I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

[Enerchi]

sarahbear - woo hooooooo to the potty training!! Silly the things we consider 'successes', once you are a mother, isn't it???

Yssie - AWESOME news for your DH - congratulations!! Hoping by now, you've done some serious celebrating --- maybe his idea of a reward is perhaps a little piece of bling for you??? Hey - worth suggesting, right?? (or maybe that's just MY idea of a reward!!)

YT - I have no appropriate words to respond with, for those kinds of hurtful intentions your mom said to you... you are on my mind... I'm sure SOOPER DOOPER glad you are here and we can all enjoy being with you!!! {{{{HUGS my friend}}}}

 

[Enerchi]

...and now for some fun filled visuals of the snow fall we are getting here.

These pics are after about 4 hours of snow fall and at this point, we have 6 more hours predicted... I have mentioned I'm not a winter fan, right?!?!? I got stuck in the bottom of our driveway! Had my DH, DD and a neighbour helping me to shovel and push up into the garage. Its a mess out there. Probably 20cm so far in some areas - one of which is my street/driveway!!!

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

...and now for some fun filled visuals of the snow fall we are getting here.

These pics are after about 4 hours of snow fall and at this point, we have 6 more hours predicted... I have mentioned I'm not a winter fan, right?!?!? I got stuck in the bottom of our driveway! Had my DH, DD and a neighbour helping me to shovel and push up into the garage. Its a mess out there. Probably 20cm so far in some areas - one of which is my street/driveway!!!

I'm telling you! We gotta switch our brains into each other's bodies! That way you will have 50 degree weather and I will have snow! Plus, as a bonus you get my DH and I get your's. Hubba Hubba

 

[Enerchi]

50F would be bikini weather for us northerners!!! Man - sun *AND* heat??? I don't know if I could cope with it all!!! but happy to try!

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

50F would be bikini weather for us northerners!!! Man - sun *AND* heat??? I don't know if I could cope with it all!!! but happy to try!

If we switched bodies... I don't think you would wanna wear a bikini.... I don't have a banging body like you.

 

[Enerchi]

50F would be bikini weather for us northerners!!! Man - sun *AND* heat??? I don't know if I could cope with it all!!! but happy to try!

If we switched bodies... I don't think you would wanna wear a bikini.... I don't have a banging body like you.

Well, my eyes are bad, but yours have to be worse if you think this Michelin Man body is "Bangin'"!!! I am proud of myself for doing the hill interval on the treadmill before dinner and now, I'm waiting another hour or so before I hope to lure my DD to do a yoga tape with me. Normally weds is our yoga night out.... but not in this weather!!

If I do the yoga, I'm going to reward myself with a glass of red wine and sit in front of the fire --- but no wine until I do the yoga! I'm going to be hard a$$ on myself --- must earn that treat!

 

[missy]

Love the pics Enerchi! I don't care for winter so much anymore either. I used to be a big fan but now that we have all these adult responsibilities snow just gets in the way.


So, I cannot believe I just did this but I passed on getting awesome seats (first row center mezzanine-my very favorite seating!) for Book of Mormon. I know I am going to be kicking myself over this one for a while. It's just that dh and I are so overbooked for these days I just didn't want to add another have to do thing. On weekends we like to leave one day to kick about our neighborhoods and enjoy the outdoors (weather permitting). But I so wanted to see this show and I am super picky about seating. I will only take first row mezz-I know I'm crazy lol. But after sitting through a show with someone's head blocking much of it (happened over 20 years ago but the memory is still there) I will not settle on this point. And to me first row mezz pretty much guarantees a good view! Ugh, hope I don't regret this decision. I asked my dh and he said he doesn't care one way or another so that sealed it for me. If he was excited about it I would have gone for it. Oh well. There's always another time. But those were TDF seats!

