The LIW Small Talk Thread

[TooPatient]

Aw... Jessie, I'm sorry.
I hope his boss understands what happened. It just doesn't seem right to put stuff in a document that no one ever reads anyway.

 

[beezygal]

I'm sorry about that Jessie. Hope C will be ok.

Hi Too. I'm pretty good. What about you?

 

[DestinedPalmer]

Hey everyone! I'm new to this and just wanted to say hi... Hope I to get to talk to all of you quite a bit in the coming months! lol Wish it wouldn't be that long.... huummpphhh

 

[captainmcgee]

Welcome DestinedPalmer. Hope your stay is short and sweet.

Ladies,

I hope everyone is well. Need to catch up on the thread but my goodness big news.

I tried my dream dress on today and Oh my. I made a thread on it explaining the stituation.
[URL='https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/dream-dress-not-yet-engaged.151635/']https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/dream-dress-not-yet-engaged.151635/[/URL]

But let me just say this, wow! It is truely the dress of my dreams. It is everything I wanted and it looks amazing. I feel like when he has made the actual proposal I will be going to try on other dresses at other stores just to make everyone happy but it is the one. Ahhhhh yay!!!!

Jessie, hope everything gets better and lots of *DUST* to everyone

 

[maebelle]

Mif, The dress is VERY pretty, I love the shape!

Destined, Hi!

Jessie, We're all pulling for you and your SO. I can't see how he can be blamed for this!

Ugh, my SO was being annoying yesterday. We were sitting with a couple who just started dating. Of our group of friends, only the guy and my SO are not engaged/married. He started talking about a friend who got engaged recently and says something along the lines of "I guess it'll be you (the other guy) next, at least I've got the excuse of still being in school!" Awkward all around, since the couple just started dating, and because he's been so chatty about rings lately to me. Are guys just dumb? I didn't get the chance to talk to him about it. He was trying to be funny, but it just didn't work. Seems like all guys do this. Don't talk about getting engaged at all, then do it all the time, with even the best of them saying something annoying at least 10% of the time. Am I wrong, ha

 

[DestinedPalmer]

Very nice dress!!! I like it! It is true what everyone is saying... I already have my dress picked out as well. But, I saved pics of it so that when it is time, I can have it made to fit and form to me. That way, there is NO WAY the dress will get damaged, crushed, turn color, or anything like that for having to sit for a year or two. You can actually find people that will and can make them for not very much... Just wanted to give you another angle to think about hun!
I like this forum! It's exciting to know there are other women out there going through the same things and frustrations as I am!

 

[Jessie702]

Thanks Ladies, im so depressed about everything, that i feel like i need a PS break...

 

[TooPatient]

Thanks Ladies, im so depressed about everything, that i feel like i need a PS break...

I'm sorry you're depressed.

I'll miss talking with you, but if you feel you need a break from PS for a bit then you need to do what is right for you. We'll be here whenever you need someone to listen.

Please take care of yourself. However hard life is right now, it will get better.


BIG HUGS!!!!

 

[TooPatient]

Hey everyone! I'm new to this and just wanted to say hi... Hope I to get to talk to all of you quite a bit in the coming months! lol Wish it wouldn't be that long.... huummpphhh

Hi DP

Welcome to the group!
I'm not technically a LIW anymore (got engaged in March ) but the ladies here are just so wonderful to talk with.

I hope your official stay is short.

 

[TooPatient]

I'm sorry about that Jessie. Hope C will be ok.

Hi Too. I'm pretty good. What about you?

Eh.
Been busy with school. Had my last final of the quarter yesterday. -- Finished with a B in calculus. Not official, but almost certainly an A in my other class.
End of year stuff at the office (plus broken heater, dead phones, etc) so work is crazy. Had my "annual review" where I talked with one of the two guys I work for (only them and me in the office...) -- after having my heart nearly stop (he went on for 10 minutes about how tough times are, people having to cut costs, "gee.... I really hate to have to do this...") it turns out nothing is going to change. I'll keep working for them but no raise this year. (my "traditional raise" is $25 per month )

Millie is up to 23.5 pounds!
Lily is wheezing less and FULL of energy.
My mom's surgery went okay and she's recovering.
Grandma may have Parkinson's Disease.

Still at a standstill on wedding planning. Just too much other stuff up in the air so we can't even figure out any sort of budget or date or anything. I've been doing what I can to work through that stuff so we can get to the planning.


How's your planning going?

 

[TooPatient]

Mif, The dress is VERY pretty, I love the shape!

Destined, Hi!

Jessie, We're all pulling for you and your SO. I can't see how he can be blamed for this!

