The LIW Small Talk Thread

[TooPatient]

All sounds very positive ladies

I am very down at the moment. Thought the other night might have been it but we had a huge argument over the weekend and it was very clear that it won't be happening anytime soon he said he wants me to have a full time job (I just completed my 5 year degree and its the holidays) which has been difficult to find and wants me to be focusing on his quote "my life and goals and it will just happen". I was so devastated it was a weekend of many tears but we worked it out today but I know I will be waiting a fair while now

On a positive note I am starting a new part time job next week which would potentially be my new career!

How did/do you girls cope with strong LIW cases?

Congratulations on the job!

I'm sorry you had a rough weekend. Waiting sucks. I think I survived it by eating chocolate, alphabetizing stuff, and trying to stay busy making life the best I could. (buy nice b-day gifts for him, learn to cook new stuff, bake cupcakes & stuff with lemon curd then frost (sent those to work with B and they're still talking about me there!), work towards new qualifications to add to my resume, pull weeds, bake the chocolatiest cakes ever, make breakfast every day as part of healthy diet)
Okay.... So it looks like I had a theme.... That might explain why the scale was unkind to me...

Less food oriented stuff:
exercise
clean
re-plant gardens


Have you ever talked about how long of an engagement you want?
I found with B that he thought engaged = wedding within a month or two so he didn't want to buy a ring or propose until we could afford $100,000 wedding out of pocket (100,000 ??? within two months )
Things were a lot better when I finally asked what he thought would happen when he asked and I said " " (roughly translated to um... I was thinking 20,000 in 18 months or so)

Just a thought. Guys can have some crazy ideas!

 

[beezygal]

AE -- Good thinking. You've got to be comfortable and secure.

Mif -- Nice to see you around again! Can never have too many detail obsessed women around!

BG -- YAY!!!! Money back!!!
Where are you thinking for your HM?

YEAH! I just got my money back this morning. HURRAY!!! My mom said I'm lucky. Yes... I am. It's a good thing to start off the year.

Well, Too, I am going back to HK for a month in march/april. I might find some bridemaids dresses there. We will see.

Tell you ladies something funny. My FI scared off our videographer. The lawyer side of him came out and wants to "fix" up the contract... nothing major, just the format and grammar. I was a bit upset because that's my worst nightmare. I don't know if he kinda feel bad too. He spent the entire Sat looking online. We narrowed down to 3 videographers we really like. We will probably meet up with them this week.

 

[TooPatient]

BG -- Only a man...

Well... Hopefully the new videographer will be even better than the one he scared off?

 

[TooPatient]

They suck at predicting weather around here.

After all the talk of snow and storms in Hangout I figured it would be funny to see what they are predicting for us locally. (figuring it would be "overcast with a chance of rain" like usual)

There may be "4.8 inches of snow on the way" (like tomorrow) depending on how stuff moves.... or it could be rain

Oh well.... Good for a laugh.
We'll see what happens.

 

[Glitz]

I miss coming on LIW on monday mornings and reading engagement stories, I feel like it's been slow around here.

SO and I went to a small local wedding show this weekend, there were 2 chances to win a $25,000 wedding package. Even though we're not even engaged yet we had a great time, tasted some cakes and talked with some local vendors. Obviously we didn't win a wedding package and still there's no set timeline. Although a lot of the vendors were saying most of the brides there were 2012 brides and tried to explain to SO that things book up fast, he still thinks you don't need to plan that far in advance.

Saturday we went to his company holiday party and of course people at our table asked if we were married, which got him into ring talk. He said the longer he waits the bigger my ring is going to have to be, he joked that it's not even going to have any metal, and that it's just going to be a hollowed out diamond lol. At least my wait should be worth it.

 

[TooPatient]

Glitz -- Oh... that is funny!

I certainly hope he makes your wait worth it!

And... yeah... stuff can book up really fast. Especially if you select a popular date. There are venues, photographers, and more that actually are all booked a year (or more!!!) in advance.

Don't worry too much though.... there are also great locations that are pretty easy to get into and you might even be able to negotiate better prices.

