I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

[justginger]

YT, Gemfever, HOT, Rosebloom, and JaneSmith, thank you. You're all very kind.

Jane, I have absolutely no idea what the photo was of. We spent the night before the wedding in a bit of a kitschy hotel, every room was different and we discovered this one as we were getting ready that morning. It had a wall-to-wall mural of an Alps scene - Mom and I had a blast in front of it, silly yodeling photos and all.

 

[Enerchi]

JG!!! you are STUNNING!!! you look amazing on your wedding day and your mom is so YOUNG!! WOW !!!

Sarahbear - your bro is a total CATCH!! Holy cow, why is that guy not snapped up?? He's the brother of the year, IMO!!

Junebug - I've got my DH trained to look at jewels when we are travelling - he even nudges ME to notice things I may have missed!!! I love how your DH thinks tho... but TOTALLY loving the other hubbie who thought a return trip to Cartier would be fun... where were those guys when I was single????

YT - damn that favourite food store- tempting you like that!!!

 

[Enerchi]

Had a bad weekend. Very emotional regarding things going on with our oldest son. Had a worse phone call from him to DH on Tuesday night. We are being well supported by friends who encourage us that this will pass, he will see the light, he'll return to the fold... but at the moment, we are wondering if there still is hope. Both of us are sad, hurt... and its manifesting itself in anger. The whole household is very disturbed by his choices. Man... no matter how old they get, they still pull at your heart strings. There is nothing we can do and any intervention would not be appropriate... its just a 'sit and wait' thing.

(guess who's not so good with the "WAIT" part???)

 

[missy]

Had a bad weekend. Very emotional regarding things going on with our oldest son. Had a worse phone call from him to DH on Tuesday night. We are being well supported by friends who encourage us that this will pass, he will see the light, he'll return to the fold... but at the moment, we are wondering if there still is hope. Both of us are sad, hurt... and its manifesting itself in anger. The whole household is very disturbed by his choices. Man... no matter how old they get, they still pull at your heart strings. There is nothing we can do and any intervention would not be appropriate... its just a 'sit and wait' thing.

(guess who's not so good with the "WAIT" part???)

Aww, sending you big {{{hugs}}} Enerchi and hoping he eventually sees things more clearly. Sometimes they just need to make their own mistakes to learn from them. Keeping you in my thoughts and sending positive vibes!!

 

[Cozystitches]

Tucson Kids are totally over the moon today!!! Not only is it Rodeo weekend, but we have SNOW. Like real snow collected on the grass and everything. My kids are scarfing their breakfast right now so they can go out and play.

The down side: Our heater freezes over when it's cold and damp. So, poor hubby woke up in the wee hours to cold air blowing on him so he went around and got the space heaters. Our heater is the AC unit that reverses the process for heat (ok totally not technical, but you get the idea), so heat isn't as needed. It works great, and will be better once the sun comes up.

Plans for today: Play with yarn, friends coming over for crafting day, watch my desert rat children freeze in this fluffy white stuff, and play w/more yarn. I'll grade and plan tomorrow.

 

[gregchang35]

Had a bad weekend. Very emotional regarding things going on with our oldest son. Had a worse phone call from him to DH on Tuesday night. We are being well supported by friends who encourage us that this will pass, he will see the light, he'll return to the fold... but at the moment, we are wondering if there still is hope. Both of us are sad, hurt... and its manifesting itself in anger. The whole household is very disturbed by his choices. Man... no matter how old they get, they still pull at your heart strings. There is nothing we can do and any intervention would not be appropriate... its just a 'sit and wait' thing.

(guess who's not so good with the "WAIT" part???)

Sorry for the fact that you are going through this....BIG HUGS from down under..... knowing that he made the call to let you know he has made the wrong choice is a HUGE step for him. I am so glad that you are being supported by your friends close by (and here on PS, too)...I also hope that your eldest son has the same support wherever he may be; in what ever situation that he is in.

Bigger Hugs

 

[Enerchi]

Missy and Gregchang--- thank you so much!!!

