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For us...all I know is that we will be married in 2007.....engaged in 2006 (I hope!)...but that''s all I know. He doesn''t even know my ring size or anything.....so who knows.

During our talk last saturday he said something that I actually also read in the book I bought. He said that the fact that I''m usually the one that brings it up then it actually kind of kills the excitement for him. He wishes he had an opportunity to bring it up...but feels I bring it up enough. He also pretty much told me that for him it was important to prpose and THEN start talking more about the wedding plans, etc. I can respect that...I don''t want this experience to be stressful for him...so I know I have to trust him completely and let go, completely, of trying to find out when it will happen. It is very hard...and believe me...I think about it every second of the day!. But I''m doing good so far.

M~
 
Haha Mandarine. I do good in like maybe 5 second to three day intervals.
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What''s hard is that he says the same things-- let him lead, trust him, and the like. But then he''ll bring stuff up, totally get me all excited and into talking, thinking, hyper excited mode, and it''s *so* hard to come down from that.

I''m glad you''re doing so well. Maybe I need to get a book that will teach me how to stop being so eager. I don''t know that it''d work though. Then I think about how his original plan was April, then May, and now June. It kinda makes me want to be *grrry.* But I know he''s not doing anything other than rolling with the punches of life.

One thing I''m trying to think about is something I heard on the radio today: when you think about all the things you worry about or stress over in life, think about whether or not it will matter looking back ten years from now. Would it matter to me in 2016 that we got engaged two months later than we''d *scheduled?* Nope. Not really. Just as long as it doesn''t tamper with our wedding month, I guess it''s not a HUGE thing. But golly, I hope in 2016 I can think back to THIS time of year and smile, knowing it was when we first began planning our lives together, preparing for marriage. Anyway, that is good advice when you''re stressing: will it matter 10 years? For most of the things I worry over, it won''t make a flipping difference a week from now, let alone a decade from now. :)

Anyway, I wish a happy weekend for all. Friday''s on it''s way again. Yipeee!!
 
I have no doubt that in 2016 you will look back and smile
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M~
 
Goodmorning girls! Its Friday woo hoo! I am procrastinating as usual by checking PS but today I wish I could just forget about the morning. I have a doctors appt. You know that fabulous yearly one us women get to enjoy. Last night K was trying to tell me oh come on your just going in to see the doc what could be so horrible about that?
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I quickly painted a visual for him and he quickly retracted his comment.
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Boys! Well I get to finish off the day with a fabulous hair cut so I''m just trying to concentrate on that! Hope everyone else is looking forward to the weekend!
 
Oh, poor thing... My doctor''s appointement''s next Friday! blah...
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I''ll be thinking about you!
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Sorry to hear about Dr appt''s like that --- no fun. I''m good til next Feb thank goodness. So I wanted to tell you guys something cool that wasn''t worth its own thread ---

I had to go to the DMV this AM (almost as "fun" as the dr''s!) But it turned out GREAT! How does the DMV turn out great, you ask??? Is it possible?? Well, it *is* possible -- when the state issues new license plates with a BIG OLE DIAMOND smack dab in the middle of them! Finally a reason to love Arkansas (I''m from CO/WY, not a born and bred southerner). Anyway, had to share --- it so pretty! Makes me wish we had a front plate too.
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I never imagined I''d be this happy about a darned license plate
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jen
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Well I survived
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And will soon be getting my scalp massaged from my wonderful stylist.. ahhhhhh
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Well ladies I suppose it is officially the weekend! Woo Hoo!
 
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My stylist got engaged and is moving!
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I walk downstairs with her and there is huge bling on her finger! I immediately ask and yep. Complete and total surprise to her so she is moving out to his city after th wedding. But tomorrow is her last day. I absolutely hate having to find a new stylist! So how has everyone else''s friday been? Fish are you off to see your boy again this weekend?
 
Hi. Guess what? I''m gonna learn how to swim today. Or maybe I''ll sink. I don''t know. If you don''t hear from me again, I guess that means I drown.
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If I drown, that means Paul let me.
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I never learned to swim. I''m scared of water. He says it''s time I learn and I guess maybe I should. I never learned to ride a bike, either. I was a *very* timid little girl, can you tell?
 