 

[Jessie702]

Why is it, when you think things are finally going to be okay, they arent. Ill develop more later ladies, but im super stressed and worried about school, my fin aid did not go through, because the school started a new policy on fin aid, that you have to keep a 2.0 and complete 70% of your classes, no big deal, i have that, but what they do is, they do you cumalitive for the past 2 or 3 semesters.Well, the past semester were the ones where i didnt go to school, and just joked off and failed everything, so what does that mean. I lose my fin aid, even though i did well last semester, because i wasnt serious, before. I was suppose to get the aid on 8th, and i got an email from the school on 7th, and they were closed all weekend. I have to have classes paid for by the 24th, but im unemployed and dont have enough to cover the cost, 2600.00, plus books. Im going to go to school right now, to put in an appeal, and a special cirumstance appeal, and see if they will allow me to have my fin. aid. But that takes a few weeks, so i have to see if i can set up a payment plan of some sort, until i know, but they want me to put down close to 600 bucks, which i dont have, due to my unemployement being so small. Ladies, i need some dust, some serious stuff. C, cant help my pay for my classes, but said he would try to help me pay for some books, which help a lot, but i feel bad, ebcause he just paid over a grand to get things fixed around the house.Also, need some dust, i have a job interview at 3, for a part time job, it is for a tutoring position working with a child with mental disabilities. I am so stressed, and sad, i dont know what to do. Actually i know what to do, im going to school to work on my fin aid, and than going to the interview, and than stopping on my way home to pick up some ice cream, and curl up in the middle of my bed, and cry.

 

[TooPatient]

Aw, Jessie --
I was just thinking about you and wondering how you were doing.

Take it one step at a time. Fill out the appeal. Do your very best interview.

Good luck!


When do your classes start?

 

[vintagelover229]

Glitz: Well at least he knows the longer he waits the more it's going to cost him, lol. I hope he does it soon though on your vacation and is just trying to throw you off. I doubt he is (just from our talks) but I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Jessie: I'm so sorry schools giving you problems. It seems that's about all its good for. Stress you out when you sign up for classes, stress you out during classes and when you finally graduate you pray you can get a job. Ahhh the good old days of college and I'm not even done yet. I finished my associates degree this past semester but because I'm in Canada on a visitors visa I can't take classes up here and I dont want to start at a University in the states because things get messy with credits transferring and there's no guarantee that the classes I take will transfer. So I've decided to wait!

On better news...we are getting our bengal on Saturday! I'm super excited about it too! And my SO is going to see my dad and probably ask for permission in a couple of weeks AND we are insuring my ring at the end of the month! Which is just 2 weeks before valentines day which is also our anniversary. I don't want to get my hopes up to high, but our anniversary trip is to the capital and his dad proposed to his mom there and we are also going to a pretty restaurant AND ice skating...so he has LOTS of choices if he does it there...but I also don't want to think he's goign to do it and be on edge the whole time waiting and not enjoy my trip. So, I'm just going to tell myself that it's NOT going to happen so if it does I'm happy and if it doesn't I still will enjoy my trip!

DUST to all the ladies!

 

[AdanaEsq]

Hey ladies. We are leaving for our cruise tomorrow afternoon. Don't waste any dust on me though since I'm pretty sure he's not going to propose now. I just want to have a good time. I'll be back on the 22nd.

 

[GamerGirl]

On better news...we are getting our bengal on Saturday!
DUST to all the ladies!

ooooo - yay! I have a bengal - Mina - she is a beautiful marble bengal and about 10 years old. I love her to death- she is gorgeous and has a great personality!! post pictures!!!

 

[vintagelover229]

Here she is

 

[DestinedPalmer]

