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The LIW Small Talk Thread

BG -- not everyone does that. Don't give up on it yet.... Just read the fine print REALLY carefully and ask lots of questions.
I even started a thread (when we first started talking about the winery) with all of the information I knew and questions I planned to ask. The wonderful BIW ladies posted other stuff that I should find out about and offered lots of wonderful help in looking out for those hidded fees and stuff.

SC -- lots of pretty places around.


My absolute dream venue:

The quiet & beautiful setting + amazing food & wine + great people + no hidden fees of the winery (Cave B)
The closeness of the hotel just posted (1 hour or less drive for everyone)
The price of BG's rose garden.


Not likely to happen but I can dream....
 
TooPatient said:
BG -- not everyone does that. Don't give up on it yet.... Just read the fine print REALLY carefully and ask lots of questions.
I even started a thread (when we first started talking about the winery) with all of the information I knew and questions I planned to ask. The wonderful BIW ladies posted other stuff that I should find out about and offered lots of wonderful help in looking out for those hidded fees and stuff.

SC -- lots of pretty places around.


My absolute dream venue:

The quiet & beautiful setting + amazing food & wine + great people + no hidden fees of the winery (Cave B)
The closeness of the hotel just posted (1 hour or less drive for everyone)
The price of BG's rose garden.


Not likely to happen but I can dream....
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:lol: I am still very happy and proud with the price of my rose garden. Hope my banquet and other wedding stuff can be as cheap and as nice as that rose garden. The hotel is very nice, too. You should really look into it.
 
See you ladies tomorrow :wavey:
 
Bye TOO. You and cali need a profile picture!!!
 
ahaha, when I saw the price of that Rose Garden, I about fainted. You really can't get anything in Seattle for under 1k. I doubt I could rent a backyard from someone with that price. I'm already expecting a minimum amount of 20k for a wedding...that just about covers the food. My dream venue would be Beneroyal hall or the Olympic Sculpture park. I contacted the sculpture park to get a rough idea and threw that venue out the window by the first paragraph. Didn't even bother with Beneroyal :(sad
 
Seattle SC said:
ahaha, when I saw the price of that Rose Garden, I about fainted. You really can't get anything in Seattle for under 1k. I doubt I could rent a backyard from someone with that price. I'm already expecting a minimum amount of 20k for a wedding...that just about covers the food. My dream venue would be Beneroyal hall or the Olympic Sculpture park. I contacted the sculpture park to get a rough idea and threw that venue out the window by the first paragraph. Didn't even bother with Beneroyal :(sad
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:lol: at first I was surprised with the price. I thought it's too good to be true. I found another one for just $200. However, that place is way too small and old. As soon as I checked out the rose garden in peson, i love it. I love that it's so nice and cheap. I asked many questions, just in case they have hidden fees. Nope. $258 something is how much i need to pay and that's it. I booked it and paid the deposit right away on monday. I didn't want to lose this place. I'm waiting for the contract to arrive in the mail.

Last time my FI and I were in Seattle, i wanted to check out the olympic scupture park. We didn't have time. However, we went to the crab pot place for dinner. I forgot if that's what it's called. You know, you eat your crabs with a hammer. Anyways. That was good.

I wonder if we'll be able to spend only $10k here for our wedding. hmm...
 
15K isn't bad at all, esp since you'll be having 2 weddings in a way. SO and I created a fake guest list and got it to around 130people I think...so I'm sure our families will want to add other people to that, and then a lot won't be able to come...so if our list is between 120-150ppl I'll be happy. I was thinking it'd be closer to 200 originally which freaked me out when I realized how much food/alky costs. I'd probably just do a taco bar if I could, but I doubt that'd fly over too well with the Japanese guests :lol: Oh well, hopefully I'll only ever have to do this once right?
 
Sorry I disappeared out of nowhere, I got caught up in some Bora Bora haggling. Right now I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle, but I just need some kind of deal to make me feel better.

All those little fees would drive me absolutely nuts. It's like you mention the word wedding and they think they can throw any fee at you since you have to have your wedding somewhere. Quite the scam the industry pulls if you ask me.

Ok, I don't know if you guys have had a good laugh today, but have you read the thread in LIW titled "which one counts"? I just read the whole thing and I was cracking up because I can't tell if it's real or not. It's so OTT.
 
Ugh haggling is so stressful. I'll never forget the time I walked out on a car over $250. I mean, it's good that I stuck to my guns...but man...did I miss out on a nice car. Still driving my POS though.

OMG, I totally read that thread too, but for some reason I started at the last page and was like..wow people are mean! Then I started from the beginning and was like, "oh I get it." I wouldn't be surprized if it is real though, I see and hear some crazy stuff in my own life. I work in a cubical at my job now and it can drive me nuts. Maybe I should go back and read the updates..sometimes I read threads and it'll stress me out just reading it though!
 
I'm still in the midst of negotiating, but things just took a turn for the better. I might be able to get a better deal than I initially wanted, woot woot!

