I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

[Dee*Jay]

HA!!!!! Especially if this is what you're getting yourself into!

 

[Dee*Jay]

Fortunately I had the good sense to stop at the store on the way home last night.

 

[Enerchi]

Fortunately I had the good sense to stop at the store on the way home last night.

I am totally loving how you prepare for an emergency..... You can 'cook and prepare' for me anytime!!

 

[Dee*Jay]

Fortunately I had the good sense to stop at the store on the way home last night.

I am totally loving how you prepare for an emergency..... You can 'cook and prepare' for me anytime!!

***P*O*P*** !!! <--- That's the sound of breakfast being served!

 

[Enerchi]

oh stop it!!! you are making me JEALOUS!!!

I love those kind of breakfasts.... Sadly, work has rules about the kinds of beverages we can consume... weird, eh??

 

[junebug17]

Fortunately I had the good sense to stop at the store on the way home last night.

Now this is what I call being prepared!!! Too funny!

 

[SB621]

Dee Jay- you are my hero!!!!

As for me....drum roll please.........THE TWO YEAR (ds) IS POTTY TRAINED!!!!!!!! I now have 1 in diapers and 1 out of diapers. I finally see the light at the end of the tunnel!

Oh and apparently I'm now a bully for voicing my opinion on PS! love internet forms. But seriously did you read the part about my DS being potty trained! Small victories!

 

[yssie]

DH GOT THE PROMOTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Just had to share

His company usually limits it to one per group and this year there were two very, very deserving candidates and we thought the other guy would probably get it b/c he's been there longer but his manager pulled off a miracle and gave them both the title!!!

 

[missy]

DH GOT THE PROMOTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Just had to share

His company usually limits it to one per group and this year there were two very, very deserving candidates and we thought the other guy would probably get it b/c he's been there longer but his manager pulled off a miracle and gave them both the title!!!

YAY!!!!!! So happy for you both!! What a great accomplishment!!
Bling gift to celebrate?

 

[yssie]

DH GOT THE PROMOTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Just had to share

His company usually limits it to one per group and this year there were two very, very deserving candidates and we thought the other guy would probably get it b/c he's been there longer but his manager pulled off a miracle and gave them both the title!!!

YAY!!!!!! So happy for you both!! What a great accomplishment!!
Bling gift to celebrate?

I'm wayyyy more excited than he is, he was so convinced that he wasn't eligible that I think he can't quite believe it He's only been with the company a year and change and it takes most 3+ years so it really is a HUGE achievement!!

Sadly the celebration looks like fencing for puppy and a new washing machine

 

[missy]

DH GOT THE PROMOTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Just had to share

His company usually limits it to one per group and this year there were two very, very deserving candidates and we thought the other guy would probably get it b/c he's been there longer but his manager pulled off a miracle and gave them both the title!!!

YAY!!!!!! So happy for you both!! What a great accomplishment!!
Bling gift to celebrate?

I'm wayyyy more excited than he is, he was so convinced that he wasn't eligible that I think he can't quite believe it He's only been with the company a year and change and it takes most 3+ years so it really is a HUGE achievement!!

Sadly the celebration looks like fencing for puppy and a new washing machine

Well, that's good too! Puppy has to be safe!!! Don't forget-(more)puppy pics are mandatory (pretty please). They grow up so fast!

At least a special dinner to celebrate the promotion though...

 

[yssie]

DH GOT THE PROMOTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Just had to share

His company usually limits it to one per group and this year there were two very, very deserving candidates and we thought the other guy would probably get it b/c he's been there longer but his manager pulled off a miracle and gave them both the title!!!

YAY!!!!!! So happy for you both!! What a great accomplishment!!
Bling gift to celebrate?

I'm wayyyy more excited than he is, he was so convinced that he wasn't eligible that I think he can't quite believe it He's only been with the company a year and change and it takes most 3+ years so it really is a HUGE achievement!!

Sadly the celebration looks like fencing for puppy and a new washing machine

Well, that's good too! Puppy has to be safe!!! Don't forget-(more)puppy pics are mandatory (pretty please). They grow up so fast!

