Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

[Kaleigh]

DD, best wishes for a smooth and healthy delivery. I am guessing a girl. You be strong , you will do great. HUGS!!!!

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ITS TUESDAY! I head out for my 1st U/S in about 20 mins or so. Gotta eat breakfast along the way. FI isnt here due to a buisness trip. BUT my Dad supprised me last nite by telling me that he spoke with his boss and got okayed to have the day off so that he could go with me IF I wanted him to, so that I wouldnt have to go alone! I thought that was REALLY sweet of him! I think it''ll be kinda cool to let him go in with me, cuz when my parents were pregnant with us all those years ago...they didnt have U/S''s and such. And altho my sister has 3 kids he didnt go with her for these things cuz here husband was there. AND im the baby outta 4 kids. SO I think it would be a neat experience for him. IM SOOOO EXCITED! I''ll have to see if there''s a place that I can have the U/S pics scanned and put onto a cd so I can post them here. If not, I''ll have to take a pic of it with my camera or cell and then put it on the puter that way. Either way...by this afternoon i''ll have it up for you guys!

 

[fieryred33143]

Dreamer is having:
Boy - fieryred33143
Boy - nycbkgirl
Girl - Dreamer & her DH (he had a dream! )
Boy - Sabine
Girl - Courtneylub
Girl - robbie3982
Girl - Mrs
Boy - neatfreak
Girl - natalina
Girl - fisherofmengirly
Boy - mela lu
Undecided - Blenheim
Girl - Tacori E-ring
Girl - Ebree
Girl - Kaleigh

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Sapphire-Best of luck today!!

I hope everyone has a great day. DD I'm thinking of you and the baby. I know everything will turn out well. You are so strong. It's going to be great.

Also thinking about NYC. Hope you are feeling better and you better be relaxing

We are starting the game of 'can Mr. Fiery feel the baby kick?' So far...no. I tell him its because his hands are always warm so it calms the baby down. I have no idea if that's true or not but it put a smile on his face so that's the story I'm sticking too.

 

[cdt1101]

I voted girl too!

new list

Dreamer is having:
Boy - fieryred33143
Boy - nycbkgirl
Girl - Dreamer & her DH (he had a dream! )
Boy - Sabine
Girl - Courtneylub
Girl - robbie3982
Girl - Mrs
Boy - neatfreak
Girl - natalina
Girl - fisherofmengirly
Boy - mela lu
Undecided - Blenheim
Girl - Tacori E-ring
Girl - Ebree
Girl - Kaleigh
Girl - cdt1101

 

[fieryred33143]

Sorry CDT! Thanks for updating. I had to have the window minimized cause the boss is sitting behind me today. I knew I would forget to pick up someone.

Let me know if I missed anyone else!

 

[Courtneylub]

Hi everyone. Just popping in to say hi. I''ve been pretty miserable these last couple of days. Uncomfortable and quite emotional. I''m sure it''ll only get worse for the next 8-10 weeks. Let''s hope it doesn''t go beyond 10 weeks.

Dreamer, hang in there, girl.

 

[Sabine]

Hey Sapphire, that''s so sweet of your dad to go with you, but I wanted to make sure you were are aware...chances are you will be getting a transvaginal u/s...so I didn''t know if you''d be comfortable with your dad in the room while the dr. sticks that up your vag...Congrats though, it''s so exciting! My dr. actually gives us a dvd of images/video every time we go!

I''m thinking of DD and NYC too!

 

[robbie3982]

Mrs, thanks for pointing out the difference between the different styles of the Medela! I think I''m going to stick with the backpack. I''m going to have so many things to carry (laptop, purse, giant camera bag on some days) that I need something that can go on my back.

Sabine, no worries about the shower. It sucks, that you can''t be there, but there''s really nothing we can do about it. It looks like that''s the only date that works for DH''s family in May and June is cutting it a bit closer to the due date for my liking. Don''t worry, I''m definitely not mad at you. Even if you''d remembered that it was his graduation I think it might have still needed to be on this date. I''m glad you and your DH were able to come to a compromise about your mom. I agree that it might be easier to be stricter now and change your minds later as opposed to saying she can stay there now and changing your minds later. It might make her feel like she did something wrong.

