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Oppsie I was so excited earlier that I missed this. I agree, I don't think it matter who you were before. : )
Big ditto on the Tampa GTG. Ummm if you like to cross the bridge (Howard Franklin that is) there are a ton of small stores in St Pete that are super cute. I'll keep thinking : ) I looooove IKEA too, though, so I vote for a giant IKEA GTG : P
Winks_Elf|1304820347|2915227 said:advicepls|1304809207|2915100 said:
Yes. You were a LIW who is going through a major transition in your life. That's all I need to know.
(((((big motherly hug!)))))
Oppsie I was so excited earlier that I missed this. I agree, I don't think it matter who you were before. : )
Big ditto on the Tampa GTG. Ummm if you like to cross the bridge (Howard Franklin that is) there are a ton of small stores in St Pete that are super cute. I'll keep thinking : ) I looooove IKEA too, though, so I vote for a giant IKEA GTG : P
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Great idea!!kagordo4|1304891320|2915608 said:Winks_Elf|1304820347|2915227 said:advicepls|1304809207|2915100 said:
Yes. You were a LIW who is going through a major transition in your life. That's all I need to know.
(((((big motherly hug!)))))
Oppsie I was so excited earlier that I missed this. I agree, I don't think it matter who you were before. : )
Big ditto on the Tampa GTG. Ummm if you like to cross the bridge (Howard Franklin that is) there are a ton of small stores in St Pete that are super cute. I'll keep thinking : ) I looooove IKEA too, though, so I vote for a giant IKEA GTG : P
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I don't think I've figured it out yet, but my best guess was smitcompton, or however you spell it. That's just going by the lack of capitalization in the screen name since I don't know which LsIW are from FL!
So...are you going to spill it?!
ETA I may have meant smithsmith? But I stand by the lack of capitalization in the screen name! Am I at least right on that?
I don't think I've figured it out yet, but my best guess was smitcompton, or however you spell it. That's just going by the lack of capitalization in the screen name since I don't know which LsIW are from FL!
So...are you going to spill it?!
ETA I may have meant smithsmith? But I stand by the lack of capitalization in the screen name! Am I at least right on that?
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I feel for you! I can't believe your apartment required so much advance notice, I've never lived anywhere that required more than 30 days. I hope these 6 weeks don't drag on awkwardly lol! Hang in there
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It's me. LIW #7. Time to come off the list.
The last few days have been the hardest so far. One day at a time...we have another 6 weeks left on our lease. Just trying to get through at this point.
I feel for you! I can't believe your apartment required so much advance notice, I've never lived anywhere that required more than 30 days. I hope these 6 weeks don't drag on awkwardly lol! Hang in there
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Every apartment I've ever lived in in Tampa has required 60 days
I'm just taking it one day at a time. Trying to spend lots of time out of the house, with friends, etc. The Spring semester is over and somehow I managed to get straight As, so I'm pretty pleased with that. Summer session starts back on Monday and I'm just taking one class so that should keep me occupied a few nights a week.
Apartment hunting is only going so-so for me...BF has already found a place, and a roommate. All fell together so easily for him. I'm having a hard time finding something in budget that I don't hate and/or isn't overrun with students beings so close to a university.
I found one place that I like, and was going to apply for. Working on negotiating now. We came to an agreed rent, but now it's all the costs up front! Most units in this area only require the security deposit after your application is approved, and then first month's rent on the day you move in. I assumed that was the case for this place, not so much. They want first, last, and security at the time of the application approval.
It's not that I don't have it, it's just that's pretty much all I have and I'm going to have to furnish this place too. All the furniture is BFs so...
Not sure what to do. Offered them the agreed upon rent, security at application, and first month on move in. PS Dust that potential future landlord takes it....
sonnyjane|1305251115|2920245 said:audball|1305243157|2920105 said:Hi
It's me. LIW #7. Time to come off the list.
The last few days have been the hardest so far. One day at a time...we have another 6 weeks left on our lease. Just trying to get through at this point.
I feel for you! I can't believe your apartment required so much advance notice, I've never lived anywhere that required more than 30 days. I hope these 6 weeks don't drag on awkwardly lol! Hang in there
Every apartment I've ever lived in in Tampa has required 60 days
I'm just taking it one day at a time. Trying to spend lots of time out of the house, with friends, etc. The Spring semester is over and somehow I managed to get straight As, so I'm pretty pleased with that. Summer session starts back on Monday and I'm just taking one class so that should keep me occupied a few nights a week.