At least a special dinner to celebrate the promotion though...

This weekend for both!! They really do grow so fast... she was 10lbs when we got her seven weeks ago and since then she's literally tripled in size! We thought she'd wind up around 50lbs - my revised number is 80.

 

[missy]

DH GOT THE PROMOTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Just had to share

His company usually limits it to one per group and this year there were two very, very deserving candidates and we thought the other guy would probably get it b/c he's been there longer but his manager pulled off a miracle and gave them both the title!!!

YAY!!!!!! So happy for you both!! What a great accomplishment!!
Bling gift to celebrate?

I'm wayyyy more excited than he is, he was so convinced that he wasn't eligible that I think he can't quite believe it He's only been with the company a year and change and it takes most 3+ years so it really is a HUGE achievement!!

Sadly the celebration looks like fencing for puppy and a new washing machine

Well, that's good too! Puppy has to be safe!!! Don't forget-(more)puppy pics are mandatory (pretty please). They grow up so fast!

At least a special dinner to celebrate the promotion though...

This weekend for both!! They really do grow so fast... she was 10lbs when we got her seven weeks ago and since then she's literally tripled in size! We thought she'd wind up around 50lbs - my revised number is 80.

80 is perfect I think. We had an 80 lb dog growing up and he was the perfect weight IMO.
Have a great celebration with your dh Yssie!!!

 

[SB621]

DH GOT THE PROMOTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Just had to share

His company usually limits it to one per group and this year there were two very, very deserving candidates and we thought the other guy would probably get it b/c he's been there longer but his manager pulled off a miracle and gave them both the title!!!

WOO HOO for Mr. Yssie!! Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is so awesome to hear! Now get off the computer and go celebrate!

 

[04diamond<3]

DH GOT THE PROMOTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Just had to share

His company usually limits it to one per group and this year there were two very, very deserving candidates and we thought the other guy would probably get it b/c he's been there longer but his manager pulled off a miracle and gave them both the title!!!

Yay!!! Congrats to you guys!!! That is a huge accomplishment!

 

[04diamond<3]

Dee Jay- you are my hero!!!!

As for me....drum roll please.........THE TWO YEAR (ds) IS POTTY TRAINED!!!!!!!! I now have 1 in diapers and 1 out of diapers. I finally see the light at the end of the tunnel!

Oh and apparently I'm now a bully for voicing my opinion on PS! love internet forms. But seriously did you read the part about my DS being potty trained! Small victories!

That IS a huge! I've seen my sister attempt to do it by 2 years with 3 of her kids. She has one more but he's a ways away since he's only 5 months.

As far as the other part. At least what I was saying wasn't aimed at you...I didn't think that's why the thread was started either...

 

[SB621]

Dee Jay- you are my hero!!!!

As for me....drum roll please.........THE TWO YEAR (ds) IS POTTY TRAINED!!!!!!!! I now have 1 in diapers and 1 out of diapers. I finally see the light at the end of the tunnel!

Oh and apparently I'm now a bully for voicing my opinion on PS! love internet forms. But seriously did you read the part about my DS being potty trained! Small victories!

That IS a huge! I've seen my sister attempt to do it by 2 years with 3 of her kids. She has one more but he's a ways away since he's only 5 months.

As far as the other part. At least what I was saying wasn't aimed at you...I didn't think that's why the thread was started either...

Thank you 04D!!! It has been a hard road with him to get to this point with many set backs so I know it is silly to post but I feel like I just won the lottery.

As for the other part. I'm sorry it wasnt supposed to come across like that. One of the pS members who typically posts on this thread sent me a rather funny email calling me bully about this entire situation as a joke . It was hysterical so I thought she would respond to my post about it. It was meant to be silly but I see I should have directed it at her and of course now I can't edit my post. I apologize if you thought that was to you. I know Mayk through previous emails over things so she knows I love her.

No hard feelings at all about the other post. Honestly I love PS but it is not my life by any means. There is no skin off my back and honestly I sort of find this entire situation a little funny because I guess I don't understand how ppl get so upset so quickly. Please don't take it that way or get upset- big hugs!

