. tells me to I will probably just stick with my reg. prenatal this time too.

ella, i stopped reading What to expect after week 5 because with my paranoid nature(see above posts..lol) I thought I had every symptom she suggested was cause for concern so i never got to week 29 with her recommendations

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LOL mrssalvo...that book really does go through all possible scenarios, doesn''t it? I thought pregnancy was going to be AWFUL. I''m still afraid to force out anything in the loo (sorry if TMI) since I am SURE I''m going to have a break out of the ''rhoids like ya wouldn''t believe. But it''s just been so easy so far. I''m afraid to go back to the book because I''ll start waiting for the other shoe to drop again.

And that''s what I am thinking too. My doc has been doing this forever...15000 births. I think sometimes that gets a doc set in his ways, but he does seem to be pretty good and I know he is well known in this area. I actually like the guy. Dry sense of humor. Unlike that chick in the "Knocked Up" movie, I''m not that picky about my doc. And speaking of that movie, TGuy said it put a bug in his brain about sex while preggo...he''s afraid he going to hurt the baby now. Sheesh!

Oh, and I forgot to report...from my doc''s visit last week - the most important news. I am RIGHT ON TRACK with my weight gain! Whoo hoo! Don''t know how long it''s going to last, but I''m enjoying it while it does. I''ve gained 7 or 8 pounds I think. Which is about right..3-4 in the first tri, then a pound every week thereafter.

I think I''m going to celebrate by eating a cookie.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/17/2007 2:35:11 PM
Author: ellaila
TGal, I just ate a few enriched hard boiled eggs too

I actually just had a yummy & tres healthy salad of hb eggs, cheese, avocado, cucumber, tomatoes, celery, and cottage cheese. I sure do miss being able to add turkey and/or tuna to a salad like this though!

MrsS, I don''t read the book WTE b/c it scared the crap out of me too! I returned it the day after I bought it. I do check the weekly things on the web site though just to see if my body and my babies are on track with what they say we should be -- and we almost always are!

I don''t think that if you don''t take DHA that anything bad will happen to your babies. I think it''s like anything else when you''re pregnant -- do what you feel is right. Some people avoid alochol, some will have a glass of wine. Some won''t paint the nursery, some do. My doctor was pretty nonchalant about prenatals with DHA (sort of like, ''There''s no solid proof that it does anything, but no harm in taking it''), but I figured that if I was taking the pills anyway, I may as well take the ones with DHA supplements. From what I''ve read (and I think it''s even in that link I posted), fish oil itself is not recommended though, TGal.

Thanks Ella...I had read about the fish oil, so I wasn''t sure if it was kosher.

And yes, I think it''s more "insurance". You may not need it, but if it helps you feel better, why not? I think your body is going to get rid of what you don''t need anyway. And that salad sounds great! You are too healthy! I know it''s terrible, but the other day, I ate a deli sandwich. I couldn''t resist. Ack.

 

[mrssalvo]

tgal, i haven't seen the movie yet, but want to. too funny tguy is worried about the baby during sex

great job on the weight gain too. I've gained 12 lbs so far hit week 15 tomorrow, at this rate i'll be jenny mccarthy with the 60

. it was 6 lbs from week 7-11 and another 6 from 11- this week

i'm hoping it slows down a bit, although I gained 38lbs with my first and 39lbs with the second so my guess is thing one will go at the same rate. but dang it's depressing to get on that scale and see 12 extra lbs already. my sister is at week 9 and gaining NOTHING, not one single oz....tall, skippy, (bleep) j/k of course, i adore her...but still, 12lbs for me, her zitch....


eta: i ate a deli sandwhich the other day too, and had a bite of hubby blue cheese dressing on his salad, it was really yummy

 

[ChinaCat]

ok, sorry to jump in here- but i have a question!!!

i am not preggo, nor trying to be as of now, but like to skim this thread b/c i find it fascinating and also am trying to get used to all of the scary/weird things that go on so when i do take the plunge, i won''t be freaked out...

