The LIW Small Talk Thread

[Lauren8211]

Date: 9/15/2009 9:05:37 AM
Author: jcarlylew
morning everyone!

Morning Jcar!

Morning everyone!

 

[jcarlylew]

ugh. off to work soon. poo.

i bought new shampoo, and now my hair smells like a york peppermint patty.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 9/15/2009 9:43:43 AM
Author: jcarlylew
ugh. off to work soon. poo.

i bought new shampoo, and now my hair smells like a york peppermint patty.

Sound delicious!

I wonder if people will be sniffing you all day.

Ive been at work for two hours already. Joy.

 

[Bia]

Date: 9/15/2009 9:58:37 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 9/15/2009 9:43:43 AM
Author: jcarlylew
ugh. off to work soon. poo.

i bought new shampoo, and now my hair smells like a york peppermint patty.

Sound delicious!

I wonder if people will be sniffing you all day.

Ive been at work for two hours already. Joy.

You start at 8AM? Thats toooo early

What''s up ladies? Good mornin'' to ya!

 

[jcarlylew]

i start work in 1/2 hour (730)

gotta jet!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 9/15/2009 10:00:08 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 9/15/2009 9:58:37 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 9/15/2009 9:43:43 AM
Author: jcarlylew
ugh. off to work soon. poo.

i bought new shampoo, and now my hair smells like a york peppermint patty.

Sound delicious!

I wonder if people will be sniffing you all day.

Ive been at work for two hours already. Joy.

You start at 8AM? Thats toooo early

What''s up ladies? Good mornin'' to ya!

UGH. Tell me about it. The worst part is that no one is here at 8 AM but me! I enjoy the quiet, but I enjoy my sleep more!

How''s life in B''s world? Things better with FI at all?

 

[ckrickett]

groooaaaaannnn

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 9/15/2009 10:23:00 AM
Author: ckrickett
groooaaaaannnn

morning sunshine!

 

[Bia]

Date: 9/15/2009 10:14:31 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 9/15/2009 10:00:08 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 9/15/2009 9:58:37 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 9/15/2009 9:43:43 AM
Author: jcarlylew
ugh. off to work soon. poo.

i bought new shampoo, and now my hair smells like a york peppermint patty.

Sound delicious!

I wonder if people will be sniffing you all day.

Ive been at work for two hours already. Joy.

You start at 8AM? Thats toooo early

What''s up ladies? Good mornin'' to ya!

UGH. Tell me about it. The worst part is that no one is here at 8 AM but me! I enjoy the quiet, but I enjoy my sleep more!

How''s life in B''s world? Things better with FI at all?

We''re trying. Honestly, I think I''m getting cold feet. Maybe because I have this idealization of what marriage should be, and we aren''t like that! We get along and we love eachother and all that. He hears what I''m saying and agrees that we could be doing more. He actually unplugged his computer the other day and gave me the wires as a peace offering lol. Told me to keep them for a week because he''s not going to let the computer take time away from me anymore...I laugh whenever I think about that. I don''t know. Maybe it''s me making things worse because I''m thinking too much. I just feel like we''re in such a rut that I can''t imagine being married like this.

Sorry the news isn''t better Elle...I know you''re all pulling for us.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 9/15/2009 10:33:28 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 9/15/2009 10:14:31 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 9/15/2009 10:00:08 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 9/15/2009 9:58:37 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 9/15/2009 9:43:43 AM
Author: jcarlylew
ugh. off to work soon. poo.

i bought new shampoo, and now my hair smells like a york peppermint patty.

Sound delicious!

I wonder if people will be sniffing you all day.

Ive been at work for two hours already. Joy.

You start at 8AM? Thats toooo early

What''s up ladies? Good mornin'' to ya!

UGH. Tell me about it. The worst part is that no one is here at 8 AM but me! I enjoy the quiet, but I enjoy my sleep more!

How''s life in B''s world? Things better with FI at all?

