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The LIW Small Talk Thread

AdanaEsq said:
Cali: I don't think I was too clear in what I wrote either! I guess when it comes down to it BF can choose to do it all with Leon which may be easier since we are in the city or break it up.

Twinkle: sorry you are arguing about something like that. You'd think he would be happy you are trying to be considerate of his finances. I kind of had a similar tiff with BF at one point when I said I didn't want him to get my ring from Tiffany because obviously you're paying a higher price for the name. He felt like it's his money and he can spend it how he wants and can buy a ring from there if he feels it has better quality etc. I guess somehow they feel insulted like saying you think they can't afford it whereas I know I just feel guilty about the idea of him spending over a certain amount. We're not in a situation where either of us own houses or are so established in our careers (I've only been practicing about 3 years or so and he's still in school).

Mif: Sorry you had an argument. K and I had an irrational one last night too. At least he's feeling that way because maybe he wants to get you something perfect. My BF is more about "I want us to live in the moment and keep growing together and then we'll get there but I'm not ready yet, give me more time, we have the timeline (his timeline)" blah blah lol
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Thanks Adana. Yeah, we're young too and just starting out. SO has big plans for his money and our future. He is not materialistic so simple and classic is more his style. I am not either, but I love that ring. Just don't want to put a ding in his plans and dreams.

And your SO will come around. His timeline likely includes when he is done with school-- probably too put all his focus on finishing and after he can put all his focus on the engagement & ring. :))
 
Twinkle that is his argument. The issue for me is 1) I don't feel so young (I'm turning 29 next week and he turns 30 in December) and I would like to get married and have kids before I'm 35. His timeline isn't technically unreasonable and I get that school is important to him. I just feel like we could get married and he would still be able to finish school, I'm very supportive of his goals and I wouldn't want to jeopardize that. I just really don't want my 30th to hit next November and still be dating. lol
 
Good point. I totally understand. I wouldn't want the same thing--especially if you both know you're meant for each other.

I'll actually be a LIW for a while too it looks like.
 
Thanks girls for the support.

Well we did go and see someone in our city this afternoon and made HUGE progress and found out it is actually cheaper to get what I wanted here. It was so fantastic to actually see the stones in real life and we learnt so much today. My bf was soo excited afterwards so it's all back on track but he still says "doesn't mean we are getting engaged straight away, i'm going to hold on to it."
That's fine with me at least I know that the ring is covered and he isn't stressed about it all!
 
I wonder if he's saying that to throw you off. I would think if he's so excited, it would be hard to keep it for awhile to give it to you. I could totally be wrong though. It's great that you're making progress!
 
mif_ said:
Thanks girls for the support.

Well we did go and see someone in our city this afternoon and made HUGE progress and found out it is actually cheaper to get what I wanted here. It was so fantastic to actually see the stones in real life and we learnt so much today. My bf was soo excited afterwards so it's all back on track but he still says "doesn't mean we are getting engaged straight away, i'm going to hold on to it."
That's fine with me at least I know that the ring is covered and he isn't stressed about it all!
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Does he think that engagement = wedding in a few months?

I found that out from B one day when I was upset about how long he was taking to get around to buying a ring ---- He said that he wasn't quite ready financially (and there was too much going on to add wedding planning too) for a wedding right now. I asked a couple of questions and found that he thought that once the ring is bought he'd want me to have it right away (I only had to wait a few weeks :bigsmile: ) and that once I had it we'd have to have the wedding immediately (so proposal in March = wedding in June) :rolleyes: .
He was fine once I explained that getting the ring on my finger soon after purchase would be (and was!) wonderful but there was NO WAY I'd be willing to have less than one year to plan the wedding.
He seemed shocked -- we could get engaged and (gasp) take more than 2 months to plan! (We could even enjoy some months just engaged before starting to plan!)


Anyway.....
some men seem to lump proposal and wedding into the same definition. :rolleyes:
 
I never thought to use tea tree oil that way....