But you can''t eat turkey????????? Why????? No sandwiches ever??? Jeez.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/17/2007 2:44:18 PM
Author: mrssalvo
tgal, i haven''t seen the movie yet, but want to. too funny tguy is worried about the baby during sex

great job on the weight gain too. I''ve gained 12 lbs so far hit week 15 tomorrow, at this rate i''ll be jenny mccarthy with the 60

. it was 6 lbs from week 7-11 and another 6 from 11- this week

i''m hoping it slows down a bit, although I gained 38lbs with my first and 39lbs with the second so my guess is thing one will go at the same rate. but dang it''s depressing to get on that scale and see 12 extra lbs already. my sister is at week 9 and gaining NOTHING, not one single oz....tall, skippy, (bleep) j/k of course, i adore her...but still, 12lbs for me, her zitch....


eta: i ate a deli sandwhich the other day too, and had a bite of hubby blue cheese dressing on his salad, it was really yummy

Oh, you''ll love the movie. I think it''s a good movie (not great) but all that more poignant when you''re watching it while preggo.

And isn''t this your SIL''s first? I would think that has something to do with it.

I''ve tried to be careful (minus the awful sweets craving I''ve been having). I just know it''s in my genetic code to get a$$ spread. I think my butt cheeks just naturally want to run away from each other. Wah.

TGuy tried to (hopefully jokingly) put a weight limit on me. I told him to shut the (bleep) up or else I was gonna sit on him, and not in a good way.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/17/2007 2:48:41 PM
Author: ChinaCat
ok, sorry to jump in here- but i have a question!!!

i am not preggo, nor trying to be as of now, but like to skim this thread b/c i find it fascinating and also am trying to get used to all of the scary/weird things that go on so when i do take the plunge, i won''t be freaked out...

But you can''t eat turkey????????? Why????? No sandwiches ever??? Jeez.

Listeria...the EVIL listeria.

http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancyhealth/listeria.html

But you can eat deli meats if you nuke em (yum yum...a moist, hot turkey sandwich

), but don''t stand next to the microwave, because that can get you too. EVERYTHING can get you while you''re pregnant. Muahahahaha.........

*takes tongue out of cheek*

 

[oshinbreez]

Reading this thread today is so sad. I''m shocked, to say the least, that so many of you would abort a child because it''s not "normal". You''re talking about a human life...that you supposedly love. What happens if down the road, the child has an accident and is brain damaged? Will you be like, I don''t want it anymore because it''s "damaged''? The child did not ask to be conceived, and for better or worse, the child deserves a life. If you don''t feel like you can handle having a child with complications, there are plenty of people that would love the baby regardless.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

China, Tgal answered your question. I do have to admit I HAVE eaten cold ham subs before I knew (in my first trimester). It is one of those things that some people follow. Some don''t. I almost ate one yesterday thinking what harm can it do now but I felt too guilty. There is so much you cannot have. Kind of stressful.

TGal, you are honest and there is NOTHING wrong with that. I only had the AFP since it is a simple blood test. I HONESTLY don''t know what we would have done if something came back wrong. It is so easy to say we would keep the baby but it is a live changing (forever) thing to have a disabled child. It is a decision no one wants to make but I don''t think you are selfish at all! Since you know what you would do I would get the amnio.

So funny b/c we painted our nursery light blue. This cashier asked me about it (when she found out we weren''t finding out the sex) and said "oh, you will have a boy then." Whhhhhat???? How does THAT make sense. Like we willed it with our paint choice? Haha. People are so odd.

Diver, I have a feeling my baby will have new clothes (boy or girl) before I even get home from the hospital. The Gmas are GOING to go crazy. My MIL even told me. She is also planning on its thanksgiving outfit. Too funny. We do have lots of neutral clothes but at least they will be good for the next baby too. Target has really cute halloween hats (for $1) right now. I bought the pumpkin one for the baby even though it might not even be home or born yet. I figured for $1 I could risk it. They also had socks and mittens. I think Delaney needs something for her first halloween!!!

MrsS, honey, I have gained SOOOO much weight it is not even funny. The first half only 5-8 lbs (don''t remember, would have to look in my belly book). once I hit 20 weeks, whoah

I REALLY packed it on. I even got a "warning" at one of my doctor''s visits. I will probably be at 45 lbs when it is all said and done. That means I gained around 40lbs in the second half!!!!

I am kind of ashamed but honestly what can I do about it now? If I was hungry, I ate. I am not going to starve myself or my baby. There were times I ate so much it scared DH and I. Like a bottomless pit. Oh well. Baby is worth it. Of course those oreo cakesters haven''t helped!

