Anxious to get the engagement ring

[njc]

We dream of diamonds... they dream of electronics and cars.

I say they are the insane ones!!!

 

[Tybee]

Okay,

Yes, add me to the list. I just hate to be added because my wait sure to be a long one

! I'll be the last one on the list, like the sad little kid who doesn't get picked for kickball!

I guess in comparing time put into a relationship, I have nothing to complain about. We're just going on 3 years together, but I am older (36) and he is just a pup (30.) My time is running out if you know what I mean!

Ah, but video games, there's another story. We've got plenty of them, and the pile keeps on growing...

Oh, but I love the idea of buying a temporary fake! That's such a fun idea!!

 

[MelissaSue]

Tybee-
Welcome to the list. We are only going on 3 years too. Its a long time.. a lot of the girls I work with are getting engaged with less time than that behind them..

So, I was looking at more fake rings tonite and my b/f got really pissed.. said that it would be like if I bought him a porsche and he wanted to go look at cars in a junkyard.. Of course the car analogy.

Melissa

 

[MelissaSue]

Here's my fake ring! I got him to take a picture even though its "from the junkyard." My fingers look fat in that pic though.. lol.. I hope they don't when I try to take e-ring pics for real.
Melissa

 

[JKohio]

Cross me off the list, Melissa! Thankfully, my wait is over. I thought I was gonna die! Hehe!

He surprised me with a proposal on the last day of our backpacking/canoeing trip to Ontario last week. I posted my story in the Proposals forum.

Woo! Green light to start the wedding plans!

 

[MelissaSue]

Yay JKohio!! You lucky girl!!!!!!!!!! you of course are going to post ring pics soon, right?

One more off the list!!

Melissa

 

[JKohio]

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On 9/28/2004 9:57:43 AM MelissaSue wrote:

Yay JKohio!! You lucky girl!!!!!!!!!! you of course are going to post ring pics soon, right?

One more off the list!!

Melissa----------------

How the heck do I put a photo on here?

I'm trying and I can get them to upload (I think), but they don't appear in the preview window. Grr. What black hole do they disappear into when I 'upload' them? Please help!

 

[JKohio]

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On 9/27/2004 8:26:10 PM Tybee wrote:

Okay,

I guess in comparing time put into a relationship, I have nothing to complain about. We're just going on 3 years together, but I am older (36) and he is just a pup (30.) My time is running out if you know what I mean!

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Our age spread & situation is similar. I'm 34 and he's 28, and we've been together for a little over 3 years now. Hang in there, Tybee! Your turn will come when you least expect it, I'm sure.

 

[MelissaSue]

The pics wont show up in the preview.. but if they say they are attached at the top they will show up when you post.

Melissa

 

[njc]

Congratulations JKohio!!!

When i preview messages that i have pictures in, i dont see it in the preview either, but it works! Just make sure you attach the picture first and then write your message.

 

[MelissaSue]

Okay -- Here is the list..Sorry, but I'm gonna take some people off that we haven't heard from in awhile, or only heard from once or something... just b/c its getting looong.. if you are still here..my apologies... we can always re-add you!

• Me
• ChooChoo
• GingerBCookie
• GoldenGirl
• Reena
• JCJD
• TMLD
• kaya
• NJC
• Ivanadiamond
• Tybee
• Rfath

If I took anyone off thats still here... I"M SORRY!! Let me know!

Melissa

 

[MelissaSue]

Jkohio- Are you still planning a spring wedding? When are those pics coming?

Melissa

 

[JKohio]

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On 9/28/2004 11:43:37 AM MelissaSue wrote:

Jkohio- Are you still planning a spring wedding? When are those pics coming?

Melissa----------------

Pics have been posted in the Proposal thread. Thanks for letting me know how this works!

It is looking like it won't be a spring wedding. We talked it over & it will either be summer or fall 2005. Too many 'little' things to take care of in the meantime, such as, oh... selling my condo for one. Honestly, the wedding date will depend on what's available where & when, if ya know what I mean. I'm not stuck on one particular place, so hopefully that will make things easier? (wishful thinking in effect)

 

[MelissaSue]

JKohio - Thats how my attitude was when I was planning on late summer 05.. I didn't care where it was or when it was.. just as long as it was somewhere... It is good to be flexible. With the extra time I am going to have now (If I ever get ENGAGED) I will be able to be more picky.. Or he could just wait forever and only give me a year still to plan..