Congrats, Phoenixgirl! It''ll be interesting to see if you''ve got twins baking in there. It''s been a while since we had a PS twin momma. I think we''re due for another

.

Mela, sorry to hear about your sciatica and that you feel like you''ve hit a wall. I hope time speeds up for you! One exercise that I''ve heard can help is pelvic rocking. We learned it in our Bradley classes and I''ve been doing it. So far, I think it''s helping. Either that or it''s lessened on its own. Basically you get down on all 4''s and rock your pelvis back and forth. It kind of looks like you''re doing yoga cat and dog poses, but instead of moving your back, you move your pelvis.

Blen, geez, sciatica during pregnancy must be really common! Mela, you, me (there are probably more that I''m missing, but my brain is mush these days). If you haven''t already, you should try the exercise I recommended to Mela. I''ve having the same "what the heck do we do with the baby" fears, but DH isn''t there yet. He seems to think that he''ll know everything or just ask people. I really want to take a class in infant care, but he currently doesn''t think it''s worth it. I''m hoping he changes his mind before the baby comes though.

Sapphire, good luck today at your u/s! That''s so nice that your dad took off work to go with you! I think whether or not it''s abdominal or vaginal will depend on how far along you actually are and how new/good the equipment is. I had an abdominal u/s at 8 weeks and we were able to see everything clearly. Others who were further along have had vaginal ones though so you just never know. See above for the exercise that''s been helping my sciatica.

Dreamer, sorry that they''re annoying you with induction talk. I really hope it doesn''t come down to that! On one hand I hate when doctors mention stuff like that before it''s definite. On the other hand, though, I can understand that they want to give you time to mentally prepare for the exact opposite of what you''d been planning on.

China, names are definitely hard!

NYC, keeping my fingers crossed that you have a good appointment tomorrow!

Yesterday was kind of a scary day here. We had some layoffs, but no official announcement until this morning about what was going on. My boss called me to talk about it and he said they basically used the downturn in the industry to get rid of some people who they felt they could do without and/or who weren''t doing their jobs. He said he didn''t think that there would be more unless things get much worse and even then he didn''t think it would be til mid summer. Mid summer? You mean right when I''m due?

He said not to worry about it, but I''m definitely worried. I''m hoping that if it comes down to cutting 1 or 2 people from my small department that they wouldn''t cut me for fear that it would be seen as discrimination. My boss said that if it came down to more cuts it really could be anyone (him, me, the whole department). I just hope that if we do have more cuts it''s after my vacation, sick days and disability have been exhausted. I can''t imagine having to job search while learning how to deal with a newborn though. I guess it would be better than trying to job search while obviously pregnant though. With the way the job market is here I doubt I''d have luck finding anything.

On to less depressing news, DH and I really want to switch to a midwife from the OB practice we''re using. The OBs are great, but the more we learn, the more we realize that we want the type of care and support that a midwife provides. I''ve found an excellent one who comes highly recommended from my Bradley instructor as well as another instructor. He''s covered under our insurance and I called to clarify what would happen if we switch providers now. They said all of the OB care would be covered at 100% (minus any labwork which includes all blood draws and u/s''s which are only covered at 80%) as would the care from the new provider. We''d still deliver in the hospital that we''d already picked out. I''ve put a call in to the midwife and I''m just waiting for him to call me back. His website says hours by appointment so I''m hoping he does weekends or evenings. If not, it won''t work since he''s about an hour away from where I work and I can''t see taking off an hour each week for the last 4 weeks. I also want to find out who his backup is if he can''t be there and also who would handle a c-section if I should need one last minute. If these providers are in-network on my plan and we feel like he''s more in tune with what we want, we''ll be switching! I''m really excited for him to call back.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Thanks for all the thoughts and well-wishes everyone!

Here is a belly shot, avert your eyes it''s a doozy!

