Posters, I can''t believe I even have to say this.

[Maisie]

I quite like it when Ellen smacks me ... I know its done with love

 

[risingsun]

I wish we had a feature so we could go directly to the first unread post on a thread. It would be easier to keep up with our own posts. If we already have this feature, please, someone, give me a good smack on the head* and tell me where the heck it is

*Ellen~are you the official "smack on head" person on PS? That's the word the on the street

 

[Diamond*Dana]

Date: 2/23/2008 1:03:30 AM
Author: Çã†hër§

go to start then run and a little box with pop up and type charmap then ok and pick the letters /symbols that you like, and thank you btw!

Thank you!! I always have wondered how to type those fancy letter doodads!

I have noticed it as well, and I always check and re-check that I did not forget to thank anyone...I seriously do have an awful memory (I blame my 3 kids, and I think that I inherited it from my mother), but I really do forget at times what I even wrote!

So, if I have *EVER* forgotten anyone here...thank you, and I am sorry!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 2/23/2008 1:44:36 PM
Author: Maisie
I quite like it when Ellen smacks me ... I know its done with love

Indeed it is.

RS, if we have that feature, I don''t know where it is. And yes, I am quick on the smack down. *blows on fingertips*

 

[Catmom]

Oh Man, go away for a few days and look what you miss. I sincerely hope I''m not on the bad girl list! I really try and acknowledge everyone but sometimes it''s only a group thanks. If I''ve missed anyone I''m really sorry! I thank each and everyone that commented about any of my jewelry and I appreciate everyone on PS. Ellen, thank you for reminding us that we need to be vigilant with our posting!

Please, please don''t let it be me that you are talking about..............

 

[tberube]

Date: 2/23/2008 1:44:36 PM
Author: Maisie
I quite like it when Ellen smacks me ... I know its done with love

Well-said. I almost like the nudge I get ever so often from the PSers with seniority. Makes me feel like I''m learning from the best (before PS I''d never joined a message board before.)

So thanks, Ellen, for being our caretaker!

 

[Diamond*Dana]

Date: 2/23/2008 2:22:05 PM
Author: Catmom
Oh Man, go away for a few days and look what you miss. I sincerely hope I''m not on the bad girl list! I really try and acknowledge everyone but sometimes it''s only a group thanks. If I''ve missed anyone I''m really sorry! I thank each and everyone that commented about any of my jewelry and I appreciate everyone on PS. Ellen, thank you for reminding us that we need to be vigilant with our posting!

Please, please don''t let it be me that you are talking about..............

I am saying the same thing to myself! I would feel awful if I blew anyone off without saying ''thank you''...it certainly would not have been intentional!

 

[Ellen]

Guys, seriously, stop worrying! I feel so bad that I''ve made you all paranoid, that wasn''t my intention!! I''ve asked Andrey to change the title to say Posters, instead. By putting ladies, I''ve made you all nuts, and this was really intended for everyone who posts here.

Like I said, the ones asking and worrying are NOT the ones who should be!

 

[RoseRed]

Ellen,

As a newbie here and to posting in a forum in general, I have to admit that I''m a very nervous and somewhat anxious poster.
Everyone has been so kind in responding and acknowledging my posts (and others) and it seems to be done so gracefullly.
What is the trick to keeping up and acknowleging every post? Like Maisie I too post on the workout/weightloss thread and I really worry about leaving someone out. And like Diamond Dana I too have a sketchy memory! But I would never want to offend someone who took the time to give feedback.

I really hope I''ve not been included on the bad PS''s List...and If I have I hope I can redeem myself (and maybe score a get out of jail free card!)

 

[justme1]

Oh Miss Ellen, I hope I''m not on the list.

Although I don''t post all that much (seems I will always be a Rough Rock) I hope I have always thanked everyone who has responded to my few posts. If I haven''t I am sorry

You guys are just a bottomless pit of knowledge, advice, wisdom and encouragement. I am amazed at practically every post I read and am learning so much from you all. Everytime I read a post from someone looking for help choosing a diamond &/or setting, I see so many of you doing sooo much research for them and offering suggestions and options, and then when I read the posts later on I am amazed that they don''t say thank you or even come back to even tell you what they decided on. Some people just don''t have manners... and again I hope I am not one of them.