Ohh my goodness so much going on! We sooooo need a chat room on here. lol
Anyways, he didn't "propose" but, the other night we went to the casino and he said if I let him play poker then I could wear my ring for one night... I was sooooo confused! Didn't take much for my brain to say YES YES!!! But, my heart was another story completely... It was almost making me feel like it was cheating to be able to wear it and then have to take it off in the morning... but, then again I wanted to actually feel it on my finger and look at it. More like stare at it! LOL I agreed... It was more of a rush than anything I have felt in such a long time! Everyone that took a second (or minute) to look at it was in awwwww! I felt amazing and like a complete princess to say in the least!!! I was so enthused to wear it and never wanted to take it off. But, after he played poker for 5 hours and me winning money on the slot machines, (and a few or more beer's lol), it was time to come home. I slept in my ring and went ahead and took it off when I got up for work while he was still asleep. It was so amazing to wear it! I thought I would get upset and cry or pull a drama moment. Which I never do... But I didn't. Not at all! It seems as though it's more of a reassurance kind of thing. Like that IS MY RING and he got it because he loves ME!!! He said he has a date set to propose to me and it's very soon! And he has special plans. But, soon to us and soon to a man could mean a huge difference! lmao I'm filled with so much more excitement knowing I WILL have my ring. And he just texted me "It won't be too much longer and you'll have it for good" I'm about to cry how excited I am and just CAN'T WAIT!!! Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh what do I do now?! I feel like a little girl waiting for Christmas morning to get my horse!!!!!!!!! I've always been spoiled and this is making it so much more exciting and worse at the same time! What do I do? Besides waaaaiiiittttttttt... Thats why they call us "Ladies In Waiting" lmao!!!!

 

[Jessie702]

Thanks Ladies...no worries about the stress, i already had the anxiety attack, and C had to give me Xanex...it sucked. I went to the school today, got the appeal paperwork, i will turn it in tommorow. C agreed to help me with some books, and i worked out a payment plan with the school so i will still be enrolled in classes. I think i got the job, the lady is going to call me, but already had me start paperwork on being a thearpist with her son. Which is good, i keep thinking i want ot go into Clinical Psychology and start my own pratice. So we shall see.

 

[GamerGirl]

Vintage Lover - awww, her face looks just like my Mina - love the eyes You are going to have a ball with her!

Jessie- Good luck with the job!!

Destined - Exciting! OMG, I think if I actually saw that he had the ring I don't know if I could contain myself! If I actually put my future ring on, I'm not sure I could take it off again

 

[should i be here]

OMG look at that cat! She is absolutely gorgeous. I'm guessing you had to go through a breeder? I heard bengals were the most dog-like cat? I'd loooooove one. And I say this even though my current kitty keeps waking us up really early for playtime.

Funny, I bet there's a much higher rate of cat-ownership/fanciers here than the general public. I wonder why that is. I also happen to have a cat, but I've always considered myself more of a dog person. But it's hard having a dog in NYC.

 

[should i be here]

To add to the smalltalk,

My dad asked me last night, oh did [bf]talk to you about what he said to me about proposing? So long, surprise.

Now that I know it's coming up sooner or later, I almost feel like I'm nervous about it, like i should be counting down my precious last days of singledom. And I'm worried about how I would react to a proposal. Of course I'd say yes, but the reaction itself. I think the moment I realize that's what he's doing, my stomach would just fall and I'd want to pass out. I don't know, it's such a monumental life moment and I'm just a little frightened of it.

And what's the protocol for informing your familiy and friends??

 

[GamerGirl]

OMG look at that cat! She is absolutely gorgeous. I'm guessing you had to go through a breeder? I heard bengals were the most dog-like cat? I'd loooooove one. And I say this even though my current kitty keeps waking us up really early for playtime.

Funny, I bet there's a much higher rate of cat-ownership/fanciers here than the general public. I wonder why that is. I also happen to have a cat, but I've always considered myself more of a dog person. But it's hard having a dog in NYC.

My bengal is TOTALLY like a dog. I would say the biggest exception being that I don't have to rush home to let her out for the bathroom. She likes to play fetch, be petted and will even come when I call her. Not sure if it is common with all bengals but she is very chatty and I almost feel like we have conversations sometimes! She is a little more needy than our other cats but she's my baby so I don't mind

 

[MayFlowers]

Hey everyone! I'm onto my second snow day from school so I've been on PS a lot today.

should_i_be_here: Sorry the surprise got a little ruined. That would bug me. I'm nervous about BF proposing too. But, it's an excited nervous. I'm so used to being in control, yes I'm a bit of a control freak, so it is weird knowing that he has full control over the proposal.