39w 2d

 

[mela lu]

Dreamer - you look marvelous - truly!

I never said !CONGRATS! to Phoenix and Sapphire!

Welcome to the fold and ''sticky'' stuffs to you both!!!!
Can''t wait for the updates.

Thats all.

Mela 26w4d

 

[lili]

DD--
What a perfectly round belly!
Just want to say good luck and hope your amniotic fluid level goes down.

Since Ebree is guessing a girl for you, I''d say it''s a boy


Mrs--
Good luck to you too and hope your level goes down as well.
And turn baby turn!

 

[ChinaCat]

Dreamer- You look great! And perfectly round belly.

Hmm. My "intuition" was that you were having a boy. But then I thought that's because I could "see" you with a boy, so you'll probably have a girl. Plus, I keep thinking of your baby as Fiona. (That is the girl's name, right?)

But they always say go with your first instinct, so I'll say boy. But I kinda think it's a girl.

ETA: Ok, I am definitely going to vote for boy, since I see Ebree voted for girl!

Ebree, I love ya honey, but I think I remember you saying you are always wrong on guessing gender.

 

[nycbkgirl]

DD- gorgeous round boy belly !

Thanks again for all the wishes for tom''s appt..I am skurred! I have to take the 3 hrs test..what am I supposed to do for 3 hrs??!! I carry my suitcase with me at each appt just in case but I hope everything is ok bc I feel fine and don''t wanna go back to the hell of hospital. Wish me luck..will update when I get home.

 

[lili]

Good luck nycbkgirl!

 

[Jas12]

DD-- U R SO CLOSE!!! i am sorry to hear about the extra amniotic fluid and the ''predicted'' big baby. You are so well educated so i am sure you will do the necessary questioning and you, the middie and the OB will make the right decision. I totally know how you feel about the fear tactics--i fought that for 2 weeks with my OB when i went overdue. My OB didn''t push me to induce (b/c my 8 1/2 lb baby was quite small according to his estimates--ha), NST were good, BP good, i was very healthy etc. but i remember him going over all the ''what ifs'' and it''s hard to ignore.
I am predicting a girl for you, even thothe shape of your belly looks like mine did at 39 wks

Robbie--am I reading that right, is your midwife a man? So uncommon-cool.
Scary about the job situation, i hope ur job is safe and sound!!!

nycb--good luck with the test!!


The rest of the preggies, hope u are all well!!

 

[nycbkgirl]

thanks lili !

 

[Dreamer_D]

Thanks for the support everyone!

Well I met with my midwife again today to check my BP, it was fine. She also did an internal because for the past 2 days I have had absolutely NO pelivc pain! Man it is heaven, I cannot believe what a difference it makes to be pain free... Pandora and others dealing with chronic pain, I feel for you, it is so debilitating! Anyways, I thought that the lack of pelvic pain could indicate one of two things: that the baby had dropped a little and was in a better position OR that the baby was floating (i.e., BAAAAAD news that would mean c-section right away). Well, she thought that the baby was a little more engaged, and the head didn''t bobble as much. And not to get my hopes up, but my fundal height had not changed in 5 days. So we are cautiously optimistic about the fluids, but we will see on Thursday!

We also talked about induction etc. The timeline is going to depend on whether or not my fluids have changed. If they have increased, we are looking at a c-section or induction (OB will decide) this week! If they are the same it is a total guessing game what the OB will recommend, but if the fluids have gone down, then we will probably let things go for another week to 10 days before we induce.

The complication is that my baby''s head is not engaged (though we are working on it

) and the question is whether it is not engaged because of the fluids (most likely) or whether it is because the baby is already too big. Midwife and I think this latter option is far fetched since the baby is not THAT big yet and there is not reason to think that my pelvis is a problem. So basically, if the fluids don''t drop we could be waiting forever for labour to start naturally!

My issue with induction is that I am not confident that I can push out a large baby if I cannot move around and squat, and I wouldn''t be able to do those things with an epidural. So right now I am googling looking for information from others who have been induced but did not use an epi, just to see if it is possible. If it is, then I will feel a lot better about induction.