 

[04diamond<3]

Dee Jay- you are my hero!!!!

As for me....drum roll please.........THE TWO YEAR (ds) IS POTTY TRAINED!!!!!!!! I now have 1 in diapers and 1 out of diapers. I finally see the light at the end of the tunnel!

Oh and apparently I'm now a bully for voicing my opinion on PS! love internet forms. But seriously did you read the part about my DS being potty trained! Small victories!

That IS a huge! I've seen my sister attempt to do it by 2 years with 3 of her kids. She has one more but he's a ways away since he's only 5 months.

As far as the other part. At least what I was saying wasn't aimed at you...I didn't think that's why the thread was started either...

Thank you 04D!!! It has been a hard road with him to get to this point with many set backs so I know it is silly to post but I feel like I just won the lottery.

As for the other part. I'm sorry it wasnt supposed to come across like that. One of the pS members who typically posts on this thread sent me a rather funny email calling me bully about this entire situation as a joke . It was hysterical so I thought she would respond to my post about it. It was meant to be silly but I see I should have directed it at her and of course now I can't edit my post. I apologize if you thought that was to you. I know Mayk through previous emails over things so she knows I love her.

No hard feelings at all about the other post. Honestly I love PS but it is not my life by any means. There is no skin off my back and honestly I sort of find this entire situation a little funny because I guess I don't understand how ppl get so upset so quickly. Please don't take it that way or get upset- big hugs!

Of course!!! I didn't think there was anything harsh going on towards you. The picture you posted made me laugh. DH and I love Puss in Boots! Hugs right back at you! And your darling child who can use the toilet!!! I'm so excited for you!!!

 

[TooPatient]

DH GOT THE PROMOTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!




Just had to share

His company usually limits it to one per group and this year there were two very, very deserving candidates and we thought the other guy would probably get it b/c he's been there longer but his manager pulled off a miracle and gave them both the title!!!

WOO HOO for Mr. Yssie!! Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is so awesome to hear! Now get off the computer and go celebrate!

Congratulations!!

 

[TooPatient]

Life is going in a good direction right now. I'm mostly happy even though I'm having trouble in my classes and am in great pain. (hurt my back in a car accident in 2004 but the dumb dr didn't bother to do anything even though the x-rays showed spine trouble )

But.....
My DUMB DUMB mother is just leaving me
She was drunk most of my life up until about 10 years ago. I don't have many memories of her as anything other than drunk. My grandparents pretty much took care of me so she'd just pick us up at night (or have us walk across the driveway after we'd moved) and send us to bed. Repeat every day until I was 17 or so.
I was so happy when she quit drinking. It took us time, but we were able to build up an okay relationship. We'd been talking a couple of times a week and she helped SO and I as we dealt with some tough stuff this summer.
So around October, she got distant. I was worried but put it off to her divorce. Come to find out that she'd decided to go crawling back to the a** ... and had started drinking again.
TEN YEARS sober and now she's drinking "a couple of glasses of wine" just when she "gets wound up".
I talked to her tonight (she's been avoiding my calls for a few weeks now) and she was drunk. It wasn't "just" two glasses of wine. She was drunk.
She's also had the brilliant idea of having a glass of wine or two with her anxiety medications...

Yeah.

To top it all off, our wedding is at a winery! I hadn't thought it would be a problem for her, but now I worry.
Of course at the end of the day it probably won't matter because she hardly answers the phone anymore and will probably be too drunk to make it to a wedding anyway. (not that she missed other major events in my life because she was off drunk somewhere...)


Crud.
Sorry.
I'm so sad for her. She was doing amazing and now she's fallen hard again.
I'm also sad for me. I know it sounds selfish, but I want a mom. She was never there for me before and I had finally begun to let myself think that maybe she could be relied on.

Sorry. I just needed somewhere to get that out. I've been here before. I know how to live with this and have great support. It just sucks.