Oh that should be lots of fun! I LOVE swimming it is such a blast and you are so free in the water! I''m sure Paul won''t let you drown hehehe. TTYL
 
So, it rained most of the morning. Then it was just pretty dark and blah. So instead we looked around online and found a print out of actual size of carats. So then he was all happy and liked looking at it. Then I was being silly and I said I was going to cut it out and see how cute it would be on my finger. Then he suggested I do it. Since I''m always up for something like that, I did. It''s *so* the size I want! Definitely. Not too little, not too big. Yay! Now I just need to patiently wait. *We even took pictures, since I''ve been so excited for the day I get to do that for real. Even with it being a piece of paper stuck on a band, it''s hard to photograph. I admire all of you who''ve done such great jobs since your engagement! :)
 
I hope everyone''s weekend went well. Any engagements? They seem to be popping all over the place right now.

My weekend was good, once a little bit of a spat got settled when I first got to his house. I get so tired and grumpy making that long drive, especially after work. Anyway, all is well now. I''m so glad he''s as understanding as he is. Some day I hope to tame my emotional comments when I''m tired. Maybe some day.

I am a little bummed today, though. A friend of mine at work pretty much told me today that she doesn''t think he''s making the efforts he needs to be making in order for things to progress. She says she doesn''t know if car issues *happen like that.* The thing is, I know they have happened. I''ve never not trusted him, and I surely wouldn''t in this matter. It bothers me that I''m bothered by it, but she is a good friend and I don''t understand why she would question things, when he''s had to put out over 900 dollars in the past two months that he wasn''t planning on. You can''t just *snap back* and get all your plans taken care of in a matter of circumstances like that. I''m trying hard to be positive and lowkey about this stuff, and it just irked me a bit that she''d say something like that.

Anyway, that concludes my vent. Other than that, today went well for a Monday!
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Yay, you didn''t drown!
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Try not to let your friend get to you. People talk from their experiences, and there are people out there who will make excuses to put things off when they''re not ready. She''s probably known one of them or been one herself. While I don''t know you or Paul that well, it seems like he really does want to marry you. He''s pushing things back for completely legitimate reasons - $900 is a lot! Out of curiousity, did she suggest any additional efforts that he could make for things to progress? The only kind of reasonable things I can think of would involve him spending a lot less time with you (ie, parttime job?) and I''m sure that neither of you would really want that.
 
Blenhiem,

I''m so glad you''re happy and doing well, girl. I can only imagine the bliss of being newly engaged. What fun! I''m excited to hear your glee when you get your new ring!

Didn''t drown, no. Wasn''t given the chance. It was rainy, then we decided on a movie afternoon, just as the sun came out. We never made it to the pool. I do hope to learn soon, though.

As for his money situation. Well, if things go well and he doesn''t have any added issues to his car *or anything else*, he''ll have enough when he''s paid at the end of the month, since he''d saved up in April for more than the cost of the ring. This is good, since once he buys the ring, he''ll still have a cushion and it will help him in continuing to put into savings, too. It always seems harder to save when you''re starting over, with nothing. He did some work with his brother on the house he just bought, too. He got about 100 bucks for that, which had him all excited. That''s the thing, he gets so happy and excited when things are going in our favor about this engagement process. I don''t doubt his intentions for a second. I just hate that he''s had so many bumps along the way. I also hate that I can be so grumpy about it. Argh. I try hard. Its not easy all the time. But when I remember the time and work he''s putting into things, and when I remember that the time really is around the corner, I deal with it pretty well. Mostly.

He still won''t say for sure what he''s planning on choosing, but I know he has set plans, because what he planned in April is still in effect, so he says.

Now I''m hoping that we don''t have to go through looking at diamonds all over again. I *hope* the one I love remains available.

It''ll all work out. I have to remind myself of that before I get worked up.


Equ, How''s your BIG month of milestone moments going? Fabulously well, I hope.

Anchor, Have you gotten any more hints from your guy?

