Setting Choice Feedback

[Sparkalicious]

Hi everyone!

Yesterday, at work, I was showing some of my co-workers all the lovely diamonds & settings on PS. We then migrated to different jewelry websites (yes, very productive day)

and were talking about our preferences.

I sneakily showed them the setting that my bf and I have ordered but didn''t tell them that this is the setting that I love and they didn''t seem to have a great response. They seemed to think that it was too much. I think that this is because they prefer the simple elegance of a solitaire as opposed to the sparkaliciousness of an extra blingy setting with sidestones. To each their own, right? Well, it should be but for some reason I keep holding on to this ... Help me let go! Please

After having seen how beautiful and varied all of your rings are, I have found myself doubting my choice, however, still confident that I love this setting and that I think that it beautiful and will be even more so when made whole with my diamond

Just wondering if anyone of you would care to share your thoughts on my setting ... Do you think it is hideous?

Has anyone else seen it before, in person?

I''ll try to attach some pictures & here is a link to a jeweler''s website where I also saw them selling it .. I am NOT buying it from this jewler ...don''t worry about that.

My setting, click here to see
It is a Simon G setting.
It will be in white gold with yellow gold filigree ...
It will have a 1.28 round brilliant center stone.
It has F VS princess cut channel side stones.
It has milgrain and some pave set diamonds on the prongs as well.

I don''t know why I am doing this but likely because I felt kind of sad that everyone in the world is not as excited about it as I am ... I can just feel it ... I''m going to be a nightmare bride. This emotion is just killing me.

Thanks for any feedback that you share!

 

[DiamanteBlu]

I think it is very nice. Ignore your coworkers - what do they know?

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/1/2007 8:01:59 PM
Author: DiamanteBlu
I think it is very nice. Ignore your coworkers - what do they know?

Thanks DiamanteBlu! ... Seinding you a virtual hug!

They definitely don''t know as much as you guys. None of them have rings half as nice as the ones I have seen on PS.

 

[avlis]

The important thing is that you like (love) it. Personally I am not a fan of the yellow gold accents.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/1/2007 8:22:36 PM
Author: avlis
The important thing is that you like (love) it. Personally I am not a fan of the yellow gold accents.

Thank you for responding Avlis. I appreciate your feedback.

I agree with you about the yellow gold b/c I wasn''t too sure about them when I first saw the setting so I decided to keep looking. The store I was dealing with ordered the ring in for me to take a look and I actually cried when I saw it because it was so beautiful. The yellow gold filigree didn''t look so "weird" ... The visceral response to it made us decide to go with it b/c there was just too many "possibles" to choose from ... Lots of things were nice but what was for us ...?? It was confusing

.

I''m happy and fairly confident in my selection, however, I think that the waiting for it to be finished being made ... sometime around the week of Dec 11, is killing me, especially since I spend most of my available hours on PS checking out various other possibilites.

Thanks again ... I''m genuinely interested in getting thoughts on the setting.

 

[vslover]

It''s not my style, but if you love it...that''s all that matters!

 

[Diamond*Dana]

Everyone has an opinion, and that is fine, but this is your ring...you are the only one that really must love it! It is not *my* style, but it surely is yours. And I like the YG accents, it adds a little something.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Everyone does have an opinion. Jewelry is so personal, just like scents. Some people absolutely adore a perfume that other people can''t stand. One look at the Good, the Bad and the UGLY thread demonstrates the fact that "taste" is widely defined.

If I ever get my ring. I wanted to show it in "Show Me the Ring" ... I just hope no one qualifies it as one of the UGLY

Do you think you guys would be interested in seeing it?

 

[door knob solitaire]

Sparky,

When I first came to PS everything blingy looked...well,

too much. I was the simple solitaire die hard as was my husband. I have spent hours...upon hours...months and years looking at every site on posted...as well as every photo posted on PS. I have been educated on what is too much and what is just right. I still honor and respect my beloved solitaire but I LOVE a Leon Pave or Simon G or Michael B blingorama. But hubby, hasn''t looked as I and he is still a simple solitaire man.

I said all of that to tell you while out shopping with girlfriends, I will ogle a pave halo or a split shank or a blingalicious ring and just get all goofy over it. They always respond with a that is too much for me.