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

Life is going in a good direction right now. I'm mostly happy even though I'm having trouble in my classes and am in great pain. (hurt my back in a car accident in 2004 but the dumb dr didn't bother to do anything even though the x-rays showed spine trouble )

But.....
My DUMB DUMB mother is just leaving me
She was drunk most of my life up until about 10 years ago. I don't have many memories of her as anything other than drunk. My grandparents pretty much took care of me so she'd just pick us up at night (or have us walk across the driveway after we'd moved) and send us to bed. Repeat every day until I was 17 or so.
I was so happy when she quit drinking. It took us time, but we were able to build up an okay relationship. We'd been talking a couple of times a week and she helped SO and I as we dealt with some tough stuff this summer.
So around October, she got distant. I was worried but put it off to her divorce. Come to find out that she'd decided to go crawling back to the a** ... and had started drinking again.
TEN YEARS sober and now she's drinking "a couple of glasses of wine" just when she "gets wound up".
I talked to her tonight (she's been avoiding my calls for a few weeks now) and she was drunk. It wasn't "just" two glasses of wine. She was drunk.
She's also had the brilliant idea of having a glass of wine or two with her anxiety medications...

Yeah.

To top it all off, our wedding is at a winery! I hadn't thought it would be a problem for her, but now I worry.
Of course at the end of the day it probably won't matter because she hardly answers the phone anymore and will probably be too drunk to make it to a wedding anyway. (not that she missed other major events in my life because she was off drunk somewhere...)


Crud.
Sorry.
I'm so sad for her. She was doing amazing and now she's fallen hard again.
I'm also sad for me. I know it sounds selfish, but I want a mom. She was never there for me before and I had finally begun to let myself think that maybe she could be relied on.

Sorry. I just needed somewhere to get that out. I've been here before. I know how to live with this and have great support. It just sucks.

Oh no, I'm so sorry toopatient... I understand what it is to want a mom but not have one. My mom wasn't a drunk, but she always reminds us that she never wanted children and that we have been a waste of her time.

I really hope that your mom gets help and she realizes how much she is hurting herself and you. And you're not being selfish! At all! You just want a mother. But I know I've wondered... "Is that too much to ask? For a mother?" And I always hope the answer is no.

 

[missy]

I am so sorry you are going through this TP. I hope your mom comes to her senses and gets the help she needs. She did it before and if she wants to she can do it again but she has to want to. Sending lots of{{{hugs}}} to you.

 

[yssie]

Oh TooPatient - I'm sorry What an awful situation. I really, really hope your mother can find the strength to go back to battle with her demons. And I really, really hope she can do so before your wedding...

::HUGS::!!!


And ::HUGS:: to you too YT

 

[yssie]

Sarah CONGRATS on potty training!!!! THAT is a huge achievement too

My BIL was stationed abroad and apparently their older son (3 at the time) declared that he wouldn't use the potty until Daddy came home. My poor SIL - a 3yo who refused potty training and a 1yo!! Sure enough as soon as Daddy came home he was out of diapers in a flash!


TooPatient, 04, Sarah

 

[gregchang35]

TooPatient.... soo sorry to hear what you are going through with your mum. I do hope that she can see what has happened herself. Hopefully she can direct herself to the help and accept the help that she needs.

big hugs

 

[justginger]

Life is going in a good direction right now. I'm mostly happy even though I'm having trouble in my classes and am in great pain. (hurt my back in a car accident in 2004 but the dumb dr didn't bother to do anything even though the x-rays showed spine trouble )

But.....
My DUMB DUMB mother is just leaving me
She was drunk most of my life up until about 10 years ago. I don't have many memories of her as anything other than drunk. My grandparents pretty much took care of me so she'd just pick us up at night (or have us walk across the driveway after we'd moved) and send us to bed. Repeat every day until I was 17 or so.
I was so happy when she quit drinking. It took us time, but we were able to build up an okay relationship. We'd been talking a couple of times a week and she helped SO and I as we dealt with some tough stuff this summer.
So around October, she got distant. I was worried but put it off to her divorce. Come to find out that she'd decided to go crawling back to the a** ... and had started drinking again.
TEN YEARS sober and now she's drinking "a couple of glasses of wine" just when she "gets wound up".
I talked to her tonight (she's been avoiding my calls for a few weeks now) and she was drunk. It wasn't "just" two glasses of wine. She was drunk.
She's also had the brilliant idea of having a glass of wine or two with her anxiety medications...