 

[Rosebloom]

Life is going in a good direction right now. I'm mostly happy even though I'm having trouble in my classes and am in great pain. (hurt my back in a car accident in 2004 but the dumb dr didn't bother to do anything even though the x-rays showed spine trouble )

But.....
My DUMB DUMB mother is just leaving me
She was drunk most of my life up until about 10 years ago. I don't have many memories of her as anything other than drunk. My grandparents pretty much took care of me so she'd just pick us up at night (or have us walk across the driveway after we'd moved) and send us to bed. Repeat every day until I was 17 or so.
I was so happy when she quit drinking. It took us time, but we were able to build up an okay relationship. We'd been talking a couple of times a week and she helped SO and I as we dealt with some tough stuff this summer.
So around October, she got distant. I was worried but put it off to her divorce. Come to find out that she'd decided to go crawling back to the a** ... and had started drinking again.
TEN YEARS sober and now she's drinking "a couple of glasses of wine" just when she "gets wound up".
I talked to her tonight (she's been avoiding my calls for a few weeks now) and she was drunk. It wasn't "just" two glasses of wine. She was drunk.
She's also had the brilliant idea of having a glass of wine or two with her anxiety medications...

Yeah.

To top it all off, our wedding is at a winery! I hadn't thought it would be a problem for her, but now I worry.
Of course at the end of the day it probably won't matter because she hardly answers the phone anymore and will probably be too drunk to make it to a wedding anyway. (not that she missed other major events in my life because she was off drunk somewhere...)


Crud.
Sorry.
I'm so sad for her. She was doing amazing and now she's fallen hard again.
I'm also sad for me. I know it sounds selfish, but I want a mom. She was never there for me before and I had finally begun to let myself think that maybe she could be relied on.

Sorry. I just needed somewhere to get that out. I've been here before. I know how to live with this and have great support. It just sucks.

Oh no, I'm so sorry toopatient... I understand what it is to want a mom but not have one. My mom wasn't a drunk, but she always reminds us that she never wanted children and that we have been a waste of her time.

I really hope that your mom gets help and she realizes how much she is hurting herself and you. And you're not being selfish! At all! You just want a mother. But I know I've wondered... "Is that too much to ask? For a mother?" And I always hope the answer is no.

Toopatient - I am SOO sorry!!! I know what it's like to have selfish parents and my older sister is doing the same thing to her daughter (I will start a thread...just still chicken). Anyways, my heart breaks for you and I hope and pray that you find peace.

YT- that sucks! I'm sorry you've had to deal with that too! My parents adopted us but would often threaten to send us back to the orphanage and tell us that we were an inconvenience. My mom would always say that she wished she never adopted us and that her life was so much better when we weren't around.

Big hugs to you both!!!

Oh ladies I'm just so sorry....as a mother I can't even imagine doing or saying something like that to my children. I think this all speaks so much to your character on how wonderful all 3 of you have become. TP I wish you the best on moving forward with your mom! Big hugs!

I completely agree with Sarah. I'm so so SO sorry to all three of you for the rotten deal you got in the mom department. That's just awful. Seriously makes me stomach hurt. You deserve so much better.

Huge hugs!!!!

 

[rubyshoes]

Love the pics Enerchi! I don't care for winter so much anymore either. I used to be a big fan but now that we have all these adult responsibilities snow just gets in the way.


So, I cannot believe I just did this but I passed on getting awesome seats (first row center mezzanine-my very favorite seating!) for Book of Mormon. I know I am going to be kicking myself over this one for a while. It's just that dh and I are so overbooked for these days I just didn't want to add another have to do thing. On weekends we like to leave one day to kick about our neighborhoods and enjoy the outdoors (weather permitting). But I so wanted to see this show and I am super picky about seating. I will only take first row mezz-I know I'm crazy lol. But after sitting through a show with someone's head blocking much of it (happened over 20 years ago but the memory is still there) I will not settle on this point. And to me first row mezz pretty much guarantees a good view! Ugh, hope I don't regret this decision. I asked my dh and he said he doesn't care one way or another so that sealed it for me. If he was excited about it I would have gone for it. Oh well. There's always another time. But those were TDF seats!

OMG Missy we saw the show last month and we damn near died laughing. It is absolutely hysterical and the songs are so memorable. Please go!

 

[missy]

Love the pics Enerchi! I don't care for winter so much anymore either. I used to be a big fan but now that we have all these adult responsibilities snow just gets in the way.