I guess I'm just not that clued in on the LIW stuff. I was never desperate to get married and I never bothered my FI about it. When my ring finally arrived, then I got a little nutso since I just wanted to wear it, but that's about the extent of the crazy I can sympathize with. I think a lot girls in LIW are pretty similar to this, but this girl is just something I don't get.

I haven't worked in a cubicle in years, but yes I remember the good times of hearing everyone's batsh!t crazy personal phone calls. I would always IM my FI about what they were saying just for a good laugh. Hmmm, that sounds kind of mean, but it was such a crappy company, I still see their ads sometimes and cringe.
 
LoL...i went and read it. She always had one on wearing a ring as a promise ring futher down. I think she;s just a LIW close tot he edge :lol:
 
When you get some of the older posters in there saying that stuff to you, you know you've already gone over the edge. Phewy
 
I do sometimes wonder about taking the approach where I stop caring about getting engaged and start acting like I can play the field more. Since I'm living in a house with my SO, it's not like I can bring new guys home with me (not that I want to obviously) but if I were to leave, his house would sure be a lot more empty. Part of my issue was I spent a long time in a really bad relationship previously and told myself I'd never waste that much time with a person from then on out since I was just out of college and "starting my life" at that time. Once 3 years rolled by and it didn't feel like we were going anywhere, I felt the need to figure out what was going on and now I'm hoping we're taking the next step in the somewhat near future.

The promise ring is a bit odd to me though, am I the only one that thinks it's a big "closed" sign on your store? Without a ring on the finger, I'm still technically single - right? At least that's the way I kind of view it, like it's the last piece where you truely invest yourself in someone else.

*sings the Beyonce song in her head*
 
I agree that the "promise ring" on the finger is a big ole closed sign. Until a girl has a ring on her finger, most guys feel that she is fair game to flirt with or hit on. I feel like once they see a ring there, it's pretty much why waste my time when there are plenty of available girls to prey on.

So were you the one who initiated the marriage talks in your relationship? How did your SO respond to it and do you definitely feel like it was a big jumping off point to moving forward? I would just to see someone get strung along with a guy that has no intention of committing, it's pretty much a girl's worst nightmare.

In regards to playing the field, I can only give my personal experience. The entire time me and FI have been together (almost 7 years), I've never had the desire to get out and date someone else. I've never felt like I was missing something and I've always thought that this was it. Take that as you will....
 
I think part of the issue is, she is so young, and has blinders on. Everyeone does at that age, i did. At 16 i met a guy who was 24, thought he was awesome, and we would get married. I even bought myself a "ring" :? . Well we fought all the time, and he said i love you, and all that crap. Even Moved in with him( Hence my waiting to wait to move in with C), well he decided he need a trade, took off, left me with all of the bills, and never sent money to help. He barely called. Well i will admit, i had my fun. I was in the apartment by myself for 6 months and lived the single life. When he came back, i tried to break up with him. It wasnt until i found out he cheated on me, that i actually broke up with him. ( When i left him, he was standing in front of my car, i told him to move 3 times, he didnt move, so i actually bumped him :twisted: , sorry that makes me happy) I just dated others for 2 years, thought i was gonna be in a committed relationship with one guy, it didnt work out. Than i met my SO, at first we just courted, and than made it offical. That was almost 3 years ago. So i think she just in that, im young, and in love phase. Hopefully she wakes up, because he sounds like a jerk

*humming Beyonce song* Hmmmm, this songmakes me what to go out and get a cute going out dress and head out with my girls on friday
 
That song is so obnoxious, it's now stuck in my head.

I'll be back in a few hours ladies. I've got a girls happy hour I'm going to in a bit and I need to eat some dinner before drinking on a wednesday evening... :P
 
calibali said:
That song is so obnoxious, it's now stuck in my head.

I'll be back in a few hours ladies. I've got a girls happy hour I'm going to in a bit and I need to eat some dinner before drinking on a wednesday evening... :P
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O, have fun....have one for me!
 
I'm definitely the one that initiated the actual talks first, but it was more along the lines of "where are we going here." I made up my mind that I wanted to be with my SO, but if he didn't feel the same way, I couldn't stand to wait around. The talks were a bit more serious a few months later, and eventually he said he wanted to go shopping for rings with me. A lot has gone on this whole year which has put things on the back burner but now that things have somewhat settled down, I don't want to waste more time. It might sound funny, but I want to be able to get married while my parents are still around, and I'm not really sure how much longer that will be. SO understands that more now as well, and I'm hoping that all that's left is to get finances in place before we take the next step. My SO is the only person I've ever wanted to be married to but I needed to make sure that he felt the same way. I think we both had issues with previous relationships that effected everything that's happening now though.

Luckily for me, I can honestly say that I never felt that I wanted to be married while I was young. I've been in several relationships that lasted over a year or more but no one really kept me that interested. I knew even when I was young, that I wanted to be done with school and have a job before settling down. My parents didn't get married until they were older as well, so maybe that has something to do with it.