We have a big (well, the biggest Whole Foods sells) bottle of it all the time. FI uses it in his soap.

Of course it makes me sneeze terribly ;(
Next time I've got a problem about to come out on my face I'll give it a try. (a little sneezing for a couple of hours is a lot better than red lumps for days/weeks)
 
I heard this song on the radio the other day and it left my sniffling. I want to surprise my mom by singing it to her (maybe at the rehearsal?):

Carrie Underwood --- Mama's Song

Mama, you taught me to do the right things.
So, now you have to let your baby fly.
You've given me everything that I will need.
To make it through this crazy thing called life.
And I know you watched me grow up,
and only want what's best for me.
And I think I found the answer to your prayers.

And he Is good, so good.
He treats your little girl,
like a real man should.
He is good, SO good.
He makes promises he keeps.
No, he's never gonna leave.
So, don't you worry about me.
Don't you worry about me.

Mama, there's no way you'll ever lose me.
Giving me away is not goodbye.
As you watch me walk down to my future,
I hope tears of joy are in your eyes.

Cause, he is good, so good.
And, he treats your little girl,
like a real man should.
He is good, SO good.
He makes promises he keeps.
No, he's never gonna leave.
So, don't you worry about me.
Don't you worry about me.

And when I watch my baby grow up,
I'll only want what's best for her.
And I hope she'll find,
the answer to my prayers.
And that she'll say...

He is good, so good.
And he treats your little girl,
like a real man should.
He is good, SO good.
He makes promises he keeps.
No, he's never gonna leave.
So, don't you worry about me.
Don't you worry about me.

Mama, don't you worry about me.
Don't you worry about me.
 
Mif - guys can be so dumb sometimes. The point of being engaged is to let everyone know you are going to be actively planning a wedding!

AdanaEsq – School is so important, why is it that sometimes guys think they can’t do school and be at least engaged at the same time? Love your dream ring in your profile BTW

As for me… I’m having my worst/best LIW week ever. Two or three weeks ago a guy acquaintance asked me how much my perfect ring would cost and I told him. Not two days ago A said that in January he was going to have *that exact amount of money laying around* This, of course, has led me into thinking he’s trying to be subtle and tell me a ring might be on the way. I’m trying to not get my hopes up too much… but I’m leaving web pages open to my favorite gemstones and settings anyway. I’m driving myself nuts!
 
LOL Maebelle I would so do the same thing to make sure he got the right stone and setting! I really don't know why guys feel like they have to be finished with school to get married/engaged. I know that if we were married, I would definitely wait until he was finished with school and working before we had kids. I'm really hoping that we get engaged sometime in 2011 but based on what he's saying, it's not likely.
 
Yes men are dumb haha!

I think he is worried people might think we are young or that we have been influence by our friends who are all getting engaged and married. He is so concern about what other people think! He said that he would be happy to have a 18month to 2 year engagement because he is worried that he won't be able to contribute enough to the wedding. My parents said they'd be happy to pay for the whole thing and we have now found out that his parents want to pay half which may change his mind a little bit but of course we want to contribute to the whole thing. I am not sure if he is saying that to throw me off who knows. I am happy to wait I guess it shows patience haha! It's just a shame that I will only be allow to see it for a minute before he puts it away :( haha nevermind!

I don't think we will actually have the ring before january anyway as we haven't got the stone yet!
 
Maybe he'll at least let you get a peek or two at it once you have it!
 
Hey Ladies, Sorry i havent checked in today, been busy running errands for the party on friday. A cake is in the oven baking right now as i type. :lol:
 
Jessie702 said:
Hey Ladies, Sorry i havent checked in today, been busy running errands for the party on friday. A cake is in the oven baking right now as i type. :lol:
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Mmmmm...... Cake!

What sort of cake did you decide to bake?
 
I might have found THE dress yesterday. I am still waiting for the price quote. :lol:

Cake. Yummy.
 
beezygal said:
I might have found THE dress yesterday. I am still waiting for the price quote. :lol:

Cake. Yummy.
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Pictures!??!!