 

[justme1]

*Ellen~are you the official 'smack on head' person on PS? That's the word the on the street

eta :ACKKKK my smack on head smiley didn't work

 

[canuk-gal]

Date: 2/23/2008 1:44:36 PM
Author: Maisie
I quite like it when Ellen smacks me ... I know its done with love

HI:

LOL

cheers--Sharon

 

[Cathers]

Date: 2/23/2008 1:55:43 PM
Author: Diamond*Dana

Date: 2/23/2008 1:03:30 AM
Author: Çã†hër§

go to start then run and a little box with pop up and type charmap then ok and pick the letters /symbols that you like, and thank you btw!

Thank you!! I always have wondered how to type those fancy letter doodads!

I have noticed it as well, and I always check and re-check that I did not forget to thank anyone...I seriously do have an awful memory (I blame my 3 kids, and I think that I inherited it from my mother), but I really do forget at times what I even wrote!

So, if I have *EVER* forgotten anyone here...thank you, and I am sorry!

you are welcome! pretty neat eh? my memory has become progressively worse with each child I have. The finally tally is now 4 and sometimes I can''t even say what I mean!

 

[isaku5]

Like everyone else, I''m thinking, Is it me?

I try to thank everyone, but you never know when you might have missed a thank- you, or provided an answer where a question was asked.

I don''t post too often, I think

, but whenever I have a question I receive plenty of answers to make a solid decision.

 

[luckystar112]

Yikes. I think being paranoid about whether or not you are one of the ones being talked about in this thread is worse than the feeling of not being thanked!

I don''t know if I am someone''s secret annoyance. I don''t consider myself to be that active of a poster, although I do fit the bill as someone who starts threads asking for advice a lot. I guess it''s because I don''t really fit in the LIW forum anymore because I''m engaged, and I don''t really fit in the BWW forum anymore because outside of my outfit there really is''n''t anything for to plan!

So basically I just lurk...a lot...and if I have a question that I can''t find the answer to using a quick search, I will start a thread. I hope I haven''t forgotten to thank anyone. I don''t do the whole million individual thank-yous but I try to atleast give one big thanks at the end or at least an update!

See, now I''m defending myself for probably no reason. Or is there a reason? MUahahaha.

 

[planet_jp]

Oh, dear - I was appalled and embarrassed to realize that I am a guilty party! I never thanked colormyworld for her info about extinction! I am so sorry and assure you that any rudeness was completely unintentional. I guess I just wasn''t aware of "forum manners." It''s especially humiliating because I''m such a stickler for politeness IRL!

Again, I apologize. Please forgive me.

 

[SuzyQZ]

Yikes!! I just came across this thread. Hope I've been a good girl!

Ellen, I think your observations are spot on!

It takes a lot of time and energy for all the advice and guidance that the regulars give to those seeking direction. Many times the same types of questions keep popping up over and over again. Yet the regulars always step up to lend a helping hand as if it's the very first time the question has been asked.

I've always been of the belief that if you start a thread, you should "maintain it" so to speak until it has run its course. There is nothing so annoying as following someone's thread progression from the beginning and then never getting the "wrap up." It's like investing days reading a novel only to realize when you get to the end of the book the last chapter is missing!

Thank you's and appreciation should be extended to anyone who shows you a kindness or consideration. Taking without giving is just... selfish! But I fear that our PS Forum is just a microcosm of society in general. People are just more selfish these days. I see it in everything from the clerk who never says thank you for the purchase I just made to the person who has a door opened for them who just walks in without even acknowledging the kindness.

I don't start threads unless I have something to share and have the time to follow it through. I don't post much advice because frankly I don't consider myself qualified to give advice. I do know what I like and what is pretty and I will freely and gladly give you my impressions of your lovely sparklies.

I'm happy to be mostly a lurker, I've always felt welcome whenever I come out of lurkdom and I very much appreciate all the advice that has been given to others (even though they may not say thank you) I THANK YOU, because I learn from the threads of others.

PS has always been a wonderful board, the only one I participate in (on the rare occasions that I actually post). I religiously check it out at least once a day, every day and the wealth of information I have assimilated has really been amazing.

Thank you PS!

 

[Lynn B]

Honestly, I am feeling just a bit *confuzzled* by this thread!

It seems like we are talking about two different types of people...

(1) Newbies who come here looking for info and then disappear forever. And yeah, I've noticed that sometimes they may not especially say "thanks" or come back to show us what they finally ended up with, etc. But in that case, I don’t take it personally. I figure I had fun *helping* (if my usual monologue about GREAT CUT, LOW COLOR, LOW CLARITY = GREAT VALUE!

actually ever *helps* anyone, that is!) and that's enough for me. I post on those kinds of threads when I have time, and when I feel like it... but I don't ever feel pressured about it. I mean, this should be fun, right? Afterall, PS isn't my YOB!