Ilovesparkles, you seem to have been doing well with the long distance thing here lately. Congrats! It''s hard, oh I know, but you''re focusing well! Hope school finishes fast for you.
 
Aww thanks fish! My exam is tomorrow
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And I am a procrastinator, hello I''m here and not studying, so I have more reading to do tonight but I always fall asleep
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Management and ethics just isn''t my forte! Well too bad you didn''t get to swim I was looking forward to hear how it went. And about your coworker, I could be way off but perhaps jealousy? I don''t truly know you or Paul but even I don''t believ he could have made that up! You two are just too genuine to do silly things like that! What movie did you two see? I rented one that I get to watch after I either finish studying tonight or finish the exam tomorrow.
 
Ilovesparkles,

This is a funny story, actually. Paul got a giftcard for Blockbuster from one of his students who has a little crush on him. We were going to use it, got all the way to the store *it''s just down the street* then realized he''d left the giftcard at home. He doesn''t have a card, but I do. I''d left mine at *my* house. So, we ended up picking through his movie collection, and guess what I found? *While You Were Sleeping!!!* He swears he does NOT own this movie, and that it must have gotten mixed into his collection long ago when his mom misplaced one of hers. So, we watched it and Happy Gilmore. Good times, good times.

As for my friend at work, I don''t think she''s jealous as much as she just gets sad when I get so excited and then I fall when things don''t go as *I* plan. The thing is, he doesn''t try to set me up to fall, I do a lot of that on my own. I also know that he did have issues with his car, and I thank my God that it''s working so well right now.
 
Fisher, I have to tell you how much I enjoy reading this thread. I hope you will consider printing it out one day so that at that magical 10 year mark you can look back and say, "If I only knew then..."

Your story makes me alternately laugh and cry. And sometimes pee a little, but that''s really more than you need to know.

I hear you about the friendly concern. Sometimes my friends'' concern makes me wish they''d keep it to themselves, even though what they say comes from such a good place. They just want some wedding cake, me thinks (my friends. Yours, I''m sure, have more noble intentions.)

I did have to giggle at all the doctor stuff on here. I just went through what I believe was a spelunking of my cervix (I think the gyn used the jaws of life down there.) I was, needless to say, a little achy, and when my BF saw me in pain, he patted my TUMMY and said, "Does it hurt there?"

Uh, close.

One of these days I''m going to have to draw him a treasure map. X marks the cervix.

But I still adore him. And he knows where the important parts are. Like my ring finger -- get your minds out of the gutter.

Jas
 
Jas,

That was too funny. I''m sorry it makes you pee a little bit. :)

I get teased by my guy when I have cramps and I say, "my baby maker hurts." That is what it is, though.
 
Milestone moments not good at the moment, Fishie. I posted more details in the forum on Family stuff, but I have a sick horse today that I am really worried about. He''s never been sick before, so it is kind of a milestone, but at 27 years old I am concerned for his advanced age. He is experiencing a bad impaction which can potentially twist and kill off parts of his intestines. The vet has been out already, and I am hoping my mom calls with good news in the morning and tells me he has manure in the stall. Cross your fingers and think of the sweet old guy for me...
 
Oh Equ I''m aorry to hear about your horse! I will definitely think about him tonight!

Fish - I love that movie, While you were sleeping! It is so adorable! I picked up Tristian and Isolde and will watch it tomorrow after my test. jAny good reccomendations? I saw so many movies I would love to rent at the store today and had to run with the first thing I picked up. I still have a paper to write for heavens sake! Fortunately I think K has gotten over the hump of his depression from the last week. He hasn''t seen family in a year and half at least and on top of it being mother''s day, it was the family reunion he couldn;t make it to so he was pretty upset. But things are going a bit better I think. OK well its off to bed for me! Will someone please get a good nights rest for me? I need it and don;t seem to be getting it lately! ZZzzzzzz
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Equ, I do hope your horse is feeling better by now. My cousin has horses and actually works in a horse hospital/long-term care/boarding facility in Virginia. She loves them and it breaks her heart every time one comes in sick. Happily, a lot of the time they get better and feel good and go back home quickly. I assume your horse lives with your parents; do you get to see your buddy often?

