Dear FI forgot to wish me a Happy B-day this morning...

[Bia]

Ha ha!!! You guys are great!!!

Thank goodness my PS family made me feel special on my birthday. Come to think of it, I should have told him that last night too!!!

Although, I didn''t want to kill him.


All-in-all, it should be an interesting night...can''t wait to dish

 

[gwendolyn]

Oh no, that''s no good! So sorry, Bia--let us know how he makes it up to you, and happy belated birthday, sweetie-pie!

 

[allycat0303]

Oh Bia! That stinks! I don''t think there is anything wrong with giving him a lesson. But in his defense, he forgot the date and not your birthday. That''s something to be said! I''m sure he feels really bad, and you will be adequately compensated (oh an don''t forget to give us the details

) because we love to know. He must feel like poopy right now. I know I would.

 

[bee*]

I love how you handled it! I would have done the same thing to D if he forgot my birthday! Happy belated birthday!!

 

[princesss]

Okay, I''m meant to be going to bed, but I had to check on this.

But really, imagine how hilarious it would have been if he woke you up and wished you a happy birthday this morning, and you looked at him and said, "My birthday was yesterday."

Sorry. I guess being this tired makes me loopy.

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!

 

[Bia]

Thanks guys! Appreciate the back up! I just talked to him and he''s got that "I was a bad boy" voice...sounds almost depressed LOL (GOOD!

)

I told him what''s done is done. We''ll see what he does about that

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 1/15/2009 1:43:04 PM
Author: Bia
Thanks guys! Appreciate the back up! I just talked to him and he''s got that ''I was a bad boy'' voice...sounds almost depressed LOL (GOOD!

)


I told him what''s done is done. We''ll see what he does about that

I guess I will be the lone voice to say the guy made a mistake, he apologized, so perhaps you could let up on him a bit? I guess I just imagine this happening with SO and I and the thought of him miserably disappointed in himself just makes me feel awful! My SO is really sensitive, and I would feel like such a meanie if I kept holding it over his head.

It''s not like he said "What''s the big deal!?!" in which case, I would say crucify him!

 

[Bia]

Date: 1/15/2009 3:01:25 PM
Author: trillionaire

Date: 1/15/2009 1:43:04 PM
Author: Bia
Thanks guys! Appreciate the back up! I just talked to him and he's got that 'I was a bad boy' voice...sounds almost depressed LOL (GOOD!

)


I told him what's done is done. We'll see what he does about that

I guess I will be the lone voice to say the guy made a mistake, he apologized, so perhaps you could let up on him a bit? I guess I just imagine this happening with SO and I and the thought of him miserably disappointed in himself just makes me feel awful! My SO is really sensitive, and I would feel like such a meanie if I kept holding it over his head.

It's not like he said 'What's the big deal!?!' in which case, I would say crucify him!

I'm not upset anymore. Honestly, apart from being sad last night, I was over it this morning. But I do think he needs to know that its not okay to forget my birthday. If everyone (friends, family and co-workers alike) managed to remember and acknowledge, then I think he can too. He did the same thing with his mother's b-day a few days ago (she's in Jan too). Had I not asked him if he called his mother for her b-day (as we were getting ready for bed), he would have forgotten and she would have been really upset. The point is, he's very forgetful about stuff like this and when it comes to his family, he really shouldn't be. Like I said, God forbid anyone of us forgets his birthday...

I get what you're saying Trillionaire. And, truthfully, you're right...he's totally off the hook, don't worry

. I am not a sticker for birthdays...but for my man to forget, that just hurt. And he must know that.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 1/15/2009 3:31:47 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 1/15/2009 3:01:25 PM

Author: trillionaire

Date: 1/15/2009 1:43:04 PM

Author: Bia

Thanks guys! Appreciate the back up! I just talked to him and he''s got that ''I was a bad boy'' voice...sounds almost depressed LOL (GOOD!

)



I told him what''s done is done. We''ll see what he does about that

I guess I will be the lone voice to say the guy made a mistake, he apologized, so perhaps you could let up on him a bit? I guess I just imagine this happening with SO and I and the thought of him miserably disappointed in himself just makes me feel awful! My SO is really sensitive, and I would feel like such a meanie if I kept holding it over his head.

It''s not like he said ''What''s the big deal!?!'' in which case, I would say crucify him!

I''m not upset anymore. Honestly, apart from being sad last night, I was over it this morning. But I do think he needs to know that its not okay to forget my birthday. If everyone (friends, family and co-workers alike) managed to remember and acknowledge, then I think he can too. He did the same thing with his mother''s b-day a few days ago (she''s in Jan too). Had I not asked him if he called his mother for her b-day (as we were getting ready for bed), he would have forgotten and she would have been really upset. The point is, he''s very forgetful about stuff like this and when it comes to his family, he really shouldn''t be. Like I said, God forbid anyone of us forgets his birthday...


I get what you''re saying Trillionaire. And, truthfully, you''re right...he''s totally off the hook, don''t worry

. I am not a sticker for birthdays...but for my man to forget, that just hurt. And he must know that.

In your long and happy life together, when he forgets a few more birthdays, just remember that there is no one else you would rather spend forgotten birthdays with!

I did understand your concern and frustration, I just know that my guy is a pleaser by nature, and loves to make me happy and so dismayed when he disappoints. Your guy sounded the same way, and I am sure he will make up for it very sweetly.

And, for kicks, you should get him a countdown calendar until your next birthday. Just in case.