Apartment hunting is only going so-so for me...BF has already found a place, and a roommate. All fell together so easily for him. I'm having a hard time finding something in budget that I don't hate and/or isn't overrun with students beings so close to a university.
I found one place that I like, and was going to apply for. Working on negotiating now. We came to an agreed rent, but now it's all the costs up front! Most units in this area only require the security deposit after your application is approved, and then first month's rent on the day you move in. I assumed that was the case for this place, not so much. They want first, last, and security at the time of the application approval.
It's not that I don't have it, it's just that's pretty much all I have and I'm going to have to furnish this place too. All the furniture is BFs so...
Not sure what to do. Offered them the agreed upon rent, security at application, and first month on move in. PS Dust that potential future landlord takes it....
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**dust**
I'm searching myself right now -- haven't found a place I love quite yet and have a ton of open houses to go to this weekend - I'm really hoping I find something soon - while I don't have a lease deadline or anything I would LOVE to get out of my mother's house by june/beginning of july!
wishing you the best!!
**dust**
I'm searching myself right now -- haven't found a place I love quite yet and have a ton of open houses to go to this weekend - I'm really hoping I find something soon - while I don't have a lease deadline or anything I would LOVE to get out of my mother's house by june/beginning of july!
wishing you the best!!
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It's interesting to hear different people's experiences with renting. I have rented in Miami, Seattle, and San Diego (where I am now), and everywhere I have lived they have always required first, last, and security deposit upon move-in, so that's not a surprise to me. Here in San Diego where things are ridiculously expensive I had to put up $4,000 cash to move-in!!!!! Luckily I had just received my tax return and had some in savings, but it completely depleted everything I had. If they won't work with you or if you don't feel good about the place, keep looking. You still have plenty of time. I found my current apartment on Craigslist and even though it was really expensive to move in, the rent is good for what we are getting, and my landlord is amazing and incredibly understanding. We rent a condo that is privately owned - it's not an apartment complex. I have done this two other times previously and really like it. I like only dealing with a landlord and not a management company or anything like that. Also, while I feel apartment complexes steadily raise their prices every year by a certain percentage, I have been lucky to have landlords that have kept my rent the same throughout the years so long as we have kept the place in good condition. If you aren't already, definitely expand your search to include privately owned condos or apartments. Good luck!
audball|1305251617|2920257 said:sonnyjane|1305251115|2920245 said:audball|1305243157|2920105 said:Hi
I found one place that I like, and was going to apply for. Working on negotiating now. We came to an agreed rent, but now it's all the costs up front! Most units in this area only require the security deposit after your application is approved, and then first month's rent on the day you move in. I assumed that was the case for this place, not so much. They want first, last, and security at the time of the application approval.
It's not that I don't have it, it's just that's pretty much all I have and I'm going to have to furnish this place too. All the furniture is BFs so...
Not sure what to do. Offered them the agreed upon rent, security at application, and first month on move in. PS Dust that potential future landlord takes it....
It's interesting to hear different people's experiences with renting. I have rented in Miami, Seattle, and San Diego (where I am now), and everywhere I have lived they have always required first, last, and security deposit upon move-in, so that's not a surprise to me. Here in San Diego where things are ridiculously expensive I had to put up $4,000 cash to move-in!!!!!
Luckily I had just received my tax return and had some in savings, but it completely depleted everything I had. If they won't work with you or if you don't feel good about the place, keep looking. You still have plenty of time. I found my current apartment on Craigslist and even though it was really expensive to move in, the rent is good for what we are getting, and my landlord is amazing and incredibly understanding. We rent a condo that is privately owned - it's not an apartment complex. I have done this two other times previously and really like it. I like only dealing with a landlord and not a management company or anything like that. Also, while I feel apartment complexes steadily raise their prices every year by a certain percentage, I have been lucky to have landlords that have kept my rent the same throughout the years so long as we have kept the place in good condition. If you aren't already, definitely expand your search to include privately owned condos or apartments. Good luck!
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Hiiii!
We're here for you along the way! You'll come out of this a lot stronger than you might think you will, promise.
audball|1305243157|2920105 said:Hi
It's me. LIW #7. Time to come off the list.
The last few days have been the hardest so far. One day at a time...we have another 6 weeks left on our lease. Just trying to get through at this point.
Hiiii!
We're here for you along the way! You'll come out of this a lot stronger than you might think you will, promise.