My midwife also told me in no uncertain terms that she respects this OB a tonne and if she needed an OB consult herself then this is the OB she would see... this OB is very supportive of natural and vaginal birth, and she is not at all aggressive compared to many other OBs. The fact is that OBs work in a high rsik situation and are trained to be prevention focussed, so that is her bent, but this OB is very reasonable. So that made me feel better.

NYC I did the three hour test... just take a book with you!

 

[Blenheim]

Nyc - good luck tomorrow!

DD - After seeing what Ebree predicted, I'm also going to predict boy for you.

You look great!!
ETA - Does the lack of change in fundal height mean that the fluid levels might be getting better? I really hope so. I've read birth stories before with pit but no epi, and it seems doable but pit does make contractions more intense and so it's harder to get through. I hope that the baby chooses to come soon and isn't monstrously big.

Robbie - I really hope that your job is safe. Good luck with the midwife! And I'm giggling over the idea of a male midwife, but know that there's logically no reason to. We're signed up for an infant care class, and I'm hoping that it helps us feel less lost about how to care for a baby! I've been doing that exercise about once per week but should probably step it up. Luckily the sciatica only lasted a day, but then the tailbone pain reared its head the next day. All of the pain is an aspect of pregnancy that I'm really not going to miss.

Fiery - I think that sometimes, having DH touch my belly startles the baby into calming down or something. He used to press really hard, I think he thought that he wouldn't be able to feel the baby otherwise, but when I told him to cut it out he started touching me sooo lightly that he wasn't able to make out body parts. It's weird to think that our relationship with the baby is just so different right now.

Sapphire - hope everything went well today!

Courtney- sorry to hear you're feeling uncomfortable and emotional. It hasn't uniformly gotten worse for me so far - I kept forgetting that I was pregnant earlier today but then had a meltdown this afternoon and had to take a nap. I'm just not sure how the next however many weeks are going to go though.

 

[nycbkgirl]

7am- took shower and waiting a little before waking dh...feel so bad he only came home at 230 poor thing...so I will try to get back to the car while waiting 3 hrs so we can sleep a little (and I can sit in recline position) ugh I get so scared when going to these appointments mostly bc of cervix check but also bc they still don''t really know what''s wrong with mex!
Doc wants me to do another mri to check the adrenal gland but the places by me don''t want to take me bc im pg! Im upset that I had to do ct scans bc of radiation but I know deep down that its too little to cause any real harm but still upsets me!
I had a really bad nose bleed ystdy...I had a headache then I laid back on my back and coughed and all of a sudden I feel smthg dripping down my face..and let me tell u it was like a flood...soooo scary..just grabbed some tissues and put my head up and eventually stopped...wondering if its just nothing or can it be smthg..will ask doc...lots goin on and still so much time to go!

Will update later..thanks again!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Just popping in to send DD and NYC positive vibes!!

 

[fieryred33143]

Dreamer is having:
Boy - fieryred33143
Boy - nycbkgirl
Girl - Dreamer & her DH (he had a dream! )
Boy - Sabine
Girl - Courtneylub
Girl - robbie3982
Girl - Mrs
Boy - neatfreak
Girl - natalina
Girl - fisherofmengirly
Boy - mela lu
Boy - Blenheim
Girl - Tacori E-ring
Girl - Ebree
Girl - Kaleigh
Girl - cdt1101
Boy - lili
Boy - ChinaCat
Girl - Jas12

Again let me know if I forgot anyone!

I'll be back. Cafeteria is closing soon and I am starving

 

[fieryred33143]

Courtney-Sorry you are feeling down. Hope you feel better soon.
Robbie-The layoffs do sound scary but try not to worry about it too much until the time comes. I spent a lot of time being worried about my FI losing his job too and it was driving me crazy. Now I’m just trying to take it one day at a time. Good luck with the midwife!
DD-You look fantastic!! I hope your fluids go down.
Lili-I love that picture in your avatar. Sooooo adorable!!
Blen-after reading what you wrote yesterday, I told Mr. Fiery not to press down so hard. Then he pressed so lightly that I don’t even think his entire hand was touching my stomach so I laughed for at least 5 minutes. Men.