As for informing family and friends, I am going to try to tell as many people in person as possible. I would like to tell at least our parents and his grandparents in person (mine are deceased) before anyone else. Then we will probably call the rest of our families and close friends and I will text all our other friends and then I will post it on my social network page. I don't really know how it's all going to work out though.

VintageLover, that bengal is just beautiful! I've always considered myself more of a dog person, but I think cats are just adorable!

 

[vintagelover229]

OMG look at that cat! She is absolutely gorgeous. I'm guessing you had to go through a breeder? I heard bengals were the most dog-like cat? I'd loooooove one. And I say this even though my current kitty keeps waking us up really early for playtime.

Funny, I bet there's a much higher rate of cat-ownership/fanciers here than the general public. I wonder why that is. I also happen to have a cat, but I've always considered myself more of a dog person. But it's hard having a dog in NYC.

Thank you so much! I did have to go though a breeder but I couldn't justify the cost of the kittens when there are so many good cats in shelters that need homes, so my happy medium was to adopt a retired queen (which is still expensive). I agree with you there probably is a higher rate of fanciers here than in the general public. I hadn't even HEARD of a bengal until PS (although it was a while ago) and the more I researched and found out, the more I knew that they were the perfect cat for our home. They are very dog-like from my readings and even like water and to be walked. They also are high energy and need lots of attention and love. We had a pap/pom mix when I first came to canada but he didn't adjust well. He didn't have a backyard at this apt and having my SO around didn't help either (he was used to being the only male around) and so we ended up giving him to a retired family friends and he's doing great! We'll eventually have a BIG dog (and a little one too) but for the apt we have a cat is perfect!

We put our deposit on beauty back in Nov. and couldn't get her until now bc she had just had kittens. She stole my heart the moment I laid eyes on her!

GamerGirl: Pics please of your baby! The breeder told me beauty like to "talk" too, so I think it's common for that breed. I can't wait to get her home!

To add to the smalltalk,

My dad asked me last night, oh did [bf]talk to you about what he said to me about proposing? So long, surprise.

Now that I know it's coming up sooner or later, I almost feel like I'm nervous about it, like i should be counting down my precious last days of singledom. And I'm worried about how I would react to a proposal. Of course I'd say yes, but the reaction itself. I think the moment I realize that's what he's doing, my stomach would just fall and I'd want to pass out. I don't know, it's such a monumental life moment and I'm just a little frightened of it.

And what's the protocol for informing your familiy and friends??

I'm in the same boat bc my SO asked for my dad's number too. I know that he's going to be asking permission in the next couple of weeks AND we are insuring the ring. We have a wonderful trip coming up but I don't want to get my hopes and and have the trip ruined if he doesn't do it then (my birthday is around that time too). I wouldn't worry about your reaction, you'll know what to do when the time comes. He's going to be all mushy and tell you how amazing you are and how beautiful you are and how he can't imagine his life without you...don't worry, you're reaction will be fine! Just remember to answer, lol.

It definitely is different once you get engaged. You only get to be his gf for a little while, his finacee for a bit and his wife forever. So enjoy the gf part while it lasts, embrace the engagement and look forward to the change. You're going to be HIS wife someday! You guys found each other against all odds and the moment he slips the ring on your finger I'm sure you're fears will dissipate and turn to excitement and joy!

 

[TooPatient]

Should -- Just don't giggle! (okay, but not while he's asking!)

It really is wonderful when it happens -- even if he doesn't get down on one knee, fidgets with the ring, and the mushiest thing he can manage is "so.... ya wanna..." (trust me )


ETA -- I'm not a LIW anymore (got my ring in March 2010!)... Just love being here with a bunch of wonderful ladies!

 

[GamerGirl]

It really is wonderful when it happens -- even if he doesn't get down on one knee, fidgets with the ring, and the mushiest thing he can manage is "so.... ya wanna..." (trust me )

OMG - this is totally what I am expecting from my bf. ha ha. As long as it isn't on a jumbo-tron or involving a whole crowd of people I think I will be happy

 

[TooPatient]

It really is wonderful when it happens -- even if he doesn't get down on one knee, fidgets with the ring, and the mushiest thing he can manage is "so.... ya wanna..." (trust me )

OMG - this is totally what I am expecting from my bf. ha ha. As long as it isn't on a jumbo-tron or involving a whole crowd of people I think I will be happy

Is he an engineer?