So it is my theory, that unless you spend hours...toiling over sites and pictures and designs and planning on customs as we do here...you just don''t get it. You can''t appreciate the artistry involved say in you Simon G choice.

Don''t worry about what anybody else says, thinks, or does. Just be excited to wait for you chosen beauty. If you love it that much to order it...as soon as you hold it for the first time...it will be your baby!! (they say that to scared expectant mothers before the baby comes...I think the same is appropriate in your case!!)

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OH, I meant expecting a ring...not a baby. Oh dear. One post from me and your reputation is shot! Sorry.

 

[E B]

I love the YG accents, and I think you made a great choice. I can''t wait to see it!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/1/2007 8:52:00 PM
Author: door knob solitaire
Sparky,

When I first came to PS everything blingy looked...well,

too much. I was the simple solitaire die hard as was my husband. I have spent hours...upon hours...months and years looking at every site on posted...as well as every photo posted on PS. I have been educated on what is too much and what is just right. I still honor and respect my beloved solitaire but I LOVE a Leon Pave or Simon G or Michael B blingorama. But hubby, hasn''t looked as I and he is still a simple solitaire man.

I said all of that to tell you while out shopping with girlfriends, I will ogle a pave halo or a split shank or a blingalicious ring and just get all goofy over it. They always respond with a that is too much for me.

So it is my theory, that unless you spend hours...toiling over sites and pictures and designs and planning on customs as we do here...you just don''t get it. You can''t appreciate the artistry involved say in you Simon G choice.

Don''t worry about what anybody else says, thinks, or does. Just be excited to wait for you chosen beauty. If you love it that much to order it...as soon as you hold it for the first time...it will be your baby!! (they say that to scared expectant mothers before the baby comes...I think the same is appropriate in your case!!)

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OH, I meant expecting a ring...not a baby. Oh dear. One post from me and your reputation is shot! Sorry.

Thanks Doorknob Solitaire! You made me laugh.

I''ve been feeling pretty down in the dumps.

BTW ... I also like "Sparky" ... it''s a good PS nickname.

Thanks for your advice and encouragement! You''re right ...I love split shanks and I love Michael Beaudry stuff as well ... I just love the way it looks! I went to the Michael Beaudry website yesterday and I guess I was making some pretty funny noises because my bf wanted to know what was going on ...

Oops. I guess I got carried away.

My bf and I have been "looking" for years and have seen many different settings. We actually liked a simple solitaire Ritani ring that had a beautiful tiny diamond crown around the center stone but when I tried it on, it just didn''t feel like me. Just like you can appreciate the bling, I can appreciate the simply elegant bling factor of a lovely & large solitaire

... for some reason though, it just doesn''t suit me.

I think I am just scared that I will be disappointed. I have no reason to feel that way, given my initial reaction, but since other people didn''t seem to like it I became concerned that it would be like the ugly baby that everyone sort of jumps back at when the mother is showing them off or, a better example, the bad hair cut, where people just say "Oh! you got your hair cut" instead of "you''re hair looks great" tee hee hee.

I appreciate you taking the time to respond!

 

[Sparkalicious]

THANKS EBree!!

That is encouraging!

IF and when I ever get "my precious"

- no that is not bitterness -- oh well, maybe just a little bitterness ... I will be happy to show you.

I love your little dog ... Very cute.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

 

[Kaleigh]

I like it!!! The settings by Simon G are fabulous, love their attention to detail. So am looking forward to your pics when you get it Spark!!!

 

[lyra]

I''ve looked at thousands of settings. None has made me cry. I''d say that if you cried when you saw this setting, it must be spectacular in real life, and it''s meant to be yours!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/1/2007 9:36:06 PM
Author: Kaleigh
I like it!!! The settings by Simon G are fabulous, love their attention to detail. So am looking forward to your pics when you get it Spark!!!

Thanks Kaleigh!

You guys are so terrific for your honest opinion!

Glad you like Simon G as well ... I appreciate the encouragement.

Do you know who else has one or likes Simon G settings on PS?

