Anxious to get the engagement ring

[njc]

ooOOOoo... i like your ring too!!!

The way the shank splits is really nice. Someone posted a pic in this thread with a split shank I LOVE from mark morell... its the first picture. I would love to have him design a ring for me! Maybe that can be my upgrade!

Is it bad to already be thinking of the upgrade before you even get the original?!?!

I was looking at rings with side stones, but decided on the solitares... just a little too *bling, bling* for me, but i do love to look at'em. Maybe one day i'll get flashy with my jewelry!

 

[MelissaSue]

njc - thanks... and no.. its not too early to start thinking about your upgrade.

It is never too early on pricescope..

I heard an ad on the radio today for a jewelery store talking about "Diamond Shrinkage Syndrome" and how you should go into their store immediately for "treatment." Kind of funny.. made me think of this forum..
I don't really want to ever upgrade.. although reading all this stuff really almost makes me wish I WOULD have gotten to shop for a stone.. maybe someday I will.

Melissa

 

[kaya]

lets see, its a michael b petite crown lace wedding band and e-ring and the stone is a gog e vs2 h& a 1.01 and if i can figure out how to post the pictures I will. i have to go to a meeting now and I leave for seattle to see my bf tomorrow, so Im pretty excited, although I dont think the ring is ready yet.

 

[kaya]

This is the ring we chose. I saw the whole collection at the Michael C Fina store and went with the petite one since I have small hands.

 

[njc]

Kaya - I love the lace!!! I forget where i saw that, but its very cool!

 

[gingerBcookie]

oh i love the lace collection, esp the petite cuz i feel like its less busy and looks better on my hands ( i have small hands also). I'm thinking about it for my w-band...only prob is that my friend got the lace, non-petite for her e-ring and i'd feel bad about getting the w-band, even though i think she's going with a different w-band. what do ya'll think?

 

[ivanadiamond]

add me in the ladies in waiting list! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years and we started looking at rings on our 3 year anniversary and I am still waiting. Let me preface by saying, my boyfriend is the most incredible guy in the world and I could not imagine my life without him, but I just can't help wanting to as many of you said, move to the next stage.

My boyfriend left a high paying career to go back to law school and finally finished almost two months ago and since then I have been waiting and hoping that every weekend will be the one. I try not to talk about it too often, I don't want to take the moment away from him, and would never want to get proposed to because I pushed him into it or if he wasn't ready, but I feel like our life was put on hold for these three years for him to finish school and now my patience has well, got the best of me.

I found this website not too long ago while looking at Michael B settings and have been hooked ever since. Who knew that other girls shared my pain! I have never been on a chat room before but have read and enjoyed many of the threads in the past two weeks.

 

[MelissaSue]

Welcome Ivana! We will add you to our list.. Its getting really long again, so you have lots of company! Are you getting a Michael B ring? Or is it just something that you were looking at? I like Michael B rings a lot!
Tell us more about the ring, or rings that you like! You definitely deserve an e-ring if you've been dating for 4 years and been looking at rings for a year!!!!!!!!!!!


Meanwhile.. I am posting yet more pics of my ring (that I don't have yet). I probably won't have this many pictures of my ring in REAL life when I get it.. These are some more "top-view" pics that came off The Knot. The bigger one was actually the picture that I originally saw of the ring that made me fall in love with it!

Melissa

 

[njc]

Hope for someone this is their weekend!!! I want stories and pictures to read!!! Melissa, you are coming down to the end of the month (not to make you any crazier than you are!

).

As for me, the BF mentioned last night that he needed to call the jewelry store... I wonder whats going on!!! He better not be teasing me!

Only 3 weeks till my birthday...

 

[njc]

Welcome Ivana... i like your name! Kinda like Ivana Trumps show Ivana Man!

 

[MelissaSue]

NJC- Yeah it is definitely getting down to the end of the month.. But I really am feeling like it is not going to happen in the next 6 days. I just think its pretty unlikely. The best chance for it would be Sunday because it is the only day of the week that we ever both have off, but we usually just sit around and watch football.. It is his team's bye week though.. lol. HOW AWFUL WOULD THAT BE IF HE PLANNED HIS PROPOSAL AROUND THE BILLS BYE WEEK???? oh my gosh..haha.. I still don't think it will happen this week though...But I am trying realllly hard not to say ANYTHING about it.. and just wait it out.. and then when oct. 1 rolls around I can start bothering him again and making him feel bad.