So, I cannot believe I just did this but I passed on getting awesome seats (first row center mezzanine-my very favorite seating!) for Book of Mormon. I know I am going to be kicking myself over this one for a while. It's just that dh and I are so overbooked for these days I just didn't want to add another have to do thing. On weekends we like to leave one day to kick about our neighborhoods and enjoy the outdoors (weather permitting). But I so wanted to see this show and I am super picky about seating. I will only take first row mezz-I know I'm crazy lol. But after sitting through a show with someone's head blocking much of it (happened over 20 years ago but the memory is still there) I will not settle on this point. And to me first row mezz pretty much guarantees a good view! Ugh, hope I don't regret this decision. I asked my dh and he said he doesn't care one way or another so that sealed it for me. If he was excited about it I would have gone for it. Oh well. There's always another time. But those were TDF seats!

OMG Missy we saw the show last month and we damn near died laughing. It is absolutely hysterical and the songs are so memorable. Please go!

Hi ruby, I know! It's an amazing show and I have been wanting to see it since it came out. I'll see if I can get tickets at a less busy time for us. These sets were perfect though but the timing was not. Too much going on right now. Thanks for chiming in and glad you guys enjoyed the show so much! I really love good broadway and off broadway-it's exhilarating!!

 

[gregchang35]

Family just know which buttons to push to make you mad and then you begin to underestimate/ second guess yourself. I know i need to learn how to deflect it or is it more knowing how to deal with their comments. Either way, it has taken me about 1/2 hour to settle. At least i didnt blow my stack and punch/hit anything!

now back to work!

 

[fiona00004]

I don't get enough sleep because of being on PS so much!! so sad...

 

[fiona00004]

Family just know which buttons to push to make you mad and then you begin to underestimate/ second guess yourself. I know i need to learn how to deflect it or is it more knowing how to deal with their comments. Either way, it has taken me about 1/2 hour to settle. At least i didnt blow my stack and punch/hit anything!

now back to work!

Family can be a pain sometimes....my parents are at my place every weekday to help me make dinner for the kids after work.... I LOVE having the extra help but sometimes the way they say/do things really gets under my skin and I sometimes need the breathing space! I sound like a brat don't I?

 

[gregchang35]

sometimes its easier to have your space and not to deal with those comments/ digs.... but in the mean time bit your tongue or whatever it is. i managed to keep my cool this time. i usually have a smart comment to make and mum is usually the one that gets it, cos its easier dealing with her. Tonight, i did well. we were amicable.

Now i am looking at DBL website.... hehehehehee.

 

[fiona00004]

yeah, my mother gets it rough too because she is also easier to deal with... my dad's temper is terrible and he barks at her fir the dumbest things. I try to be easy on her because she always means well...

ooo. DBL vieweing it is!

 

[SB621]

My DH is in the military so he is not home often. This morning my 2.5 year old asked if daddy went away and is not coming home. anymore I just burst into tears and said he is coming home soon honey. When I dropped him off at daycare and talked to his teachers about it, they mentioned that one of the other children who my DS plays with - his parents are divorcing and the boy is having a really hard time with his daddy being gone. My heart just breaks for that little boy and his family....but then I just go into melt down mode because now my son thinks his daddy isn't coming home either. It is just so frustrating because he is old enough to know that Daddy is gone, but too young to comprehend that he will be coming home.

 

[fiona00004]

Even when both kids are at daycare and DH is at work, I still think I hear one of my kids' voice... or a whimper... I can't get them out of my head!

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

Awe Sarahbear, I'm sorry. It must be hard to balance everything with your DH gone and now with your son asking questions on his whereabouts. I think tho, it looks like you're doing any awesome, AWESOME job!!!

When is he coming back?

 

[fiona00004]

I also want to say that I love the smell of a new book, especially hardcover and the smell of a brand new pair of leather shoes/boots

 

[Mayk]

My DH is in the military so he is not home often. This morning my 2.5 year old asked if daddy went away and is not coming home. anymore I just burst into tears and said he is coming home soon honey. When I dropped him off at daycare and talked to his teachers about it, they mentioned that one of the other children who my DS plays with - his parents are divorcing and the boy is having a really hard time with his daddy being gone. My heart just breaks for that little boy and his family....but then I just go into melt down mode because now my son thinks his daddy isn't coming home either. It is just so frustrating because he is old enough to know that Daddy is gone, but too young to comprehend that he will be coming home.

heartbreaking... when they don't understand.

 

[SB621]

I also want to say that I love the smell of a new book, especially hardcover and the smell of a brand new pair of leather shoes/boots

There is NOTHING better then walking into a book store with a coffee on a fall day

Thanks Ladies for the support! I feel I have been whinning about it a lot lately. Normally I do seperation better but when the kids got the flu and then pink eye, then I got sick everything just went to you know where in a hand basket. Then to see my son cry because he thought my DH had left us was the tipping point. Thank goodness he gets home very soon.