He mainly called to fight! It was not what we were expecting. He has become incredibly insecure and paranoid in this relationship (not in a declining mental health way... in a VERY insecure way which seems to us, to have been brought on by the manner in which he is regularly treated by his g/f) We can't do anything right, in his opinion- damned if we do/damned if we don't. He has to find his own way and find something intrinisic to motivate him to make a change... but so far... he seems to be getting deeper and deeper into what he thinks is "the best thing ever". Yikes. To us as outside observers, it sure doesn't seem like the best thing ever. It just makes us all so sad.

Thanks for thinking of us and keeping positive thoughts going. I'm just super down about it right now and really need to snap out of this funk and stop crying. I keep repeating my phrase - "you can't control people, places or things"... (oooh, but I would be SOOO GOOD AT IT!!! )

 

[GemFever]

Missy and Gregchang--- thank you so much!!!

He mainly called to fight! It was not what we were expecting. He has become incredibly insecure and paranoid in this relationship (not in a declining mental health way... in a VERY insecure way which seems to us, to have been brought on by the manner in which he is regularly treated by his g/f) We can't do anything right, in his opinion- damned if we do/damned if we don't. He has to find his own way and find something intrinisic to motivate him to make a change... but so far... he seems to be getting deeper and deeper into what he thinks is "the best thing ever". Yikes. To us as outside observers, it sure doesn't seem like the best thing ever. It just makes us all so sad.

Thanks for thinking of us and keeping positive thoughts going. I'm just super down about it right now and really need to snap out of this funk and stop crying. I keep repeating my phrase - "you can't control people, places or things"... (oooh, but I would be SOOO GOOD AT IT!!! )

Enerchi, ((hugs!))

 

[gregchang35]

Enerchi- matters of the heart are hard to deal with.....

we can be blinded at times (love does that) and it may take someone objective, and maybe close to him to help him see. Sometimes, the lessons of the heart are best learned by being scorned. As a new parent, i dont want anything to happen to little miss. but i know that she will have to learn lessons on her own.... i just want to reach out and hug you guys, and not sure if that is helping. sorry if this isnt helping...

Big hugs.

 

[justginger]

JG!!! you are STUNNING!!! you look amazing on your wedding day and your mom is so YOUNG!! WOW !!!

Sarahbear - your bro is a total CATCH!! Holy cow, why is that guy not snapped up?? He's the brother of the year, IMO!!

Junebug - I've got my DH trained to look at jewels when we are travelling - he even nudges ME to notice things I may have missed!!! I love how your DH thinks tho... but TOTALLY loving the other hubbie who thought a return trip to Cartier would be fun... where were those guys when I was single????

YT - damn that favourite food store- tempting you like that!!!

I shall show her this thread - it will make her day. She never believes me when I say how young she looks for her age (which is north of 60).

I am sorry you are being put through the wringer with one of your children. It must be so frustrating and painful to see the person you remember as just a baby making poor choices...and you are powerless to do anything to protect him. I guess that's the fate of all parents though, being forced to watch your special charges make their own mistakes and learn very tough lessons along the way. Goodness knows I did - most of my mother's gray hairs were probably brought on by my harebrained idea to get married and move to Australia at 21 years old. And what do you know...she was right about how that short-lived marriage was going to turn out! Hopefully your son sees the light sooner rather than later. Big hugs in the meantime.

 

[Enerchi]

Enerchi- matters of the heart are hard to deal with.....

we can be blinded at times (love does that) and it may take someone objective, and maybe close to him to help him see. Sometimes, the lessons of the heart are best learned by being scorned. As a new parent, i dont want anything to happen to little miss. but i know that she will have to learn lessons on her own.... i just want to reach out and hug you guys, and not sure if that is helping. sorry if this isnt helping...

Big hugs.

Never fear!!! you are helping THanks, greg

 

[TooPatient]

JG!!! you are STUNNING!!! you look amazing on your wedding day and your mom is so YOUNG!! WOW !!!

Sarahbear - your bro is a total CATCH!! Holy cow, why is that guy not snapped up?? He's the brother of the year, IMO!!

Junebug - I've got my DH trained to look at jewels when we are travelling - he even nudges ME to notice things I may have missed!!! I love how your DH thinks tho... but TOTALLY loving the other hubbie who thought a return trip to Cartier would be fun... where were those guys when I was single????