Ugh, my SO was being annoying yesterday. We were sitting with a couple who just started dating. Of our group of friends, only the guy and my SO are not engaged/married. He started talking about a friend who got engaged recently and says something along the lines of "I guess it'll be you (the other guy) next, at least I've got the excuse of still being in school!" Awkward all around, since the couple just started dating, and because he's been so chatty about rings lately to me. Are guys just dumb? I didn't get the chance to talk to him about it. He was trying to be funny, but it just didn't work. Seems like all guys do this. Don't talk about getting engaged at all, then do it all the time, with even the best of them saying something annoying at least 10% of the time. Am I wrong, ha

Only 10% of the time?!!?!

(just kidding.... maybe )


That is so.... funny and sad all at the same time.

 

[TooPatient]

Mif -- Beautiful dress!

 

[Jessie702]

Thanks too, im not sure if i am going to take a PS break yet, but it feels like it. Im just a little sadden by the fact that he cant get the ring now, even though it went with our timeline, and everything. Well see how i feel after my last final tommorow.

 

[captainmcgee]

Good luck Jessie. I am sure it will go fantastically. Send all best wishes to you.

Thanks Too!

I love it. I dreamt of it last night haha!

Update: spoke to my jeweller today and we made a little change, I decided I wanted the band to be thinner so it will look more like these widths I think:
http://jewelsbyericagrace.smugmug.com/JbEG-Signature-Settings-and/Halos/HW-Inspired-Halo-2ct-Modern/12883490_7KXge#962882873_SCLWp

http://jewelsbyericagrace.smugmug.com/JbEG-Signature-Settings-and/Plain-and-Pave-Solitaires/The-Kathryn-Solitaire/13588353_A9hj5#999708316_q3a3J

I am told it will be definitely ready before 22nd yay! hoping maybe for a xmas or NY proposal but I still don't think it will be for at least 6 months but SO and his mother were discussing xmas presents and Erings came up so who knows.....

 

[maebelle]

I am told it will be definitely ready before 22nd yay! hoping maybe for a xmas or NY proposal but I still don't think it will be for at least 6 months but SO and his mother were discussing xmas presents and Erings came up so who knows.....

Haha, I think both my mother and my SOs aunt are worse LIWs than I am. Both keep asking if I'm getting an e-ring for Christmas! I am getting a ring though, a reset of an opal ring from Michael E which should be done any day now, I'm getting antsy!

 

[TooPatient]

Thanks too, im not sure if i am going to take a PS break yet, but it feels like it. Im just a little sadden by the fact that he cant get the ring now, even though it went with our timeline, and everything. Well see how i feel after my last final tommorow.

Good luck on your final.

I had a rough time too where I thought about leaving PS for a bit. It helped to start exploring other areas of the site that were a little less ring/proposal/wedding related. I actually enjoyed some of it and having something else to talk with people about helped me feel a bit better.

You should take a look at the Hangout section. There have been some interesting threads in there lately. There's also a small talk sort of thread "I just want to say.... " where people talk about life -- work, school, lack of money, illness, good/bad grades, animals.... just... random stuff.

There's also a "book club" sort of thing going on in the library section -- everyone reads the chosen book (which was selected by vote) and then discusses it in the threads that are set up.

 

[maebelle]

Ugh, I'm going crazy! I'm waiting for a (non engagement) ring project to be finished. Hopefully it'll be shipped wednesday and it'll get here fast. It's my chirstmas present from my bf, an new opal for one that broke, and I'm so anxious I don't think I can be part of designing and ordering and engagement ring, I'd drive myself crazy! How do you girls do it?

Can you send some christmas present dust my way? I'm crossing my fingers for saturday!

 

[blacksand]

I feel like such a horrible person. I've never felt anything but happy for friends and relatives getting engaged. I've never felt the crushing pain of full-on LIWitis. I've been anxious, but I've been able to keep it under control. I was upset that we couldn't get engaged in Disney World, but we had a great time anyway. I was upset we wouldn't be engaged in time for Christmas, which would have been the perfect time to announce it to the entire family, but I pushed those thoughts aside and focused on the positive. We're moving in together. Life is good. Then today we find out that his sister is pregnant, and planning on announcing it to everyone at Christmastime. I love his sister and brother-in-law. I really am happy for them. But yeah. There goes our moment. The first grandchild pretty much trumps anything else we might be planning. This will be the announcement of the century! So now he wants to wait a while longer to get engaged so as not to steal their thunder. Hooray! Let's wait even longer. That sounds fun. He's such a good brother, and it's sweet how excited he is for them. He keeps going on about how big this is, not just for them, but for his whole family. I'm really not sure how many times I can smile and say how excited I am for them before I burst. I know it's terribly selfish of me. I'm really trying to be happy for them and reassure myself that we will have our day soon enough. I know we will, and I know we don't need the whole family fussing over us, we just need each other. So this afternoon, I put on my big girl panties, put on a smile, and e-mailed his sister to congratulate her and say how happy I was for them. I joked that the tiny baby looked like a little jellybean on the ultrasound. I really just meant to be friendly and supportive, and try to push past my initial selfish feelings.