That is exciting. What does the dress look like?
 
o yay BG, i am so happy you might have found your dress. I cant wait to see pictures...

I made a chocolate cake, but its super chocolately because i bake different pieces of chocolate chips in it.....i cant wait until friday to try it now. LoL...it doesnt look complete...though...
 
Jessie702 said:
o yay BG, i am so happy you might have found your dress. I cant wait to see pictures...

I made a chocolate cake, but its super chocolately because i bake different pieces of chocolate chips in it.....i cant wait until friday to try it now. LoL...it doesnt look complete...though...
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****Drooooooool*************

Sounds yummy!

How about:
Drizzle of chocolate glaze. Served on a plate with angaise sauce with a nice drizzle of fresh raspberry sauce.
 
Remember I told you ladies about this dress: http://www.bridalane.com/937.htm for $890CDN? Well, the one I tried on yesterday is kinda like that. It's more fitted from the waist to lower hip. It has similar beadings. The ONE has some kinda ruffles at the bottom. Pretty! I don't think that dress will be cheap, so I should keep looking. :lol: They also do photo packages. I was hoping my FI would love their pictures because their packages include wedding gowns rental for the photo shots AND wedding night. However, he doesn't really like the pictures. We are meeting up with two photographers this Friday night. Their pictures are AMAZING! They are available on our wedding date. I think we've found our photographers. I'm keeping my finger crossed. Check them out! http://www.raymondleung.ca/welcome.htm The pictures are BREATHTAKING!
 
Bg --- Pretty! Is that THE dress or just a similar one? Either way :love: :love: :love: .
Your (hopefully!) photographers take beautiful pictures. I'm at work so only got to see a handful but the details they catch are impressive. And the prices!!
 
o wow, BG, that dress is so pretty. If its close to 850, than its so worth it.....
 
Thanks ladies. The picture I posted is the one I tried on a few weeks ago. Ever since I tried on that dress, I have been trying to find a dress just like that, hopefully cheaper. That dress is very fitted. Then, yesterday, I tried on a dress kinda like that. It is more fitted and has raffles at the bottom. I still want a cheaper dress. Hopefully the dress yesterday will be cheaper. I doubt that.
 
Congrats on possibly finding THE dress BG! You don't have any pics of you in the dress? I have the worst imagination, so I can't really picture what you're describing.

I went to a dress shop today but didn't try on one dress since they were all too expensive. That boutique sent me to a bridesmaid shop, where the owner showed me a picture of a dress that might work. Here's the dress:

http://www.dessy.com/dresses/wedding/1016/

I would add a sweetheart neckline and a sash. I'm going to a Priscilla of Boston sample sale tomorrow and if I don't see anything there, I'm going to order a sample of that dress.

I'm so over dress shopping, I just want to be done.

How's everyone else doing today? Sorry I'm not around, gotta get ready for FMIL and our house is a mess. :shock:
 
calibali said:
Congrats on possibly finding THE dress BG! You don't have any pics of you in the dress? I have the worst imagination, so I can't really picture what you're describing.

I went to a dress shop today but didn't try on one dress since they were all too expensive. That boutique sent me to a bridesmaid shop, where the owner showed me a picture of a dress that might work. Here's the dress:

http://www.dessy.com/dresses/wedding/1016/

I would add a sweetheart neckline and a sash. I'm going to a Priscilla of Boston sample sale tomorrow and if I don't see anything there, I'm going to order a sample of that dress.

I'm so over dress shopping, I just want to be done.

How's everyone else doing today? Sorry I'm not around, gotta get ready for FMIL and our house is a mess. :shock:
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Tell ME about it, I'm SO done with dress shopping. I just want to find one RIGHT NOW.

Sorry, no picture. Can't take pictures. Your dress is nice. How much?

Good luck with your FMIL!
 