 

[fiona00004]

I also want to say that I love the smell of a new book, especially hardcover and the smell of a brand new pair of leather shoes/boots

There is NOTHING better then walking into a book store with a coffee on a fall day

Thanks Ladies for the support! I feel I have been whinning about it a lot lately. Normally I do seperation better but when the kids got the flu and then pink, then I got sick everything just went to you know where in a hand basket. Then to see my son cry because he thought my DH had left us was the tipping point. Thank goodness he gets home very soon.

That is tough with little ones not understanding where a parent is! And your DH must miss your little ones like crazy! But the time you have together much be even sweeter because of the time apart!! I would miss my DH /best friend so much! When he went for a business trip for one week, both kids got sick and I was back and forth at the doctor's... and it was lonely getting into bed without him! Your DH will be back soooooon! You can do it!

 

[SB621]

I also want to say that I love the smell of a new book, especially hardcover and the smell of a brand new pair of leather shoes/boots

There is NOTHING better then walking into a book store with a coffee on a fall day

Thanks Ladies for the support! I feel I have been whinning about it a lot lately. Normally I do seperation better but when the kids got the flu and then pink, then I got sick everything just went to you know where in a hand basket. Then to see my son cry because he thought my DH had left us was the tipping point. Thank goodness he gets home very soon.

That is tough with little ones not understanding where a parent is! And your DH must miss your little ones like crazy! But the time you have together much be even sweeter because of the time apart!! I would miss my DH /best friend so much! When he went for a business trip for one week, both kids got sick and I was back and forth at the doctor's... and it was lonely getting into bed without him! Your DH will be back soooooon! You can do it!

I feel alot of our relationship has been spent at airports saying hello and goodbye. There is an old joke among many military wives that we get to keep experiencing "the wonders of falling in love all over again with a first kiss." Which is true

 

[two_little_birds]

My random thought for the day...

I HATE my boss! I swear he's bi-polar or manic and I have to walk around on eggshells 99% of the time.

O.K. I feel better now. Well kinda

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

My random thought for the day...

I HATE my boss! I swear he's bi-polar or manic and I have to walk around on eggshells 99% of the time.

O.K. I feel better now. Well kinda

Poo!!! That's sucks butt!!! It makes the work environment terrible! I have a boss like that and I can't even speak out of turn or all hell breaks loose!

 

[Rosebloom]

Oh Sarahbear. That's so hard!!!!!! Hug your sweet boy from your pals on PS. You and your family make such a big sacrifice for all of us. I wish it didn't have to be so hard!

 

[SB621]

My random thought for the day...

I HATE my boss! I swear he's bi-polar or manic and I have to walk around on eggshells 99% of the time.

O.K. I feel better now. Well kinda

I'm sorry 2 birds! Do you do a review on him? I know I had a rather manic boss at my previous company. It actually drove me to quit because I couldn't put up with her.

 

[two_little_birds]

My random thought for the day...

I HATE my boss! I swear he's bi-polar or manic and I have to walk around on eggshells 99% of the time.

O.K. I feel better now. Well kinda

I'm sorry 2 birds! Do you do a review on him? I know I had a rather manic boss at my previous company. It actually drove me to quit because I couldn't put up with her.

I wish I did a review on him, but no. Some people even refuse to work with him so they come direct to me. But since he's a control freak, who also micro manages, he finds his way into everything anyway. I have thought of quiting before too, but I am the breadwinner in the family so I suck it up.

 

[SB621]

Oh Sarahbear. That's so hard!!!!!! Hug your sweet boy from your pals on PS. You and your family make such a big sacrifice for all of us. I wish it didn't have to be so hard!

Thank you Rosebloom! 90% of the time we have loved our experiences with the military. I have met such an amazing group of women that I will cherish throughout my life from some of our experience. Plus we have also traveled more then I ever could have hoped. But yes the 10% that stinks is the seperation. Spending birthdays, anniverarys, holidays apart is very hard. We have been very lucky that my DH was at all the things that counted- our wedding and the birth of our children .

 

[yssie]

Ohhh tons of ::HUGS:: to you and your little guy Sarah!!!