We''re trying. Honestly, I think I''m getting cold feet. Maybe because I have this idealization of what marriage should be, and we aren''t like that! We get along and we love eachother and all that. He hears what I''m saying and agrees that we could be doing more. He actually unplugged his computer the other day and gave me the wires as a peace offering lol. Told me to keep them for a week because he''s not going to let the computer take time away from me anymore...I laugh whenever I think about that. I don''t know. Maybe it''s me making things worse because I''m thinking too much. I just feel like we''re in such a rut that I can''t imagine being married like this.

Sorry the news isn''t better Elle...I know you''re all pulling for us.

We are very much pulling for you, B!

What exactly do you feel is missing? How are you guys acting that you feel like something is wrong? Is it just kind of where you''re "existing" together, but lacking passion? Is that what the problem is?

 

[Bia]

Date: 9/15/2009 10:36:49 AM
Author: elledizzy5

We are very much pulling for you, B!

What exactly do you feel is missing? How are you guys acting that you feel like something is wrong? Is it just kind of where you''re ''existing'' together, but lacking passion? Is that what the problem is?

Some of it is that. Not so much existing (it got like that for a minute) but more like not natural. We aren''t all over eachother, that is FOR SURE (and I understand part of that is being together for so long) which sucks. Sometimes when we try to be all over eachother, it''s like we''re forcing it, and the pressure is on. I hate that feeling. I love this man, I really do, but a part of me is terrified that we''re not going to make it. And don''t get me wrong, he''s great. He''s very loving and what not, but passion, that''s hard to find lately and it''s bugging me out

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 9/15/2009 10:43:04 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 9/15/2009 10:36:49 AM
Author: elledizzy5

We are very much pulling for you, B!

What exactly do you feel is missing? How are you guys acting that you feel like something is wrong? Is it just kind of where you''re ''existing'' together, but lacking passion? Is that what the problem is?

Some of it is that. Not so much existing (it got like that for a minute) but more like not natural. We aren''t all over eachother, that is FOR SURE (and I understand part of that is being together for so long) which sucks. Sometimes when we try to be all over eachother, it''s like we''re forcing it, and the pressure is on. I hate that feeling. I love this man, I really do, but a part of me is terrified that we''re not going to make it. And don''t get me wrong, he''s great. He''s very loving and what not, but passion, that''s hard to find lately and it''s bugging me out

I don''t know if you''ve considered it, but what about therapy together? If there''s love, trust, and respect, passion can come back. You just may not realize why the passion is missing, yanno? I have heard wonderful things about people going to therapy for a lack of passion and coming out in the puppy love stage again.

You can so fix this. I wouldn''t worry about not making it until you''ve put in all the work. Date nights and get-aways don''t fix deep-down issues, that just fixes the "I''m tireds". Sometimes you need to really dig to get to the core of the problem.

 

[Bia]

Date: 9/15/2009 10:59:03 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 9/15/2009 10:43:04 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 9/15/2009 10:36:49 AM
Author: elledizzy5

We are very much pulling for you, B!

What exactly do you feel is missing? How are you guys acting that you feel like something is wrong? Is it just kind of where you''re ''existing'' together, but lacking passion? Is that what the problem is?

Some of it is that. Not so much existing (it got like that for a minute) but more like not natural. We aren''t all over eachother, that is FOR SURE (and I understand part of that is being together for so long) which sucks. Sometimes when we try to be all over eachother, it''s like we''re forcing it, and the pressure is on. I hate that feeling. I love this man, I really do, but a part of me is terrified that we''re not going to make it. And don''t get me wrong, he''s great. He''s very loving and what not, but passion, that''s hard to find lately and it''s bugging me out

I don''t know if you''ve considered it, but what about therapy together? If there''s love, trust, and respect, passion can come back. You just may not realize why the passion is missing, yanno? I have heard wonderful things about people going to therapy for a lack of passion and coming out in the puppy love stage again.