(2) Regular posters... and this is where I feel a bit confused. First of all, IMVHO just because a poster has been a member for a very long time does not necessarily make them a “regular”. To me, a “regular” is not someone who pops in only to show off a new bauble, and then disappears until the next bauble. That being said, I honestly don't feel like there are any (*real*) "regulars" around here who consistently or regularly show impoliteness. Maybe an occasional blip or something, but who doesn't have those kinds of moments or days at times? And most likely, short of extremely rare, *flagrant* rudeness, I think the main issue is simply the time factor. We all only have so much time we can spend on the boards, and threads do move fast nowadays... it’s hard (in fact, impossible) to keep up with everything. I know I have probably been guilty of missing thanking people individually who post on my threads... or staying current with posts or follow-up in other posters' threads... but hopefully I have never hurt anyone's feelings by that. And if I have, please accept my sincere apology; believe me, it was never intentional.

Honestly, I think in general that PS is one of the kindest, most civilized boards I have ever seen! Yes, there are a LOT of personalities here on PS... just like IRL, and that's what keeps it interesting. Some personalities we are drawn to, and some we aren't. The beauty of an internet forum, though, is the ability to simply pass over certain threads or posters, and move on.

 

[diamondfan]

Ellen, I so agree! The people who are worrying are the wonderful people who have nothing to worry about. Not to say there are not people who have YET to reply who are great too (cause I know they will worry too now!!!!)

I think it is just nice to have a bit of sense of self. No one is always perfect and responsive etc, but generally, it is about the tone of things.


One thing you can do (collective you) is hit the button to get an email when there is a new post to a thread. I personally have never done it, not for any reason but just have not. It can help give you a heads up. I know I miss threads a lot and find them later and pop in to comment. Sometimes the ship has sailed, Elvis has left the building, but I still throw out my .2 cents just in case it helps!

 

[isaku5]

Ellen, I''m really glad that you started this thread as we all need a "wake-up" call on manners every so often

I''m trying to instil the importance of good manners in my 12 year old grandgirl. I tell her that I''m not the food or beverage critic (her parents'' job), but I will be the manners and grammar critic. Neither she nor her parents have objected so far.

In our everyday dealings with people in general, it seems that good manners are on the decline ( I know, written like a typical senior). Trying to get a thank-you from some people is an impossibility. Or, on the other hand, when I say thank you, their reply is, "no problem" (I didn''t expect that it would be a problem, or I wouldn''t have asked), or even worse, "Whatever"

. I have been so close to calling sales people on it, that when DH is around, he gets me away from the offender quickly LOL.

 

[Ellen]

Rose, their really isn''t any trick to keeping up with and responding to each post. You just try and remember where you''ve posted.

The WWT is one that I finally had to opt out of. It got too busy, and I felt like if I didn''t respond to all, I would be being rude. With all the posting I do in RT, it was too much. I guess that''s part of the answer, know your limits, what you can and do want to handle. But don''t worry too much, just do your best, that all you can do. You seem like a very sweet person, and if you miss someone once in awhile, I don''t think anyone is going to hold it against you. I sure won''t.

justme, no worries! And yeah, it''s kind of amazing people can sometimes take so much, and not say thanks.

Isabel, missing someone occasionally isn''t what is at issue here. That happens, to all of us. This is directed at those who seem to miss on a regular basis. You have always been polite!


luckystar, you''re certainly not my secret annoyance!


planet, I must say I didn''t have you in mind, I don''t really know you. So, hi!

But if the thread helped, that''s ok.

Suzy, so well said, all of it!

Especially having the belief that if you start a thread, you should "maintain" it. I couldn''t agree more. Maybe not everyone thinks like us though, yanno? Pity....

Seriously, you were spot on, and I wish you''d post more, as I really do enjoy it when you pop in.

Lynn, I''m not sure why you''re confused. We''re just talking about having a bit of manners, and that goes for everyone. Newbs, regulars, old, new. Doesn''t matter. And if you haven''t noticed the regulars, well, I don''t know what to say. I''m not gonna name names.

And it''s not like there''s a slew of them, just a few.

I don''t take it personally if some newb I''ve helped purchase a diamond doesn''t come back and show me the ring. I may be a bit dissapointed, just cuz I wanna see the goods, but that''s it. However, when I spend countless time with someone, and they can''t utter ONE thank you? That I do take personally. And I think most would. It''s rude, and annoying, no other way I can put it. And totally unecessary. And like I said before, with newbs, you don''t know they''re not going to ever thank you, until they don''t do it.