Then the boyfriend tells me my jellybean comment is offensive. I just about exploded. I still don't really see how it's offensive, nor do I think his sister took any offense. She has a sense of humor. But more importantly, I am really trying here! Cut me some slack! Arghhhhh. Time for a bubble bath.

 

[maebelle]

SO many people call ultra-sound babies Jelly bean, little bean... I can't imagine she would take offense, I don't think your boyfriend has enough experience with ultrasounds/ pregnant women. It's a completely normal thing to call a baby. So at the very least don't worry about that.

I'm so sorry your feeling this way, I commiserate completely. However silly it is, it is completely legitimate to feel the way you do, as long as you don't cause drama because of it. Blow off steam here (like you are) and try to relax at home

And at least you are feeling this way over a real baby. I know when some friends of ours are planning on starting to try to have a baby (not even pregnant yet!) and I know it'll correspond with our engagement/wedding and I'm already feeling a bit peevish about it. Their wedding was all consuming, I imagine their baby will be as well. So I'm slightly jealous of a hypothetical baby (which they've named and talk about all the time already).

 

[blacksand]

Thanks maebelle. I know how selfish I am being. But it’s nice to know I’m not alone! And I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks that way about the jellybean comment. I still see nothing offensive there. And I really don’t think she was offended, either. Pretty sure it’s just my boyfriend not knowing what to do with a pregnant woman!

I’m sorry about your friends. Was the wedding the wedding of the century? Is everyone still talking about it? That’s how FSIL’s was. It wasn’t an especially large or extravagant wedding, but it was the most exciting thing that ever happened in his very small family ever, and it’s still the focal point of every holiday gathering. Every time we get together, we end up looking at wedding pictures. I know his mom is making copies of the wedding photos for a DVD slideshow for everyone’s Christmas gifts this year. Oh yes, we get one, too! And the wedding was well over a year ago. I guess it’s still relatively recent, but…yeah…I’m ready to talk about something else now. Please don’t get me wrong: his family is really great. I love spending time with them, I know they adore him and they love me, too. I’m just really, really over talking about his sister’s wedding. And I really thought maybe this Christmas would be about us for a change…but…nope. Now we have something even more exciting to talk about! That, and no engagement for us. So I guess I’ll just…keep waiting…again.

I’m sure they will be very excited for us when we do get engaged, and everything will be wonderful, and I’m just being a brat right now. I blame my rapidly approaching 30th birthday for making me feel the most immature I’ve ever been.

 

[maebelle]

Ha, Their wedding was in September, so it hasn't been too long. But they were the first people to get married in our group of friends, so now the girl is the end-all-be-all queen of knowing everything about weddings (I feel less snarky than this sounds, I promise!) and everyone brings it up to compare their wedding plans. It doesn't help that I honestly want to elope, so I sound like a scrooge when all the other girls get all squeely about flowers and table tents.

This does make me think of my one set of grandparents though. They always praised my cousins when I was over (and the cousins weren't) and made me feel like I was a black sheep (without meaning to I'm sure!). But apparently my cousins felts the same way about me! It may just feel like they are talking about it so much because you are sensitive to it (Though DVDs of the wedding photos is a little out there! Crazy!)

 

[blacksand]

Yeah, I'm sure I am sensitive to it. It's not really that crazy, though. I guess it's just that it's all I've ever known with his family. His sister was already engaged when we first started dating, so there was wedding talk from day one. Then they got married and it was just the happiest thing that had happened in their family for a long time. It’s just him, his sister, and his parents. His grandparents have all passed away, and his parents have no siblings, so there are no cousins. It was just the four of them for a long time. So his sister’s wedding was quite literally the biggest thing that had happened in a long time, not counting his first marriage, which ended in divorce and which they don’t like to talk about. I certainly understand why her wedding is and was so exciting for them, and a baby, their first grandchild, is an even bigger deal. I understand that. I just wish we were making an announcement of our own this Christmas, and now we’re not, and now instead we’ll all be fussing about his sister, again.

 

[maebelle]

Very small family! With only the two children I'm sure you'll be fussed over just as much. I wish you did have your announcement too for christmas, do they at least know about your Grandmother's gorgeous diamond? Or are you two keeping it to yourselves until you have it set?

 

[blacksand]

I don't think they know about the diamond. I'm not saying anything unless he does, so I'm guessing no. Obviously, my family knows, and they're anxiously awaiting news...which they will not be getting this Christmas, sadly. Of course his family does know we're moving in together now, and I really don't think our engagement will be a huge surprise to anyone, but I don't think my boyfriend wants to talk about it with his family until it's a done deal. So...we wait.