You can so fix this. I wouldn''t worry about not making it until you''ve put in all the work. Date nights and get-aways don''t fix deep-down issues, that just fixes the ''I''m tireds''. Sometimes you need to really dig to get to the core of the problem.

We did therapy a few years ago when we were fighting like cats and dogs. Interestingly enough, the passion was on fire back then - for some reason fighting makes sex that much sexier LOL. Now we get along, but as I said, it''s just off.

I want to make it work, but truth be told, I am not the type of person who will stay just because it''s comfortable - I''ve seen so many couples (in my family mostly) do this and what a mistake! But I also don''t want to be negative, because I think that might be contributing to this in a big way. Maybe I''ll bring up the therapy idea again. He''s pretty open-minded so I doubt he''d say no.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 9/15/2009 11:08:34 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 9/15/2009 10:59:03 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 9/15/2009 10:43:04 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 9/15/2009 10:36:49 AM
Author: elledizzy5

We are very much pulling for you, B!

What exactly do you feel is missing? How are you guys acting that you feel like something is wrong? Is it just kind of where you''re ''existing'' together, but lacking passion? Is that what the problem is?

Some of it is that. Not so much existing (it got like that for a minute) but more like not natural. We aren''t all over eachother, that is FOR SURE (and I understand part of that is being together for so long) which sucks. Sometimes when we try to be all over eachother, it''s like we''re forcing it, and the pressure is on. I hate that feeling. I love this man, I really do, but a part of me is terrified that we''re not going to make it. And don''t get me wrong, he''s great. He''s very loving and what not, but passion, that''s hard to find lately and it''s bugging me out

I don''t know if you''ve considered it, but what about therapy together? If there''s love, trust, and respect, passion can come back. You just may not realize why the passion is missing, yanno? I have heard wonderful things about people going to therapy for a lack of passion and coming out in the puppy love stage again.

You can so fix this. I wouldn''t worry about not making it until you''ve put in all the work. Date nights and get-aways don''t fix deep-down issues, that just fixes the ''I''m tireds''. Sometimes you need to really dig to get to the core of the problem.

We did therapy a few years ago when we were fighting like cats and dogs. Interestingly enough, the passion was on fire back then - for some reason fighting makes sex that much sexier LOL. Now we get along, but as I said, it''s just off.

I want to make it work, but truth be told, I am not the type of person who will stay just because it''s comfortable - I''ve seen so many couples (in my family mostly) do this and what a mistake! But I also don''t want to be negative, because I think that might be contributing to this in a big way. Maybe I''ll bring up the therapy idea again. He''s pretty open-minded so I doubt he''d say no.

Did this start after you got engaged, or was it happening before also?

 

[Bia]

After we got engaged everything was great. This all started like 3-4 months ago.

I mean, prior to that, we were like most people - sometimes passion is on point, and at other times it tapers off and you get comfortable (or maybe that''s just us), kinda goes in waves, and I''ve attributed that to being together for going on 8 years.

 

[ckrickett]

Date: 9/15/2009 10:27:37 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 9/15/2009 10:23:00 AM

Author: ckrickett

groooaaaaannnn

morning sunshine!

hhahaha yeah.
today is my day off and I get to drive my happy bum to work to get written up because someone else made a mistake....
sometimes management blows!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 9/15/2009 11:26:07 AM
Author: Bia
After we got engaged everything was great. This all started like 3-4 months ago.

I mean, prior to that, we were like most people - sometimes passion is on point, and at other times it tapers off and you get comfortable (or maybe that''s just us), kinda goes in waves, and I''ve attributed that to being together for going on 8 years.

Welll I''m still confident that you two can fix it. Something just got thrown off, and you may just need to do a little work to fix it. *hugs*

 

[TooPatient]

Date: 9/15/2009 11:26:07 AM
Author: Bia
After we got engaged everything was great. This all started like 3-4 months ago.

I mean, prior to that, we were like most people - sometimes passion is on point, and at other times it tapers off and you get comfortable (or maybe that''s just us), kinda goes in waves, and I''ve attributed that to being together for going on 8 years.