YT - damn that favourite food store- tempting you like that!!!

I shall show her this thread - it will make her day. She never believes me when I say how young she looks for her age (which is north of 60).

I am sorry you are being put through the wringer with one of your children. It must be so frustrating and painful to see the person you remember as just a baby making poor choices...and you are powerless to do anything to protect him. I guess that's the fate of all parents though, being forced to watch your special charges make their own mistakes and learn very tough lessons along the way. Goodness knows I did - most of my mother's gray hairs were probably brought on by my harebrained idea to get married and move to Australia at 21 years old. And what do you know...she was right about how that short-lived marriage was going to turn out! Hopefully your son sees the light sooner rather than later. Big hugs in the meantime.

JG -- North of 60? She doesn't even begin to look it!

SarahBear -- Hope everyone is feeling better. What a wonderful brother you've got!

Enerchi -- Sorry to hear your son is still in that situation. He'll learn that it is a mistake when he's ready to.

 

[Dee*Jay]

I FINALLY have an offer from the Chicago firm!!! (Well, a "quasi" offer -- the headhunter has communicated some general terms to me, but the hiring manager wants to talk and work out the details!) I know it ain't a done deal until the paperwork is signed, but this is a huge step in the right direction!!!

 

[missy]

I FINALLY have an offer from the Chicago firm!!! (Well, a "quasi" offer -- the headhunter has communicated some general terms to me, but the hiring manager wants to talk and work out the details!) I know it ain't a done deal until the paperwork is signed, but this is a huge step in the right direction!!!

YAY!!!!!!!! Congrats and good luck Dee Jay!!! Fingers and toes crossed for you that it all works out well!!!

 

[Rosebloom]

Enerchi - I'm so sorry. I have two little boys and if one of them breaks my heart this way... Well, I'll probably have to page you for advice! Can you agree to still be on PS 20 years from now?

Dee Jay - congrats! Get yourself moved back up here by April 20 so you can come to the Chicago GTG! Enerchi's going to need some of that wine your hoarding.

 

[VRBeauty]

Thanks for thinking of us and keeping positive thoughts going. I'm just super down about it right now and really need to snap out of this funk and stop crying. I keep repeating my phrase - "you can't control people, places or things"... (oooh, but I would be SOOO GOOD AT IT!!! )

Wouldn't we all!

I'm sorry you're still going through this, Enerchi - I hope your son comes to his senses soon! BTW I think his calling your husband to pick a fight with him might just be a good sign. He might be reacting to some sense of disturbance in his universe... or maybe he's feeling a need to defend his choices. Either way your son isn't yet at the point where he's comfortable enough with his choices to just ignore your objections, and I suspect that's a good thing.

 

[Enerchi]

I FINALLY have an offer from the Chicago firm!!! (Well, a "quasi" offer -- the headhunter has communicated some general terms to me, but the hiring manager wants to talk and work out the details!) I know it ain't a done deal until the paperwork is signed, but this is a huge step in the right direction!!!

WOOHOO!! That's great news Dee*Jay!! I hope it all works out very smoothly ---- DUST DUST DUST for a quick signing of that deal!! (be there by April 18 - 22?? somebody I know will be in town then... just sayin'!! )

 

[Enerchi]

Thanks for thinking of us and keeping positive thoughts going. I'm just super down about it right now and really need to snap out of this funk and stop crying. I keep repeating my phrase - "you can't control people, places or things"... (oooh, but I would be SOOO GOOD AT IT!!! )

Wouldn't we all!

I'm sorry you're still going through this, Enerchi - I hope your son comes to his senses soon! BTW I think his calling your husband to pick a fight with him might just be a good sign. He might be reacting to some sense of disturbance in his universe... or maybe he's feeling a need to defend his choices. Either way your son isn't yet at the point where he's comfortable enough with his choices to just ignore your objections, and I suspect that's a good thing.

Really??? There could still be hope??? Oh my fingers and toes are criss crossed and wound up in knots, hoping that you are right about that!!! We are all so upset about this. It hurts knowing we have no ability to change anything and yet watching a train wreck happen...

I'm going to hold onto that thought. PSers are such wonderful supporters!! I wish I could HUG everyone back!!

