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Hudson_Hawk

Hudson_Hawk

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I feel like up until this point there''s been a place specifically for me on PS. First there was Ladies in Waiting, where I could commiserate with fellow PS''ers during the long wait till engagement. Then there was BWW. Now that I''m married, where do I go? We''re not TTC or parents, so I don''t belong there yet. I know I can float around in other threads, but it''s different. Are any of the other newly-married ladies feeling the same way?
 
LOL ... I've been floating for almost 3 yrs now! No TTC ... no new pets ... no colored stone or shoe collection or grand trip being planned or "distress sale" summer house purchases or weight loss challenge. Just plain old "life".

Floating's not so bad! Try it, you'll like it! And the stuff you learned as a LIW & Bride-To-Be will probably come in handy for someone else if you're generous enough to share it.


ETA: Maybe we need a Newlywed Section? Though I doubt I'd still qualify. Cynical Oldsters? Does that have potential?
 
I like to float around, more so than being a BWW! I usually feel like i''m so over wedding planning, so I actually avoid this section sometimes. I usually spend more time in Hangout and FHH. There''s almost always something to comment on, I think.
 
LOL well I don''t think we''re at a loss for cynical oldsters
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Deco--Ha! I love the "cynical oldsters" idea. I''d totally lurk there.

HH--I''ve spent my year as a newlywed nosing about in other people''s business all over PS. It''s been quite fun!

I just saw your wedding pictures, they''re GORGEOUS!!!! The day looked wonderful.
 
I''m having a bit of the same problem. I think my posting has dropped WAY off! Right after the wedding I was on wedding overload and the last thing I wanted to do was to hang out here. Now I''m over that and have been around more, but I still don''t feel like I fit in anywhere.
 
I float around...

too much time in LIW makes me a cranky GF
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I used to love ATW, but now it is boring because you can't talk politics
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It was so interesting and fun before... :-/

There is always Hangout though!

all of the forums seem to be in a kind of summer lull though... maybe not BWW, but definitely the others...
 
A newlywed section would be so fun!

Family Home and Health is fun too. That's where I post the most now that I'm married.
 
Just hang around with the rest of us old [married] bats! Post wherever you have something to add.
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I feel the same way about not having a specific place on PS! I basically float around on all the different boards. A lot in Hangout... I''ve been going over to the LIW small talk thread lately (it''s fun in there) even though I''m not a LIW. Had some BWW stuff to post about with my picture re-takes recently.

Newlywed Section would be cute! Other than that... I just go around to all the different sections and read about everyone else (and sometimes add my own thoughts!)
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The Hangout and Family forums are fun, or you could always start feeding a gemstone hobby and join us crazies over in Colored Stones!! There''s a lot of fun eye candy!
 
I don''t really have a place on the boards either since i am in the pre-LIW stage so can''t really post in the subsequent areas either. I tend to lurk and post when i have something to add. I have noticed that there seems to be a lull in all the other boards to apart from BWW- wonder if it has anything to do with the financial crisis and people putting more energy into their careers and job hunting?
 
Shoot, I joined after I was married because I lurked while we were engaged (like an idiot. Should have just joined). We''re not TTC, not parents, so I generally nose around everywhere and see what''s happening. I drool over sparkly things and comment on threads when I have something to add. I totally use PS as my water cooler because I work at home when I''m not traveling and not having anyone to "talk" to gets to be too much. I don''t know that I "fit" in anywhere either, but I''ve decided that I''m not going to worry about it.
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Date: 7/16/2009 9:23:08 PM
Author: April20
Shoot, I joined after I was married because I lurked while we were engaged (like an idiot. Should have just joined). We''re not TTC, not parents, so I generally nose around everywhere and see what''s happening. I drool over sparkly things and comment on threads when I have something to add. I totally use PS as my water cooler because I work at home when I''m not traveling and not having anyone to ''talk'' to gets to be too much. I don''t know that I ''fit'' in anywhere either, but I''ve decided that I''m not going to worry about it.
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That''s a good attitude to have. Mind if I steal it??
 
I know how you feel! All my fellow LIW have gone on to have babies and I''m one of the few who hasn''t followed suit. It''s weird not having a "place". It''ll be another couple of years at least before we have kids.
 
I felt the same way after "graduating"
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but found that my busiest posting period was in the few months following my wedding. I wasn't distracted (not the best word, but hopefully you know what I mean) by wedding stuff, sucked into BWW, consumed by all things WEDDING anymore, and I was just generally floating around threads. I think I was sort of hunting for a place to settle and that that was part of why I was posting SO much during that time.

Anyway, yes, I felt that way, too!
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It'll be short-lived.
 
Welcome to the Bridal Blues.