Thanks BG - that dress is only $495. So even with alterations, I'd still come in under 1000. I tried on one similar to it today, but the cut of the one I tried on wasn't quite right so it made my hips look big. I've got a glimmer of hope this could work, so I'm a little excited.

I can't believe some places won't let you take pictures. If the girl leaves you alone in the dressing room to get out of the dress, you should snap a quick pic for us. :)
 
omg.... That dress is CHEAP! Sigh... I want to find a dress around that price. The thing is, there's no mirror in the changing room. It's hard to the picture.

I'm SO pissed. My bank call me like 5 times a day because my term deposit will expire on Nov 1. They keep on calling me. Most of the time, my mom picked up because I'm teaching. She finds that so annoying. So, this time, a unlucky guy called. Before he said anything, I said "I know what you want. I will only let one person handle my account. You guys call me many times a day. You are disturbing my WHOLE family! Can you please take me off your list or whatever?" Then he said, "I'm sorry... blab blab blab." A few minutes later, another call from the bank. OMG! Those people. This time, the account manager called me because she got an email. I told her they call me 5 times a day... and that I'll cancel all my accounts and go to another bank if they keep calling me. I told her I'll only let one person handle my account. That person has been dealing with me and my parents for almost 10 years. We only trust her. Then, that woman said she'll put a comment in my account saying that I have someone dealing with my account. OMG!!! PLEASE PPL! OMG UNBELIEVABLE!
 
Cali- okay, i like that dress a lot, but i wont know till i see it on you. I think the sweet heart neckline would look lovely on that dress along with a sash matching your FI's tie.

Bg- i am so sorry about your bank. I know the feeling, bur right now its the Democratic and Republican party calling my house and C's house, and everyones house right now. Election Day is Nov 2, and i swear, it cant come fast enough. The Dem party made a msitake and people, got phone calls from them at 1 in the morning!!! They would have gotten a call fom me in the morning, when i very tired and fully pissed off.

Side note, im in the libary and i SWEAR, someone didnt take a bath today. O gross, im so happy im going to class :evil:
 
Jessie - haha, the stinky person made me laugh. I did some volunteering last night and there were a few unpleasant smells, so this just brought that experience back.

So you think that dress could look good? It's just thin satin with a layer of lace - exactly what I want. Light, airy and no train. I know the lace isn't the nicest but honestly, I doubt there will be any picture close ups of it so who cares. I'm really getting excited and that price is unbeatable. Yeeeeee!

I'll share my fun phone story! I've had the same phone number for 2.5 years and apparently the guy who had it before me "forgot" to pay all his bills. I constantly have collection agencies calling me asking for "Henry T." and I get super pissed on the phone since I've asked them repeatedly to stop calling. I get at least 2 calls a day from them and I've just stopped answering...
 
Cali: I think that dress is nice, especially with a dash and a sweetheart neckline. It's a GOOD PRICE!!! However, does it look KINDA see thru? Maybe it's just the picture?

Jessie: I bought two pumpkins today. I'm going to make jack-o-lattern with my FI on Sat. I want to bake some pumpkin stuff. Since I'll have to dump out the stuff inside, I don't want to waste the "meat". HOWEVER! I have a question. Most of the recipes require pumpkin puree. Pumpkin puree is not equal to pumpkin meat, right? I'm confused!

I got a call from the jewellry store. They will be closing on Remembrance day because we're the ONLY appointment. That means I can't go with my FI. I'll go with my mom the day before instead. FI doesn't really care as long as it's not too expensive. :lol: I'll bring my mom with me. She has good taste like me. :lol: Maybe I'll take some pictures for my FI and you ladies if I can. :bigsmile:

I bought a box of chips from Costco and have been giving out chips for my students this week. They are all very happy. Today, I got some little treats from two students. So sweet!

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Ohh good luck on the dress hunt so gorgeous!

Is it odd that I have found some dresses I love even though its more than likely engagement won't be for 18months :oops: haha oh well!!

The boy is away at the moment so staying with my mum having the best girly wedding chats haha!
 
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