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/1/2007 9:41:05 PM
Author: lyra
I''ve looked at thousands of settings. None has made me cry. I''d say that if you cried when you saw this setting, it must be spectacular in real life, and it''s meant to be yours!

Thanks Lyra!

I think that it is a lot better in real life. The picture is nice but it doesn''t quite do it justice.

Your thoughts mirrored my own. I thought I was a little loopy

when I started crying but it was such a genuine response that I knew, in my gut, that this just had to be the one ... or else I had some serious hormonal issues going on. I hope I didn''t make a hormonal decision. j/k hee hee.

 

[vivianv]

I didn''t like it a lot in the photo at the link you provided but I really like it in the picture you have in your post. The yellow gold doesn''t look as bright yellow in that photo...maybe that''s why. It''s a pretty setting and I am sure in life size as opposed to giant internet picture size it is absolutely gorgeous. Can''t wait to see pictures of it on your hand.

Get what you love, not what others like.You''re the one that will be wearing it and looking at it all the time.

 

[swom324]

I was just thinking the same thing as Vivian - a lot of rings look chunky or overdone in blown up pictures, but are beautiful and delicate in person. Your coworkers are responding to pictures, but you have seen the ring and loved it. And I love the YG accents!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/1/2007 9:52:46 PM
Author: vivianv
I didn''t like it a lot in the photo at the link you provided but I really like it in the picture you have in your post. The yellow gold doesn''t look as bright yellow in that photo...maybe that''s why. It''s a pretty setting and I am sure in life size as opposed to giant internet picture size it is absolutely gorgeous. Can''t wait to see pictures of it on your hand.

Get what you love, not what others like.You''re the one that will be wearing it and looking at it all the time.

Thanks a lot Vivian!

I''m really glad you would like to see it b/c I''m sure that I will just be dying to show it off. At least I know if people at work don''t want to see it, you girls on PS might want to ... If all else fails, I will show it off to myself and get lost in the sparkles.

I''m pretty sure I''m getting what I love. I don''t have the type of personality where I could stand not to, however, not having been around the setting or seen it in a while, I think I was starting to get cold feet and thinking that maybe it wasn''t as beautiful as I had originally thought.

I''m still a little concerned

, but as they say, I think it is rare that your gut reaction is wrong. I just have to trust that what I will receive is what exactly I fell in love with.

Thanks for taking the time to respond! I was scared that no one would because "if you have nothing nice to say - don''t say anything at all!"

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/1/2007 10:04:50 PM
Author: swom324
I was just thinking the same thing as Vivian - a lot of rings look chunky or overdone in blown up pictures, but are beautiful and delicate in person. Your coworkers are responding to pictures, but you have seen the ring and loved it. And I love the YG accents!

Thanks for your honesty, Sherry!

You''re right ... I didn''t mean to be unfair to my coworkers or to make them sound horrible ... That''s a whole lot of ring to take in via a picture. I hope it looks a lot more classy in person and less chunkified and busy. I think that it does. The yg accents definitely don''t represent themselves that "boldly" in person.

Glad you like the YG accents.

I think it suits me ... Just that little bit of flair to accent my ring the same way that that little bit of diva in me accents my personality!

 

[Deelight]

Date: 12/1/2007 8:30:38 PM
Author: Sparkalicious

when I first saw the setting so I decided to keep looking. The store I was dealing with ordered the ring in for me to take a look and I actually cried when I saw it because it was so beautiful.

If you cried because you loved the ring that much then seriously no doubt it is a winner

I think the setting is beautiful, delicate and feminine, stooof your friends if you love it thats all that matters , I personally love the gold accents it adds another dimension to the design.

My friend's E-rings are completely different to what my tastes are but I can still appreciate the beauty of them because they are a reflections of their tastes and look gorgeous on their fingers .

 

[betternotbiggerdiamond]

Sparkalicious,

If YOU love it.. then it''s for you.

Remember, it will be on YOUR hand as a symbol of your love...and will be there for YOU to look at day after day. Get what YOU love.

I for instance, love smaller, understated stones around .50ct. Mine will be a .53ct WF ACA... I love it and it''s not even set yet. I know others will say, "Oh, what a cute ring you have there." "OH, you get the BIGGER diamond after the wedding right??" But I don''t care... it''s what I want.