Ugh, I'm on my own for dinner tonight, SO's got an after work meeting. Too lazy right now to go to the grocery store though.
 
I am going to read the other thread later. I kinda know what it is about. I will see if it's really that funny. :o

My FI said I'm the first and only girl he said I love you to. We were doing long d for the first 4 years of our relationship. We just dated for 1 month then went our separately way for school. He didn't want to date at first. However, I convinced him that we don't want to look back and regret that we didn't try to make us work. He is so glad I convinced him. We are so glad we survived the long d relationship. I remember the first time we came home during our Christmas break, he already told me he wanted me to be his wife one day. :love: we always talk about getting married. We know we will get married sooner or later. Two years ago, I started to "bug" him about getting married for real. He wasn't ready mentally. I always want to get married by 26. Some of your ladies might know, we broke up for a day because I wanted to get married and he wasn't ready. Then he realized how much he cant live without me and we started to look at rings together. The rest of the story, you ladies know already. :love:

Btw, I can't get the song off my head now. :lol:
 
The other thread was taken done, I guess PS thought it was getting out of hand.
 
I was thinking maybe it was removed. :o

Beyonce's song is still stuck in my head. :love:
 
yeah, i think the thread was getting a bit "heated"

LoL.....im getting sleepy, my tummy is upset too. Booo....i want my SO
 
Go to bed Jessie!
 
Seattle SC said:
ahaha, when I saw the price of that Rose Garden, I about fainted. You really can't get anything in Seattle for under 1k. I doubt I could rent a backyard from someone with that price. I'm already expecting a minimum amount of 20k for a wedding...that just about covers the food. My dream venue would be Beneroyal hall or the Olympic Sculpture park. I contacted the sculpture park to get a rough idea and threw that venue out the window by the first paragraph. Didn't even bother with Beneroyal :(sad
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True.

I found one place that didn't charge any rental fee. The catch? They don't do ceremonies -- only receptions. (other fine print things that I couldn't accept too) So the cost there was just food/bev minimum.

Even the parks are expensive. (you'd think since we pay taxes to maintain them already we'd be allowed to use them for a reasonable charge :nono: )


Best cost saving thing I've seen is that it helps to find a place to have ceremony + reception so you've only got the one set of charges to deal with (most will charge an extra $500 or so to have ceremony there too).
 
My jewel jet just arrived. I bought it from ebay. It is the best price there. It is brand new, hasn't been opened at all. It took 10 days to come because I want the seller to ship it using usps rather than ups. I am scared the brokeage fee. I only paid $25usd for shipping. However, the receipt on my package said $28 something. :twirl: The seller is very nice. I will try cleaning my RHR later. It's my mom's birthday. Maybe I can clean her stuff too.

Sigh. I hope my ring can arrive today too. Probably not.
 
Oooo! Jewel Jet!

Let us know how you like it.
 
The jewel jet is amazing. My mom's gold earrings are very hard to clean because it has those flower pattens all over it. She cleans it with a toothbrush sometimes, but she just can't get them all clean. After one powerful burst of stream, i saw the dirt came out. I am serious.it's amazing. It works on my Tiffany silver too. However, I still can't get some black stuff off my silver. I think it works better on diamonds though. Oh well, that's what i care about anyways. :love:
 
beezygal said:
The jewel jet is amazing. My mom's gold earrings are very hard to clean because it has those flower pattens all over it. She cleans it with a toothbrush sometimes, but she just can't get them all clean. After one powerful burst of stream, i saw the dirt came out. I am serious.it's amazing. It works on my Tiffany silver too. However, I still can't get some black stuff off my silver. I think it works better on diamonds though. Oh well, that's what i care about anyways. :love:
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OOooooooo!


Hope everyone has a great weekend :wavey:

I'm off to take Millie for her check-up + shots + de-worm (again) and I'm out tomorrow.
 
Wow maybe I should look into that jewel jet, it seems pretty cool. Of course having some more jewelry to use it on would be nice too. I think you need special cleaners for Tiffany's jewelry because the tarnish on the silver. I have a special cloth that shines it right up. Not sure if it's good or bad for the metal, but it makes it look new at least.

So last night I found out some bad news. It sounds like my grandmother is on her way out, maybe not having much more than a few days or weeks left. We're not particularly close, since she lives in PA, but she's a really wonderful woman. It's pretty unexpected though, even though she's 95, she was living on her own up until a month or 2 ago..completely fine. One of my Aunts decided to move her in with her and sell her house, somewhat under the radar of my dad and her 2 other sisters. Everyone was against the whole situation, and now since she's declined so dramatically, I'm not looking forward to this funeral since I think the family is going to blame her for killing grandma.

Haven't even told my SO yet. I knew he had the big work dinner tonight, so I didn't want him to stress over this and think that I needed him here or anything. Guess I'll tell him tonight, since I'll probably have to hop a flight in a few days. Fortunately I haven't had much experience with funerals, but I doubt that would make it any easier.
 
Seattle, I am so sorry about your grandma.

I have the cloth you were talking about. It's from Tiffany.
 
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