 

[should i be here]

Hahaha TooPatient, that is so cute. I can totally imagine that. I think both of us are pretty clueless and take our cues from TV and the movies...

Sighhh, I'd love to have a big, BIG dog (or two) when I grow up and get a bigger place to live. But I love my little shelter kitty, too. I'd also love to have a dog-like cat, look at the face on Vintagelover's kitty! SO CUTE! But I'm in NYC, the land of tiny apts

 

[TooPatient]

Hahaha TooPatient, that is so cute. I can totally imagine that. I think both of us are pretty clueless and take our cues from TV and the movies...

Sighhh, I'd love to have a big, BIG dog (or two) when I grow up and get a bigger place to live. But I love my little shelter kitty, too. I'd also love to have a dog-like cat, look at the face on Vintagelover's kitty! SO CUTE! But I'm in NYC, the land of tiny apts

Better show him the RIGHT movies then!

Shelter kitties are the sweetest! (okay.... so I also think rescue kitties, from breeder kitties, and all the rest are the cutest too but... well.... I love cats!)

I've got a Mainecoon named Sven (from a shelter) that is just wonderful. He walks around talking with me and loves to sit on people. I weighed him the other day and he's right about 22 pounds and about 3 years old.

Lilly is my sweet little fluff-ball. I rescued her (from a home with dozens of cats) when she was just a little kitten (best I can figure about 4-6 weeks). She's 6 years old now and still has the kitten face. -- She LOVES to play fetch.

Sentra is around 15-17 years old. I think she's a rottweiler mix. My family adopted her when she was probably 2-3 years old when her owner went to jail. I moved out on my own and after a few years, I moved into a house with a yard about the time my mom moved into a house with no yard so Sentra came to live with me & FI.

Millie is our latest addition. She's been with us for around 4 months now and was probably 8 weeks old (maybe as young as 6 weeks) when we rescued her. (my mom called me because my aunt had a neighbor who had a friend who knew people with this puppy and if it wasn't adopted that night they were going to leave it on the side of a road --- how could I say no?)

Sven & Millie




Sentra & Lilly

 

[GamerGirl]

TooPatient- well the bf is in IT - so pretty close to engineering Your furbabies are so cute! I totally have to post some pics of mine once I get home. We also have an "accidental" kitty - found her abandoned in the neighbors garage and have had her ever since -she probably has the biggest personality of all our animals!

 

[TooPatient]

TooPatient- well the bf is in IT - so pretty close to engineering Your furbabies are so cute! I totally have to post some pics of mine once I get home. We also have an "accidental" kitty - found her abandoned in the neighbors garage and have had her ever since -she probably has the biggest personality of all our animals!

LOL!

You can always tell a computer guy!

FI is a Senior Software Developement Engineer for The Software Company so life can get pretty interesting. He's currently trying to get part of his stuff to work so another group can use it so he's been working 12-16 hour days and you can see he's still thinking about it even when he's not working.

 

[Jessie702]

Hey Ladies...just checking in to say hi. Miss you ladies, trying to get ready for school, and its a headache.

 

[Seattle SC]

I had to chime in with all this animal talk.. but too..you have a 22lb cat?? My dog doesn't even weigh half that, I couldn't imagine having a cat that big.

Jessie - take some Excedrin and hope that school goes well today.

 

[GamerGirl]

I had to chime in with all this animal talk.. but too..you have a 22lb cat?? My dog doesn't even weigh half that, I couldn't imagine having a cat that big.

Jessie - take some Excedrin and hope that school goes well today.

I actually have one that is 26lbs!! I swear I only feed him the smallest amount possible and try to play fetch or get him to chase the feather string but nothing gets him smaller. My vet said that especially male orange tabbies can get huge and if you have multiple animals it is very difficult to manage because it doesn't exactly work to feed them all separate and have them eat only out of their own bowls. All the rest of the kitties are regular sized so it is so weird!! The funny thing is that he still thinks he is a kitty and always wants to sit on my lap