We''ve been together now for 5 1/2+ years and longer as friends. It gets tough sometimes.

If you do decide to go to therapy, try a Certified Gottman Therapist. John Gottman and his wife have done research on relationships. They''ve got great advice and their therapists have pretty good results.

Until then (or in addition to), there are great books. Google for John Gottman. He has a website with all of his books and more. I very much enjoyed (as did FF) his Seven Principals book and his 10 Keys. They are about $10 each.

And if you want more romance/passion, try the Salsa Cards. (about $5 I think) 3 different levels. Mild, Medium, Hot. Mild is non sexual ways to get in touch (romantic dinner, foot rub, etc.). Medium adds in a bit of sexual stuff (massage, kissing, etc.). And Hot is for those who want a bit more excitement in their sex life (ranging from different rooms to stuff you will blush just to read).

 

[Bia]

Thanks for the info TP. I''ll def check it out.

I''ll keep you all posted

 

[Jessie702]

Morning Ladies....well late morning....lol...

Date: 9/15/2009 11:33:52 AM
Author: ckrickett

Date: 9/15/2009 10:27:37 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 9/15/2009 10:23:00 AM

Author: ckrickett

groooaaaaannnn

morning sunshine!

hhahaha yeah.
today is my day off and I get to drive my happy bum to work to get written up because someone else made a mistake....
sometimes management blows!

Sounds like C''s job. He gets treatend to be written up on a daily basis, along with EVERYONE in his department.. Gotta love a management who will write you up for coughing wrong.....

.....Everyone in his department is afraid for their jobs. Stupid overly huge corporations who mirco manage and let people run hell on departments.....sorry small Vent

All done now

 

[Bia]

Hmmm...just got a call from Morgan Stanley / Smith Barney...

They want me in for an interview

Sort of conflicted. The pay will probably be very good, but the whole Corporate America thing sort of scares me...

Ahhhh...this is the first interview I''ve gotten!

 

[princesss]

Date: 9/15/2009 2:24:33 PM
Author: Bia
Hmmm...just got a call from Morgan Stanley / Smith Barney...

They want me in for an interview

Sort of conflicted. The pay will probably be very good, but the whole Corporate America thing sort of scares me...

Ahhhh...this is the first interview I''ve gotten!

GO BIA!

Take that interview and run with it, girl. Corporate America isn''t so scary!

 

[Jessie702]

Congrats Bia......I hope the interview goes well and you get it

 

[misskitty]

Yay, Bia! Congrats on getting the interview

Even if you''re not sold on Corporate America, that''s pretty amazing that they want to talk to you.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 9/15/2009 2:24:33 PM
Author: Bia
Hmmm...just got a call from Morgan Stanley / Smith Barney...

They want me in for an interview

Sort of conflicted. The pay will probably be very good, but the whole Corporate America thing sort of scares me...

Ahhhh...this is the first interview I''ve gotten!

Oh my gosh, B! That is AWESOME!!!

I''m so proud of you!

When are you going on? What are you wearing??

Ahh! YAY!!!

 

[Bia]

Thanks ladies, I''m gushing, really <3

I''ll keep you posted.

 

[Jessie702]

Oooo, i would so LOVE to hear ahout what your thinking of wearing......im like so addicted to fashion

 

[sunnyd]

Go Bia!!

Corporate isn''t so bad.

 

[Squirrly]

hi!
dust!
bye!

(must remedy holey shoe)

miss you guys, hope all is well, especially with poop cake.

 

[Bia]

Not sure when the interview is. I got a call from the Exec Director of HR and he asked for my resume to send to his Senior Generalist - she''ll set up the interview.

crossing my fingers...

As for what to wear. I have to get me a suit - that''s for sure. I don''t know if Morgan Stanley is business casual but I think for an initial interview I should look the part. Black suit, white silky top. Little splash of color? I have no idea!

I think whether or not Corp America is for me, it''s not a bad place to launch my career. Looks good on a resume, I know that much.