NYC-GL today. Let us know how everything goes!

Are you not allowed to go home during the 3 hour test? I’m getting less and less confident that I’ll be able to pass the 1 hour. Last week my mother, whose only sugar intake is in fruit and coffee, was told that her sugar levels are too high. I was completely shock. If she failed whatever exam it was that she took (I can’t remember right now), I can’t imagine how I’ll do since I eat way too many sweets on top of the fruit I’m having. I’ve cut back a lot but I would be extremely surprised if I passed the 1 hour.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Fiery you cannot even walk around during the three hour test because activity affects blood sugar levels and they want the most conservative measure. And I am going to offer some friendly advice that I wish I had implemented early in my pregnancy... even if you do not have GD, which I do not and you may not, when you are a little heavier like we are there is a link with bigger babies and polyhydramnios. Also, you can be borderline GD, and this is often the case when you have failed the first screeen but passed the second test (failing the screen and passing the test is also associated with large babiies). So if you can make any dietary changes now and avoid what I am dealing with, DO IT. I wish I had. Next time around I will be losing weight before getting pg and also eating a diabetic diet during pg. In the end, these factors I describe are only predctors, and you can still wind up with a large baby or polyhydramios if you are thin and have great sugar levels!, but I would rather not deal with this, and if you can avoid it too I''d really try.

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 2/18/2009 11:22:09 AM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
Fiery you cannot even walk around during the three hour test because activity affects blood sugar levels and they want the most conservative measure. And I am going to offer some friendly advice that I wish I had implemented early in my pregnancy... even if you do not have GD, which I do not and you may not, when you are a little heavier like we are there is a link with bigger babies and polyhydramnios. Also, you can be borderline GD, and this is often the case when you have failed the first screeen but passed the second test (failing the screen and passing the test is also associated with large babiies). So if you can make any dietary changes now and avoid what I am dealing with, DO IT. I wish I had. Next time around I will be losing weight before getting pg and also eating a diabetic diet during pg. In the end, these factors I describe are only predctors, and you can still wind up with a large baby or polyhydramios if you are thin and have great sugar levels!, but I would rather not deal with this, and if you can avoid it too I''d really try.

Thanks for the info DD.

The highlighted is exactly how I feel right now. Next time I will need to lose weight before. I was in the process of losing weight but had just started so I lost maybe 8lbs in total. I printed out the GD diet this morning and am going to start following it.

When can the doctors tell if its going to be a large baby? I was planning on asking my doctor during our big u/s to make sure that its weight is on track.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/18/2009 12:05:38 PM
Author: fieryred33143

Date: 2/18/2009 11:22:09 AM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
Fiery you cannot even walk around during the three hour test because activity affects blood sugar levels and they want the most conservative measure. And I am going to offer some friendly advice that I wish I had implemented early in my pregnancy... even if you do not have GD, which I do not and you may not, when you are a little heavier like we are there is a link with bigger babies and polyhydramnios. Also, you can be borderline GD, and this is often the case when you have failed the first screeen but passed the second test (failing the screen and passing the test is also associated with large babiies). So if you can make any dietary changes now and avoid what I am dealing with, DO IT. I wish I had. Next time around I will be losing weight before getting pg and also eating a diabetic diet during pg. In the end, these factors I describe are only predctors, and you can still wind up with a large baby or polyhydramios if you are thin and have great sugar levels!, but I would rather not deal with this, and if you can avoid it too I''d really try.

Thanks for the info DD.

The highlighted is exactly how I feel right now. Next time I will need to lose weight before. I was in the process of losing weight but had just started so I lost maybe 8lbs in total. I printed out the GD diet this morning and am going to start following it.

When can the doctors tell if its going to be a large baby? I was planning on asking my doctor during our big u/s to make sure that its weight is on track.