Some brides feel at home, others online. It feels like "what now"...because there is nothing to plan, prep, organize. But, it passes. Life will again pick up speed...and even if you''re not creating topics, you can always contribute! Welcome to the new chapter.
 
I, for one, would TOTALLY love a newlywed section because I'm seriously new to ALL of this!! DH (YAY!!) and I didn't live together before marriage, weren't intimate, etc., etc., etc., so I'm sure I could learn A TON from you ladies who have been here for a while (or even those who lived together pre-marriage have way more experience than I do!). Not sure if FHH (is that right?) covers these areas or not, as I've never even been there. LOL.

Originally I was drawn in AFTER getting engaged -- by the SMTR and colored stones threads (but lurked a little BEFORE being engaged). Then I found BWW and haven't been anywhere else on PS in a LOOONG time!! Now I'm thinking it's time to 'float around,' but I'm someone who likes the comfortable and familiar...so it's taking me a little time to move out of my 'comfort zone,' so to speak. LOL (seriously, I'm worse than an old lady -- no offense to any who feel they may fit into this category!!
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Ooh did someone say Newlywed section?! But..yeah I feel you HH. I don''t really contribute to most of the actual jewelry part of the forum (SMTR, etc.) so I feel kind of like no one knows me outside of BWW anyway, does that make sense? I''m one of those unknown posters floating around! So I am not really sure where to go now as far as PS goes..
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Well, gee. I don''t have a specified designation as a particular ''type'' of poster, either. What should I do??

I know! I''ll just post wherever I want!!!!
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Come join ''The Drifters''. We just drift from topic to topic. Whatever catches our eye, piques our curiosity, or pushes our buttons, we''re there!
 
Awwwwwww HH,

Just post wherever you see a fun or interesting topic. Better yet, follow Dancing Fire around.
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You will get used to it honey.


xoxoxo
 
Ah. My fear in 6 months.

The problem for me, is that we''re not going to have any kids (that''s the current plan anyway), so I won''t ever "graduate" to FHH.

Yeah Colored Stones is great, but recently I''ve started to drift from there as all of our excess money goes into wedding planning stuff, and it''s not as much fun when you aren''t buying anything. I still poke around LIW, but after being around and posting so much there in my earlier days, I have little patience for it. Hangout...eh.

So in a lot of ways, I already feel kind of lost on PS.

Newlywed board? All for it. I may have to stay there for a long time though...
 
I felt that way (and we didn''t go on our honeymoon till just now, so I really felt like "blah").
 
I kind of feel the same way but I guess I''ll join you in the "just floating" group.
 
Date: 7/16/2009 9:04:57 PM
Author: Laila619
A newlywed section would be so fun!

Family Home and Health is fun too. That''s where I post the most now that I''m married.
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Yeah, it would be good to hear difference experiences from recent brides, especially those who were desparate to get married. I''d love to know...

Do they now feel deflated?
Has anything changed?
Were any brides expecting an overnight miracle when SO said ''I DO'' i.e expecting a ring to change their SOs behavior
 
Another floater here...
I think it''s good that we can be helpful to other Brides-to-be. There are usually a plethora of questions about weddings/budgets, etc, and we''ve been there done that.
I seem to like to hang out in hangout.
 
LOL HH I feel the same way.

From LIW to Married... where to go next!
 
Add me to the pool too. I was more of a lurker than poster (and when I did post it was always questions I think!) but I am just a floater right now as others have said. I drift from topic to topic and comment when things interest me, though I don''t usually start new topics. I like FH&H when there are house topics, and we are recent new homeowners and have been renovating, but that board seems more geared to the FH part versus the "&H" part... wow that was kind of obscure haha. We aren''t planning on kids just yet and are looking at a dog in the next year, but right now our main focus is our house, so I just scour the forums for inspiration and such.

But i also lurk aroud here still because i LOOOOVE the wedding pictures and can''t get enough of the DIY details and all the wedding minutiae.

Hopefully we can all find our place!
 
Date: 7/16/2009 8:15:43 PM
Author: decodelighted
LOL ... I''ve been floating for almost 3 yrs now! No TTC ... no new pets ... no colored stone or shoe collection or grand trip being planned or ''distress sale'' summer house purchases or weight loss challenge. Just plain old ''life''.

Floating''s not so bad! Try it, you''ll like it! And the stuff you learned as a LIW & Bride-To-Be will probably come in handy for someone else if you''re generous enough to share it.


ETA: Maybe we need a Newlywed Section? Though I doubt I''d still qualify. Cynical Oldsters? Does that have potential?
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We need a `just floating` section. That would be for me too!
 
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Add me to the floaters! I''ve never had a board that I''d say I belong to, since I wasn''t here as a LIW. I just pop around all over the place and post wherever!
 
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