OOOH. Your b/f calling the jewelery store is fun news.. I hope he's not teasing too.. because I do not like being teased. I really hope he does it soon for you though (Like on your birthday)!

 

[miamirock]

hello,

i'm new just joined how do I post a new post? am i blind? can't see a post button!

help,
clueless

 

[MelissaSue]

miami - Welcome.. there is a button that says "new topic" or something like that on all the forum screens.. up under the search on the right hand side.. next to subscribe.. or if you are in a topic already it is up at the top of the page with reply, subcribe, print.. etc..
Melissa

 

[ivanadiamond]

thanks!

We have looked at the Michael B, petit cut princess setting with RB center stones varying from 1.5 to 2.0 c., but I don't know any thing more than that. I love the Micahel B. setting, but it is pretty pricey, so I would be happy with a simple band too, preferably thin.

Melissa, your ring is beautiful, I hope it happens this sunday. It will be fun reading the thread on Monday, I hope there is a lot of great news. Often times those things happen when you least expect them to.

Have most of you looked with your boyfriends, or picked out the ring yourself?

 

[njc]

----------------
HOW AWFUL WOULD THAT BE IF HE PLANNED HIS PROPOSAL AROUND THE BILLS BYE WEEK???? ----------------

That would be hilarious! What a great story to tell the kids later...

"Mommy, how did Daddy propose to you?"
"Well, it was the Bills week off and..."

Definatly unique!

 

[Birdy003]

I saw ring in a magazine once, I think it was a Tacori. Well, my boyfriend said he wont spend that much. He wants to find a cheaper version. I know he sounds cheap, but money is tight and I want the Tacori. Does anyone know of any places that sell imitations or rings just like them?

 

[Tybee]

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On 9/24/2004 11:36:35 AM ivanadiamond wrote:

thanks!



Have most of you looked with your boyfriends, or picked out the ring yourself?----------------

Ivana,
To answer your question, my boyfriend and I started out looking at rings together, now I've become obsessed and I continue my search on my own. My mind keeps changing, and I'm realizing what a fickle girl I am!
At first I thought my ring would be a simple RB solitare with side baguettes, but now I find myself lusting after all the beautiful rings posted here. I'm trying to take into account that I'm fairly active and use my hands a lot (I'm a teacher and an athlete) so the simple route is probably best, but it's hard not to dream!

Tybee's Mom

 

[rfath]

I suppose I really do belong in this thread as well!

It's been 6.5 years with my boyfriend..er.. fiance-to-be. His family's finally stopped calling me his little friend!

I'll admit that I took over the ring search since I didn't want him to spend too much on the stone and he looked pretty overwhelmed when I showed him pictures of stones and rings. So what we've got is a .82 J/SI1 SuperbCert with medium blue fluorescence being set by Etienne Perret in a low halo setting. To my shock, I discovered that the ring will be done and delivered by Friday next week (even taking into account my terrible time deciding on the finish of the ring... I think Etienne would cheerfully have wrung my neck if I were there in person..). The setting was perfect for me since I have two horses and tend to be an active person.

Of COURSE I'll be out of town when the ring arrives, that's just my luck! I have a sneaking suspicion that fiance will want to do something romantic and special before he'll let me see it, though...

It's been lovely seeing the pictures of all of the wonderful settings and stones. Y'all are great company, even for us lurkers

 

[MelissaSue]

Okay.. so here is the new list.. I can't keep up!

Me
ChooChoo
GingerBCookie
GoldenGirl
Cute330xigirl
Reena
1215n
JCJD
JKohio
TMLD
kaya
NJC
Ivanadiamond
Birdy (I think she is one of us)
Tybee (are you adding yourself to the list too?)
Rfath

Oh my gosh.. some people better get crossed off soon!
Melissa

 

[MelissaSue]

Just wanted to tell everyone that nothing happened sunday as i thought it might.. i guess he's not making his end of the month promise.