Yeah.

To top it all off, our wedding is at a winery! I hadn't thought it would be a problem for her, but now I worry.
Of course at the end of the day it probably won't matter because she hardly answers the phone anymore and will probably be too drunk to make it to a wedding anyway. (not that she missed other major events in my life because she was off drunk somewhere...)


Crud.
Sorry.
I'm so sad for her. She was doing amazing and now she's fallen hard again.
I'm also sad for me. I know it sounds selfish, but I want a mom. She was never there for me before and I had finally begun to let myself think that maybe she could be relied on.

Sorry. I just needed somewhere to get that out. I've been here before. I know how to live with this and have great support. It just sucks.

I am so sorry to hear about this, TP. It is a hard road to travel for both of you. I only hope she sobers up enough to see what she's missing out on, now that she's managed to forge a relationship with you once. Big hugs.

 

[04diamond<3]

Life is going in a good direction right now. I'm mostly happy even though I'm having trouble in my classes and am in great pain. (hurt my back in a car accident in 2004 but the dumb dr didn't bother to do anything even though the x-rays showed spine trouble )

But.....
My DUMB DUMB mother is just leaving me
She was drunk most of my life up until about 10 years ago. I don't have many memories of her as anything other than drunk. My grandparents pretty much took care of me so she'd just pick us up at night (or have us walk across the driveway after we'd moved) and send us to bed. Repeat every day until I was 17 or so.
I was so happy when she quit drinking. It took us time, but we were able to build up an okay relationship. We'd been talking a couple of times a week and she helped SO and I as we dealt with some tough stuff this summer.
So around October, she got distant. I was worried but put it off to her divorce. Come to find out that she'd decided to go crawling back to the a** ... and had started drinking again.
TEN YEARS sober and now she's drinking "a couple of glasses of wine" just when she "gets wound up".
I talked to her tonight (she's been avoiding my calls for a few weeks now) and she was drunk. It wasn't "just" two glasses of wine. She was drunk.
She's also had the brilliant idea of having a glass of wine or two with her anxiety medications...

Yeah.

To top it all off, our wedding is at a winery! I hadn't thought it would be a problem for her, but now I worry.
Of course at the end of the day it probably won't matter because she hardly answers the phone anymore and will probably be too drunk to make it to a wedding anyway. (not that she missed other major events in my life because she was off drunk somewhere...)


Crud.
Sorry.
I'm so sad for her. She was doing amazing and now she's fallen hard again.
I'm also sad for me. I know it sounds selfish, but I want a mom. She was never there for me before and I had finally begun to let myself think that maybe she could be relied on.

Sorry. I just needed somewhere to get that out. I've been here before. I know how to live with this and have great support. It just sucks.

Oh no, I'm so sorry toopatient... I understand what it is to want a mom but not have one. My mom wasn't a drunk, but she always reminds us that she never wanted children and that we have been a waste of her time.

I really hope that your mom gets help and she realizes how much she is hurting herself and you. And you're not being selfish! At all! You just want a mother. But I know I've wondered... "Is that too much to ask? For a mother?" And I always hope the answer is no.

Toopatient - I am SOO sorry!!! I know what it's like to have selfish parents and my older sister is doing the same thing to her daughter (I will start a thread...just still chicken). Anyways, my heart breaks for you and I hope and pray that you find peace.

YT- that sucks! I'm sorry you've had to deal with that too! My parents adopted us but would often threaten to send us back to the orphanage and tell us that we were an inconvenience. My mom would always say that she wished she never adopted us and that her life was so much better when we weren't around.

Big hugs to you both!!!