 

[Kismet]

So hubby and I are starting a house hunt and I'm kind of surprised at how fast properties are moving. I'll point out a house to him that I'd like to go see at the open house they have scheduled for the weekend but then the next day the house will be under contract!

 

[zoebartlett]

I just lost my job.

 

[Enerchi]

I just lost my job.

NO!!! oh no!!! I'm so sorry --- I hope you find an even BETTER one right away!! Fingers crossed for you and DUST DUST DUST for a quick 'bounce back' from this.

Sorry to hear that Zoe....

 

[missy]

Zoe, I'm so sorry! I hope you find a new job that you love even more...sending you lots of positive thoughts and great job ***dust***. {{{hugs}}}

 

[zoebartlett]

Thanks Missy! I have my job until the end of June, so it could be worse. If I was in a different field, I might only have two weeks left or my job could end immediately, you know? I'm just really, really sad right now.

 

[missy]

Thanks Missy! I have my job until the end of June, so it could be worse. If I was in a different field, I might only have two weeks left or my job could end immediately, you know? I'm just really, really sad right now.

I sort of know how you feel Zoe as we went through something similar about 5 years ago. It was a scary time for sure and my heart goes out to you. At the time though I knew it would end up OK and I hope the same for you. Somehow, it always works out. But when it first happens (and for some time after) it is a loss, a mourning and not all of us embrace change as easily as others (me! for one lol) so it can be a scary thing the unknown, the uncertainty of it all. But I know it will be OK for you and I am keeping you in my thoughts and sending good vibes your way!!!

Btw, it usually works out for the better when you look back on it all so try not to feel too down and don't be hard on yourself. But ofc allow yourself to feel sad and to mourn but know something better is coming your way! Biggest hugs to you!!

 

[Dee*Jay]

Oh no Zoe -- I'm so sorry!!!

 

[SB621]

E sending you hugs about your oldest. I know he has caused some struggles as of late. I know it is not what you want to hear because the hardest thing in the world is to stand by and watch your child making choices you disagree with, but it seems like he will have to figure everything out for his own. I hope he figures it out quickly. I"m happy to come up north and knock some sense into him....that or my children can give him the flu?????

 

[Enerchi]

E sending you hugs about your oldest. I know he has caused some struggles as of late. I know it is not what you want to hear because the hardest thing in the world is to stand by and watch your child making choices you disagree with, but it seems like he will have to figure everything out for his own. I hope he figures it out quickly. I"m happy to come up north and knock some sense into him....that or my children can give him the flu?????

Oooh.. the dreaded "children flu"!! haha!! Thanks Sarahbear. It just has to run its course and we hope that in time both sides will see the other's point of view. It is hard to stand by and watch. You never figure *your* kids would do this--- its always *other peoples*...

And Rosebloom- I'll do my best to hang around for another few years so you can feel free to tap me for support!!


thanks guys... challenging times... I appreciate you all being out there for me!

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

I just wanna say that Enerchi is playing hard to get today.

 

[VRBeauty]

I'm sorry you're still going through this, Enerchi - I hope your son comes to his senses soon! BTW I think his calling your husband to pick a fight with him might just be a good sign. He might be reacting to some sense of disturbance in his universe... or maybe he's feeling a need to defend his choices. Either way your son isn't yet at the point where he's comfortable enough with his choices to just ignore your objections, and I suspect that's a good thing.

Really??? There could still be hope??? Oh my fingers and toes are criss crossed and wound up in knots, hoping that you are right about that!!! We are all so upset about this. It hurts knowing we have no ability to change anything and yet watching a train wreck happen...

Enerchi - I'm not a psychiatrist or anything but this is what my gut is saying. Your son's initiating the call to your hubby and picking a fight with him is essentially a defensive reaction. He feels a need to defend his decisions because somewhere in his brain there is this niggling thought that your concerns might be valid. If he was absolutely certain that your concerns were not valid, he would not feel a need to defend his choices.

Hugs and dust to you!

 

[JaneSmith]

Justginger, it's not the Alps, it's the Canadian Rockies. Maligne Lake. It probably doesn't matter, but I thought you might like to know.


Hugs to Enerchi and Zoe.
High five to DeeJay.
Happy for cozystitches kids.