There have been an awaful lot of people on this thread that seem to understand where I''m coming from, so I don''t really think I''m off here.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 2/23/2008 5:40:56 PM
Author: diamondfan
Ellen, I so agree! The people who are worrying are the wonderful people who have nothing to worry about. Not to say there are not people who have YET to reply who are great too (cause I know they will worry too now!!!!)

I think it is just nice to have a bit of sense of self. No one is always perfect and responsive etc, but generally, it is about the tone of things.


One thing you can do (collective you) is hit the button to get an email when there is a new post to a thread. I personally have never done it, not for any reason but just have not. It can help give you a heads up. I know I miss threads a lot and find them later and pop in to comment. Sometimes the ship has sailed, Elvis has left the building, but I still throw out my .2 cents just in case it helps!

I wanted to highlight this, as people keep worrying it's them, when I've told everyone to relax!!! Maybe if you say it they'll listen.

 

[gemgirl]

Date: 2/23/2008 12:54:07 PM
Author: gemgirl
Sevens, after five years I finally got my wedding set to show up in a post. Can you transfer it to the engagement ring folder?


>>

Sevens, please don''t worry. I didn''t know that''s how it worked. I just happened to get the picture to load into a reply I made to a post started by Laurie about wearing two wedding bands. I never thought to start a new post about my wedding set because I didn''t think it was interesting enough. It wasn''t made recently.

 

[diamondfan]

I have typo-itis!!!! I meant ...who are NOT also wonderful...oh boy, my brain is fried right now!

I also like to know the outcomes to things. And I have worried when someone sort of disappears...I get invested, darn it, and I hate to be worrying about people I do not know when I worry enough about the peoople I DO know in real life.

Maybe I have no life and that is the problem?

 

[pixley]

Ooh, I hope I''m not on the naughty list, but I know I owe Diamond Dana and Legacy Girl a big "Thank you" for their thumbs up on my new little stone. I didn''t want to seem like I was bumping my own thread, so I let it roll onto page 2. I also owe Skippy123 an overdue "Thank you" for her moral support during my search.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 2/23/2008 7:01:56 PM
Author: diamondfan
I have typo-itis!!!! I meant ...who are NOT also wonderful...oh boy, my brain is fried right now!

I also like to know the outcomes to things. And I have worried when someone sort of disappears...I get invested, darn it, and I hate to be worrying about people I do not know when I worry enough about the peoople I DO know in real life.

Maybe I have no life and that is the problem?

Inconceivable!

 

[risingsun]

Date: 2/23/2008 7:17:01 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 2/23/2008 7:01:56 PM
Author: diamondfan
I have typo-itis!!!! I meant ...who are NOT also wonderful...oh boy, my brain is fried right now!

I also like to know the outcomes to things. And I have worried when someone sort of disappears...I get invested, darn it, and I hate to be worrying about people I do not know when I worry enough about the peoople I DO know in real life.

Maybe I have no life and that is the problem?

Inconceivable!

Watch there, missy, or the rouses will come out to play

 

[bee*]

I totally agree with you Ellen. It is so irritating when that happens!

ETA-sorry just got called so had to leave my computer! It can be extremely annoying when you help someone and give a very thoughtful reply for them not to come back and just say thanks. I'm not aware of too many posters that do this on PS but on some of the other boards that I used to read, this was a common occurance.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 2/23/2008 8:26:04 PM
Author: risingsun

Date: 2/23/2008 7:17:01 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 2/23/2008 7:01:56 PM
Author: diamondfan
I have typo-itis!!!! I meant ...who are NOT also wonderful...oh boy, my brain is fried right now!

I also like to know the outcomes to things. And I have worried when someone sort of disappears...I get invested, darn it, and I hate to be worrying about people I do not know when I worry enough about the peoople I DO know in real life.

Maybe I have no life and that is the problem?

Inconceivable!

Watch there, missy, or the rouses will come out to play

pixley, I''m sure they all love hearing that.

Thanks bee!

 

[hlmr]

Hi Ellen:

Interesting thread!! I agree with you regarding a lack of manners in today's society, and don't understand how people cannot make it a priority to be mannerly. I have certainly experienced occasions on PS over the years where I have been ignored when I have asked a question, or not thanked, etc., but I try not to take it personally, even though I know sometimes it is, and sometimes it is just an oversight.

If I spent as much time as you and others do, regularly helping out in RT, finding stones for people and not being thanked, I am not sure how I would react. The problem is, I don't think the people who are regular offenders will even bother to read this thread, and if they do, will probably dismiss it as irrelevant for them. KWIM?