And, have your kids learned anything in the last week, or is the sparkle factor still more than you can resist? :)
 
My horse Taz was humanely put to sleep this morning by the vet. His condition had not improved by this morning, and the vet was called out again. Rather than perform expensive surgery with such a high risk due to his age, I requested that he be made comfortable and euthanized. Taz was 27 years old and had been a part of our family for ten wonderful years. His pasture mate Chance, my family and I will miss him very much.
 
I''m so sorry Equestrienne! I''m sure you loved him very much and did everything you could to help him!
 
Aww, Equ, I''m sorry. I''m glad Taz isn''t suffering anymore. It''s a hard decision to make, but now he''s not in pain. I pray you and your family keep happy memories of years with Taz forever!
 
Oh, equ, I''m very sorry for the loss of your horse! *big hugs*
 
Equ - I am so so sorry to hear about your horse! I know how hard it is to put down a pet! I hope you find comfort in his memories!
 
I am looking into having his hair made into some custom jewelry so I can wear it in his memory. www.twistedtails.com
 
That''s a great idea Equestrienne. I keep my first two pups'' collars with tags still attached hanging on my bed post...just so they''re always with me. =)
 
I really like that idea too.


Today's been really up and down. J graduated this morning. His school can be really rough at times -- lots of physical requirements, curfews, confinement sometimes if you get in trouble, etc. We've been dreaming for 2.5 years (well, him for 4) for this light at the end of the tunnel, and it's actually here. It just feels strange. The place where the ceremony was had terrible seats, and it took so long, and I forgot to bring pain meds. I was practically crying at the end, half from pain and half from emotions.

J thought he was free from the school's crazy rules, but then learned that they were giving the ENTIRE STUDENT BODY 1.5 hours to move out of the dorms. And they all have to live in the dorms. And all of their parents had restaurant reservations so that they could celebrate. A lot of the guys had to tell their parents to go without them. J finally got it all packed, and is now at home with his parents until Sunday. The sad thing is that I went on a walk this afternoon past their dorms, and there were several students sitting on the curb with a huge pile of stuff. All the doors were chained shut. I guess their parents were late to pick them up?

I got back to a message from my mom. The little sister of one of my childhood friends passed away from cancer last night. She was such a wonderful girl. She's lived much longer than they thought she would, but I still can't believe she's gone.
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I joined Equ in posting in Family and Health.

I also went to my first ever bridal shower tonight, which was fun. The bride's bridesmaids had emailed her fiance a list of questions, and she was supposed to guess his answers. We had teams to make "wedding dresses" out of toilet paper. (Ok, maybe that part wasn't so much fun.) There was an "Around the clock" theme, and everyone got assigned a time. I had 1 pm, and got her a pitcher and a couple boxes of tea. (She's moving further south, and if I were her I'd be drinking iced tea ALL the time.)The other girls were just hilarious. For example, the 4 pm girl put together an "Afternoon Delight" present that consisted of a teapot filled with lingerie.


ETA: Should I just throw in the towel on tomorrow's homework? I keep trying and just can't concentrate. It's been a hard day.
 
Equ that is a really nice thing to do and the jewelry looks pretty.

Blen - Sounds like a rough day you had yesterday
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Hope you are feeling better and you didn''t wear your back out too much! So does this mean you two are moving in together soon?

Fish - How are you this morning?

Allergies are really starting to kick in for me and my throat/nasal passage feel just raw its horrible! The exam went pretty well yesterday. I think I missed a couple points. Plzzzzz! Last night I almost cried because K was being so sweet! When I was out there last he has just gotten a new(used) king size bed. It was SO comfortable and had lots and lots of room. It was like heaven to cuddle up in. Well he said he sold it and traded for a newer full size mattress
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But he told me it was just too big and lonely without me there. He would look over and the vast space without me was just too much so he had to get a smaller one
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He usually isn''t all mushy like that so it really got to me! But somehow it made that ache inside of me a little less. Well I''m off to analyze data for my thesis
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Hope everyone is having a fabulous day!
 
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