I bet it will be beautiful.. wear it in love and good health.

CHEERS!

 

[kellyfish]

Sparka,

When the ring designer sent me pics of the setting during the design process for my ring they were large and I was concerned that my ring would look like a giant "renaissiance fest" ring. I was so worried. In real life, all of those details and the swoopy prongs were tiny and intricate--MUCH prettier. I am sure the same phenomenon will apply in your case. If you cried when you saw it because you love it--it's the one.

 

[sera]

I haven't seen that particular Simon G in person, but I have looked at a lot of them over and over again. Simon G is one of my faves. I love small accents in yellow (or rose) gold. The Simon G rings are really gorgeous.

The ring you posted is not my particular style, but neither is a plain solitaire... what matters is if you (the one who will be wearing it) love it! When I choose my setting, not everyone is going to like it and that is fine since it will be my ring. Though I do listen to advice, it is ultimately my decision as this is yours. How boring would it be if everyone had the same ring?!

Get it... wear it... love it!

********************

L's for love.

 

[Sharon101]

I must admit its not my style for myself but I do enjoy seeing variety in rings on others. The way I see it, if you love it, and it has meaning and beauty to you, then you will wear it well and get lots of pleasure from it.

The other thing is, you can always change the setting down the track `if` your tastes change with age and time! You could even get the gold bits rhodeum plated if the gold bothered you down the track.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/2/2007 2:43:57 AM
Author: Deelight

I think the setting is beautiful, delicate and feminine, stooof your friends if you love it thats all that matters , I personally love the gold accents it adds another dimension to the design.

My friend''s E-rings are completely different to what my tastes are but I can still appreciate the beauty of them because they are a reflections of their tastes and look gorgeous on their fingers .

Deelight! Thanks for responding and for the laugh. You''re right. I think I might stoof them

... Actually, I''m so strong headed that I usually wouldn''t even take a moment''s notice of such comments, especially since they were just of the honest/opinion/feedback variety and not at all malintentioned since they didn''t know that this setting is my heart''s desire.

I think that the problem is that I haven''t seen the setting in quite a long time and this 4 - 6 week wait (not to mention the wait after its completed to have it presented to me ... let''s not talk about that

) and I think I am getting nervous and doubting myself somewhat and these comments, at a vulnerable moment, set me off on another emotional rollercoaster. I had a bad experience and saw my setting or some sort of flea market version of it

at another jewellery store and ever since then I have been a disaster worrying that it will come to me looking like that instead of gleaming and beautiful the way it was the first time I saw it.

Since I have been driving myself

loopy, my bf and I have discussed it and, even though I really want this one to be mine and be beautiful, if it''s not, we''ll just regroup and start over again. He''s been quite understanding and sensitive because I think he understands how emotional all of this is and how much we have both put into this selection process. This makes me feel better and less ungrateful b/c he knows that it is not about what other people think but, ultimately, what I think when I''m sitting at home alone admiring or trying to admire it.

Thanks again for taking a look and helping a girl feel better!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/2/2007 2:59:38 AM
Author: betternotbiggerdiamond
Sparkalicious,

If YOU love it.. then it''s for you.

Remember, it will be on YOUR hand as a symbol of your love...and will be there for YOU to look at day after day. Get what YOU love.

I for instance, love smaller, understated stones around .50ct. Mine will be a .53ct WF ACA... I love it and it''s not even set yet. I know others will say, ''Oh, what a cute ring you have there.'' ''OH, you get the BIGGER diamond after the wedding right??'' But I don''t care... it''s what I want.

I bet it will be beautiful.. wear it in love and good health.

CHEERS!

Thanks BNBD!

I appreciate the response. I know that you are right because it absolutely makes no sense to wear what someone else likes. They will only see it occassionally and you have to live with it. I wasn''t actually trying to solicit feedback b/c I was considering not getting something because other people didn''t like it, I think there was a subtle difference ... maybe not

it was more of an emotional plea seeking affirmation that there are beautiful components that make up this ring and it is a lovely piece of jewellery.

I am confident that, if it comes to me as lovely as it was when I saw it for the first time, it will be all good!