I am going to look at your pics right now!

Melissa

 

[stephinextremis]

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On 9/27/2004 3:15:10 PM MelissaSue wrote:

my big fake ring looks like this:

only the stone is much bigger in comparison to the setting. hehe. it amuses me.. If it would only fit on left ring finger I could tell everyone it was a 4 ct rare blue diamond..hehe.. crazy lady would believe me i'm sure.

Melissa----------------

Too funny!! After I became engaged, but before the ring was done (by DBL, see avatar) I chose my "e-ring" everyday from my selection of obnoxiously large CZ rings. The best is a pear shape and has to be a good 3/4" lengthwise. It looked gigantic on my size 6 finger and people just STARED at it. One day at the cafe, a male friend came up to me and asked me if my fiance really had THAT MUCH money. I couldn't bear to tell him it cost me $8 at H&M...

Stephanie

 

[MelissaSue]

SO I just ordered myself the Zales promise ring with the birthstones and engraving..

I got in white gold. My birthstone is ruby and his is Citrine.. It is my first jewelery purchase EVER for myself.. Isn't it cute? I'm excited. Oh and how cute is my new avatar, my babies.. my boy and my kitty.

Melissa

 

[Tybee]

Hilarious!
MelissaSue, you've got gumption! I am so going to buy myself a big fakey fake. Start looking NOW...maybe that will ease my obsession a bit!

 

[goldengirl]

Yay, big fake fakey fake rings!! I love big fake gaudy rings--but they have to walk that thin line between fun/fake and trying-to-pass-as-real/fake and just-plain-ugly/fake.

I want one of these, both from QVC: both pink cushion-cut, the first one is 5.8tcw and the second is 4.6tcw. I believe the center on both is about 4ct. Or should I say "ct"?

 

[goldengirl]

And this is the 4.6:

MMMM, tasty!!

 

[MelissaSue]

qvc has a website? What a great idea!! lol.. When I was about 10 I would watch QVC for hours on end.. and I really thought that "diamonique" meant real diamonds.. and couldn't understand why they were so inexpensive..
I'll have to go look there. Those rings you posted are awesome goldengirl!

Melissa

 

[kaya]

Update: so I went to visit the bf and he didnt propose, the ring is not ready yet I gather its going to take another two or three weeks. But he did say he is coming to visit me in a few weeks, so it could be then.

And I bought my wedding dress already, its very pretty, and I'm pretty excited too, a few girls at the store wanted to try it on while I had it on and my cousin had to keep telling the mil's that it was reserved because I was deciding among two that seemed pretty popular, I'm glad I got there early.


gingerBcookie: you should get that wedding band if thats what you want as you wont be living with your friend and lots of ppl I imagine have that ring..even me, but not yet

 

[goldengirl]

I know, or even when they were selling real diamonds for an unbelievably low price...now I know they've got to be utter trash, but a few years ago I'd've bought the 20-carat parcel if I'd had the funds because it was such a "good deal"!

 

[MelissaSue]

Kaya!!! COngrats on buying your gown! I'm jealous! What does it look like? YOu have to tell/show us..I think I might like wedding gowns even more than I like diamonds and e-rings!

Meanwhile.. I just had a little crying spell on my way home from school because I gathered for sure that the b/f has no plans of proposing before the end of the month.. and it just disappoints me that he promised me the end of the month.. and he is going to let me down.. I just don't understand how he can keep doing this to me for no good reason.. I love him more than anything.. he just has sort of a habit of disappointing me at times.. from little things like always being late, even when it is a special occasions.. to BIG things like this. Maybe my expectations of him are just too high.. or maybe he just really doesn't want to marry me. I don't know what to think..

Sorry for this big downer.. I'm just sad tonight.

Melissa

 

[Tybee]

Oh MelissaSue,

I've been thinking about you and thinking good thoughts.

Nothing wrong with a crying spell here and there.

