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I feel that this is uncalled-for and incredibly rude. I've read the posts and don't feel that fiona is in the wrong -- if anything they're pretty polite and understanding in saying that everyone makes mistakes.
Based on what fiona and asscher have said, it's clear that fiona came here to complain because they've tried contacting asscher and could not get a response after 5 August. Asscher then replied in ALL CAPS (!!) to say that they've emailed fiona around 19 August.
Asscher later admitted that the email doesn't seem to have gone out because of issues with their email service provider. In that post asscher also decided to make excuses about how they had to live life etc without the smallest bit of apology or acknowledgement that fiona was on here because they've been ghosted (from their perspective) for about a month and was getting anxious about the claim that only asscher can apply for. Hey, in fiona's position I'd have assumed that I just got scammed. Hell, I've given and applied for a Paypal refund once after getting strung along for months (!!) by some Instagram seller who is still carrying on her business on there!
Look, I get that it was a mistake and I feel that innocent mistakes can happen to anybody and I absolutely don't think that asscher was out to scam anybody at all, but it feels incredibly unfair that some people have decided on turn on fiona like this.
@whimsicism
Thank you for trying to understand both parties' points of view (you certainly are patient reading all the details!). I thought of reporting the thread to have it removed also, but there are some content that other members contributed (apart from the actual misunderstanding), that can be informative for some people. I admit the back and forth is not pleasant to read at all and not exactly helpful.
The seller has a right to her emotions but my intention was not to hurt anybody. As the title says, I am also upset over this but just not writing it all out for everyone to see.
It's interesting to hear, though, people's past experience with their purchases getting lost and how they actually handled it. This experience is a bit different as it's a private purchase and not a business transaction.
Moving forward, if I sell something, I will always ask for G&S payment and insured shipping.
I once shipped out a preloved 18k bracelet years ago. I don't remember the exact details but I am the one who chose the shipping method . The buyer never received it. I felt so bad that I gave her back her money. I could have investigated further on my own. But since it was Canada to USA, I felt it would be complicated.
I also has a situation of purchasing on Etsy during COVID. At the time, shipping was slow worldwide (as per the seller) given the circumstances so I stayed patient. 4 months later, still nothing and seller ghosted me and by then, it was too late to dispute through Etsy. I couldn't even write a review. So that was a loss.