. I am not as disappointed as I thought I would be. I guess that all of this waiting has sort of made me LESS anxious.. And we are waiting another year to get married now, so that is another reason why I'm not that upset, because we have plenty of time now.
And now that I am back in school, I almost feel like I don't have TIME to get engaged, you know all of the announcing and showing the ring to everyone and stuff, and the early wedding planning.. And now I really have NO idea when it is coming, so I will be suprised I guess

Funny story though.. sort of.. I worked saturday night.. and I have these regular customers who come in late at night.. who are about my parents age.. and they said "We hear you are engaged!" and they were all excited and stuff.. I guess the crazy lady I work with told them last week either that I was engaged, or maybe she said I was going to be soon and they misunderstood her.. because she is crazy.. She is the same one who has been asking me every holiday if I am getting my engagment ring for that holiday for 2 years now.. So I had to tell them that I was indeed NOT engaged.. the poor people...

SIGH..
Well I am bored and at school right now so I am just killing time and not doing work before I have to go to class, so I thought I would post..

Melissa

 

[njc]

Sorry Melissa!!! I was rooting for ya. There are still 3 days left... now it really will be a surprise!

 

[JCJD]

Hello again, and welcome to all the newbies in our little club! I had to make myself take a break from this thread for a while so I could get on with my schoolwork! Classes stink!

So, today is officially 7-years. 7 years ago today, my wonderful b/f asked me to be his girlfriend on the humid, sweaty dance floor of our high school's Homecoming dance. And unfortunately, I am absolutely positive that he's not proposing tonight. Mostly because he still doesn't know about that job yet. They haven't told him anything since the 17th!!!!!!!!! Don't they know I'm counting on them?!? Hee-hee

. He will be making me dinner tonight though - something Indian. Yummy!!!!
So, welcome to all you newbies. Good luck keeping your cool in the days and weeks leading up to the impending proposal. I know I'd be much more of a whiny brat to my wonderfully patient and understanding b/f if I didn't have you ladies to chat with!!

Ivana - I completely know how you feel about being "on hold"!! My boy's been graduated from college for almost 10 months now, which was when engagement became a real option for us. And now, he's still completely unemployed, still living at home, still buying video games instead of diamonds (the nerve!!!

), and we're still "just dating". Hang on there Ivana! We'll all get through this together!
Also, I mentioned forever-ago in this thread that he's taken all initiative in getting the e-ring. We haven't even gone ring-shopping together! I would definitely not recommend this to anyone - the all-encompassing source of my frustration in this whole situation is the lack of information he's letting loose to me. If I only knew...ANYTHING, I'd feel better.

rfath - That's so funny! When my b/f's sister got married, we'd been dating for a year, and his mom still introduced me to family members as his "friend"! Now we've been together for 7 (!!!) and she still has trouble calling me his "girlfriend". She's pretty conservative, so she'll probably have a better time with "fiancee" and "wife"... *SIGH* Someday.....

Melissa - You already know how my mom checks my left hand regularly, but now all the girls I know at church keep checking too!! I blame the recent rash of engagements and weddings in the past month...
This is kind of random, but those customers you talked about kind of remind me of people who pat womens' bellies in the supermarket because they think she looks pregnant but really isn't. But in their defense, you (and all the rest of us here) are basically engaged, just not "publicly", if you understand me. Still, it's frustrating when you have to fend off crazy people every day...

Any way you could just mess with her mind a little... you could get a bunch of gaudy rings at Claire's or Walmart and wear a different one each time you work with her. Hee-hee - I'm evil

.

I hope you all enjoy my latest novel

JCJD

 

[njc]

JCJD—First off congrats on 7years!

And second, that bit about buying video games instead of diamonds sounds awfully familiar... especially with the no job part!!!

My b/f spent a year unemployed after he graduated living at home (3 states away!) buying video games at $50 a pop left and right going further in debt! Even though all my friends got engaged at graduation I was okay at that point. We knew we wanted to get married, but needed to get our feet on the ground first. So now 2 years later we both have great jobs and are in the same city so its like okay, anytime now… lets get on with it!