Tybee

 

[njc]

Oh Melissa... im sure there is a very good reason why he hasnt proposed yet. Maybe he is working up the nerve to call your parents. He is probably just stressing over getting everything perfect for you!

I think it is just boys nature to be late and make giant messes and forget things and to think that its okay. They dont think things all the way through when they do them. Thats why they need us women around to keep 'em straight!!!

And i am sure he loves you just as much as you love him, if not more and cant wait to spend his life with you.

Hope you are feeling better today!!!

 

[MelissaSue]

Thanks for all the thoughts girls. I was on the verge of tears all night last night.. and finally he just broke down and told me that there have been "3 separate factors" that have held up my ring "from 2 different sources".. so he doesn't have it yet. And he of course will tell me what these are after we are engaged..

I don't know WHY he didn't just tell met that a month ago, or at least a couple weeks ago when I ASKED him if there was a reason why he was taking so long.. He finally told me because he figured out that I was thinking that he didn't WANT to ask me to marry him. It was strange because yesterday really was the first day THAT particular thought had crossed my mind, I had just thought he was being a bum and making me wait for no good reason.

So anyway. I am feeling MUCH better, but at the same time a little bit bummed, because I don't have that "any day now" feeling anymore.. I could have a while to wait.. He said "before halloween" but we all know about all the "befores" that have come and gone. He says that there are no more possible hold-ups and everything that could be a hold up is done.. but I still don't quite believe him..

Soo. thats where I am... thanks again for all your support

Melissa

 

[womanofgodwcci]

Melissa, I just have to ask sweetie. Are you sure that this guy is the one? I have to ask because I was in a similar situation before I got married and I just had to realize that I am worth being first to a man that says he wants me in his life. I dropped him. One excuse after another doesn't cut it. He didn't want to marry me, and didn't want anyone else to have me either so he just politely and lovingly kept stringing me along. One broken promise after another and I woke up one day and said you know what you are not showing me love, you are showing me how selfish you can be. You are wasting my time and my REAL husband is out there waiting for me and you are in the way. When I did meet my husband, there was nothing that stopped us from being together. He never let up being there and loving me and showing me his love. I was always first with him and he is always first with me. My feelings are not mine, they are his and his feelings are not his, they are mine. We cover each other and after meeting him, I realized that other relationship was garbage and I was the disposal swallowing it down. He didn't care, because he was getting what he wanted. But I pulled the rug off from under him, because if he won't change to get you, he won't change to keep you. My mother always said, "when someone SHOWS YOU who they are, believe them!"

 

[womanofgodwcci]

Melissa, make him accountable. Don't keep accepting mediocrity when you are royalty. Character is what people have come to expect from you. What you have done is fallen in love with his personality and his character is shot. Think about it, be truthful with yourself. When you think of him, what have you come to expect from him? Then ask yourself is that acceptable for you? Can you live with it? If you can, then okay, if not...move on sister, move on! You are a queen bee, not a handmaid. You deserve your hearts desire. EVERYONE DOES! One aspect of character is the ability to keep your word. Another is to follow through. Just take some me time and really take an inventory of this relationship. I don't want you to hurt like I did and that is why I am writing to you. I know where you are...and unfortunately where you are going if you continue.

Much love to you!

 

[MelissaSue]

He is definitely the one for me.. He really is wonderful to me, He's way better to me than I am to him actually. He has to put up with a lot from me, from my moodiness, to me nagging him about everything.. and he doesn't do anything but hug me and kiss me and tell me he loves me. He's not stringing me along.. If we were a little bit older and had more money, we'd have probably been married a year ago. We had been talking about getting engaged less than a year after we had started dating, and I decided that I wanted to wait, as I was 21 and he was not even 20 yet. I don't doubt what he told me about the ring in the least. He is sometimes a little flaky and irresponsible, but he doesn't lie to me. He'd especially never lie about something like that.
I know you're just making me think about it for my own good though, and thank you.. but he is definitely the man of my dreams and I don't even want to think about not being with him ever.

Melissa

 

[womanofgodwcci]

Okay doll, just keep your eyes open and your head up.

I am glad that you see I just want to help, not hurt.

I really hope that you get all that you want and that the two of you will be happy. Just hang in there, the reward is coming.