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Audball! (Btw, you're not an "oddball"!) Glad you came out. Wishing you the BEST of luck during this transition. You'll do just fine, and dare I say, GREAT! Lots hugs to you, and again, wishing you the absolute best. This is a WONDERFUL time in your life, please embrace it and know that everything will be just fine. So proud of you and happy for you.
Audball! (Btw, you're not an "oddball"!) Glad you came out. Wishing you the BEST of luck during this transition. You'll do just fine, and dare I say, GREAT! Lots hugs to you, and again, wishing you the absolute best. This is a WONDERFUL time in your life, please embrace it and know that everything will be just fine. So proud of you and happy for you.
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So I was at least right about the lower case name! As for the apartment, that's rough that they need all 3 months up front.
I just moved to the Philadelphia area and most places seemed to need one month to hold the apartment, and then first and last month were due at move in. I think a lot of times even that's negotiable, though. The leasing manager told my husband and me that we could split up the last month's rent into 3 payments as long as we had good credit. We do have good credit so it wasn't a problem, although I think just paying it all at once might be less painful than paying higher rent 3 months in a row. Anyway, fingers crossed you can work it out with the landlord and get the apartment you want!
So I was at least right about the lower case name!
As for the apartment, that's rough that they need all 3 months up front. I just moved to the Philadelphia area and most places seemed to need one month to hold the apartment, and then first and last month were due at move in. I think a lot of times even that's negotiable, though. The leasing manager told my husband and me that we could split up the last month's rent into 3 payments as long as we had good credit. We do have good credit so it wasn't a problem, although I think just paying it all at once might be less painful than paying higher rent 3 months in a row. Anyway, fingers crossed you can work it out with the landlord and get the apartment you want!
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Thanks Everyone. My realtor/friend sent an email in with my offer in terms of the deposits, etc. Hopefully they'll be negotiable. The good news is, since what he's asking for is not typical in this area, and we're so close to the university that 1/1s would normally rent to students, students can't/won't pay that kind of money up front and he's not going to get it. It's really a matter of if I want to wait him out so to speak. I do have some time, but it's making me incredibly anxious knowing we have to be OUT by June 30th, and that BF has already got his situation handled. But then again, nothing else I've seen would make me as happy, so far at least. They're either gorgeous or in a so-so neighborhood, in a great neighborhood, but a less than so-so apartment, etc. This one is in a great neighborhood, safe, close proximity to work/school, and is a perfectly nice unit. Not great, but not bad. And I'd get to fix it up and make it how I like it. I don't want to live in a so-so neighborhood, but I don't want to live in a so-so apartment either...this whole time is going to be hard enough and stressful enough, that I want to be HAPPY where my feet are gonig to land.
I'm was quite a lot jealous that BF is moving into SUCH A NICE PLACE, he's actually upgrading from the very nice place we live in now, but he's got a roommate who can afford to pay half on a really nice place, I don't. A good friend of mine told me not to worry about how nice his new place will be and to stop comparing what I can get now to what we have/have had. He told me that I'm getting the best upgrade of all, getting to live without BF and in a place that will be ALL MINE. I love him for that. It was a very nice thing to say, and he's right, it will be all mine. I'll decorate how I want, keep how I want, dance around nekkid if I want, rock out to my music in the shower that he hates, whatever.I.want. That's a nice upgrade.
And the Breakup Diet, wait, no, scratch that. Per Seattle SC, the "New Item's Coming to the Menu" Diet..hah, is going well. I'm down 12 lbs in the last couple weeks. A few more and I'll be down another size....I feel my old self emerging.
Friends have been very supportive. Several of my guy friends think he's a jerk. Quite a few of them are single and commented along the lines of that they would be thrilled to find a partner in life who cares half as much about them as I do about him. Good guys are out there, I will find one of them.
Thanks Everyone. My realtor/friend sent an email in with my offer in terms of the deposits, etc. Hopefully they'll be negotiable. The good news is, since what he's asking for is not typical in this area, and we're so close to the university that 1/1s would normally rent to students, students can't/won't pay that kind of money up front and he's not going to get it. It's really a matter of if I want to wait him out so to speak. I do have some time, but it's making me incredibly anxious knowing we have to be OUT by June 30th, and that BF has already got his situation handled. But then again, nothing else I've seen would make me as happy, so far at least. They're either gorgeous or in a so-so neighborhood, in a great neighborhood, but a less than so-so apartment, etc. This one is in a great neighborhood, safe, close proximity to work/school, and is a perfectly nice unit. Not great, but not bad. And I'd get to fix it up and make it how I like it. I don't want to live in a so-so neighborhood, but I don't want to live in a so-so apartment either...this whole time is going to be hard enough and stressful enough, that I want to be HAPPY where my feet are gonig to land.