 

[Autumnovember]

Beezy! Where have you been?! Hows the wedding planning going?! I thought I'd see ya in BWW by now...

 

[Jessie702]

Hey Ladies, how was your weekend? BG...TOO....CALI?? Ladies whats going on

 

[beezygal]

Sorry ladies! I haven't been on as often because I am stressed out about my dress.

Autumn: I am still here. I do check out BWW. I just have nothing to post. wedding planning is fine. We are pretty much done, just need to find my dress and a videographer. My Tacori wb should come in this week. How's planning for you? Have you picked out your wb yet?

Jessie: I am still here. How are you feeling? I am sorry about the ring and the engagement. I just didn't want to bug you about my dress drama. I also wonder where Cali and too are.

Here is the problem. As some of you might now, I got a dress off the rack last month and ended up returning it. To keep the long story short, I got it because it was cheap. BAD MOVE! I regret it. However, I got the store credit for it. Last week, I tried on an Impression wedding gown. It is a lace dress. I love the busy pattern and the little beading. I feel like a princess in it. My mom, my maid of honor and me are pretty excited about it. The price is $1400 CDN after tax. (I was hoping around $1000) We are ok with it because we want to get something I really really like. I don't want to look at my pictures in the future and totally hate my dress. My parents are paying for my dress. However, the more I think about it, the more I feel bad about my parents spending so much on it. I don't know. I am confused. Here is the dress. I am totally in love with the back of it. I feel like a princess in it.

Front: http://www.weddingworldonline.com/d...fcols/impression/2010springall/zoom/3063A.jpg

Close up: http://www.weddingworldonline.com/d...fcols/impression/2010springall/zoom/3063C.jpg

Back: http://www.weddingworldonline.com/d...fcols/impression/2010springall/zoom/3063B.jpg

 

[TooPatient]

Hey Ladies, how was your weekend? BG...TOO....CALI?? Ladies whats going on

Hi Jessie

How are you? Done with finals at least!


My weekend was.... wet. Sunday alone we got 7 inches of rain.
Oooooo!!!!! And Millie graduated puppy training!
As soon as I can get the pictures re-sized I'll have to post some. She looked so cute in her little cap & tassle!

 

[TooPatient]

Sorry ladies! I haven't been on as often because I am stressed out about my dress.

Autumn: I am still here. I do check out BWW. I just have nothing to post. wedding planning is fine. We are pretty much done, just need to find my dress and a videographer. My Tacori wb should come in this week. How's planning for you? Have you picked out your wb yet?

Jessie: I am still here. How are you feeling? I am sorry about the ring and the engagement. I just didn't want to bug you about my dress drama. I also wonder where Cali and too are.

Here is the problem. As some of you might now, I got a dress off the rack last month and ended up returning it. To keep the long story short, I got it because it was cheap. BAD MOVE! I regret it. However, I got the store credit for it. Last week, I tried on an Impression wedding gown. It is a lace dress. I love the busy pattern and the little beading. I feel like a princess in it. My mom, my maid of honor and me are pretty excited about it. The price is $1400 CDN after tax. (I was hoping around $1000) We are ok with it because we want to get something I really really like. I don't want to look at my pictures in the future and totally hate my dress. My parents are paying for my dress. However, the more I think about it, the more I feel bad about my parents spending so much on it. I don't know. I am confused. Here is the dress. I am totally in love with the back of it. I feel like a princess in it.

Front: http://www.weddingworldonline.com/d...fcols/impression/2010springall/zoom/3063A.jpg

Close up: http://www.weddingworldonline.com/d...fcols/impression/2010springall/zoom/3063C.jpg

Back: http://www.weddingworldonline.com/d...fcols/impression/2010springall/zoom/3063B.jpg

BG!!!!
Buy it!!!!

That dress is beautiful and you "feel like a princess" in it!

 

[TooPatient]

I'm NOT going to panic...

Okay.... maybe a little.

I'm having 2 wisdom teeth out next Thursday (Dec 23) and I'm terrified! The only "work" I've ever had done on my teeth was a small amount of filling from when Sentra cracked my teeth. I've never had any surgery before. HATE (scared of) needles. Come close to passing out from seeing my blood. Hate dentists (other than the infection (caused by this stupid wisdom tooth) a few months back, I haven't been to a dentist in nearly 7 years).

(I've got a thread in Hangout for advice/suggestions/stories)


Gah!!!!!!!
I need a relaxing pill! I'm going to freak myself out for the next week! I'd been ignoring the fact that the appointment was coming up but now it is too close to ignore.