Good for you for knowing what you want too!

I''m sure you know the feeling I am talking about when people make their veiley sheilded disparaging comments. Its not as though this will make you love your ring/diamond less, however, there is a tinge of disappointment that everyone in the whole wide world (completely irrational

and that''s ok

) doesn''t think it is a marvellous as you do. It''s something that, I imagine, is easily gotten over once you look at that beauty on your hand and see no significance in their comments because you still love it!

Congratulations on your WF ACA! No matter what size, that is going to be a beauty of a diamond! I can''t wait to see it. Cheers to you as well

Wear that stunner with some swagger!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/2/2007 3:13:41 AM
Author: kellyfish
Sparka,

When the ring designer sent me pics of the setting during the design process for my ring they were large and I was concerned that my ring would look like a giant ''renaissiance fest'' ring. I was so worried. In real life, all of those details and the swoopy prongs were tiny and intricate--MUCH prettier. I am sure the same phenomenon will apply in your case. If you cried when you saw it because you love it--it''s the one.

Kellyfish!! I was waiting for your response ... I was praying and hoping that someone would be able to relate to my dilemma in this way.

You''ve hit the nail on the head and captured exactly what the problem is. I am obsessing and worrying about it because I am making up all kinds of things in my head based on the picture and another example of the setting I saw at a different jewelry store that just didn''t compare to what I saw the first time and I don''t want it to come to me looking that a honking man''s ring or to look so diminutive that the bling on it barely matters. It''s driving me mad!

Thanks for the encouragement and for the real life example!

I''m really happy for you that you got everything that you wanted! I''ll update you and show some pics, if I can figure it out, when I get it

THANK YOU!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/2/2007 3:52:19 AM
Author: sera
I haven''t seen that particular Simon G in person, but I have looked at a lot of them over and over again. Simon G is one of my faves. I love small accents in yellow (or rose) gold. The Simon G rings are really gorgeous.

The ring you posted is not my particular style, but neither is a plain solitaire... what matters is if you (the one who will be wearing it) love it! When I choose my setting, not everyone is going to like it and that is fine since it will be my ring. Though I do listen to advice, it is ultimately my decision as this is yours. How boring would it be if everyone had the same ring?!

Get it... wear it... love it!

********************

L''s for love.

Thanks for the encouragement, Sera!

I''m glad you love Simon G! He does make some fabulous pieces, doesn''t he?! It was hard to choose which one I loved best. I just cannot resist a split shank and this was the one I kept being drawn back to.

With regards to your statment about it being boring to all have the same ring. You''re absolutely correct. It would be terribly boring. This is one of the things that was important to me. I didn''t want to have the same ring as everyone else. I wanted my ring to be as individual as I am, without being crazy "run of to join the circus" like.

I think everything else that I have talked about in the other posts, plus the fact that my mother keeps on harping on me, now that she knows the bf is "looking", that she thinks that the solitaire is king and everything else is gaudy or over the top, is what is bothering me. I am a fun and over the top type girl so this ring will probably suit me just fine.

I will get it, wear it and love it!

... and if I don''t, I will do something about it!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/2/2007 3:54:21 AM
Author: Sharon101
I must admit its not my style for myself but I do enjoy seeing variety in rings on others. The way I see it, if you love it, and it has meaning and beauty to you, then you will wear it well and get lots of pleasure from it.

The other thing is, you can always change the setting down the track `if` your tastes change with age and time! You could even get the gold bits rhodeum plated if the gold bothered you down the track.

Sharon, thanks for taking the time to respond and share your opinion! I appreciate it!

Since I''ve been working myself up about this setting, even though I saw it for a long time before we decided to get it and loved it

, my bf and I have come to your conclusion. We can absolutely make the choice to change it if it is not what we dreamed about. This feels much more empowering than feeling as though I will be stuck with something that doesn''t exactly manifest itself the way it was initially displayed. I will be disappointed, actually very disappointed, if this is the case, however, it will just be back to square one and some more

to better establish what my "forever" ring will be. Sounds kind of flippant but it is something that will weigh heavy on my heart.

Thanks for your suggestions and thoughts!!