He complains about how expensive diamonds are, but I’ve estimated that he has EASILY spent over $1,000 in video games and game systems ALONE in the past year. That’s a nice half carat right there! Don’t even get me started on his computer and other electronic crap!

Hope your guy hears soon about the job! I totally understand the life being put on hold for the job thing. It sucks, but I like to think that it will help us further down the road, or something like that.

 

[ivanadiamond]

Congrats on your anniversary!!!

I can feel your pain, but I also know your joy in being with someone you love. I had a friend of the family asked me a good question once, she asked me what was more important to me, having a piece of paper that said that I was married or being with someone that I loved and wanted to spend my life with. a lot of people have the piece of paper (or ring), but don't have the happiness. 7 years is a long time and obviously your love is strong because you are still together and love each other. I am sure the ring will come soon, but know that you have so much more than so many others, a man you love and that loves you. Plus, any man that can make good indian food is a 10 in my book

Have a wonderful night tonight!!! I am sure it will be fabulous.

Just on a side note, I thought my boyfriend would propose this weekend and I was really excited, well on Saturday he finally admitted, that he is really scared to buy a ring without me, apparantly he had already ordered two rings and sent both back. He knew that I am really into what my diamond will look like (call me vain, it is just my quirk) anyway, he got overwhelmed to make such a big decision without me, but his pride had been in the way to admit it before-

Your guy just wants to make you happy, and I think when they hold off on doing something for so long, they feel stuck or overwhelmed. At least that is what happend to my bf and also heard similar stories from some of my friends. But he took me to the jewelers on Saturday and we found an amazing ring and went back yesterday to put a deposit down and I will go in later today or tomorrow to design the setting. I still can't believe it happened, i mean, I am not engaged, he wants to have the ring and then ask me...but I couldn't be happier and he is so happy too, because he feels that he can give me exactly

what I want.

Okay, i am rambling forever...but the thing I learned about boys, and guys please tell me if I am wrong, is that they are very simple. They want you to be happy, especially happy with them, if you are happy they are happy...and if you are not, they get scared that they won't be good enough for you-

I am not even sure where i am going with all this, except, have a fabulous night! you both deserve it, 7 years is a long time-

 

[JCJD]

Thanks njc and Ivana

You're right, I am INCREDIBLY lucky to have such an amazing man in my life, especially for this long since we're both so young.

A few months ago, I got this fortune in a fortune cookie: "He who takes the longest in making a promise is the most faithful in keeping it." It's in my car now, but I think I'll move it to my wallet so I can be reminded of what his love and faithfulness (and being on hold!!) really mean. Thanks for the kind words!

JCJD

 

[MelissaSue]

hAHAhAHAHAHAHHA!!!
I LOVE IT! My boyfriend spends ridiculous amounts of time AND money on video games too! For some reason.. the video games don't bother me THAT much.. I have actually bought him a couple of video game systems and lots of game over the years.. The saddest part is, is that he still has every system that he ever owned since he was 5 (starting with atari) and has a total of something like 8 consoles.. And I still buy him more. The only one he doesn't have is PS2..
but What really bugs me is the money he spends on his CAR. Its RIDICULOUS!!! And then he expects me to care about the new bumper he gets put on his car after it costs him $1000 to get and get put on and stuff..Not to mention he buys it on ebay and I have to ride 16 hours in one day to go pick it up with him.. And he is unemployed too of course. What is it with us girls being the breadwinners??