Well there is some interesting research on that. First, there are some basic predictors: mom over 30, tall mom, heavier pre-preggo weight, greater weight gain during pregnancy, hispanic descent, history of large babies. I hit the first 4. But of course, I have two friends who recently had babies in the 9 - 10 lb range and they were only tall! So like I said, you can''t always predict. But when can they tell... as early as the 11 week u/s! One study looked at big babies then looked back at their 11-12 week u/s and they found that there was a greater discrepancy between LMP due date estimates/known fertilization due date estimates and the estimate based on the u/s for larger babies compared to average sized babies! So it is possible they can tell that early. For us, we measures one week ahead at the 11 week and one week ahead at the 20 week, and when we went in at 38.5 weeks we measured 1.5 weeks ahead! So it has been pretty consistent. They wouldn''t actually care about the size of the aby, since I am build larger I can push out a 9 pounded for sure my middie thinks, but rather it is the polyhydramios that is the real concern because it complicates labour and also can delay the onset of labour by stopping the baby from engageing in the birth canal and pushing down on the cervix.

Women are simply growing larger babies these days! A big baby is not in and of itself a concern. As I mentioned, most of my friends have had large babies (8 - 10 lbs) lately, and ALL of them are slim and active women. Docs think that better maternal diet and older age for having babies, not smoking etc are all contributing. The issue with polyhydramnios is much more of a concern, and as I mentioned, it is related to possible sugar issues in mom. So babies get big and pee a lot when they are exposed to higher blood sugar levels. I just think you shouldn''t worry, but following the GD diet will keep your sugars in a good way and that is good for many reasons: baby, your own health, and also your wright gain. Wish I had done it!

 

[robbie3982]

Yup, the midwife I really wanted (got rave reviews from both my Bradley teacher as well as another I spoke to) is a man. Unfortunately it''s not going to work out. He''s a solo practitioner and doesn''t feel comfortable taking me on with the other women he already has who are due around that time. Also, his office hours suck just like everyone else''s: 8-4:30. He''s about twice as far as my OB and I already feel like taking time off in the last couple months for all of the visits is going to be hard. There are 2 midwife groups in town, but only 1 delivers at my hospital and I really don''t want to switch hospitals. The one that delivers at my hospital also has the same crappy hours and is far away, so now I''m looking into just having a doula along with the OB. Mr. Midwife recommended 2 groups and I''ve gotten a price quote from one. I''m hoping the other is cheaper because $500, while I''m sure it''s totally worth it, sounds like a lot and I don''t know if I''m comfortable spending that much when I''m worried about my job disappearing.

Does anyone know if you can count birthing classes and doula expenses as deductions on your taxes? I know there''s a section where you can claim out of pocket medical expenses, but I''m not sure if these qualify. We''ve never spent enough to be able to take the deduction, but with DH''s employer raising insurance premiums and the baby coming this year I have a feeling we''ll meet the minimum.

Work is instating a time clock that ALL workers (including salaried employees) will need to log into. They''re testing it with a small group right now which I''m not part of, but it''s already pissing me off. If they''re going to make sure that I always work 40 hours and I still never get anything for over time I''d be better off being hourly. It seems like they''re just looking for reasons to get rid of more people. I''m starting to feel like the writing''s on the wall and that it''s time to start looking for something else, but the timing just sucks. DH thinks I should just wait and see what happens and he''s probably right. My job could end up being fine and if I change jobs now I''ll have no vacation or maternity leave. If they fire me at least I''d still get my vacation days paid to me and I''d be able to collect unemployment and hopefully I''d get severance, though it would probably be small since I haven''t been here that long.

And to top off my crappy week the new bra I ordered is way too big and gave me a rash for the short period of time I had it on. In a way, I''m happy that it''s too big since this means that at least my boobs aren''t THAT big, but it also means that I really can''t buy things online without a good return policy anymore since there''s obviously a huge difference in sizing. Seriously, my current bra is giving me a muffin top on both boobs and the new one, while only a cup size bigger, has room for another 1/4 of a boob in each cup. Ugh. I bought a 38D (cups fit, but the band is way too big) at TJ Maxx yesterday for $8 and I''m going to try to alter the band to make it fit. I doubt it''ll work, but it''s a heck of a lot cheaper than shelling out $70ish for a bra that''s actually in my size.