I'm was quite a lot jealous that BF is moving into SUCH A NICE PLACE, he's actually upgrading from the very nice place we live in now, but he's got a roommate who can afford to pay half on a really nice place, I don't. A good friend of mine told me not to worry about how nice his new place will be and to stop comparing what I can get now to what we have/have had. He told me that I'm getting the best upgrade of all, getting to live without BF and in a place that will be ALL MINE. I love him for that. It was a very nice thing to say, and he's right, it will be all mine. I'll decorate how I want, keep how I want, dance around nekkid if I want, rock out to my music in the shower that he hates, whatever.I.want. That's a nice upgrade.
And the Breakup Diet, wait, no, scratch that. Per Seattle SC, the "New Item's Coming to the Menu" Diet..hah, is going well. I'm down 12 lbs in the last couple weeks. A few more and I'll be down another size....I feel my old self emerging.
Friends have been very supportive. Several of my guy friends think he's a jerk. Quite a few of them are single and commented along the lines of that they would be thrilled to find a partner in life who cares half as much about them as I do about him. Good guys are out there, I will find one of them.
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Hey sweetie, glad you finally felt like "coming out".
I'll keep my fingers crossed that the landlord sees reason about the deposit.
Definitely don't pay attention to what your BF is getting in terms of an apartment - just feel bad for his roommate!
Hey sweetie, glad you finally felt like "coming out".
I'll keep my fingers crossed that the landlord sees reason about the deposit.
Definitely don't pay attention to what your BF is getting in terms of an apartment - just feel bad for his roommate!
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Good luck! I didn't even think about your real username but its nice to see you coming out.
Look forward, not back, you've got a lot of nice things going on. I do think its telling that some of your guy friends think your soon to be ex-BF is a jerk, but don't waste any energy thinking about what he's doing.
I'm excited for you and what you're doing.
Good luck! I didn't even think about your real username but its nice to see you coming out.
Look forward, not back, you've got a lot of nice things going on. I do think its telling that some of your guy friends think your soon to be ex-BF is a jerk, but don't waste any energy thinking about what he's doing.
I'm excited for you and what you're doing.
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Hi audball
im so glad you felt you could 'come out' so to speak! i think it shows you're already happier, i can tell from your posts that you are
and i know you'll be back on the list soon enough for the right man, until which time enjoy the nekked dancing...and stay around pscope of course!
Hi audball
im so glad you felt you could 'come out' so to speak! i think it shows you're already happier, i can tell from your posts that you are
and i know you'll be back on the list soon enough for the right man, until which time enjoy the nekked dancing...and stay around pscope of course!
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I have my fingers crossed for you audball!
I agree with the poster who said to ignore what other people are saying about him - good OR bad. The main thing for you to keep reminding yourself that he will become less "relevant" in your life and mind over time. Whilst that process is happening, make the conscious effort to NOT concern yourself with what he's doing/saying and what others are saying about him.
Of course this will be much more possible once you are no longer living together... hope you are doing ok, it must be very difficult.
I have my fingers crossed for you audball!
I agree with the poster who said to ignore what other people are saying about him - good OR bad. The main thing for you to keep reminding yourself that he will become less "relevant" in your life and mind over time. Whilst that process is happening, make the conscious effort to NOT concern yourself with what he's doing/saying and what others are saying about him.
Of course this will be much more possible once you are no longer living together... hope you are doing ok, it must be very difficult.
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Glad to hear you're feeling better... MUCHO DUST on the apartment search. You're going to be way way way Okay. I feel it in my bones.
(If I'm not around a ton, its not because I'm not super invested in your sitch ... I've just had a freelance gig come up that is absorbing ALL of my time. Not around on PS much probably 'til July. Thinking boutcha though! GOOD LUCK!!!!!)
Glad to hear you're feeling better... MUCHO DUST on the apartment search. You're going to be way way way Okay. I feel it in my bones.
(If I'm not around a ton, its not because I'm not super invested in your sitch ... I've just had a freelance gig come up that is absorbing ALL of my time. Not around on PS much probably 'til July. Thinking boutcha though! GOOD LUCK!!!!!)
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