JCJD- Welcome back! I've missed you!!! Congrats on your anniversary!!! HAHA.. my boyfriend would never attempt to cook for me.. Neither of us can cook, we eat out all the time.. I've made dinner a handful of times and all he can do is put steaks on the george foreman grill. Too bad he won't propose tonight for you though..At least he is trying to get a job.. unlike my boyfriend who is perfectly happy living on an allowance from his mom.. And about the "friend" thing.. I realized that my boyfriends mother used to do that all the time too! I don't know that she ever did it with me, but she used to with his little sisters ex-boyfriend. Her new boyfriend has earned the boyfriend status now though. Maybe it was just because they were young (she was like 15 at the time). I don't remember his mom ever calling me his friend.. My parents always reffered to my boyfriend as "The boy" for a long time... But my father usually calls me "Daughter" or "Child" rather than my name, so that is not that strange.. Lol.. my parents are a little nutty, but in a good way.
Yeah... as far as my imaginary engagement..Its not the customers' fault at all... but the crazy lady I work with.. well she's just really crazy.. I think she thinks that SHE is engaged but really isn't. LOL. SERIOUSLY!! she got a ring last christmas, from her boyfriend (they are both in thier mid-40s, he has children and she has a grandchild) its a ruby "with some diamond chips" as she says it. and it looks nothing like any sort of e-ring, but she told us it is her engagement ring, but they have NO plans of any kind to get married in the forseeable future.. so I don't know. maybe he did tell her it was an engagement ring (I'm thinking she asked him if it was, and he couldn't say no).
but she always is asking EVERYONE when they are getting engaged. There is a couple that we work with and they've only been dating maybe 6 months and I heard from the girl that she had been asking her boyfriend if he was going to propose soon!!! She's NUTTY.. lol. Its funny...
As for fake rings, I actually bought a big fake ring, but its not a fake diamond.. Its big and blue.. Looks like a blue topaz.. a big square cut one.. I got it at target.. it makes me happy.. but it is a size 8 and I have it on my size 5 middle finger with the biggest one of those plastic ring sizer thingys I could find. Its a little bit annoying, but it looks cool. I dream of when I will have a diamond to stare at, but for now I have my big fake ring from target.. lol..I should take a picture. i would but my b.f stole "our" digital camera that I bought and he hasn't paid me back for yet.. hehe.. i'm in a funny mood today..

IVANA - Its awful that you thought you were gonna get proposed to this weekend and DIDN'T.. but its fantastic that you got to go and pick out your ring and stuff!!! I'm so excited for you!! I almost wish I was still ring shopping.. it would at least keep me occupied...you'll have to tell us all about the ring you design and your diamond and everything!!

okay.. this is the longest post EVER!!!!

Melissa

 

[MelissaSue]

my big fake ring looks like this:

only the stone is much bigger in comparison to the setting. hehe. it amuses me.. If it would only fit on left ring finger I could tell everyone it was a 4 ct rare blue diamond..hehe.. crazy lady would believe me i'm sure.

Melissa

 

[rfath]

congrats on seven years! I'm 6 months away from that

Someone a month or two ago tried to pick me up on the subway.. he was disappointed when he found out that I was seeing someone, but then really irritated with me when he found out how long I'd been seeing my SO without a ring. Apparently the lack of a ring meant that we weren't committed to the relationship. I tried SO hard not to interrupt his tirade... though it was sad that he admitted that his fiancee had left him a few weeks before the wedding. He was SURE that if he'd married her sooner then she wouldn't've backed out..

At least with seeing someone for this long, we've been through thick and thin and we STILL love each other....

 

[gingerBcookie]

hehehe .... I think we may be all dating the same guy! I don't want to even begin to add up the amount of money he's spent during our 6.5 years together on games, gaming consoles, and computer/hi-tech thingymabobs! He's really into cars also but manages to hold back since he knows his budget can't handle it!

melissa-hehe...funny I just bought myself a big-a$$ fake rock yesterday to ease the anxiety...hehe, it's a HUGE 4-5 ct rectangular princess fake diamond from claire's I got on sale for 50 cents...it's fun to wear and stare at...hehe...my bf saw it and has determined that I am certifiably insane!

 

[MelissaSue]

Ginger - Awesome! I am glad i'm not the only one buying fake jewelery. What actually happened with this ring is that I really wanted
THIS RING

from zales..but it was $200 and GIGANTIC.. so it wasn't something i could wear every day to make it worth the $200. So I thought i could find something just as cool for cheap... And I did.. but it just doesn't fit me!!

But now that i just went back to the zales website I found out the promise ring I want is on sale $20 off regular price "for a limited time only"!!! I am seriously considering getting myself a zales charge!! Is that HORRIBLE?

Melissa