I just want to go to sleep and wake up when everything is easier.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Robbie hang in there! I think you should go with a midwife even if it means the extra driving... there is simply a huge difference in the approach and the type of care you receive, and given your desire for a natural birth and the Bradley classes, the OB may not gel with your views at all! Legally your work has to allow you time off for medical appointments (at least here), so it isn''t technically an issue... though I totally get why you are worried with the "axe about to fall" mentality at your work! All you can do at work is keep trucking along and assume/hope for the best. There is no point looking ofr work right now since you don''t technically have to, and it will add stress and uncertainty! Hang in there, it will all work out in the end.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 2/18/2009 1:03:10 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
Robbie hang in there! I think you should go with a midwife even if it means the extra driving... there is simply a huge difference in the approach and the type of care you receive, and given your desire for a natural birth and the Bradley classes, the OB may not gel with your views at all! Legally your work has to allow you time off for medical appointments (at least here), so it isn''t technically an issue... though I totally get why you are worried with the ''axe about to fall'' mentality at your work! All you can do at work is keep trucking along and assume/hope for the best. There is no point looking ofr work right now since you don''t technically have to, and it will add stress and uncertainty! Hang in there, it will all work out in the end.

The employer isn''t required to allow you to take time off for just any medical appointment here (unless Robbie''s state has it''s own law about it), it would need to fall under FMLA in order to be an appointment that the employer *has* to let you take. Pregnancy related OB appointments are usually covered under FMLA but I am unsure if a middie appointment would...the US isn''t always friendly to more alternative medical models...

So that being said I understand why Robbie wouldn''t want to risk it taking so much time from work...especially if her company potentially is doing layoffs.

 

[nycbkgirl]

Thanks again everyone....ugh what a disaster once again!
I fasted since last nite for this test then she gave me the whole bottle to drink..it was orange soda and cold this time as opposed to cola and warm..but it was a whole bottle not just 3/4 of a cup!....I sipped and sipped through the agony and apparently u have to take the blood every hour for 3 hrs! I thought just once at the end of 3 hrs...so in the meantime I saw ob and everything is still the same...she wants me to start the NST''s in a week and repeat the fetal echo and mri...so im sitting with secretary and making all appointments and all of a sudden everything turns black, I can''t hear, sweating, ears clogged...I was about to blackout!...nurse rushed me to a room to lay down with cold compresses and I came to about 10 mins later....so I stayed in that position for the next hr or so....what an awful experience..feel so helpless knowing im about to pass out and there''s nothing to do about it. Anyway going to rest and be back later.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/18/2009 2:00:30 PM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 2/18/2009 1:03:10 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
Robbie hang in there! I think you should go with a midwife even if it means the extra driving... there is simply a huge difference in the approach and the type of care you receive, and given your desire for a natural birth and the Bradley classes, the OB may not gel with your views at all! Legally your work has to allow you time off for medical appointments (at least here), so it isn''t technically an issue... though I totally get why you are worried with the ''axe about to fall'' mentality at your work! All you can do at work is keep trucking along and assume/hope for the best. There is no point looking ofr work right now since you don''t technically have to, and it will add stress and uncertainty! Hang in there, it will all work out in the end.

The employer isn''t required to allow you to take time off for just any medical appointment here (unless Robbie''s state has it''s own law about it), it would need to fall under FMLA in order to be an appointment that the employer *has* to let you take. Pregnancy related OB appointments are usually covered under FMLA but I am unsure if a middie appointment would...the US isn''t always friendly to more alternative medical models...

So that being said I understand why Robbie wouldn''t want to risk it taking so much time from work...especially if her company potentially is doing layoffs.

Wow! Things really are different here in Canada! Okay, in Robbie''s situation then I may not risk it... still, unfortunately she is going to have to take time off for appointments, and at the end it is every week! Robbie, are there no middies near you?