 

[whitby_2773]

BIa

my husband once forgot our anniversary. he was really busy at work and it just went straight out of his head.

about 3 days later he came and said to me "I missed our anniversary, didn''t i?"

i said - ''yup. but that''s ok, cause i know you''re under a lot of stress right now.''

well! i have heard him retell that story about 50 times over the course of our marriage, always prefaced with something like "This is why my wife is the most wonderful woman in the world..." and he has never forgotten a anniversary or birthday since.

just one evil thought tho...

if he was telling you at 9pm at night that he had thought it was the next day, and that he hadnt REALLY forgotten, then *your* response should have been:

"That''s fine, darling - everyone gets the date wrong from time to time. but since it''s my birthday now -how about you give me the gift you got me for tomorrow?"

(uh oh....)

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 1/15/2009 3:31:47 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 1/15/2009 3:01:25 PM

Author: trillionaire

Date: 1/15/2009 1:43:04 PM

Author: Bia

Thanks guys! Appreciate the back up! I just talked to him and he''s got that ''I was a bad boy'' voice...sounds almost depressed LOL (GOOD!

)

I told him what''s done is done. We''ll see what he does about that

I guess I will be the lone voice to say the guy made a mistake, he apologized, so perhaps you could let up on him a bit? I guess I just imagine this happening with SO and I and the thought of him miserably disappointed in himself just makes me feel awful! My SO is really sensitive, and I would feel like such a meanie if I kept holding it over his head.

It''s not like he said ''What''s the big deal!?!'' in which case, I would say crucify him!

I''m not upset anymore. Honestly, apart from being sad last night, I was over it this morning. But I do think he needs to know that its not okay to forget my birthday. If everyone (friends, family and co-workers alike) managed to remember and acknowledge, then I think he can too. He did the same thing with his mother''s b-day a few days ago (she''s in Jan too). Had I not asked him if he called his mother for her b-day (as we were getting ready for bed), he would have forgotten and she would have been really upset. The point is, he''s very forgetful about stuff like this and when it comes to his family, he really shouldn''t be. Like I said, God forbid anyone of us forgets his birthday...

I get what you''re saying Trillionaire. And, truthfully, you''re right...he''s totally off the hook, don''t worry

. I am not a sticker for birthdays...but for my man to forget, that just hurt. And he must know that.

Oh he would not be off the hook with me yet! The guilt trip definitely could last longer, in my opinion! I can''t wait to see all your presents, though!

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 1/15/2009 6:56:17 PM
Author: whitby_2773

my husband once forgot our anniversary. he was really busy at work and it just went straight out of his head.


about 3 days later he came and said to me ''I missed our anniversary, didn''t i?''


i said - ''yup. but that''s ok, cause i know you''re under a lot of stress right now.''


well! i have heard him retell that story about 50 times over the course of our marriage, always prefaced with something like ''This is why my wife is the most wonderful woman in the world...'' and he has never forgotten a anniversary or birthday since.

Whitby,

What a classy and mature response! I want to be like you when I grow up!!!

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 1/15/2009 6:56:17 PM
Author: whitby_2773

my husband once forgot our anniversary. he was really busy at work and it just went straight out of his head.

I actually forgot our first anniversary.

I made other plans that evening because I honestly just didn''t think about it. I did bring home cupcakes and champagne to make it up to him, though.

He says that I''m never allowed to give him grief for forgetting something like that now because I forgot the first one. LOL. I guess I just never thought of dates as being that important...I celebrate my love for him every day!

 

[Bia]

Whitby, you''re a classy lady for sure

Sounds like you have a good man by your side as well! I''ll def take some pointers from you.

Trill: I took your advice and went easy on him LOL.
Actually he really made an effort yesterday--it was really cute and just affirmed how lucky I am to have him.

He came home with a huge bouquet of flowers (a lily, dahlia and hydrangea mix) and also brought home dinner from a fantastic Mexican restaurant in the city. He apologized profusely, saying again, that he really thought my birthday was Thursday. He said that no one in the world matters to him as much as I do, so although he''s forgetful, he never forgets about me (even though he did forget...hehe

).

As for presents...

He''s treating me to a spa day at Acqua Beauty Bar--got a certificate for a facial, 1 1/2 hour massage and Mani/Pedi!!!!

. Then we are going out to dinner at this really wonderful French culinary school. They have a small and lovely restaurant inside where the students cook! We went there once for his parent''s anniversary dinner and loved it! I''m so excited!!!

So yea, all-in-all, a very special evening! Thanks again everyone...appreciate all the love!

 

[Winks_Elf]

Awe, sounds like it will be worth him forgetting.

 

[whitby_2773]

i''m so pleased you had a great evening, bia - with a great spa day coming up!

and i LOVE eating at culinary school restaurants - their food is always fabulous!

he sounds like a very nice man

 

[sklingem]

What a smart guy ... LOL Good for you Bia!!!
R.

 

[Definitely. Maybe]

Aww I am glad everthing worked out! Your FI seems like he did a really good job making it up to you!

 

[musey]

Good job, Mr. Bia!

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 1/16/2009 1:49:26 PM
Author: musey
Good job, Mr. Bia!

Ditto! I''m glad he came through and you had a happy (belated) birthday!

 

[Bliss]

AWWW! What a sweet ending to what could have been a sad day for our Bia!


Happy Belated Birthday, Bia!

That wonderful spa/dinner/love day sounds divine. And you know what? I bet he will never forget again -- and that next year your birthday will be EXTRA special. LOL. I bet he's planning it in advance, in fact!

ENJOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!