RE: prenatals. Mine contain both DHA and omega-3. I *think* there might even be fish oil in there

I figure they cover me for everything.

 

[E B]

I always feel weird contributing to this thread because I'm not pregnant, but I don't know where else to share!

I went in for my pre-conception checkup today with my new gyno, and I LOVE her. Had an exam, and I got some blood drawn to check for anemia/thyroid problems and a prescription for chewable prenatal vitamins (because I have a hard time swallowing pills). The nurse said, "I gave you ___ pills, enough to hopefully last through the pregnancy," which was weird to hear.

Overall, it was fun (a gyno appt, fun?), and we got the big thumbs up from the doc! Now, we just need to give ourselves the green light.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/17/2007 3:41:01 PM
Author: oshinbreez
Reading this thread today is so sad. I''m shocked, to say the least, that so many of you would abort a child because it''s not ''normal''. You''re talking about a human life...that you supposedly love. What happens if down the road, the child has an accident and is brain damaged? Will you be like, I don''t want it anymore because it''s ''damaged''? The child did not ask to be conceived, and for better or worse, the child deserves a life. If you don''t feel like you can handle having a child with complications, there are plenty of people that would love the baby regardless.

Sorry you''re sad and shocked. I think what we try to do around here is be honest about our feelings.

As I said, if down the road stuff happens, it happens. I''ll love the child regardless.

My dilemma comes into play in a situation where there is a CHOICE to bring a life that may (or may not) struggle in this world.

And as for your comment about "supposedly love"...people handle love in different ways. Some may bring it into this world and do their best to make it work. For others, love may mean they think they don''t want to that child to suffer. You say the child did not ask to be conceived. True. A lot of people also say they didn''t ask to be BROUGHT into this world, i.e. born either. Whether or not the child "deserves" a life is your OPINION. And there is NO guarantee that even if you had an "abnormal" child that someone would actually take in that baby and love it. Trust me, if after all this, I got something I didn''t expect, I''m not giving it away.

Sorry, I believe there is no right or wrong, but I respect your opinion if you do, and I think you''re entitled to voice it as your own. But I''d kindly ask that if really want to do that on this thread, you can be a bit less "shocked" and a bit more tactful (whoa...am I saying that?)

I mean, seriously...does it really shock you that some people may think differently? I''m not offended by your post, but others could be.

 

[lili]

Date: 10/17/2007 5:04:33 PM
Author: TravelingGal
My dilemma comes into play in a situation where there is a CHOICE to bring a life that may (or may not) struggle in this world.

And as for your comment about ''supposedly love''...people handle love in different ways. Some may bring it into this world and do their best to make it work. For others, love may mean they think they don''t want to that child to suffer. You say the child did not ask to be conceived. True. A lot of people also say they didn''t ask to be BROUGHT into this world, i.e. born either. Whether or not the child ''deserves'' a life is your OPINION. And there is NO guarantee that even if you had an ''abnormal'' child that someone would actually take in that baby and love it. Trust me, if after all this, I got something I didn''t expect, I''m not giving it away.

TGal: My thoughts exactly on this matter. DH and I opted for the amnio for precisely the same reason.

 

[snlee]

Date: 10/17/2007 4:32:34 PM
Author: EBree
I always feel weird contributing to this thread because I'm not pregnant, but I don't know where else to share!

I went in for my pre-conception checkup today with my new gyno, and I LOVE her. Had an exam, and I got some blood drawn to check for anemia/thyroid problems and a prescription for chewable prenatal vitamins (because I have a hard time swallowing pills). The nurse said, 'I gave you ___ pills, enough to hopefully last through the pregnancy,' which was weird to hear.

Overall, it was fun (a gyno appt, fun?), and we got the big thumbs up from the doc! Now, we just need to give ourselves the green light.

I can relate. Hopefully we'll both be pregnant soon so we really belong in this thread.

Can you let me know how the chewable prenatal vitamins are? I'm just getting used to taking the huge prenatal (after a few months of taking them). Some days it's still a pain. I've never been good at swallowing pills. The chewables probably don't taste that great but I might try them if these prenatals become too hard to take.