 

[SB621]

Life is going in a good direction right now. I'm mostly happy even though I'm having trouble in my classes and am in great pain. (hurt my back in a car accident in 2004 but the dumb dr didn't bother to do anything even though the x-rays showed spine trouble )

But.....
My DUMB DUMB mother is just leaving me
She was drunk most of my life up until about 10 years ago. I don't have many memories of her as anything other than drunk. My grandparents pretty much took care of me so she'd just pick us up at night (or have us walk across the driveway after we'd moved) and send us to bed. Repeat every day until I was 17 or so.
I was so happy when she quit drinking. It took us time, but we were able to build up an okay relationship. We'd been talking a couple of times a week and she helped SO and I as we dealt with some tough stuff this summer.
So around October, she got distant. I was worried but put it off to her divorce. Come to find out that she'd decided to go crawling back to the a** ... and had started drinking again.
TEN YEARS sober and now she's drinking "a couple of glasses of wine" just when she "gets wound up".
I talked to her tonight (she's been avoiding my calls for a few weeks now) and she was drunk. It wasn't "just" two glasses of wine. She was drunk.
She's also had the brilliant idea of having a glass of wine or two with her anxiety medications...

Yeah.

To top it all off, our wedding is at a winery! I hadn't thought it would be a problem for her, but now I worry.
Of course at the end of the day it probably won't matter because she hardly answers the phone anymore and will probably be too drunk to make it to a wedding anyway. (not that she missed other major events in my life because she was off drunk somewhere...)


Crud.
Sorry.
I'm so sad for her. She was doing amazing and now she's fallen hard again.
I'm also sad for me. I know it sounds selfish, but I want a mom. She was never there for me before and I had finally begun to let myself think that maybe she could be relied on.

Sorry. I just needed somewhere to get that out. I've been here before. I know how to live with this and have great support. It just sucks.

Oh no, I'm so sorry toopatient... I understand what it is to want a mom but not have one. My mom wasn't a drunk, but she always reminds us that she never wanted children and that we have been a waste of her time.

I really hope that your mom gets help and she realizes how much she is hurting herself and you. And you're not being selfish! At all! You just want a mother. But I know I've wondered... "Is that too much to ask? For a mother?" And I always hope the answer is no.

Toopatient - I am SOO sorry!!! I know what it's like to have selfish parents and my older sister is doing the same thing to her daughter (I will start a thread...just still chicken). Anyways, my heart breaks for you and I hope and pray that you find peace.

YT- that sucks! I'm sorry you've had to deal with that too! My parents adopted us but would often threaten to send us back to the orphanage and tell us that we were an inconvenience. My mom would always say that she wished she never adopted us and that her life was so much better when we weren't around.

Big hugs to you both!!!

Oh ladies I'm just so sorry....as a mother I can't even imagine doing or saying something like that to my children. I think this all speaks so much to your character on how wonderful all 3 of you have become. TP I wish you the best on moving forward with your mom! Big hugs!

 

[TooPatient]

YT -- I'm sorry you had to go through that. I know it hurts to hear that sort of thing.

04 -- How horrible! What an awful thing to threaten a kid with. I'm sorry you had to hear that. I hope your sister comes to her senses. It is so painful to deal with such things. Big hugs to her!

Thanks to all who responded.
I've been down this road with her before. I know that I can't do anything for her until she's ready to help herself. Waiting stinks! I'm hopeful that she will realize what she's doing. Moving back in with her ex (nasty man!) and allowing him to tell her the divorce was all her fault is a huge mistake. That is part of why she is so desperate to drink. She thinks that it helps her "menopause symptoms". I know menopause is no fun and I haven't been there, but most of her "symptoms" are the same ones she had before when she was drinking.

The wedding will come and be wonderful. She'll be there or not but it will be okay.
I am really worried about my grandparents though. They just watched their oldest son die of cirrhosis last summer. He drank until he died. My mom was there with him too. She saw what he went through. She saw what our family went through. And now she's back at it.

 

[Enerchi]

Too Patient - I am soooo sad on your behalf that you have experienced this for years in the past... and now are being dragged into a remission of her behaviour. I wish it was better for you and that she could see it enough to make the changes she needs to make. But she can't. It is so sad. Such a loss... I'm sending you a HUGE cyber hug! {{{HUG HUG HUG}}} I hope your wedding won't be marred by unhappiness. Just plod along and perhaps it may turn out better than you fear... fingers crossed....